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Age. Why is it such an issue for some? Of course we’re all free to choose who we play with, many don’t like then idea of playing with someone old/young enough to be their parents/children, but there are quite a few comments on these forums denouncing younger swingers.
But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
Our experiences have mostly been with couples around our own age - although this had not been intentional. When we go to clubs we’ve had more (not always though) harassment from older swingers (men in particular) and on one occasion simply had to leave.
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"Age. Why is it such an issue for some? Of course we’re all free to choose who we play with, many don’t like then idea of playing with someone old/young enough to be their parents/children, but there are quite a few comments on these forums denouncing younger swingers.
But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
Our experiences have mostly been with couples around our own age - although this had not been intentional. When we go to clubs we’ve had more (not always though) harassment from older swingers (men in particular) and on one occasion simply had to leave.
So, let the argument commence. Will try and reply to all hate mail, promise!"
Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile  |
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"Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile "
I think the upper age limit is more relevant than the lower age limit because most older men cant peform compared to younger guys, sorted. |
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"Age. Why is it such an issue for some? Of course we’re all free to choose who we play with, many don’t like then idea of playing with someone old/young enough to be their parents/children, but there are quite a few comments on these forums denouncing younger swingers.
But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
Our experiences have mostly been with couples around our own age - although this had not been intentional. When we go to clubs we’ve had more (not always though) harassment from older swingers (men in particular) and on one occasion simply had to leave.
So, let the argument commence. Will try and reply to all hate mail, promise!
Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile "
We get that - attempted to say so on the first post. We’ve gotten the impression before that some people seem to have a problem with younger swingers in general. At a party, recently, a friend of ours was mocked quite openly for being young - ‘shouldn’t you be in bed’ and so forth.
We don’t imagine we’d make a good match for someone outside our range - but we wouldn’t suggest they shouldn’t be here.
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I guess it's a product of personal experiences. The youner generation at my local club come dressed like they are in any other inner city pub with thier hoodies, trainers, and generally scruffy attire, swigging cans / bottles of cheap lager...it doesn't paint a good picture does it? You'd be forgiven for thinking that they are there for the cheep booze as they don't get down to much other action, and woe betide any bloke caught looking at some young guy's "bird"!
Prefer to meet people of a simiar age, when their tastes and intentions have "matured" and who you don't offend by approaching and talking to, and who are secure in their relationship that they aren't "threatened" by another bloke having sex with (let alone looking at) the lady. |
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"Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile
I think the upper age limit is more relevant than the lower age limit because most older men cant peform compared to younger guys, sorted."
I'd beg to differ. Young guys are mainly like mopeds.......two strokes and off they go.  |
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"Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile
I think the upper age limit is more relevant than the lower age limit because most older men cant peform compared to younger guys, sorted."
Oh really, have you not heard the saying 'many a good tune is played on an old fiddle'.
With age comes experience, something many guys of your age do not have. |
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I've got a lower age limit but not an upper one, whereas Kate has an upper limit but not a lower one.
No sence in me having an upper limit as there aren't many women older than me on here  |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Age. But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
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No. And no.
But people know what they prefer and what they are comfortable with.
I suspect many people start off with a certain age range in mind, and then refine it as they become more experienced, or meet nice people that fall outside of what was there original age range...I know I certainly did.
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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We have a younger age limit purely because we have youngsters in the OPs age group. Both our limits were carefully thought over, and established even though we may have a fuzzy zone around them depending on a unanimous decision in each case. The upper limit is again in dividual preference, although there are always some exceptions.
As for older men not being able to perform, that is as valid as generalising that some younger males are not able to stay beyond insertion. There is infinite variation, as experience will teach the OP in the fullness of time.
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I have age limits purely due to that fact I fancy younger men. The lower age limit is due to wanting someone that can give me good conversation too. Rather than someone that talks about the things my kids do! |
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"We have a younger age limit purely because we have youngsters in the OPs age group. Both our limits were carefully thought over, and established even though we may have a fuzzy zone around them depending on a unanimous decision in each case. The upper limit is again in dividual preference, although there are always some exceptions.
