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Single men...... Yes again
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I personally feel very sorry for the genuine nice non pushy and real swinging single man on here.
Contending with other guys who are the creepiest, most stalking, personality defected little horror bags, the man hating women must be an absolute nightmare   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The old saying tarred with the same brush comes to mind unfortunatly.
Ive been on here a long long time as a single male and guys quite rightly sometimes get a bad press on here but we arent all the same.
The minority spoil it for the majority on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are a lot of decent, guys in here but unfortunately we kind of get lost in the sea of creepy or rude guys.
Not much we can do apart from hoping we stand out and keeping a positive outlook |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nice to see a thread praising the decent guys for a change. we don't actively seek guys to meet but we do play with them when the mood takes and we've met some really great guys but unfortunately as has been said above there are plenty of ignorant, disrespectful men that spoil it for the majority |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nice to see a thread praising the decent guys for a change. we don't actively seek guys to meet but we do play with them when the mood takes and we've met some really great guys but unfortunately as has been said above there are plenty of ignorant, disrespectful men that spoil it for the majority"
Very well said
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
The large amount of pushy, rude, creepy or just plain weird single men on fab doesn't concern me at all to be honest.
People who are genuine, and have some common sense and intelligence can separate the chaff from the wheat, I think.
Just makes it easier for us genuine guys who put some effort in stand out more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The large amount of pushy, rude, creepy or just plain weird single men on fab doesn't concern me at all to be honest.
People who are genuine, and have some common sense and intelligence can separate the chaff from the wheat, I think.
Just makes it easier for us genuine guys who put some effort in stand out more "
This.. the block list just gets longer so the decent ones get messaged
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When we've allowed single guys to message us, 90% have come out with some weird, pointless or abusive messages and gotten themselves blocked. Interestingly, 90% of the single guys we've chatted with in clubs have been fantastic!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've came across some lovely single guy's but also some horrible one's that don't take rejection and then become abusive towards me. So I tend to play with the couple of single men that I've already met with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've came across some lovely single guy's but also some horrible one's that don't take rejection and then become abusive towards me. So I tend to play with the couple of single men that I've already met with x"
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"The large amount of pushy, rude, creepy or just plain weird single men on fab doesn't concern me at all to be honest.
People who are genuine, and have some common sense and intelligence can separate the chaff from the wheat, I thin first it's a bit frustrating as a newbie
Just makes it easier for us genuine guys who put some effort in stand out more "
Absolutely... At first I must admit it was a bit frustrating been a newbie but if you're genuine and have a bit of patience and don't be a knobhead and pushy fabbers do start to chat and eventually do getting meets. So yes, all the idiots crack on as you are and leave us genuine ones to enjoy the fun that's on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people just took time to read veris to see who the genuine ones are"
Totally disagree with that one.
The majority of people who don’t show up at socials I’ve organised are verified  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If people just took time to read veris to see who the genuine ones are
Other peoples' opinions don't mean anything to me so I never read veris"
I completely agree with that, other peoples opinions are exactly that - other peoples lol
You have to find out for yourself. The pushy ones do reveal themselves very early on though which helps you find the good guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most women go on looks here insisting on face pics ( which is fine ) but won't return one Makes you wonder if vanity is more important than things like personality, reliability etc "
I like to see a face pic because there's nothing worse than talking to a black silhouette, but I'm by no means looking for Brad Pitt. That said though there has to be an attraction, but that works both ways, unless of course you're in the any holes a goal camp. We're by no means everyone's cup of tea X |
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"I've came across some lovely single guy's but also some horrible one's that don't take rejection and then become abusive towards me. So I tend to play with the couple of single men that I've already met with x"
Out of interest, do single girls get more abuse from creeps than couples?
Probably impossible to say, but gut feeling says they probably do.
Must easier for a creep to throw abuse at a single girl than a strapping husband. |
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I’ve kind of given up messaging anyone on this site as no one really replies on me,but that maybe down to my profile page and that’s life lol., I’m never rude and certainly not pushy and as for the no face pic no reply policy not for me.
