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By *c4fun OP Man
over a year ago
nottingham |
So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guess not then lol"
Hell no. I keep striking out with people I think should be playing in my division as it is - so how much worse could it be?
Nothing ventured... |
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By *c4fun OP Man
over a year ago
nottingham |
"No it wouldn't stop me, it's all subjective anyway isn't it? The worst that can happen is they block me 
What about you OP? "
I think it’s worth a chance for some
Who knows the might strangely like me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No it wouldn't stop me, it's all subjective anyway isn't it? The worst that can happen is they block me
What about you OP? "
I think I even messaged you a few weeks ago - I'm plainly not shy about aiming high  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm confident in the WHO I am, but not in the how I look, so I'm not that great at messaging. Daft really coz I know everyone is attracted to different things, people and and personalities.
B isn't self conscious like I am tho.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really.
There's profiles that I'll read & come to the conclusion that I'm definitely not their cup of tea.
So I won't bother them.
(But it's not because I think they're too attractive, or I'm not attractive enough.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it wouldn't put me off because everyone likes what they like this whole out of your league stuff is a confidence knock. Just message them you will only find out if they are interested if you at least try  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm confident in the WHO I am, but not in the how I look, so I'm not that great at messaging. Daft really coz I know everyone is attracted to different things, people and and personalities.
B isn't self conscious like I am tho.
P"
Not in the slightest, I couldn't give a monkeys.
Which is why we meet who we like, provided both of us and our prospective conspirators in shenanigans find the prospect of doing so tickles all our pickles... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm confident in the WHO I am, but not in the how I look, so I'm not that great at messaging. Daft really coz I know everyone is attracted to different things, people and and personalities.
B isn't self conscious like I am tho.
P"
Not in the slightest, I couldn't give a monkeys.
Which is why we meet who we like, provided both of us and our prospective conspirators in shenanigans find the prospect of doing so tickles all our pickles...
(B, btw...  ) |
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I've said it before on these threads, I really don't understand why people think in terms of punching above their weight when it comes to physical attraction.
Punching above your weight intellectually I can understand. I'd never enter an argument about nuclear physics with a nuclear physicist for example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would put me off, some sexy looking fellas I wouldn’t dream of messaging  "
Now that is highly illogical. For one you look rather appealing as opposed to a beast and for another your profile is clearly written by one with a brain larger than an olive?
So dig those gloves out and start twatting things like Mr Fury....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
I've had messages from men who were far too hot for me or they have met women far more attractive than me. It instantly puts me off. I can't be what they want. |
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"Yes.
I've had messages from men who were far too hot for me or they have met women far more attractive than me. It instantly puts me off. I can't be what they want. "
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How do you know what they want? Genuine question |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
yes. I often dont approach guys or message them . I'm aware though that I often am punching lol and think go me x
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"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
Absolutely not, you've got to be in it to win it and I've punched a few times on nights out, mind you I've been knocked back far more times !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
I've had messages from men who were far too hot for me or they have met women far more attractive than me. It instantly puts me off. I can't be what they want. "
But these folk might have varying tastes. You cant just sign yourself off because of other folk. If they messaged you, they are clearly interested. |
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And that is why we love a natter on here and then a social meet. Actually meeting them before any play time is essential. You may look awesome but if your attitude stinks and you have zero personality, we’re not interested. We may not be everyone’s cup of tea either. That’s life.
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"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
I wish ppl would chat more. I’ve fancied very very few based on looks. More on personality and sense of fun. |
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"Yes.
I've had messages from men who were far too hot for me or they have met women far more attractive than me. It instantly puts me off. I can't be what they want. "
If they're messaging you they obviously want you.
I think what a lot of women don't get is that most blokes would cheerfully shag 90% of the women on here, given the opportunity. Hence the fact that a bloke has shagged someone you consider hotter than you is irrelevant to whether he fancies you or not. |
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"Yes.
I've had messages from men who were far too hot for me or they have met women far more attractive than me. It instantly puts me off. I can't be what they want.
But these folk might have varying tastes. You cant just sign yourself off because of other folk. If they messaged you, they are clearly interested."