As for older men not being able to perform, that is as valid as generalising that some younger males are not able to stay beyond insertion. There is infinite variation, as experience will teach the OP in the fullness of time.
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Kitty likes to kid that when she's in her late 30s to 40s she's only going to go for young guys. The whole porno MILF fantasy. Oh how she loves to wind me up!
We totally get preferences, we have them, everyone does. Would never expect someone to go against theirs, just as we don't like being asked to go against ours.
We’ve been on this site less than a year and we have had some nasty things said to us because of our youth - and we're in our mid 20s! And we've seen posts that either imply or simply state young people shouldn't be swinging. Has anyone had similar because they are older?
Our intention wasn't to start a fight - though that's almost bound to happen on the internet - or condemn people for their personal choices (again, we totally agree with the idea you have the right to choose who you, yourself play with).
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Oh really, have you not heard the saying 'many a good tune is played on an old fiddle'.
With age comes experience, something many guys of your age do not have. "
yes yes and theres the saying "once you go black you never turn back" but all of these are myths along with yours |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Age. Why is it such an issue for some? Of course we’re all free to choose who we play with, many don’t like then idea of playing with someone old/young enough to be their parents/children, but there are quite a few comments on these forums denouncing younger swingers.
But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
Our experiences have mostly been with couples around our own age - although this had not been intentional. When we go to clubs we’ve had more (not always though) harassment from older swingers (men in particular) and on one occasion simply had to leave.
So, let the argument commence. Will try and reply to all hate mail, promise!"
okay... let me answer a question with a question....
you have an age limit on your profile of 18 to 50.... why? obviously it is such sort of issue for you...
you talk about people denouncing younger swingers, but in effect didn't you do the same with older swingers.... merely an observation....
discuss....... |
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I'd beg to differ. Young guys are mainly like mopeds.......two strokes and off they go. "
i sure don't know which young guys you've been playing with lol |
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okay... let me answer a question with a question....
you have an age limit on your profile of 18 to 50.... why? obviously it is such sort of issue for you...
you talk about people denouncing younger swingers, but in effect didn't you do the same with older swingers.... merely an observation....
discuss......."
I think what she is trying to arrive at is that it's ok to have an age limit restriction, however do not mock the people who are out of your age group, just like what she previously talked about when she went to the club |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Oh really, have you not heard the saying 'many a good tune is played on an old fiddle'.
With age comes experience, something many guys of your age do not have.
yes yes and theres the saying "once you go black you never turn back" but all of these are myths along with yours"
but then haven't you just exactly proved their point ..
you started by quoting one myth.... they can back with your retort... and then you came back with another.... 
so i think you are 2 myths up.....
oh out of the mouths of young babe.....  |
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"Age. Why is it such an issue for some? Of course we’re all free to choose who we play with, many don’t like then idea of playing with someone old/young enough to be their parents/children, but there are quite a few comments on these forums denouncing younger swingers.
But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
Our experiences have mostly been with couples around our own age - although this had not been intentional. When we go to clubs we’ve had more (not always though) harassment from older swingers (men in particular) and on one occasion simply had to leave.
So, let the argument commence. Will try and reply to all hate mail, promise!
okay... let me answer a question with a question....
you have an age limit on your profile of 18 to 50.... why? obviously it is such sort of issue for you...
you talk about people denouncing younger swingers, but in effect didn't you do the same with older swingers.... merely an observation....
discuss......."
Again, not about personal choice. Totally agree people play with who they want. Think we’ve said that a few times now.
We do think we’d make a good match for those outside our age range - but we still respect their right to use this site and swing in general. However, we’ve seen it said a few times, that some couples (ourselves included) are ‘too young to swing’ (this was in response to a rejection of an offer to play with an older man).