Social is the way to go in my mind nothing better than a good chin wag and getting to know someone face to face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The answer is yes! A hell of a lot more. I've been on here as part of a couple too. Men where less abusive to me when I was attatched xx"
I'd agree, I meet alone very occasionally but no longer have a single profile because it's relentless, I can control things better from a couple profile X |
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well i have given up trying to find meets on here now i go to socials and often chat if anybody is willing to chat i am friendly and always willing to help if i can but i still never seam to get meets so i just go in chat rooms and to clubs now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some decent single guys out there and we’ve met a few good ones, however, and as a few have commented, there’s always one bad apple that spoils it as he cannot accept rejection.
If respectful, polite, well dressed, non pushy and well mannered we are more than happy to chat to them with a view to seeing where it leads in time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will confess I was a complete arsehole and my attitude stunk before I took a much needed break from here, there were reasons that I'm not going into, but I was never disrespectful to any woman here.
In fact I think it makes it easier for women to out potential meets. If you got to the socials the same names keep popping up. |
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
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"When we've allowed single guys to message us, 90% have come out with some weird, pointless or abusive messages and gotten themselves blocked. Interestingly, 90% of the single guys we've chatted with in clubs have been fantastic! "
Fully agree with you there. We have met some lovely single guys at clubs who we now count as friends. At Town House they have been especialy charming, pleasant and very good fun. Some on here some have come accross as not quite the sharpest knives on the drawer. |
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"I personally feel very sorry for the genuine nice non pushy and real swinging single man on here.
Contending with other guys who are the creepiest, most stalking, personality defected little horror bags, the man hating women must be an absolute nightmare "
Hence my name Mr N1ceguy xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most women go on looks here insisting on face pics ( which is fine ) but won't return one Makes you wonder if vanity is more important than things like personality, reliability etc "
Looks and body type/height are my top priority on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've came across some lovely single guy's but also some horrible one's that don't take rejection and then become abusive towards me. So I tend to play with the couple of single men that I've already met with x
Out of interest, do single girls get more abuse from creeps than couples?
Probably impossible to say, but gut feeling says they probably do.
Must easier for a creep to throw abuse at a single girl than a strapping husband."
When i get abused i abuse back...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m constantly amazed that some guys give out abuse when rejected on here, what the hell do they think it’s going to achieve?
I’ve been turned down countless times, and I’ve always accepted that I’m not what they’re looking for. I’ve never felt the need to abuse or pester them about it! |
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In all honesty when we have been looking for a single fella we haven't had abuse for saying thanks but no thanks.
We have found it easier to do the looking rather than wait for all the usual 'hi how you finding it' type of messages.
Also in clubs we'll approach a single if he takes the wifes fancy to see if we click.
As for the big socials they aren't our thing and we seem to find what were looking for either here or clubs.
It's nice to see a thread where the single male isn't getting ripped apart, well done all |
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"When we've allowed single guys to message us, 90% have come out with some weird, pointless or abusive messages and gotten themselves blocked. Interestingly, 90% of the single guys we've chatted with in clubs have been fantastic!
Fully agree with you there. We have met some lovely single guys at clubs who we now count as friends. At Town House they have been especialy charming, pleasant and very good fun. Some on here some have come accross as not quite the sharpest knives on the drawer."
I do have to say that the Townhouse do have a good policy on single males
They take the time to induct them in to how the club works, and what is expected of them; idiots are soon ed out 
Sadly, respect is a trait that many people seem to be lacking in nowadays 
I do wonder how these scandal revelations from Hollywood and politics are going to affect everyday situations
Maybe, just maybe, the message will filter down
But then I'm a glass half full sort of person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single guy you hardly get a reply from women or I suppose they are so bombarded with messages they just move on to the next? Right or am I right?!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single guy you hardly get a reply from women or I suppose they are so bombarded with messages they just move on to the next? Right or am I right?!!!"
I get a reply from maybe every 5 messages I send, but that’s just the way any site like this is as single women and couples get hundreds of messages a day.
