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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For those of you that have a hidden word in your profile, that you ask for people to put in the subject line, what percentage of people actually do?
For us it seems to be a fairly low 25% which is disappointing. We'd never message someone without reading their profile first, it's basic decency right? |
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I quite often ignore all requests in profiles. I would think that the a certain proportion of people also do. Not, as might be thought because I haven't read the profile, but because it's better to send a message that shows you have understood you are the type of person they are looking for, rather than than someone who can just copy a word into a message.
I often find that profiles with a keyword request actually have little information about the people they represent, (excepting the obvious description of themselves) which can actually be used as a discriminator.
I would have thought that the majority of people that spend a fair amount of time searching and reading profiles don't want to be judged by such crude a method as the need to include a keyword. Neither should the demand to attach a photo be adhered to in every circumstance.
It's quite clear that the profiles that demand/request these things are, on occasion, smug and entitled. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Common decency to do as requested to show you have at least taken the time to read their profile and that you believe you fit the bill of what they're looking for. To not do so just reeks of arrogance or that you've not bothered to do the assignment in my opinion. |
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"Common decency to do as requested to show you have at least taken the time to read their profile and that you believe you fit the bill of what they're looking for. To not do so just reeks of arrogance or that you've not bothered to do the assignment in my opinion."
I wouldn't want to be set an 'assignment' in order to send a message to anyone.
As for common decency. Fact that as the OP states three quarters of people are not prepared to comply with the request to me, speaks volumes. Either about the request, or the profile. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
We totally refuse to comply with the demands of arrogant and often mindless people who think cut and pasting a word or phrase from a profile shows we have read and comprehended what is written on the profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the OP wants to use a keyword as a filter, it's there profile and up to them, for them it filters out people who are offended by the instruction or fail to read the profile a win win for the OP x |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"We totally refuse to comply with the demands of arrogant and often mindless people who think cut and pasting a word or phrase from a profile shows we have read and comprehended what is written on the profile."
And its always right at the bottom of the profile. The people who do include the magic word probably just skipped to the bottom anyway. |
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Not into code words. Nor do I get offended if people message me without reading through my profile. I only ask that people read it if we arrange to meet - so they know what horrors to expect when my clothes come off!  |
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I suspect the answers will probably follow a pattern based on your FAB demographic.
I'm a single bloke, so tend to stick the word in (it doesn't hurt after all).
I imagine single women wouldn't bother so much, but then probably wouldn't be asked to.., |
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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago
Darlington |
Tbh it doesn't bother me...i personally don't have a key work.. .but when it's obvious someone hasn't read my profile I tend to ask....'having read my profile...what do you think my answer will be?' |
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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago
Dunfermline |
It's simply a way of letting people know what they would like that's all. It saves a lot of time on both parts if the person reading the profile actually reads it to see if they match that's all |
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I've never bothered putting in key words Didn't see the point when couples still message me for 3sums when it clearly states I'm not looking for a 3sum in block capitals at the top of my profile
The choice of keyword amuses me at times but I always put it in the subject line cause I read profiles before messaging people |
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By *wingsingMan
over a year ago
Berkshire/London |
"Not into code words. Nor do I get offended if people message me without reading through my profile. I only ask that people read it if we arrange to meet - so they know what horrors to expect when my clothes come off! "
I truly can't imagine any horrors 
On the point - I don't mind folk asking for keywords. It's their profile and the window they wish to show the fab community - its for the reader or non reader to comply or not. Fewer messages received and easier to target people that people who respected your request. This is great for couples or single female players .. as a sole male player I don't suffer a deluge of messages ..  |
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I wrote mine in Lemon juice. Hold your phone or monitor over an open fire to reveal it.
It's absolutely useless. More proof that no one reads profiles! 
Seriously though, there's ample evidence here that some people have difficulty with writing the English language... I imagine those folks aren't keen on reading either so just look at the pictures and message a cock pic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always read profiles. A few times though after i have spent time writing a message, i press send only to realise I forgot the key/magic word/attach a pic. I have never heard back from them.
When i was on here as a couple we had a key word but it was less than 25% who put it in so we did away with it |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Very rare but.. if I read a profile, check the requirements, check pics, location, tick tick tick so far.. oh, 'include *password* in the subject header', and I go all
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWXazVhlyxQ
And I go and wait until I see another profile I like that is less as far up its own arse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will read a profile to it's end. If they have a code word, and you're actually interested?
Where's the harm in it? People moan about profiles not being read constantly, so is typing one word into the message subject line really going to be such a heartache for you?
Self entitled, I hardly think so, it's just another way of separating the wheat from the chaffe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last time I insisted on a secret password it was to stop my little sister getting into my treehouse.
I've grown up a little since then and can manage to decide who is like to converse with without the aid of a secret password. 
Kinda miss my treehouse though. |
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Treehouses are ace! I miss mine too.
Passwords are what they are and we'll use them if a couple has specifically asked for them. What we do find is that the profiles who have them also have a requirement for a face photo with the first message OR U WILL B DELTED. Typically when these couples message us first, they send no such photo with theirs. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
The reason we think it is arrogant to demand people use code words in their reply is down to respect.
We are adults who engage in swinging, a practice that requires respect on all sides.
When a profile demands a code word be used to prove the responder has read the profile it shows they do not understand the concept of respect.
This then raises questions whether the OP also understands other adult concepts such as discretion and mutual enjoyment or whether they are simply there to satisfy their own needs.