We also didn’t denounce older swinger, simply stated our experience so far. And we said most of our negative experiences have been from older people. Most. Not all. We have friends who would fall into the category and we do not mean to denounce anyone.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I think what she is trying to arrive at is that it's ok to have an age limit restriction, however do not mock the people who are out of your age group, just like what she previously talked about when she went to the club"
and what i would say to you is this......
A preference.. is a preference... is a preference...
regardless of what that preference is.. be that age.. or race.. or height... or build.. or any of one million others, one persons preferences are not more important that any other persons....
some people don't really fancy playing with people young enough to be son or daughter... conversely some people really don't fancy playing with people old enough to be mum or dad.....
isn't the sensible and most mature thing in the end to do is that if someone doesn't fit the "age" preference to simply just move on... just as i am sure people do if they see yours..... |
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"Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile
I think the upper age limit is more relevant than the lower age limit because most older men cant peform compared to younger guys, sorted."
Have to admit younger guys may be able to peform more times in a session, but a more mature guy with experience does it better (in our opinion).
so if you want quantity then ladies go for a young guy, if you want quality look towards the more experienced guys who have over many yrs figured out what a woman wants, not just push it in and out and chalk a notch on the bedpost that the boys do.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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We also didn’t denounce older swinger, simply stated our experience so far. And we said most of our negative experiences have been from older people. Most. Not all. We have friends who would fall into the category and we do not mean to denounce anyone.
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so if i were to say that from my experience of being in clubs that young people i have seen in clubs tend to be the ones who won't say boo to a goose, tend to wander around not saying anything and don't mix as much... I wouldn't presume to suggest that this would be the norm....
people are going to be different, I wouldn't try to make assumptions... I know people who are 20 going on 50, I know people who are 40 going on 10... I would like to think that I treat each person as individuals... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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" just move on... just as i am sure people do if they see yours.....
Yeah, we never get mail from people who haven’t read our preferences! Doesn’t everyone?
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we all do... it is how you then react to it that makes us all different... me, i ignore then, if they don't pay attention to my preferences then I don't believe i should answer them... simple as
or you can let it get to you.. eat you up inside.. moan and whinge (which i am not accusing you of doing) and basically let it give you an ulcer....
in the end we are all here for fun... if i am not having fun.... then what is in the end the point of it all....
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We also didn’t denounce older swinger, simply stated our experience so far. And we said most of our negative experiences have been from older people. Most. Not all. We have friends who would fall into the category and we do not mean to denounce anyone.
so if i were to say that from my experience of being in clubs that young people i have seen in clubs tend to be the ones who won't say boo to a goose, tend to wander around not saying anything and don't mix as much... I wouldn't presume to suggest that this would be the norm....
people are going to be different, I wouldn't try to make assumptions... I know people who are 20 going on 50, I know people who are 40 going on 10... I would like to think that I treat each person as individuals..."
We did not intend, nor fell we made assumptions. We stated our experiences so far. This is what we have experienced and have not claimed that this is the case for all We have nothing against older swingers and have not said so.
What we have had, and seen, is the idea that you can be too young to swing. As long as everyone’s consenting adults, is there such a thing?
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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What we have had, and seen, is the idea that you can be too young to swing. As long as everyone’s consenting adults, is there such a thing?
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not at all...
however like i said before some are going to have "comfort zones" in regards people they want to play with, and age may well be one of those factors.... like yours is with those "over 50"
it may not be the only one... it may be one of a few.... |
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Have to admit younger guys may be able to peform more times in a session, but a more mature guy with experience does it better (in our opinion).
so if you want quantity then ladies go for a young guy, if you want quality look towards the more experienced guys who have over many yrs figured out what a woman wants, not just push it in and out and chalk a notch on the bedpost that the boys do.
go for men not boys "
I must strongly disagree with you where you stated that experienced guys know what women want, i can tell you for a fact that all women are diffrent and the best way to know what a woman want is by communication while playing.
