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A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
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1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home |
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"No texting or kik after 5pm  "
and ONLY giving kik as a contact no phone number
The amount of attached guys that have given their number in the past then pop up on Facebook as someone I might know .. with wife and kids happily on a family day out  |
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"No texting or kik after 5pm
and ONLY giving kik as a contact no phone number
The amount of attached guys that have given their number in the past then pop up on Facebook as someone I might know .. with wife and kids happily on a family day out "
It's funny this I have noticed this .  |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home "
i am a man and cannot accommodate. pretty sure i am not in a relationship though lol. i have kids though, not all women have full custody  |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
i am a man and cannot accommodate. pretty sure i am not in a relationship though lol. i have kids though, not all women have full custody "
Heard this so many times as well . |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
i am a man and cannot accommodate. pretty sure i am not in a relationship though lol. i have kids though, not all women have full custody "
It's a sign not a cast iron guarantee. The vast majority of single parents are women. 91% according to official statistics. |
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
 really!?!?"
Yes honest it's really bad the excuses and stories women get .This is why some guys a hard time on fab |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread! |
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"Zero sexual experience.
On account of the fact that they've been married to Mrs designer handbag for donkies years"
I have a male I work with with a wife that won't cause she messes her hair up .seriously I did laugh  |
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"All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread!"
Most are single or divorced and have kids at home .I would never invite a stranger in my home .I would if he was my boyfriend and was serious .but never a swinger as most on here I would never trust . |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
i am a man and cannot accommodate. pretty sure i am not in a relationship though lol. i have kids though, not all women have full custody "
I second that... My kids are in and out of my place even though I'm divorced and they are at uni. I enjoy the lifestyle, but don't want to share that with my children...
And besides, I've seen plenty of women on here with multiple accounts and why would they need to constantly get new ones.. |
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"Zero sexual experience.
On account of the fact that they've been married to Mrs designer handbag for donkies years
I have a male I work with with a wife that won't cause she messes her hair up .seriously I did laugh "
Yup. I've met lots of men who have partners like that
Frilly dresses, court shoes and the latest fashionable handbag.
Couldnt possibly fuck like an animal, in case their nails get chipped |
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"No texting or kik after 5pm
and ONLY giving kik as a contact no phone number
The amount of attached guys that have given their number in the past then pop up on Facebook as someone I might know .. with wife and kids happily on a family day out "
Same! |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread!
Most are single or divorced and have kids at home .I would never invite a stranger in my home .I would if he was my boyfriend and was serious .but never a swinger as most on here I would never trust ."
I totally agree with you. Absolutely bang on reason to not accom. But you missed the point of my post. I dont really believe all none accomodating women are cheating hussies!!! Just questioning the generalisation the other way. |
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"All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread!
Most are single or divorced and have kids at home .I would never invite a stranger in my home .I would if he was my boyfriend and was serious .but never a swinger as most on here I would never trust .
I totally agree with you. Absolutely bang on reason to not accom. But you missed the point of my post. I dont really believe all none accomodating women are cheating hussies!!! Just questioning the generalisation the other way."
Most of these threads are based on generalisations but as the OP says it's lighthearted. I wouldn't worry about the finer points, as generalisations go I imagine it's fairly accurate |
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"All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread!"
Because we're not condemning anyone. It's a thing lots of people get and interesting to discuss. |
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"All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread!
Most are single or divorced and have kids at home .I would never invite a stranger in my home .I would if he was my boyfriend and was serious .but never a swinger as most on here I would never trust .
I totally agree with you. Absolutely bang on reason to not accom. But you missed the point of my post. I dont really believe all none accomodating women are cheating hussies!!! Just questioning the generalisation the other way."
Like I said 91% of single parents are women. Hence it's far more likely that women can't accommodate because of kids at home than men. That doesn't mean some men don't have kids at home, just that it is much less likely. |
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
really!?!?
Yes honest it's really bad the excuses and stories women get .This is why some guys a hard time on fab "
Astonished at this one...to be fair I'd welcome the dog give him a biscuit and send them on their way |
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"All women who can't accom are cheating hussies.