What he said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you don’t buy a ticket... plus you can be a 10/10 but once you get talking that view can quickly change lol  "
Definitely agree with this 10/10 looks and body does not mean a 10/10 connection xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
Yeah I think it would. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"No harm in trying
Just like to add
NSAchick your hot "
Thank you
I think it's a shame that people wouldn't contact those they deem "too hot", seems like a lot of missed opportunities out there. |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
Nuneaton |
Our hotlist is full of women and couples we'll never message as we consider them too hot so the answer is yes I guess.
In fact I even get in trouble with the mrs for winking couples who are too hot |
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I would still message, in a complimentary way and without expectation. This has resulted in some pleasant message exchanges.
And in one case I’ve been very lucky to meet such a lady and I continue to do so, pinching myself each time we meet just to make sure it’s real!! ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly I'm afraid pretty heavy guy so not many of you would be above my weight. 
But I look at the picture, think 'she's hot', read the profile to see what she/they are looking for, and if it matches up then I message (sometimes I miss the age range but Fab catches that for me).
I don't worry about too hot for me because I get so few messages directly to me. I can literally count them on one hand.
It's not worth worrying about and limiting chances further |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's really insulting when people say they won't meet those they deem to be out of their league etc. So glad I haven't met any of you!"
Cracking pictures on your profile and I was gonna message you to say so but then I read your profile and thought, what's the point....you only want people to message you if they're black! So your own profile puts people off from attempting to message you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's really insulting when people say they won't meet those they deem to be out of their league etc. So glad I haven't met any of you!
Cracking pictures on your profile and I was gonna message you to say so but then I read your profile and thought, what's the point....you only want people to message you if they're black! So your own profile puts people off from attempting to message you. "
Yep. It works then! |
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We take looks as a gift given at birth. We have met with some amazing couples that we would consider "out of our league" but looks would never stop us approaching a hot couple or female in a club, personality is more important than looks. 9 times out of 10 they are just a normal person looking for the same as everyone else and as long as people contact with a good personality thats all that matters. Once the ice is broken the rest is easy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
Lmao yes! |
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As much as people say it doesn't exist......it really does.
I know for a fact that most guys who message me on fabs wouldn't give me the time of day out in the real world.
So I am a firm believer that there are people who are out of my league. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As much as people say it doesn't exist......it really does.
I know for a fact that most guys who message me on fabs wouldn't give me the time of day out in the real world.
So I am a firm believer that there are people who are out of my league."
Don’t be so sure xx |
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"As much as people say it doesn't exist......it really does.
I know for a fact that most guys who message me on fabs wouldn't give me the time of day out in the real world.
So I am a firm believer that there are people who are out of my league."
I guess the league just works to different rules. But for guys, thinking they can cut out 95% of the preamble is very appealing! |
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"As much as people say it doesn't exist......it really does.
I know for a fact that most guys who message me on fabs wouldn't give me the time of day out in the real world.
So I am a firm believer that there are people who are out of my league.
Don’t be so sure xx"
I am pretty damn sure! |
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"As much as people say it doesn't exist......it really does.
I know for a fact that most guys who message me on fabs wouldn't give me the time of day out in the real world.
So I am a firm believer that there are people who are out of my league.
Don’t be so sure xx
I am pretty damn sure!"
Without the face pics, I'd guess if I were single I wouldnt think you'd be the sort of woman I'd class as "like me" or something. But as it's a different landscape here, I'd be very interested in you at a club at a very real level. You probably wouldn't think I'm out of your league though! |
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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago
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"For those who wouldn't... how do you think the people you have met would feel, to see you say you wouldn't contact or meet anyone too hot? "
Not messaging people who you consider "too hot" doesn't mean you don't consider the people you've met hot, we've met and played with some stunning couples, some of who we'd never have messaged first some we've never spoken to on fab at all but I don't think any of them would believe there aren't people hotter out there, who'd be that arrogant? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's really insulting when people say they won't meet those they deem to be out of their league etc. So glad I haven't met any of you!
Cracking pictures on your profile and I was gonna message you to say so but then I read your profile and thought, what's the point....you only want people to message you if they're black! So your own profile puts people off from attempting to message you.
Yep. It works then! "
My point was that your post contradicts your profile. |
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"As much as people say it doesn't exist......it really does.
I know for a fact that most guys who message me on fabs wouldn't give me the time of day out in the real world.