And no we don't just push it in and out... |
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Have to admit younger guys may be able to peform more times in a session, but a more mature guy with experience does it better (in our opinion).
so if you want quantity then ladies go for a young guy, if you want quality look towards the more experienced guys who have over many yrs figured out what a woman wants, not just push it in and out and chalk a notch on the bedpost that the boys do.
go for men not boys
I must strongly disagree with you where you stated that experienced guys know what women want, i can tell you for a fact that all women are diffrent and the best way to know what a woman want is by communication while playing.
And no we don't just push it in and out..."
I bow down to your superior knowledge, gained in the last... lets say 5 yrs.
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I wouldn't be so bold as to say younger swingers should be tucked up in bed as it's a school night etc. just as I expect others to respect me as an older swinger and not send me to bed with a cocoa.
There is someone out there for us all, patience is all it takes. xx |
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"I've got a lower age limit but not an upper one, whereas Kate has an upper limit but not a lower one.
No sence in me having an upper limit as there aren't many women older than me on here "
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If young men insist on telling me that they last longer and perform better than older men who are past it - I simply say well you're chasing an older woman who you think has the stamina to keep up so at what age he intends throwing in the towel. Stamina, prowess libido or whatever I have no issues with for men at any age. Young lads remind me too much of my sons at that age and its just such a taboo for no other reason than their youthful faces and yet to fully mature bodies.
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"If young men insist on telling me that they last longer and perform better than older men who are past it - I simply say well you're chasing an older woman who you think has the stamina to keep up so at what age he intends throwing in the towel. Stamina, prowess libido or whatever I have no issues with for men at any age. Young lads remind me too much of my sons at that age and its just such a taboo for no other reason than their youthful faces and yet to fully mature bodies.
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"I wouldn't be so bold as to say younger swingers should be tucked up in bed as it's a school night etc. just as I expect others to respect me as an older swinger and not send me to bed with a cocoa.
There is someone out there for us all, patience is all it takes. xx"
What if nice young mans wants to bring you up a cocoa wearing only a coy smile  are you gonna tuck him in alongside xx |
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For me it's just that I must have some sort of older man thing - I literally just don't get turned on by someone younger than me even if I can acknowledge he's good looking. |
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I think the Op has raised a very valid point and articulated it pretty well.
They have not questioned or challenged the basic right of personal preference in this thread, in fact they have implicitly argued their belief in that right.
Their point that some on here have stated 'young' swingers should not be on the site or in this scene is true, I've seen it myself. It is wrong, it is discrimination and those that suggest this should be challenged.
Nobody is suggesting people should play with others outside of their preference, so I'm not sure why the thread became twisted in a way that the Op was defending a point they had not made.
It's irrelevant whether you want to play with young or old, all sections should be welcome on the site without question. We then make our individual choice.
View's post nailed it in one sentence. |
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"Age. Why is it such an issue for some?
So, let the argument commence. Will try and reply to all hate mail, promise!"
For me it's statements like this: there tends to be an air of petulance around some young people that annoys me as it reminds me of my own children: who wants to be thinking of their kids in these situations?!!
The fact of the matter is there will ALWAYS be the "swinging elite" who want to dictate who they think should swing and are disparaging towards anyone outwith that.
I think I've heard it all and I fall within the "shouldn't be here" as set out by some. Difference is at 50 I don't care less whether someone thinks I should be here or not and wouldn't enpower the "elite" by starting a thread about it!
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It isn't just about the fact that some of us don't want to play with someone nearer our children's age, it's also about what they call the ick factor on here, the thought of a young body near me is just a revolting thought, what do we have in common? I meet socially first, chatting would be difficult but to be honest I have never been attracted to anyone outside of my own age group and I have absolutely no interest in doing so either.