I’m actually happy when I get a response, even if it’s a no thanks, But if you don’t get a reply it’s nothing to get angry or abusive about.
I’d be even happier if I had a response from the OP  |
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It's not easy having a single guy profile on here!
I've never been pushy or rude!
I don't send many messages anymore. if people like what that see they message me or wink then I'll get back to them.
Im Part of a couple profile on here and have been to loads of socials as a single and couple, met loads of lovely people and had some great times.
It's amazing the amount of people that won't even reply to a single guy!
Not even a no thank you, then we've had the same people message us on our couple profile being very pushy!
it not just the guys that can be a pain
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Popping my head back in after a while away really reminds me how unpleasant it can be, being a single guy on here!
I imagine there's a lot of guys who just stick to perving - it's a jungle out there...
With that being said, if you're a single guy on here not having much luck, don't lose heart. Try not to act like a cock (except in situations where one is required, if/when that comes up), and you'll find some lovely genuine people to have awesome times with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not easy having a single guy profile on here!
I've never been pushy or rude!
I don't send many messages anymore. if people like what that see they message me or wink then I'll get back to them.
Im Part of a couple profile on here and have been to loads of socials as a single and couple, met loads of lovely people and had some great times.
It's amazing the amount of people that won't even reply to a single guy!
Not even a no thank you, then we've had the same people message us on our couple profile being very pushy!
it not just the guys that can be a pain
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As the Fab rules state a no reply is a not interested, the fact that you feel an entitlement to a response would put some people off, it would us X |
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"It's not easy having a single guy profile on here!
I've never been pushy or rude!
I don't send many messages anymore. if people like what that see they message me or wink then I'll get back to them.
Im Part of a couple profile on here and have been to loads of socials as a single and couple, met loads of lovely people and had some great times.
It's amazing the amount of people that won't even reply to a single guy!
Not even a no thank you, then we've had the same people message us on our couple profile being very pushy!
it not just the guys that can be a pain
As the Fab rules state a no reply is a not interested, the fact that you feel an entitlement to a response would put some people off, it would us X"
I can understand what your saying.
On our couple profile we reply to everyone who took the time to message even if it was a no thank you.
Apart from the ones that start of with do you fancy a fuk and are disrespectful that was an instant block.
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I'm happy, I've had some wonderful conversations and fun meets.
I don't send many messages, if someone does catch my eye, I'll either wink, or message with something relating to our similar interests.
If the message is read and deleted, then that is enough to know they aren't keen. Personality is important and hopefully the message conveys that.
Consent is everything. A no is that.
Simple.
If personalities click great, we are after all, here to spread love in the world and share happiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with most of the post you need to be very young and or really good looking to ,seems in most women,s eyes you have to be nice bloke or is that a sad thing to say "
Totally disagree, wouldn't say many of the men I've met have been lookers & they certainly haven't all been very young. It's the person & how they interact that matters, although sharing a similar, respectful outlook on swinging goes a long, long way & that's where most guys fall down. This is only my experience & by no means am I speaking for anyone else X |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I agree with most of the post you need to be very young and or really good looking to ,seems in most women,s eyes you have to be nice bloke or is that a sad thing to say "
I disagree with this. Most people on fab are not top model / porn star material and probably come across as average (myself definitely included!). Personality and how you engage with other people on here often contribute more to your chances of success than just a six pack, muscular arms and rugby thighs (though i'm sure this helps too ). |
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"I agree with most of the post you need to be very young and or really good looking to ,seems in most women,s eyes you have to be nice bloke or is that a sad thing to say
Totally disagree, wouldn't say many of the men I've met have been lookers & they certainly haven't all been very young. It's the person & how they interact that matters, although sharing a similar, respectful outlook on swinging goes a long, long way & that's where most guys fall down. This is only my experience & by no means am I speaking for anyone else X"
I agree with this perspective. I've found that a textbook perfect body all too often goes with a truly terrible personality. |
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What a cool thread.
It's good to know there are folk out there who are prepared to sort the wheat from the chaff.
