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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The thought of anal really turns me on but I find my boyfriend to big and it makes it hit or miss whether we manage it. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem or has any advice?
We're new to this site so if anyone has any other advice especially about finding a girl for a threesome it's all welcome!
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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago
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relax use a good lube
try with a selection of vibes slowly working up to a bigger one
also try going on top of him then you can control how deep you go
but most of all relax and have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thought of anal really turns me on but I find my boyfriend to big and it makes it hit or miss whether we manage it. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem or has any advice?
We're new to this site so if anyone has any other advice especially about finding a girl for a threesome it's all welcome!
x
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If I'm smaller, I could help out.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A) Lube lube lube, if you think you're using too much it's still not enough, and a good quality one too, not just any cheap one will do, especially if you're not used to it.
B) The person receiving has to be very relaxed, if you're not then it's just not going to work. Getting worried about it or trying too hard will just make this worse. This is the most important factor for me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The thought of anal really turns me on but I find my boyfriend to big and it makes it hit or miss whether we manage it. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem or has any advice?
We're new to this site so if anyone has any other advice especially about finding a girl for a threesome it's all welcome!
x
If I'm smaller, I could help out. "
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i find plenty of orgasms before hand helps as you get nice and relaxed
lube can be of use (alough i tend not to use it lol) but for first time i would recommend lol
take it slow, relax onto it so to speak |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just relax and enjoy, start with something smaller and work your way up to your chaps large cock
(lucky girl) ie:- fingers and toys and lots of lube and when you get the hang of it you won't be able to get enough.......I promise lol x  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all this, we've used fingers and toys and I'm fine with all of that it seems I can take it up to a certain point, I'll definitly try using more lube and see if that helps
He is gentle with me!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I took a massive cock the other day, never thought I would but he was very experienced and worked his way in slowly. he positioned himself carefully close to my body. felt astounding.... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I took a massive cock the other day, never thought I would but he was very experienced and worked his way in slowly. he positioned himself carefully close to my body. felt astounding...."
Yes slow and gentle much better than ramming speed!
I find reverse cowboy an excellent position for easing into it slowly, and the view for him is superb.  |
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"The thought of anal really turns me on but I find my boyfriend to big and it makes it hit or miss whether we manage it. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem or has any advice?
We're new to this site so if anyone has any other advice especially about finding a girl for a threesome it's all welcome!
x
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Butt pluggs, in different sizes, lube and have fun |
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"The thought of anal really turns me on but I find my boyfriend to big and it makes it hit or miss whether we manage it. I was wondering if anyone else has this problem or has any advice?
We're new to this site so if anyone has any other advice especially about finding a girl for a threesome it's all welcome!
x
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Butt pluggs, in different sizes, lube and have fun |
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"relax use a good lube
try with a selection of vibes slowly working up to a bigger one
also try going on top of him then you can control how deep you go
but most of all relax and have fun"
Everything that Voddy said, mwah, xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with the have a few orgasms first so you're really relaxed...
This may sound a bit gross but as he enters you slowly, relax, breath out and kind of bear down as though you're going to poo, it just opens you up a little bit more and makes you concentrate on something a little bit more than his size...if that's the only thing on your mind, you'll tense and it will hurt...once that's happened, he'll never get in no matter how gentle he is...
I had a horrendous first experience with anal and flatly refused to try it until i met the Monkey...now it is just a fabulous part of our sex life and I actively crave it at times...hope it works out for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yh plenty of lube is the key and relax dont try to hard doesnt happen then. ive done strap on with a guy and he has to be relaxed and you hv to enter slow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my experience its lube and relaxation that are the key - and the guy needs to know that SYBDI porno style just isnt going to work (at least not until your d*unk, numb or both!)
A little fingering and analingus is also pretty good to relax things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Choice of lube is also important - plus all the good advice above regarding relaxation and preparation.
Non-water based lubes like Wet Platinum can be very effective for that lovely slow gliding feeling of gentle penetration and does not dry out.
Anal also needs the very special trust where the woman knows she's safe and in control - can build up to a wonderful experience. |
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also try different positions and angles. sometimes it slides in easily, other times my body is simply telling me not today...
if you like face to face put a pillow under your bum, this can help. and if you try doggy then a couple of pillows under your hips can take your weight so you can try angling your pelvis for better effect without worrying about slipping just as he slides in!!! lol
enjoy honey... |
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As everyone has said, lube lube lube and loads of it. You need to be totally relaxed and take it very slow and gentle. If at any point it gets painful, stop. You will get there in time, don't rush it. |
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Slow and gentle, if you can play with toys you can learn and if he watches how gentle you are he will understand.
Also that first inch or two feels worst, once past that pause and let yourself get used to feeling.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to use some lube and my butt plug its about medium size and work it in slowly, then we have foreplay sometimes including rimming which relaxes me, I have a lube called "anal eaze" you get it on the net ,google it !, which has a little anasthetic in, put some inside your anus a few minutes before having anal, it defintely works well and relaxes you, then I prefer to get on my side in spoon position first as he enters slowly and gently..till its in then I am fully relaxed and vadjusted thern I dontm ind him going at it a bit harder and have fun.x Luisa |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have just searched for 'anal eaze' and have found that it contains novocaine which numbs the area.
Novocaine is what dentists use to numb your gum when they do any dental work including extractions .... Just make sure you wipe it in the right areas when using .... |
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This is how it goes in our house..
me...I'm going to put it up your bum.
her...Oh no your not
me..yes i am it dont hurt
her..ok if it dont hurt..i'll do you first
me ..ok lets do something else!..bah! |
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"This is how it goes in our house..
me...I'm going to put it up your bum.
her...Oh no your not
me..yes i am it dont hurt
her..ok if it dont hurt..i'll do you first
me ..ok lets do something else!..bah!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The good lady told me it was a defo no go when we first met!!
Now she loves it! Lol
Try something like Analeaze, poppers maybe.
Take it slowly. It dosent always work!
But have fun trying.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I bought a large dildo that I could stick to the shower wall or better still my headboard.
It's one of those ones with a suction bottom.
Sounds odd but I used that regularly until I was able to take anal sex without really thinking about it.
I'm a bit of a routine girl so whenever I masturbated I made sure I also used this dildo anally.
Within a few months i was fine with anal sex since i'd become used to that stretching.
lots of lube - and I mean LOTS of lube early on.
Once it becomes more natural and you stretch easier you can maybe use less lube but still, you'd don't naturally get wet back there so you still need some.
Hope that helps.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have just searched for 'anal eaze' and have found that it contains novocaine which numbs the area.
Novocaine is what dentists use to numb your gum when they do any dental work including extractions .... Just make sure you wipe it in the right areas when using .... "
This is good but.cant give the guy a painful dick at the end. the stuff reacts bad to some guys  |
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