And just to shut the comment "don't knock it till you've tried it" I did once meet a 25 yr old but thank god he got as I really couldn't and didn't want to take it a step further. Yes he was very nice and we enjoyed a nice chat but taking it further? I don't think so, I just couldn't have done it.
I much prefer my own age group and that is what I prefer and would rather stick with, least we have so much more in common than with those at the opposite end of the spectrum |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I think the Op has raised a very valid point and articulated it pretty well.
They have not questioned or challenged the basic right of personal preference in this thread, in fact they have implicitly argued their belief in that right.
Their point that some on here have stated 'young' swingers should not be on the site or in this scene is true, I've seen it myself. It is wrong, it is discrimination and those that suggest this should be challenged.
Nobody is suggesting people should play with others outside of their preference, so I'm not sure why the thread became twisted in a way that the Op was defending a point they had not made.
It's irrelevant whether you want to play with young or old, all sections should be welcome on the site without question. We then make our individual choice.
View's post nailed it in one sentence. "
because as you have seen as much as others.. young people compain about not getting meets the fact they are treated for being young as much as older people complain for the fact of not getting meets because they are older...
and you have been here long enough to see that as much as I have....
and especially with the added irony that the people who bring it up tend to have age preferences of their own... and that was the reason I and others brought it up... questioning other peoples "preferences" while having the same "preferences" isn't always the best starting point of any debate or discussuing... and in this case I think it was a absolutely valid point to bring up....
so where you see it as discrimination, most people see it as a preference.... and there is a major difference in those....
as I said before.. I have seen 20 yr olds act like they are 50, and 40 yr olds act like they are 10... and age isn't really a major factor in any decision I make, it is the way they act regardless of whether they are 20 or 50 that is the major determining factor for me... but I can only answer that for me!
however I do absolutely get and fully understand that with swinging there is a going to be a "comfort zone" for a lot of people.... and age may well be one of those factor in relation to determining that particular comfort zone.... as we keep on saying... the thought of having sex with someone the same age as son or daughter may be outside of some peoples comfort zones... same as younger people having the thought of having sex with someone old enough to be mum/dad/granny/grandad...
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Yes I have been here long enough to see threads where young people complain about not getting meets, unless I'm missing something, this is not one of them. You seem to be tarring the Op with the same brush as some other young swingers who have wrongly questioned peoples preferences.
The Op has repeatedly clarified that this thread is not about undermining preferences of who people want to meet. They are clear in their own minds that people prefer to swing in their own age group, they even suggest that they have their own 'comfort zones' too.
Their 'complaint' appears to be based around their right to be here full stop.
Are you suggesting that their actual right to be here has anything to do with the personal preferences of other swingers?
I do understand the difference between discrimination and preference. |
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Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile
We get that - attempted to say so on the first post. We’ve gotten the impression before that some people seem to have a problem with younger swingers in general. At a party, recently, a friend of ours was mocked quite openly for being young - ‘shouldn’t you be in bed’ and so forth.
We don’t imagine we’d make a good match for someone outside our range - but we wouldn’t suggest they shouldn’t be here.
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This was the Ops second post, I think they make their position quite clear here. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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well then with the greatest of respect why use the word "discrimination" in the first place (you were the only person to use the word in the thread....)
the site can be used by anyone over the age of 18... so as long as they stay within the rules of the site, I would never question anyone's right to be here..... so if that is the answer you want, then cool...
however, I am not going to challenge anyone elses person choices over whom they meet... for example if I replaced the word "age"... with the word "race" or "build" for example... would we even be having this conversation or thread to begin with....
so going back to the OP question...
they rhetotically answer there own first question....
the 2nd points...But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
no... an arse is an arse is an arse regardless...