So I am a firm believer that there are people who are out of my league.
Don’t be so sure xx
I am pretty damn sure!"
Well from what we see, I'm surprised you don't have the pic of the bunch? Would you say its more a self confidence thing? You look great from where we are standing |
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I'm already punching waaaay above my weight with rhiannon as you can see in our pics . I do have an issue with self image and confidence since I put on weight through illness. When people actually meet me they are surprised by that as I'm really chatty and love to engage with everyone but can never see people actually finding me attractive. |
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"I'm friends with some of the most beautiful ladies on this site (IMO) and I was glad to find them beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. 
Thanks "
Excuse me miss.....
You won't let me on your friends list, but you know I think you're amazing |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm friends with some of the most beautiful ladies on this site (IMO) and I was glad to find them beautiful on the inside as well as the outside.
Thanks
Excuse me miss.....
You won't let me on your friends list, but you know I think you're amazing "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel like I'm punching! But I still go for it anyway usually.
Behave you.
You're absolutely gorgeous and sexy as sexy gets. Xxx
I couldn't agree more
This man speaks sense"
Well thank you very much both of you!
I'm fine with it though, I'm a big fan of faking it til you make it |
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"I always feel like I'm punching! But I still go for it anyway usually.
Behave you.
You're absolutely gorgeous and sexy as sexy gets. Xxx
I couldn't agree more
This man speaks sense
Well thank you very much both of you!
I'm fine with it though, I'm a big fan of faking it til you make it "
I'd love to make it with you.
Just saying. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel like I'm punching on here I'm a 40 year old man with a dad bod
But you get offers though, right?! "
Sometimes but sometimes life gets in the way |
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"I always feel like I'm punching any advice? "
Yeah. Most people want equality in a relationship, they don't want the other person to feel inferior to them in any way, not if they have any regard for them anyway.
Believe in your own worth |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel like I'm punching any advice?
Yeah. Most people want equality in a relationship, they don't want the other person to feel inferior to them in any way, not if they have any regard for them anyway.
Believe in your own worth"
oh i do i do i do i do i do i do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm friends with some of the most beautiful ladies on this site (IMO) and I was glad to find them beautiful on the inside as well as the outside.
Thanks
Excuse me miss.....
You won't let me on your friends list, but you know I think you're amazing
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Fab hubby no 2 in the making |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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This weekend I have punched so far above my weight that Tyson would be scared !!!
Still waiting for someone to pinch me and tell me it was just a dream.
I ended up in an orgy with women that Easley fall into the "model" page one of the HOT list.
Got taken into a room with two men that was so hot and lush beyond belief.
Got used by a rather hot "dom" lady.
Pegged by a lady that wanted to "try it".
The rest was just a daze .
A weekend that I will rem_mber for a long time.x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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Our very first night swinging 8months ago we went to a club, had a look around , found the most attractive girl in the club chatted at the bar and then asked her to join us upstairs. It’s not punching above your weight it’s just being confident and going for what you want.
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"I always feel like I'm punching any advice?
Yeah. Most people want equality in a relationship, they don't want the other person to feel inferior to them in any way, not if they have any regard for them anyway.
Believe in your own worthoh i do i do i do i do i do i do "
Me too. It's a height thing |
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"I'm friends with some of the most beautiful ladies on this site (IMO) and I was glad to find them beautiful on the inside as well as the outside.
Thanks
Excuse me miss.....
You won't let me on your friends list, but you know I think you're amazing
Fab hubby no 2 in the making "
It's taken 5 months just to get on her friends list.
It could be a long engagement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
I rarely if ever message anyone who I believe to be out of my league. Anyone in the most dabbed never get a message from me.
I just think ‘what’s the point, they’d be sitting on an inbox already bursting, my message would have no chance of getting through.’ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So we all know there’s a lot of people on here that are way more attractive than ourselves. But would that stop you messaging someone because you thought you were punching above your weight "
Yes it stops me messaging some guys. |
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I'd not message them, purely because the last time I did,which was a long time ago now, I got ghosted...One thing that really grinds my gears is that shit, a simple " your not my type" or " sorry I'm not interested" would be fine....So now when I do send messages I always state that I'm no porn star,i ain't a size zero and I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea....Sad I know but it's out there then.x |
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