See i can do sweeping statements too.
As per all the millions of other times this gets said. If something about the profile puts you off then move on to the next.
How was this ever meant as a light hearted thread!
Most are single or divorced and have kids at home .I would never invite a stranger in my home .I would if he was my boyfriend and was serious .but never a swinger as most on here I would never trust .
I totally agree with you. Absolutely bang on reason to not accom. But you missed the point of my post. I dont really believe all none accomodating women are cheating hussies!!! Just questioning the generalisation the other way."
We have never accommodated at home as a couple or single for the exact same reasons. Home is a safe place for the children and really don't want anyone invading their privacy
Thats just a personal choice on our part and can definately see why most women would choose not to but certainly does not mean they are cheating on a partner where as many of the points posted on here are clear indications that someone is attached |
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"They come up on your Facebook profile as people you may know.
On looking at their profile you notice in a relationship "
How the fuck does this happen. I've notice peeps we've met on here appear as possible friends. Worrying isn't it 
Which algorythm embedded in the meta data let's this particular cat out of the bag. |
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"They come up on your Facebook profile as people you may know.
On looking at their profile you notice in a relationship
How the fuck does this happen. I've notice peeps we've met on here appear as possible friends. Worrying isn't it
Which algorythm embedded in the meta data let's this particular cat out of the bag."
If you exchange phone numbers and they have their phone number registered on fb it links them .. also if you share mutual friends
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"They come up on your Facebook profile as people you may know.
On looking at their profile you notice in a relationship
How the fuck does this happen. I've notice peeps we've met on here appear as possible friends. Worrying isn't it
Which algorythm embedded in the meta data let's this particular cat out of the bag."
We're all being watched 24/7
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"No texting or kik after 5pm
and ONLY giving kik as a contact no phone number
The amount of attached guys that have given their number in the past then pop up on Facebook as someone I might know .. with wife and kids happily on a family day out "
To be fair.. We only give out kik until we've either met them or are satisfied they won't make life difficult. . (don't really fancy out Facebooks being stalked, or bizarre comments etc) |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home "
3 is nonsense. I am single, a male, but can't accommodate because I am a dad and my kids live with me. |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
3 is nonsense. I am single, a male, but can't accommodate because I am a dad and my kids live with me. "
You're not alone pal, don't take it personally it's just a generalisation and as the OP says it's just light hearted |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
3 is nonsense. I am single, a male, but can't accommodate because I am a dad and my kids live with me.
You're not alone pal, don't take it personally it's just a generalisation and as the OP says it's just light hearted "
Oh yeah it's not a personal thing, it's just generalising. But some folk will read this and take it for gospel no doubt.
It's actually probably good I can't always accom otherwise I'd never go out!
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home "
Or
They say so on their profile .... |
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Floral bedding! And women's stuff in the pics.
I don't give out my number, only kik plus I don't attach my number to my Facebook page as I've come across the whole "people you may now" on Facebook. Their secret is safe with me, but not everyone is like that! |
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"Floral bedding! And women's stuff in the pics.
I don't give out my number, only kik plus I don't attach my number to my Facebook page as I've come across the whole "people you may now" on Facebook. Their secret is safe with me, but not everyone is like that! "
The bathroom pic is a dead giveaway. Why on earth would you take a pic in there otherwise. |
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If a truly single man wants to prove he is single to a potential Fab friend how about giving out his home phone number . No man in a relationship would ever dare do that. Women on normal dating sites often ask for that as a crude form of reference check and extra level of security before meetings so why not on swinging sites. We met on a normal dating site and before the meeting this information was exchanged and passed on to a trusted friend of Carol so Mike knew Carol wasn't meeting totally blind and had someone watching her back . |
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Good ideas so far on this thread!
I would say that an aversion to condoms is a sign that someone is secretly attached. If a guy has been used to bare sex with the wife for years, they often seem to find it virtually impossible yo maintain an erection once the condom is rolled down and then can't perform. |
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom."
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out  |
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom.
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out "
Just sold my flat and I'm staying with my brother . |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom.
