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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hello thanks for reading

am i single male and think it s a shame there are so many time wasters out ther wich makes it harder for people like me!

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By *affyapplesMan over a year ago

carmarthen

i agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

me too most of them muck u around and call you pushy but your not just trying to organise. and they want brad pitt wen they forget to look in the mirror

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

THE STICKS

It isnt especially difficult for single guys to get meets.

While us lads arent quite as in demand as say a single bi fem - we are still in demand, and a decent genuine reliable single guy can actually be something of a hot property due to our rarity.

So here's the formula.

1. have a decent profile that says something about you - make it look like you made an effort.

2. FACE PICS!

They show you're more likely to be genuine if you've got the balls to show your face.

The girls do like do have a little peep at our bits (despite the fact they say they dont) - but a gallery that is just a cock forest will get you nowhere.

3. Talk to people!

Use the chatroom. And by talk to people I dont mean "Hi I'm from Cardiff, who fancies a meet?" thats just code for "I'll fuck anyone in a 10 mile radius"and isnt going to make any girl feel like you've singled her out as having something special.

Likewise "Hi XYZ Nice Profile" is a waste of time - if you're going to try that sort of approach, instead try picking something specific from the profile that you liked and use that as a conversation starter.

Talk to everyone and by talk I mean have a laugh and a joke with folks - even other blokes - even couples that arent into single guys. If you show your an open and socialble person with a sense of humour then people will gravitate towards you.

4. Dont bother with site email.

Seriously - you wont beleive how much email some girls and couples on here get - one girl I spoke to had over a hundred within a few hours on joining the site - you just aint going to stand out.

Only bother emailing someone if you've chatted with them first.

Over to you lads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

WELL LADS I AGREE WITH TOB DO EXACTLY WHAT HE ADVISES. HE KNOWS WHAT US FEMALES LIKE. ENJOY XXXXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get verified by stand up people. Turn up wen you say you will

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

THE STICKS

Ginge - you're right that getting verified is a bit step forward, but most guys cant even get to that stage becuase they fail to follow some simple basic rules.

I think there is a perception that swingers are easy and will fuck anyone, and therefore no real effort is required - just a cock pic and a location.

If anything its the opposite - swingers are if anything MORE selective and circumspect when it comes to choosing partners.

That said, its not rocket science - come across as a decent human being - behave in exactly the same way you would if you were making friends with any ordinary non-swinger in real life and you'll do just fine.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

Tobleton, you have hit the nail on the head!!

Although I understand that single guys are swingers too, and therefore want to meet, nothing winds me up more than the "wow, nice pics, can I shag your wife?" approach lol!! The best idea is a combination of socialising and verifications.... go to the social meets, mingle, show people you are a nice, genuine, down-to-earth type of guy, with a sense of humour and a ready smile, and believe me, you not only will find it easier to get meets in the future, but people will actively seek you out !! Word of mouth is the best advert for a single guy, and if you make a good impression it will be all round the chat site in nothing flat.

Then, and this is the important bit, dont screw it up by letting people down, or being very pushy on your first, or subsequent meets. Some people will jump into bed straight away, some like to chat, have a few drinks, and get to know you a bit more, so take your time, be flirty in a light-hearted way, and above all, dont expect too much, and you will be pleasntly surprised.

We go to meets with an open mind, and with the expectation of making new friends, and nothing more. That way, if all we do is chat and have a laugh, we are not dissappointed. If we swing, its a bonus, and everyone has a good time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is so annoying the guys on here basicly giving us all a bad name.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can’t really add anything more that tob’s has said and his advice is spot on. It’s been said on many a post now and I’m sure it will keep popping up. Single guys are their own worst enemy

as sth said :quote "wow, nice pics, can I shag your wife?" errr no fuck off!!

If you want to shag someone’s wife / girlfriend put yourself in their shoes would you let someone fuck your wife girlfriend if that was said to you? I doubt it. So I digress to the start of the post if the couple / fem doesn’t show then you have to ask yourself

a) Did I piss them off and they only said they would meet to shut me up?

b) They weren’t really interested in meeting you anyway and are simple pic collectors/ time wasters

c) They truly are a waste of space and I wont bother anymore with them besides its their loss

As for being verified I have seen people verify just because they cam in the room, okay it’s a positive step forward to show that a lady is present. But it doesn’t prove they meet. I would rather put my time and effort into meeting someone who I know has 3-4 + meet verification to someone who as 20 cam verifications. But as sth said try to make friends it works both ways when it comes to meeting you might hate them and want to not play. It’s a mutual thing go in with the mind set of having a drink and laugh and if nothing happens there’s always next time.

Go in with the I want to fuck your wife and nothing will happen apart from pissing them off, if the lady feels under pressure then it isn’t happening and she will tell hubby then you have no chance ever again. Be polite make friends with both of them in the chat rooms and meets will happen. just don’t expect it to happen over night it takes weeks or even months to build a rapport with people but the onus is on the single guy as we know there’s plenty to choose from its you who has to do the hard work to stand out. When you actually sit back and look at how many genuine single guys are on the site you’ll be surprised at how little there are.

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