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Saying no thank you next time you see someone you have played with in a club.
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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Has anybody ever found it difficult to find the words to say you don't want to play with somebody again, after you did play together in a club and both enjoyed it.
Things can happen that make you decide you definitely don't want to play with that person again, it's a little bit uncomfortable if they are delighted to see you and feel you might be able to enjoy each other once again but you are 100% you don't want to again, as something happened afterwards that put you off.
Would you say something as simple as "no thank you I feel like we've had our fun I'm going to save some memories just as they are', or something like that?
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I think its wrong to assume that just because you played once you're going to play again. I think you're justified in just saying "no thank you" with a smile and not offering an explanation. There are loads of people who have a rule of only ever playing once with anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has there ever been any kind of negative (perhaps abusive) response from someone expecting a second time? Alot of presumptuous people about so I'm just wondering |
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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago
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I (lou) would say “not this time, but thank you for the offer” if they got abusive about it I’d report them and realise I’d make the right decision not to play again. Just because you’ve played once doesn’t mean your gonna play every time swinging is about verity.
Plus it would make them look very childish to others at the club if they couldn’t you saying no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anybody ever found it difficult to find the words to say you don't want to play with somebody again, after you did play together in a club and both enjoyed it.
Things can happen that make you decide you definitely don't want to play with that person again, it's a little bit uncomfortable if they are delighted to see you and feel you might be able to enjoy each other once again but you are 100% you don't want to again, as something happened afterwards that put you off.
Would you say something as simple as "no thank you I feel like we've had our fun I'm going to save some memories just as they are', or something like that?
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Interesting thread as you can also apply it to people you have meets with that are keen to meet again when perhaps you don’t want to  |
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I agree with those who've said a simple No thanks should be enough. Anyone with sense will accept it without question. If you don't want to be so blunt or deliver that face to face Not tonight thanks might stall until you feel less on the spot.
And yes, equally relevant to guys you've met on here in the past, enjoyed time with but aren't interested in playing with again. What people want changes and it would be nice if people accepted no gracefully. |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've had presumptuous bum smacks, one guy walked right up and snogged me too.....
The worst for this I find is women though! All seem to assume that cause you have once that you will again  "
I've found the same. I am very upfront x and just tell someone |
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I have had a guy look very insulted when I politely declined his invitation to play a second time, I was nice about it I thought, "sorry but not tonight thank you".
TBH it is pretty rare that that I play with a guy more than once, and I never presume that just because we have got naked in the past that he will want to the next time our paths cross. |
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