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out "
or even worse they do accom while their mrs is out and has no idea. |
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom."
I've noticed that there seems to be a high percentage of cheating men who contact me, can accommodate. This gets sussed out in general conversation. |
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom.
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out
or even worse they do accom while their mrs is out and has no idea. "
I once knew someone who was an escort and she said many men had no qualms about doing the deed in the marital bed. Though some would do it in their kids'bed! |
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom.
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out
or even worse they do accom while their mrs is out and has no idea.
I once knew someone who was an escort and she said many men had no qualms about doing the deed in the marital bed. Though some would do it in their kids'bed! "
Omg noooooo !
Wrong on so many levels |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom.
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out
or even worse they do accom while their mrs is out and has no idea.
I once knew someone who was an escort and she said many men had no qualms about doing the deed in the marital bed. Though some would do it in their kids'bed! "
one guy on here was gonna with me, that's how i know. yeah kinda fucked up, although i've done it myself to a partner. it usually is when you get to the hate each other stage that things like this become acceptable. |
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To be honest though what are the chances of an attached guy on here getting a meet? If single single guys struggle?
Also OP do one for the ladies. I have met and know many who are also attached and playing without their husband's knowledge. |
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Back to the original question:
Only receiving phone calls when driving or dog walking.
No contact between 6-10pm and at weekends.
Kik switched off between these hours.
Then the classic, not him appearing on your fb feed as a suggested friend (because he's tied his fb down), but a woman with the same surname professing undying love for (insert his name here), together with pics of their recent beach wedding.. |
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"Floral bedding! And women's stuff in the pics.
I don't give out my number, only kik plus I don't attach my number to my Facebook page as I've come across the whole "people you may now" on Facebook. Their secret is safe with me, but not everyone is like that!
The bathroom pic is a dead giveaway. Why on earth would you take a pic in there otherwise. "
Only room with a big enough mirror to take reasonably sized selfie in?? |
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This is interesting thread.
I mention discretion but I also provide a face pic upon request. I don't know if casual surfing on Google brings up public pics.
I am concerned that if work colleagues know i swing then it could be an issue. I need to declare things that put me at risk of blakmail. True, the person I give a pic to could cause problems but it's about managing the risk.
Same as accommodate. I don't say never at mine but sometimes if possible.
Giving out a phone number is ok because you can change your number if there's an issue.
I know a guy who sees escorts. He goes to lengths to keep it from wife. All kinds of stuff.
Being careful may raise red flags and prevent meetings but its better than having meetings then finding yourself with a problem |
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"some have cottoned on that if you say you can't accom then you presume they're cheating so they pretend they can accom.
Then the one night you can meet them, their friend is staying because he and his other half have fallen out
Just sold my flat and I'm staying with my brother . "
Ha! Stuffed up his chances then xx |
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Oh yeah it's not a personal thing, it's just generalising. But some folk will read this and take it for gospel no doubt.
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That is true.
Interesting that it does matter to some if the man or woman is cheating. We are not responsible for people's morality. We do not have all the facts of their home life so cannot make an true assessment.
If you enjoy your time together in all its different ways, does it matter that a wife or husband is being cheated upon. |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"To be honest though what are the chances of an attached guy on here getting a meet? If single single guys struggle?"
just about every guy i've met off here is attached. almost every single one. and i met them regularly, one several times a week.
they have a gf/wife, they know how to get women and keep one.
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Oh yeah it's not a personal thing, it's just generalising. But some folk will read this and take it for gospel no doubt.
That is true.
Interesting that it does matter to some if the man or woman is cheating. We are not responsible for people's morality. We do not have all the facts of their home life so cannot make an true assessment.
If you enjoy your time together in all its different ways, does it matter that a wife or husband is being cheated upon. "
It does matter to some. Some people do not like to be complicit in deceit or facilitate activity involving deceit. |
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"To be honest though what are the chances of an attached guy on here getting a meet? If single single guys struggle?
just about every guy i've met off here is attached. almost every single one. and i met them regularly, one several times a week.
they have a gf/wife, they know how to get women and keep one.