It's all about time, effort, respect and courtesy for me.
I'm prepared to make all of that and have found it sorts the same from a mans perspective too.
If a woman/couple wamt to be rude and/or aloof just because I'm a single male on here; do I really want to see thinfs go further with them? No!
Patience is a virtue, as they say... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice to see a thread praising the decent guys for a change. we don't actively seek guys to meet but we do play with them when the mood takes and we've met some really great guys but unfortunately as has been said above there are plenty of ignorant, disrespectful men that spoil it for the majority"
That's where Veris are important...if you can show a couple of veris which back up the fact that you're genuine, nice, friendly and know what you're doing, then it should be easier for people who are thinking they might like to meet you.
My veris are there to be viewed if asked for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nice to see a thread praising the decent guys for a change. we don't actively seek guys to meet but we do play with them when the mood takes and we've met some really great guys but unfortunately as has been said above there are plenty of ignorant, disrespectful men that spoil it for the majority
That's where Veris are important...if you can show a couple of veris which back up the fact that you're genuine, nice, friendly and know what you're doing, then it should be easier for people who are thinking they might like to meet you.
My veris are there to be viewed if asked for."
I am going to have to disagree there
I never rely on the opinions of strangers
I met a verified man before who thought it was ok to lock the door and refuse to let me leave
Of course according to his veris he was great
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"Nice to see a thread praising the decent guys for a change. we don't actively seek guys to meet but we do play with them when the mood takes and we've met some really great guys but unfortunately as has been said above there are plenty of ignorant, disrespectful men that spoil it for the majority
That's where Veris are important...if you can show a couple of veris which back up the fact that you're genuine, nice, friendly and know what you're doing, then it should be easier for people who are thinking they might like to meet you.
My veris are there to be viewed if asked for.
I am going to have to disagree there
I never rely on the opinions of strangers
I met a verified man before who thought it was ok to lock the door and refuse to let me leave
Of course according to his veris he was great
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100% agree with this, a veri only shows that the person/people are real.
If you received a veri after a meet saying you was disgusting and your house was a dirty dump would you show it alongside all the veris that said you was a good meet.
We personally go by gut instinct. |
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"I personally feel very sorry for the genuine nice non pushy and real swinging single man on here.
Contending with other guys who are the creepiest, most stalking, personality defected little horror bags, the man hating women must be an absolute nightmare "
Yep!!! |
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"I personally feel very sorry for the genuine nice non pushy and real swinging single man on here.
Contending with other guys who are the creepiest, most stalking, personality defected little horror bags, the man hating women must be an absolute nightmare
Yep!!! "
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"I personally feel very sorry for the genuine nice non pushy and real swinging single man on here.
Contending with other guys who are the creepiest, most stalking, personality defected little horror bags, the man hating women must be an absolute nightmare
Yep!!!
Truth "
It's even a nightmare trying to keep friends as well due to the amount of mail bombarded to them by other males. I think it would a great idea to have a friends message system so that your nail doesn't get deleted with all the others.x |
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I think all new single males should be made to read this to gain an understanding of what goes on that they don’t see, then they’ll see it’s not that they’re being given a hard time but that the poor buggers are paying the prices of the so many idiots that were before them! I have come across lots and lots of great single men who I class as friends from here. All hail the genuine reliable single males |
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"I think all new single males should be made to read this to gain an understanding of what goes on that they don’t see, then they’ll see it’s not that they’re being given a hard time but that the poor buggers are paying the prices of the so many idiots that were before them! I have come across lots and lots of great single men who I class as friends from here. All hail the genuine reliable single males "
They can't even read profiles, let alone forum threads or the FAQ's  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice to see a thread praising the decent guys for a change. we don't actively seek guys to meet but we do play with them when the mood takes and we've met some really great guys but unfortunately as has been said above there are plenty of ignorant, disrespectful men that spoil it for the majority
That's where Veris are important...if you can show a couple of veris which back up the fact that you're genuine, nice, friendly and know what you're doing, then it should be easier for people who are thinking they might like to meet you.