there is a certain amount of maturity that does come with age... be that life,work and "real world" stuff.... and i'm happy to say that I know a ton of people who are wise beyond their years, but I treat people and make those judgements on an individual basis... |
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I can get around the age thing and have no problem telling a man he is too young for my sexual tastes but I squirm when a man asks if he's not tall enough for me. I have to admit I like tall men and wouldn't meet anyone under 5ft 9-10 ish if I'm honest. Its not about being an 'ist' or an 'ism' its about feeling the zing of a good contact and I wish when you say no thanks (as many men request when they write to you) it would stop there if its followed by a mail saying why not? Then you're damned if you do or damned if you don't tell why..... its difficult but I think if you join this site or others like it then you risk rejection and just have to take it on the chin. I can't stand it when having a preference earns you a snob or a bigot label. That's so unfair. |
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With equal respect my opinion or _iew shape the words I use, I don't base that choice on the words others choose to use.
You wouldn't question the right of anyone of legal age being on this scene, but others have and do. That's the Ops point.
To use your example of 'race' instead of 'age', if anyone voiced a _iew that I should not be on this scene because I was Black, I would challenge them. On the other hand I couldn't care less if they chose not to play with Black guys. One example is discriminatory the other is preference.
I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one Fabio, it's good to have something to disagree with you on for a change (I'm sure you'll take that the right way). |
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Seems to me that a lot of the replies in this thread support what the OP is complaining/questioning.
To the OP... with respect the fact you have asked this question shows your lack of experience which is fine because you gain experience by asking questions.
This isn't really about kids in the swinging hobby, its about how people feel hurt when rejected.
When a mature man is turned down by a young woman its him assuming he's been turned down because of his age that causes the problem. So he makes derogative comments and stomps off, thus proving the woman correct in thinking 'This guy is an arsehole'.
In all walks of life there are people who think their way is the only and RIGHT way, worse still is they will insist on showing their displeasure when confronted with things they do not approve of.
We would not turn down anyone of legal age BECAUSE of their age. Now I can't imagine I'll shag an 80-year-old this side of the next 30 years, unless of course I find a sexually attractive fem in her 80's. Equally I may or may not find a 18-year-old sexually attractive for any number of a million reasons!
Now lets chuck some muck at the fan... In ten years time I meet again with the (then)18-year-old. Now she's almost 30, not a kid anymore and VERY sexually attractive to me! That proves it doesn't it... it proves I turned her down because of age ten years ago. NO IT DOESN'T... it just means I did not find her sexually attractive back then.
Tell you who I'd like to see drummed out of swinging, actually the planet, not the younger people, not the older people in particular but all the people who think they should try and force their crap ideals on others. |
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"Age. Why is it such an issue for some? Of course we’re all free to choose who we play with, many don’t like then idea of playing with someone old/young enough to be their parents/children, but there are quite a few comments on these forums denouncing younger swingers.
But is there an age restriction on stupidity? Do you stop being pushy at a certain age?
Our experiences have mostly been with couples around our own age - although this had not been intentional. When we go to clubs we’ve had more (not always though) harassment from older swingers (men in particular) and on one occasion simply had to leave.
So, let the argument commence. Will try and reply to all hate mail, promise!"
I can't really see the debate here. The site allows 18 year olds and nobody on here has more rights than anyone else therefore said younger swingers have every right to be here and anybody who says otherwise have a deluded sense of power. There is someone for everyone and preferences should be respected. Its not rocket science is it?!