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That's our experience too. Over the age of thirty most men want to be in a relationship and unless they are totally hopeless those who want to will be. |
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"To be honest though what are the chances of an attached guy on here getting a meet? If single single guys struggle?
just about every guy i've met off here is attached. almost every single one. and i met them regularly, one several times a week.
they have a gf/wife, they know how to get women and keep one.
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Completely what I've found too |
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Oh yeah it's not a personal thing, it's just generalising. But some folk will read this and take it for gospel no doubt.
That is true.
Interesting that it does matter to some if the man or woman is cheating. We are not responsible for people's morality. We do not have all the facts of their home life so cannot make an true assessment.
If you enjoy your time together in all its different ways, does it matter that a wife or husband is being cheated upon. "
Sometimes yes, depends like you say on the circumstances.
I'd rather not do it, more because it's just a hassle, but each to their own. |
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Well sometimes us genuine single guys get misjudged because of these so called tell tale signs OP has stated.
I can accommodate however I will only invite people to my home if I really know them. Wouldn't invite a stranger around without first meeting them.
I am willing to give out my contact details and can text nearly 24/7 depending upon sleeping
I only have a full length mirror in the bathroom as I am a bloke and don't need one in the bedroom. But I do take selfies in my bedroom or downstairs
Willing to meet anytime of the day / night plus also multiple locations as do travel about with work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good ideas so far on this thread!
I would say that an aversion to condoms is a sign that someone is secretly attached. If a guy has been used to bare sex with the wife for years, they often seem to find it virtually impossible yo maintain an erection once the condom is rolled down and then can't perform. "
really??? Not in my experience. They generally want the woman to supply the condoms. Do they really take the chance of giving something to their partner?
I always supply my own condoms. I know they are fit to use that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good ideas so far on this thread!
I would say that an aversion to condoms is a sign that someone is secretly attached. If a guy has been used to bare sex with the wife for years, they often seem to find it virtually impossible yo maintain an erection once the condom is rolled down and then can't perform.
really??? Not in my experience. They generally want the woman to supply the condoms. Do they really take the chance of giving something to their partner?
I always supply my own condoms. I know they are fit to use that way."
Some said can't were a condom as I'm too big .I am always prepared for that excuse .I leave |
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"Good ideas so far on this thread!
I would say that an aversion to condoms is a sign that someone is secretly attached. If a guy has been used to bare sex with the wife for years, they often seem to find it virtually impossible yo maintain an erection once the condom is rolled down and then can't perform.
really??? Not in my experience. They generally want the woman to supply the condoms. Do they really take the chance of giving something to their partner?
I always supply my own condoms. I know they are fit to use that way.
Some said can't were a condom as I'm too big .I am always prepared for that excuse .I leave "
A lot of married men don't carry condoms as they don't need them in there marriage .so it's a big giveaway when you ask them why .generally they come clean and tell you .well one person did I knew .but it put me off him . |
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"No texting or kik after 5pm
and ONLY giving kik as a contact no phone number
The amount of attached guys that have given their number in the past then pop up on Facebook as someone I might know .. with wife and kids happily on a family day out "
This! And going quite soon as you say shall we quickly video call |
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By (user no longer on site)
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sime attached men are sneaky little blighters. I've was chatting to one guy and met him last weekend and even stayed over. Showed absolutly no signs of being attached at all.
I verified him and within an hou of him showing it I had someone message me saying he was attached. They gave me every bit of info on him and even his name and told me to check his Facebook out. And low and behold there he was with his partner and kids and had pics of a family holiday the week before I met. When I questioned him he went unlos. So some are very clever and get through the net |
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Not a funny contribution sorry OP.
Last year when I first signed back on after being widowed, a "single" guy wanted, instigated and became my exclusive partner.
Had a wedding ring which he told me from word go was his late fathers. He did take it off to play.
Met me many times over a four month period, including Friday and Saturday nights, once both in one weekend.
Got me to say hello to his 10 yr old son on his car hands free.