My veris are there to be viewed if asked for.
I am going to have to disagree there
I never rely on the opinions of strangers
I met a verified man before who thought it was ok to lock the door and refuse to let me leave
Of course according to his veris he was great
100% agree with this, a veri only shows that the person/people are real.
If you received a veri after a meet saying you was disgusting and your house was a dirty dump would you show it alongside all the veris that said you was a good meet.
We personally go by gut instinct. "
Also what does it for one person could be a massive turn off for the next
So veris hold very little worth really other than to prove the person exists.
Some of my best meets lately have been with unverified men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally feel very sorry for the genuine nice non pushy and real swinging single man on here.
Contending with other guys who are the creepiest, most stalking, personality defected little horror bags, the man hating women must be an absolute nightmare "
Who knows, i'm new to here and recently single so i've no bloody idea which id the above i am yet but hopeflly some of you hoprfully delightful ladies and lesser lady likes (lol) will help me to discover  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah I totally agree, find it so hard to get a reply off women/couples let alone a meet! Any tips lads feel free to pass them on lol "
I find sending lots of cock pics and dirty messages works loads
Snigger snigger, no idea myself pal but replying as being one who never gets a reply i'm feeling empathetic. good luck in your quest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your a nice genuine guy then I think it not a problem , yes there is always that minority that are totally the opposite and on this site just to look and mess people about but we cannot let them spoil it for us genuine guys |
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By *kybox2Man
over a year ago
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I can't get over the amount of single men that just abuse, it's spoilt it for me tbh, I'm in the position of work where I can't just send my photo silly nilly because of these arseholes I get tared with the same brush but I've had some great chats on here |
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We have met young and older guys tbh even the younger guys r a bit wild and fun the older guys r more respectfull and experienced, but we have met some great guys of all ages its just a few that ruin it for the good guys, there musy be a way to mame and shame them or a section for guys with good verifications xx |
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By *ill2k82Man
over a year ago
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I agree with everything you have said, and I thank you for this, I have met some really nice and genuine single ladies and couples, but others I try to speak to either instantly block or ignore the message. I feel for the ladies who have to deal with some of the twisted men on here. I'm never pushy and I always clearly show I have read the profile. I always offer a social first and prefer to talk on here before numbers are exchanged. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yup, being a single guy on here sucks..I rarely send any messages now as its totally pointless..
I know a few locals I talk to and thats about it, have met one person from here but didn't get a veri, which doesnt help.
maybe one day all the idiots shall move onto something else. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"yup, being a single guy on here sucks..I rarely send any messages now as its totally pointless..
I know a few locals I talk to and thats about it, have met one person from here but didn't get a veri, which doesnt help.
maybe one day all the idiots shall move onto something else."
I don't agree. I believe you get out of fab what you put into it. If you make a sincere effort with your profile and your approach and messaging, you can obtain better results. Just need to persevere. |
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Had a few meets through fab been here a couple of years on and off. It is hard to get a meet a proving your genuine plus getting noticed. I find it harder lately seem to have to message a good few just to even get one reply sometimes. I know I'm not everyone's cup of tee so to speak but a reply could be polite. I suppose the fcuk tard male pricks who do spoil it for us genuine ones made it like that. as I'd ignore majority messages if I was a single fem with a inbox of couple thousand mails haha. Plus a lot of fake couple profiles here lately think it's creepy old pervs behind most of these Any way I'm going to stop radiating on as it could go on forever. But yes it's hard but with a little effort and time good th I vs come to those who wait I say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yup, being a single guy on here sucks..I rarely send any messages now as its totally pointless..
I know a few locals I talk to and thats about it, have met one person from here but didn't get a veri, which doesnt help.
maybe one day all the idiots shall move onto something else.
I don't agree. I believe you get out of fab what you put into it. If you make a sincere effort with your profile and your approach and messaging, you can obtain better results. Just need to persevere."
