My odds are better

Woman in Ipswich, East Midlands, UK

... "I don't think you need to ask about the chair.". yesterday

Joined: 10 months ago
Last on: 5 minutes ago

I will try to make this short, but as I am actively looking again it won't be.

1.After 15 years on here I've learnt what best suits me and what my expectations involve, when selecting a suitable fuck buddy. And yes it's a fuck buddy. While I can communicate efficiently and be friendly, I don't genuinely want to develop past this stage into FWB. Although I feel some may confuse the 2, judging by statuses and verifications on here. My private life is my own which I am very content in. I have no desire to interrupt that or involve myself in other's lives. (1.1) I do however like to be abit more involved in general communication, rather than sex talk.

2.My expectations, when looking for potential playmates, may seem excessive but again, after 15 years I would rather have these expectations over making horrible choices. I have done my time racking up numbers and having extreme experiences. They no longer appeal to me. (2.1)I am at a place where achievement for me is fucking someone that not everyone else can. I don't believe in quality over quantity, I do however believe in standards over popularity .(2.2) I don't seek to be wanted by everyone, I prefer to be respected by a mere few.

3.Actions and behaviour appeal to me more than looks and body type. Although looks, in a general sense should play a deciding factor( atleast it should!),I have a varied taste, but again how you behave and come across on here is what I look at. My only more important physical trait I seek is gents 6ft and under. While not a dead set deal-breaker,it's pretty much set in stone that I won't meet anyone over 6ft tall. (3.1)Forum posts, statuses, etc is what I watch, plus frequency of online activity. I also look at verifications and how frequent and different they are.(3.2)While i'd never judge other people's choices they play a part in looking at our compatibility.

4.(4.1)I've learnt the difference between capturing someone's attention and being in line for standard replies. (4.2)These will bore me and I will just stop communication. (4.3)As I am not big on communication myself, I expect the initial talking stage to be capturing and consistent. My attention is limited. Because of this, I will not reply to most messages, especially those who only communicate on the day they are looking to meet. While spontaneous is fun, it is only fun with people who I already have some sort of situation with.And even then it would be unlikely depending on approach.(4.4) Effort= reward.

5.Some may say my expectations are very high considering the nature of the site ( and they do tell me this every 3-6 months when they circle back round).(5.1) My standards are set high to ensure I make choices that I wouldn't regret.(5.2) My self confidence and my own self worth is enough to not warrant validation through pointless sex. (5.3)For me I can't rationlize the need for sex that risks not only my physical well-being, but also my mental.

40 years old, Bisexual

5'4" 163cm
Curvy
Smoker
Social drinker
Some tattoos
1 or 2 piercings