Called me day and night, lots of times throughout the day and when we didn't speak we were still messaging a lot, every single day.
drove from his home in London up to Newark to apologise - circa month 2, for something he'd said. He got to my house at 6am
Then one morning I was reading an interesting news item about people googling new partners. The rest is now history  |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"sime attached men are sneaky little blighters. I've was chatting to one guy and met him last weekend and even stayed over. Showed absolutly no signs of being attached at all.
I verified him and within an hou of him showing it I had someone message me saying he was attached. They gave me every bit of info on him and even his name and told me to check his Facebook out. And low and behold there he was with his partner and kids and had pics of a family holiday the week before I met. When I questioned him he went unlos. So some are very clever and get through the net "
this sounds exactly like what happened to me recently, literally everything except the giving out of details (i looked for his facebook myself to see if his 'wife' was lying). saw he had no wife mentioned on his profile but a woman was named/tagged who was in one of his pics, lo and behold her page said she was married to him.
seeing as his wife deleted her account on here when i blocked her i messaged her on fb and she was fine about that luckily so i told her everything coz all i could think of was her saying (on here before i blocked) that he had been lying to her loads and she felt like she was going crazy.
wifeys and gf aren't as stupid as men treat them. i knew when my exes were cheating coz they change and you can tell.
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A married man has borrowed mates flat and said it was there flat .funny when they don't no where the coffee is and cups .Took him a while to find fridge as well . |
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
Going dogging....for real!"
Lol probably where it came from . |
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over a year ago
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
Going dogging....for real!
Lol probably where it came from . "
This exactly where the term dogging came from.
It was called this because men would stumble across people have sex in cars or bushes while walking the dog.
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
Going dogging....for real!
Lol probably where it came from .
This exactly where the term dogging came from.
It was called this because men would stumble across people have sex in cars or bushes while walking the dog.
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
Going dogging....for real!
Lol probably where it came from .
This exactly where the term dogging came from.
It was called this because men would stumble across people have sex in cars or bushes while walking the dog.
Well you learn something new every day "
Not sure I would want a dog watching me being naughty and I hope this isn't what they mean by 3 sum .lol |
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
Going dogging....for real!
Lol probably where it came from .
This exactly where the term dogging came from.
It was called this because men would stumble across people have sex in cars or bushes while walking the dog.
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And also a good excuse for being there if challenged,"I was taking the dog for a walk and he's slipped off the leash, so I'm looking for him...etc." |
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"Is it ok if I bring my dog.lol
Reason is just taking dog for walk while wife cooks tea for his return
Going dogging....for real!
Lol probably where it came from .
This exactly where the term dogging came from.
It was called this because men would stumble across people have sex in cars or bushes while walking the dog.
Well you learn something new every day
Not sure I would want a dog watching me being naughty and I hope this isn't what they mean by 3 sum .lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was married I sent my ex out for curtain hooks .he returned 3 hours later without curtain hooks .Smelling of cheap Perfume so men when you cheat remember tell her not to wear any or buy her same bottle wife wears . |
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"sime attached men are sneaky little blighters. I've was chatting to one guy and met him last weekend and even stayed over. Showed absolutly no signs of being attached at all.
I verified him and within an hou of him showing it I had someone message me saying he was attached. They gave me every bit of info on him and even his name and told me to check his Facebook out. And low and behold there he was with his partner and kids and had pics of a family holiday the week before I met. When I questioned him he went unlos. So some are very clever and get through the net "
You stayed over at his ?? |
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"sime attached men are sneaky little blighters. I've was chatting to one guy and met him last weekend and even stayed over. Showed absolutly no signs of being attached at all.
I verified him and within an hou of him showing it I had someone message me saying he was attached. They gave me every bit of info on him and even his name and told me to check his Facebook out. And low and behold there he was with his partner and kids and had pics of a family holiday the week before I met. When I questioned him he went unlos. So some are very clever and get through the net
You stayed over at his ??"