Very much this
If you're doing shit on Fab, it's probably your own fault. No good blaming other men for spoiling it for you. That's a load of crap |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"yup, being a single guy on here sucks..I rarely send any messages now as its totally pointless..
I know a few locals I talk to and thats about it, have met one person from here but didn't get a veri, which doesnt help.
maybe one day all the idiots shall move onto something else.
I don't agree. I believe you get out of fab what you put into it. If you make a sincere effort with your profile and your approach and messaging, you can obtain better results. Just need to persevere.
Very much this
If you're doing shit on Fab, it's probably your own fault. No good blaming other men for spoiling it for you. That's a load of crap "
That's just it. I'm not concerned on how many disrespectful, pushy, or creepy guys there are on fab. It makes the good profiles stand out even more, improving their chances. This is what men on fab have to realize instead of moaning and complaining all the time. |
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"yup, being a single guy on here sucks..I rarely send any messages now as its totally pointless..
I know a few locals I talk to and thats about it, have met one person from here but didn't get a veri, which doesnt help.
Or blowing their own trumpets.
Have a nice weekend everyone
maybe one day all the idiots shall move onto something else.
I don't agree. I believe you get out of fab what you put into it. If you make a sincere effort with your profile and your approach and messaging, you can obtain better results. Just need to persevere.
Very much this
If you're doing shit on Fab, it's probably your own fault. No good blaming other men for spoiling it for you. That's a load of crap
That's just it. I'm not concerned on how many disrespectful, pushy, or creepy guys there are on fab. It makes the good profiles stand out even more, improving their chances. This is what men on fab have to realize instead of moaning and complaining all the time."
Or blowing their own trumpets,have a nice weekend everyone |
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over a year ago
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"yup, being a single guy on here sucks..I rarely send any messages now as its totally pointless..
I know a few locals I talk to and thats about it, have met one person from here but didn't get a veri, which doesnt help.
Or blowing their own trumpets.
Have a nice weekend everyone
maybe one day all the idiots shall move onto something else.
I don't agree. I believe you get out of fab what you put into it. If you make a sincere effort with your profile and your approach and messaging, you can obtain better results. Just need to persevere.
Very much this
If you're doing shit on Fab, it's probably your own fault. No good blaming other men for spoiling it for you. That's a load of crap
That's just it. I'm not concerned on how many disrespectful, pushy, or creepy guys there are on fab. It makes the good profiles stand out even more, improving their chances. This is what men on fab have to realize instead of moaning and complaining all the time.
Or blowing their own trumpets,have a nice weekend everyone "
Nothing wrong with a guy blowing his own trumpet as long as he can live up to his own hype. Confidence is hot, self pity is not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being single I will agree there are idiots on here that ruin the website for everyone! I’m genuine discreet and would love to make friends and have lots of fun but some single men do ruin it for the best of us |
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"Being single I will agree there are idiots on here that ruin the website for everyone! I’m genuine discreet and would love to make friends and have lots of fun but some single men do ruin it for the best of us"
How does someone elses behaviour ruin the site for you?? |
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over a year ago
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"I’m constantly amazed that some guys give out abuse when rejected on here, what the hell do they think it’s going to achieve?
I’ve been turned down countless times, and I’ve always accepted that I’m not what they’re looking for. I’ve never felt the need to abuse or pester them about it!
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I totally agree with you there. I would love to attend social meets but being a dad and trying to keep my income more than my outgoings means working two jobs.
Even worse when you haven't got a veri. Despite meeting a couple grr |
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By *ill2k82Man
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
It's bad when some guys on here abuse those who don't respond or won't meet after like 2 messages, it ruins it because the person they abuse gets put off and will either refuse to meet single guys or just leave the site. I've been shown what some guys say to women who don't meet straight away, and it's shocking tbh. I've tried and tried to get meets and it is hard but I don't give up. Those who have met me know I'm honest and caring and take care of my meets and offer friendship along the way also. The person who wrote this I thank you |
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"I’m constantly amazed that some guys give out abuse when rejected on here, what the hell do they think it’s going to achieve?