We therefore use the immature code word demand as a filter to enable us to avoid such people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the point in code words myself. It's very easy to pick them out of someones profile without having really read it, so doesn't really prove you read it.
To me, the only way you can prove you've read a profile is in the individual response to that person(s) showing how you could meet some or all their wishes in a meet. |
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"Treehouses are ace! I miss mine too.
Passwords are what they are and we'll use them if a couple has specifically asked for them. What we do find is that the profiles who have them also have a requirement for a face photo with the first message OR U WILL B DELTED. Typically when these couples message us first, they send no such photo with theirs. "
I remember getting a message off a single lady with the exact same requirement...without a face pic. I replied anyway even though the double standards irked me a bit. When I saw she deleted my message without reply I sent her a message asking for feedback and why she had deleted it. In case you can't guess, her reason was that I hadn't attached a face pic so she deleted the message as warned on her profile She did at least have the grace to apologise when I told her I always do when I initiate contact but as I was replying to her, and she hadn't attached a face pic in the first message as she had made such a big deal of on her profile, I hadn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do use a specific word...... it works for me, mostly. I also explain who will get an instant block for approaching me disrespectfully. Just because this is a swinging site it does not entitle anyone to a reply and meet. My profile clearly explains who I am and what I'm looking for, also what I don't want. The code word goes somewhat to filtering out the chaff. Now I fully appreciate each to their own. Opinions are just that and everyone is entitled to own one. However how does complying with a simple request detract from anything we all hope to achieve here? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The reason we do it is because it saves our time being wasted, along with the time of others.
There's zero point in submissive or overweight women messaging us, yet we've met both and been disappointed because they haven't bothered to read our profile.
A key word seems like a better idea than being exposed to people you don't find attractive and having to reject them |
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"We totally refuse to comply with the demands of arrogant and often mindless people who think cut and pasting a word or phrase from a profile shows we have read and comprehended what is written on the profile.
And its always right at the bottom of the profile. The people who do include the magic word probably just skipped to the bottom anyway. "
That's my thoughts as well |
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"The reason we do it is because it saves our time being wasted, along with the time of others.
There's zero point in submissive or overweight women messaging us, yet we've met both and been disappointed because they haven't bothered to read our profile.
A key word seems like a better idea than being exposed to people you don't find attractive and having to reject them "
If you don't like the larger ladies why did you meet them?! |
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"I will read a profile to it's end. If they have a code word, and you're actually interested?
Where's the harm in it? People moan about profiles not being read constantly, so is typing one word into the message subject line really going to be such a heartache for you?
Self entitled, I hardly think so, it's just another way of separating the wheat from the chaffe. "
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"The reason we think it is arrogant to demand people use code words in their reply is down to respect.
We are adults who engage in swinging, a practice that requires respect on all sides.
When a profile demands a code word be used to prove the responder has read the profile it shows they do not understand the concept of respect.
This then raises questions whether the OP also understands other adult concepts such as discretion and mutual enjoyment or whether they are simply there to satisfy their own needs.
We therefore use the immature code word demand as a filter to enable us to avoid such people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When a profile demands a code word be used to prove the responder has read the profile it shows they do not understand the concept of respect.
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We have a code word in our profile, largely used to filter out easily those who just message a ton of people with the same message regardless of preference etc. We don't respect these people,as to them were just a target for their hopeful spam.
If a message misses out this but they have clearly looked at us some other way then we'll still reply and chat. It's not a trap, it's an easy way to prove you've not sent the same message to 1000 other couples. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you don't like the larger ladies why did you meet them?!"
They described themselves as "slim" on their profile whereas in reality they were a size 14
Pictures were outdated or fake too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When a profile demands a code word be used to prove the responder has read the profile it shows they do not understand the concept of respect.
We have a code word in our profile, largely used to filter out easily those who just message a ton of people with the same message regardless of preference etc. We don't respect these people,as to them were just a target for their hopeful spam.
If a message misses out this but they have clearly looked at us some other way then we'll still reply and chat. It's not a trap, it's an easy way to prove you've not sent the same message to 1000 other couples. "
Interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see the point in code words myself. It's very easy to pick them out of someones profile without having really read it, so doesn't really prove you read it.
To me, the only way you can prove you've read a profile is in the individual response to that person(s) showing how you could meet some or all their wishes in a meet."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's crossed my mind that those seeking a key word may also have a filter set up on their email too, so those messages without it get sent to spam.
Might this be a thing? |
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When a profile demands a code word be used to prove the responder has read the profile it shows they do not understand the concept of respect.
We have a code word in our profile, largely used to filter out easily those who just message a ton of people with the same message regardless of preference etc. We don't respect these people,as to them were just a target for their hopeful spam.
If a message misses out this but they have clearly looked at us some other way then we'll still reply and chat. It's not a trap, it's an easy way to prove you've not sent the same message to 1000 other couples. "
Exactly this. I get loads of the same message off the same people weeks apart. My profile doesn't state I'll delete messages if it's not in there, but does say those that bother take preference over those that don't. It's not compulsory, and I apologise to anyone who thinks it insults their intelligence or offends them by having it. But seriously, the amount of people that don't read them is shocking. I think mine is put in a respectful way, and I hope that comes across. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's crossed my mind that those seeking a key word may also have a filter set up on their email too, so those messages without it get sent to spam.
Might this be a thing? "
Not for us as we don't use email notifications. Not a bad idea though |
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