No he stayed at mine |
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"Says can accomodate but prefers outside sex  "
My profile says I can accomodate, mainly because as a single guy I don't want to do anything to reduce my chances any further and I can host if necessary. However I prefer not to, and will usually suggest a hotel first if the lady doesn't accommodate. This has nothing to do with being attached, in my case at least, and everything to do with not relishing the idea of inviting someone is effectively a total stranger into my home, even those with whom I feel enough of a connection to want to have sex with. "Neutral ground" is far more relaxing imo.
I can think of numerous other reasons for not accomodating too, none of which involve a secret "other half" - nosey neighbours, thin walls, flat mates, insecurity about the condition of their property, etc etc |
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Single guy here, can accom sometimes (I.e. When I don't have my child and I'm not busy doing other things) , single parent (yes one of the 9% of the population), travels with work, don't give out my number because of bad experiences e.g. Having photos whatsapped to you at any time and booty calls late at night - don't tarnish all with the same brush but just don't give out my number to anyone anymore. Looks for discretion because I really don't fancy being the talk of the town, fab is widely known by all in my area, not that anyone admits using fab (me included) but it is frowned upon (sorry to say)
Anyways, I recognise that I probably tick some of the boxes but the one thing that concerns me is not about the actually post i.e. Tell tale signs of a married man. It's the elements about looking people up on social media. Yes i understand that if you link a number to Facebook, instagram, etc it suggests a contact. I don't add my mobile number to social media accounts but yet people still look me up. I know this goes on and I find it concerning and weird. Why do people claim that they want to keep fab separate to their normal life and then go nosing at the people they meet and investigate their life?
The people who I know and trust on fab know I'm single and some are even close friends, who I do share social media connections with, when we are comfortable in doing so. I've got nothing to hide (a wife, girlfriend, etc) but I do find it really odd when someone admits to finding me on social media after we have met. Fab is a completely separate part of my life so why do people invade my privacy? It's not a challenge as such, just a morbid curiosity around motivations for doing this? |
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What I don't understand is why a matured swinging lady will be bothered if a guy is attached or not ,98% of the guys don't have a problem if the ladies are attached or not, is this not what swinging is about? The ability to speak your mind freely to someone you fancy without having to hide anything, this is why it is called the alternative lifestyle.
Ladies if you are looking for a relationship , why don't you tell the guys straight up, why hide and begin to bother if a guy is attached or not, it baffles me. I have never asked any lady I have toasted if she is single or not because I know every lady has some kind of boyfriend or husband but I get asked this question most times by ladies, I would prefer if the ladies told me straight, I want a relationship instead of acting like it is not what they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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1,I don't accom as I'm in a shared flat and never know when flatmate will be in .
2,bathroom shots might be only place guys can get good light for pics
3 can't text at certain times might mean they are actually at work and if like my work have a strict no phone policy and they're a shift worker |
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"What I don't understand is why a matured swinging lady will be bothered if a guy is attached or not ,98% of the guys don't have a problem if the ladies are attached or not, is this not what swinging is about? The ability to speak your mind freely to someone you fancy without having to hide anything, this is why it is called the alternative lifestyle.
Ladies if you are looking for a relationship , why don't you tell the guys straight up, why hide and begin to bother if a guy is attached or not, it baffles me. I have never asked any lady I have toasted if she is single or not because I know every lady has some kind of boyfriend or husband but I get asked this question most times by ladies, I would prefer if the ladies told me straight, I want a relationship instead of acting like it is not what they want. "
Cheating is morally wrong and most people don't want robe involved in it. It's not because they want a relationship
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I have noticed that cheating is only morally wrong when the guys are doing it , it is not morally wrong when the ladies are doing it and the ladies cheat more than the guys .
Ok I accept that some guys don't know how to handle things and they let the ladies trick them into unwanted situations, this is a common concern for me therefore I tend not to have guys around me who don't have a spine. A true player will always stand up on his principles and game, no sex without using condoms means exactly that , no matter how beautiful the lady in question is. |
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I remember my ex girlfriend always told me that when I am dealing with ladies I have to take charge because ladies and guys don't think the same way, this came up because I asked her why some ladies cannot be trusted and will get pregnant for a guy they know does not want to be that serious with them when they have more ways of control than the guy who only has the condom as a mode of control. She said that is how most ladies are if they like a guy, which brings me back to this topic, why don't the ladies trash out what they want when they meet a guy they like ,even if it means the guy would run away as a result? |
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"I have noticed that cheating is only morally wrong when the guys are doing it , it is not morally wrong when the ladies are doing it and the ladies cheat more than the guys .