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I just feel i have more in common with people my own age, tho if im going to be honest i get more mail from guys under 25 than any other age group, i simply can not see the attraction in me for someone that age and will never under stand why a young guy would want to meet some saggy middle aged woman, i know a lot of people thonk thats a bizzar thing to say and ive had many a debate on this subject, but the top and bottom of it is, i dont see how a young guy could possabily be attracted to me, there for i refuse to believe if we met he would be so i dont bother meeting
thats why i dont meet younger swingers
cant talk for anyone else tho lol |
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"I just feel i have more in common with people my own age, tho if im going to be honest i get more mail from guys under 25 than any other age group, i simply can not see the attraction in me for someone that age and will never under stand why a young guy would want to meet some saggy middle aged woman, i know a lot of people thonk thats a bizzar thing to say and ive had many a debate on this subject, but the top and bottom of it is, i dont see how a young guy could possabily be attracted to me, there for i refuse to believe if we met he would be so i dont bother meeting
thats why i dont meet younger swingers
cant talk for anyone else tho lol"
i have a lower age limit of 25 but over the last cpl of months i have met a cpl of younger guys both of whom could show a lot of older guys a thing or 2 about manners and sex . im not saying i would meet every guy under 25 who asked but just that sometimes its nice to break the rules we ourselves have put in place .I also felt like you how on earth could some so young fancy or even want to be seen with someone so much older but as both guys told me age is really just a number and have both made me feel like a million dollars , cant be that bad as both of them very happy to be seen out with me x |
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I agree with both points regarding younger guys attraction to older women in the first place/and that young men are very well mannered and attentive.
This is often a problem for me because a lot of my chatmates are under 30 and we talk about everything under the sun and I find these chats attractive and once I find myself thinking - go on perhaps you could and when I did I was still of the same opinion - way too weird. I felt uncomfortable from the first kiss and well out of my comfort zone - so I know young guys aren't for me. You just know. |
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I would say I was still in the young bracket but I tend not to play with people much younger thatn myself. This is only due to having had strange experiences with younger girls in particular.
I have found that sometimes with younger couples they haven't really got there heads around swinging...Only sometimes Of the 2 experiences I have had with younger girls(in cpls) they didn't really seem or feel very bi. For me that's not what i am looking for.
As always it's only my personal thoughts lol and I wouldn't rule anything out. If I met younger cpls in a club environment and I knew we all got I would be happy to have fun I just don't go looking for them on fabs.
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Actually when Im approached by young girls I tend to have the same reaction as when Im approached by young lads - way too young so it is definitely a nurturing thing and not because Im straight. |
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we think anyone should be welcome on site, we have age limits but are flexable if we like your message, but mention the age difference then we know you have read our profile but still think you may have something to offer us. |
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we only put an age limit when we started out however we have only met one couple from our profile the rest we met in clubs etc. and whilst were in a club age/sex/looks etc doesn't matter to us it is how we feel at the time and how the other people feel as to what we may or may not do. |
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So those of you that have an upper and lower age range on your profiles, do you increase those limits every year? when you have a birthday, or as you get another year older or do they/have they stayed the same for the past few years, there is only so long you can have an 18-40 age range. |
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"I just feel i have more in common with people my own age, tho if im going to be honest i get more mail from guys under 25 than any other age group, i simply can not see the attraction in me for someone that age and will never under stand why a young guy would want to meet some saggy middle aged woman, i know a lot of people thonk thats a bizzar thing to say and ive had many a debate on this subject, but the top and bottom of it is, i dont see how a young guy could possabily be attracted to me, there for i refuse to believe if we met he would be so i dont bother meeting
thats why i dont meet younger swingers
cant talk for anyone else tho lol"
Actually Naughty, I am with you there |
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"So those of you that have an upper and lower age range on your profiles, do you increase those limits every year? when you have a birthday, or as you get another year older or do they/have they stayed the same for the past few years, there is only so long you can have an 18-40 age range."
yes as in reality, at 50 yrs old, I am not sure I am interested in anyone below 40, in fact even 10 yrs is a lot. As to older, I have a 60 yr old I meet when I can but he is an exception to the rule |
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"Many have preferences regarding, age, size, colour, sex etc. Even you have an upper age limit on your profile
I think the upper age limit is more relevant than the lower age limit because most older men cant peform compared to younger guys, sorted.
I'd beg to differ. Young guys are mainly like mopeds.......two strokes and off they go. "
Now now guys! Lets not have an older versus younger slanging match or I'll end up with splinters up my arse again! |
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