I’ve been turned down countless times, and I’ve always accepted that I’m not what they’re looking for. I’ve never felt the need to abuse or pester them about it!
I totally agree with you there. I would love to attend social meets but being a dad and trying to keep my income more than my outgoings means working two jobs.
Even worse when you haven't got a veri. Despite meeting a couple grr"
You don't need a veri for all the socials & there are so many now one should for in Somerwhere. How would you find time to meet anyway? |
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We are focusing more on finding a couple to play with at the moment but I have spoken to a fair few single guys on here. I try to reply to pretty much all of them, I will make it clear we are looking to plan a meet immediately and the responses vary wildly. There are a few I will be in touch with if things change but also a few I have blocked and honestly, I hate blocking people but I’m learning it’s a necessary skill here!
In terms of pictures, as said before I like to know there is an attraction but there is no one box fits all and most of what I find attractive comes through conversation... keep it up all you decent guys |
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"The large amount of pushy, rude, creepy or just plain weird single men on fab doesn't concern me at all to be honest.
People who are genuine, and have some common sense and intelligence can separate the chaff from the wheat, I think.
Just makes it easier for us genuine guys who put some effort in stand out more "
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Male half here, talking to all u guys out there that say the bad guys r ruining it for u, no ,they r ruining it for them selves, i listen and read to my mrs and all the other cpls and the lovely ladies on this site,
U have to get your self noticed, stand out above the rest face pics when asked not cock pics be nice and polite u practacly have to sell your self and weman talk, if u have made an impresion on some lovely woman u will get a fab verification, and then u will get noticed thats how we find ours, x |
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By *inataur1Man
over a year ago
Rhondda/Bristol |
"Male half here, talking to all u guys out there that say the bad guys r ruining it for u, no ,they r ruining it for them selves, i listen and read to my mrs and all the other cpls and the lovely ladies on this site,
U have to get your self noticed, stand out above the rest face pics when asked not cock pics be nice and polite u practacly have to sell your self and weman talk, if u have made an impresion on some lovely woman u will get a fab verification, and then u will get noticed thats how we find ours, x"
Couldn't agree more, you have to play the long game. It takes time to build up trust and for others on here to acknowledge you.
The guys who just come on, try their luck, complain and become abusive, don't tend to last long.
Unfortunately they then come back with another profile. |
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By *hick43Woman
over a year ago
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"Male half here, talking to all u guys out there that say the bad guys r ruining it for u, no ,they r ruining it for them selves, i listen and read to my mrs and all the other cpls and the lovely ladies on this site,
U have to get your self noticed, stand out above the rest face pics when asked not cock pics be nice and polite u practacly have to sell your self and weman talk, if u have made an impresion on some lovely woman u will get a fab verification, and then u will get noticed thats how we find ours, x
Couldn't agree more, you have to play the long game. It takes time to build up trust and for others on here to acknowledge you.
The guys who just come on, try their luck, complain and become abusive, don't tend to last long.
Unfortunately they then come back with another profile. "
I agree.... ones no social veris awrful abusive x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The old saying tarred with the same brush comes to mind unfortunatly.
Ive been on here a long long time as a single male and guys quite rightly sometimes get a bad press on here but we arent all the same.
The minority spoil it for the majority on here. "
for every 200 messages we get from single men .we would say about one of them had read the profile thats not good at all. been off and on this site for about 7 years .if it does not change the only single men finding fun will be wife other men .couples and singles will just block single men or leave.you will still find the dreams but not the swingers on line.
PS BEEN SWINGING OVER 15 YEARS and not dreamers at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think people take online to heart.
Most of the "good" men and women and couples and everything else out there will probably have a life / interests and fwb or partners off of fab ... therefore fab is a bonus or something they engage with when they feel like it...
This isn't going to change though the users might .. so guys playing the numbers or the long game .... Sorry your most likley wasting your time.
If you are able to get to a social ... that might help it might not..
Just because you turn up at the same venue and are users of the same site .. it garentees nothing..
So either suck it up..
Or change your situation
Simple. |
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