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I've said this before but it bears repeating.
For us there is no moral question. If we fuck a married person, male or female, then that is a question for their own conscience not ours. We do however avoid married men and this is purely because we like a quiet life and there is a big difference between the ways men and women will deal with a cheating spouse.
A male with a cheating spouse will tend to blame her and direct any anger, thoughts of revenge etc. towards her. A woman with a cheating spouse, on the other hand, will tend to blame the person he cheats with.
Avoiding married men saves a lot of grief. Who wants some deranged bunny-boiler on the doorstep or phone at 3 in the morning.
I know I am generalising but it is a numbers game.
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"To be honest though what are the chances of an attached guy on here getting a meet? If single single guys struggle?
just about every guy i've met off here is attached. almost every single one. and i met them regularly, one several times a week.
they have a gf/wife, they know how to get women and keep one.
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"What I don't understand is why a matured swinging lady will be bothered if a guy is attached or not ,98% of the guys don't have a problem if the ladies are attached or not, is this not what swinging is about? The ability to speak your mind freely to someone you fancy without having to hide anything, this is why it is called the alternative lifestyle.
Ladies if you are looking for a relationship , why don't you tell the guys straight up, why hide and begin to bother if a guy is attached or not, it baffles me. I have never asked any lady I have toasted if she is single or not because I know every lady has some kind of boyfriend or husband but I get asked this question most times by ladies, I would prefer if the ladies told me straight, I want a relationship instead of acting like it is not what they want.
Cheating is morally wrong and most people don't want robe involved in it. It's not because they want a relationship
A x"
Exactly its a personal choice
We are not here to bash attached people,but nor would we meet them.
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And all the guys rebutting these signs
"I work after 6pm"
"I have a flatmate"
"The bathroom has the best mirror/lighting"
Etc.Etc.
You may well be telling the truth. No one is saying that all men who cannot accommodate are married. What they are saying is that most men who are married can't accommodate. There is a difference and for the people that don't want to meet married men crossing these off the list is a sure fire way of cutting out most of them. |
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Sat here reading these and chuckling away.
I am on here and I also go to clubs. I am attached. The best thing is she knows what I do and there is a very genuine reason why. She has full knowledge. Even though she does not want to be part of the scene in any way she still has come to a club on a social night and met my friends from there. I am one very very lucky fella |
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Howany ladies accom ,are genuinely single ,only show vagina pics ,met many a so called single lady that profile said wasn't married only to find they are someone's wife or seeing someone but they're profile states they're single |
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"Sat here reading these and chuckling away.
I am on here and I also go to clubs. I am attached. The best thing is she knows what I do and there is a very genuine reason why. She has full knowledge. Even though she does not want to be part of the scene in any way she still has come to a club on a social night and met my friends from there. I am one very very lucky fella "
I bet a lot here would love to live like that .. you are lucky ... Has she a lover .? |
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Year ago when I first joined this site,a man messaged me to say his best times for a meet were 7am in the morning!I laughed to myself imagining the look on his face if he turned up at that time on my doorstep and I answered in my onsie with hair resembling a derelict buzzards nest! |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home "
Couldn't give a toss one way or the other. Not my problem, I'm single  x |
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"What I don't understand is why a matured swinging lady will be bothered if a guy is attached or not ,98% of the guys don't have a problem if the ladies are attached or not, is this not what swinging is about? The ability to speak your mind freely to someone you fancy without having to hide anything, this is why it is called the alternative lifestyle.
Ladies if you are looking for a relationship , why don't you tell the guys straight up, why hide and begin to bother if a guy is attached or not, it baffles me. I have never asked any lady I have toasted if she is single or not because I know every lady has some kind of boyfriend or husband but I get asked this question most times by ladies, I would prefer if the ladies told me straight, I want a relationship instead of acting like it is not what they want. "
Deceit is not attractive to me. Married men - no thanks |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home "
Yes, i mean theres absoloutely no way , i could have taken in an eldery relative, or have nosy neighbours ect. I mean i cant accomodate i must be cheating yea.
Honestly.... u people |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
Yes, i mean theres absoloutely no way , i could have taken in an eldery relative, or have nosy neighbours ect. I mean i cant accomodate i must be cheating yea.
Honestly.... u people "
Or heaven forbid a guy values his personal security and privacy as much as a woman. |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
Yes, i mean theres absoloutely no way , i could have taken in an eldery relative, or have nosy neighbours ect. I mean i cant accomodate i must be cheating yea.
Honestly.... u people
Or heaven forbid a guy values his personal security and privacy as much as a woman. "
Thank you, I'm sick to death of being castigated for being a single guy who just because he's not A,B and C is a time waster, liar or cheat. |
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I'm straight up honest that I'm married but I see it tends to put peeps off straight away. Couple times before I didn't mention it immediately and then eased it into the convo and it didn't seem to be much of an issue then.. |
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"A light hearted thread. Not an effort at shaming..
We say
1. Bathroom pics - the only time you can guarantee your partner won't walk in on you.
2. Mentions discretion twice or more in their profile
3. Is a man and can't accommodate. - women less so. They are more likely to have genuine safety reason and/or kids at home
Yes, i mean theres absoloutely no way , i could have taken in an eldery relative, or have nosy neighbours ect. I mean i cant accomodate i must be cheating yea.
Honestly.... u people
Or heaven forbid a guy values his personal security and privacy as much as a woman. "
This also , very true |
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over a year ago
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Oh yeah it's not a personal thing, it's just generalising. But some folk will read this and take it for gospel no doubt.
That is true.
Yes it does matter! Be honest then everyone involved can make an informed decision based on the truth.
Interesting that it does matter to some if the man or woman is cheating. We are not responsible for people's morality. We do not have all the facts of their home life so cannot make an true assessment.
If you enjoy your time together in all its different ways, does it matter that a wife or husband is being cheated upon. "
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Oh yeah it's not a personal thing, it's just generalising. But some folk will read this and take it for gospel no doubt.
That is true.
Yes it does matter! Be honest then everyone involved can make an informed decision based on the truth.
Interesting that it does matter to some if the man or woman is cheating. We are not responsible for people's morality. We do not have all the facts of their home life so cannot make an true assessment.
If you enjoy your time together in all its different ways, does it matter that a wife or husband is being cheated upon. "
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"I will try again ...sorry
Yes it does matter! Be honest then everyone involved can make an informed decision based on the truth."
Best way for all involved. However, a lot on here jump to unfair conclusions |
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This is all pointing towards why nobody will talk to me then.
I'll be honest, I am in a relationship, and we're both swingers. I don't really say I'll accommodate here as we don't like to rub it in each other's faces.
That and two teenage kids make it... Difficult to do so.
Really pigs me off the lying douche bag guys who are screwing it up for us more honest blokes. |
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"This is all pointing towards why nobody will talk to me then.
I'll be honest, I am in a relationship, and we're both swingers. I don't really say I'll accommodate here as we don't like to rub it in each other's faces.
That and two teenage kids make it... Difficult to do so.
Really pigs me off the lying douche bag guys who are screwing it up for us more honest blokes."
Utter nonsense.
No one screws anything up for anyone
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"I will try again ...sorry
Yes it does matter! Be honest then everyone involved can make an informed decision based on the truth.
Best way for all involved. However, a lot on here jump to unfair conclusions"
I dont think so, its called life experience |
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"This is all pointing towards why nobody will talk to me then.
I'll be honest, I am in a relationship, and we're both swingers. I don't really say I'll accommodate here as we don't like to rub it in each other's faces.
That and two teenage kids make it... Difficult to do so.
Really pigs me off the lying douche bag guys who are screwing it up for us more honest blokes.
Utter nonsense.
No one screws anything up for anyone
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