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Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought.. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
It has never bothered me if a man can't accommodate because I will never go to a guys place anyhow for a first time meet when for a sex meet after I've meet them for a social first.
I did once go to a guys place for a coffee for a first meet and that taught me to never do it again .
Personally I can accommodate I choose not to unless I know someone well. When I see it on a guys profile that he won't accommodate my first thought is he is also not wanting to give his address out to people he doesn't know well.Which I think is fair enough. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
There are so many horror stories about information regarding long-term former partners and short-term 'flings' being misused, published online or abused for coercion, that any personal details now need to be regarded as golddust
When one's trust is abused a tough lesson is learned
After a few adverse and costly experiences I have a policy of never inviting anyone to my home and also never disclosing my phone number to anyone.
Probationary periods are also extremely lengthy! |
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over a year ago
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought.."
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why .. |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why .."
It's nobody's business why |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why .."
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why. |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why .."
I don't expect anyone to have to explain why they won't bring a stranger into their home for sex  |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why."
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ? |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ? "
Suspicious of what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
I don't expect anyone to have to explain why they won't bring a stranger into their home for sex "
That's not what was asked by the OP...if you feel you don't have to ..don't..Your profile..your page ...put whatever you want on it ..but if " can't accommodate " is on a person's profile ilit dues make people on here raise an eyebrow , they think a person has other reasons why he or she can't accommodate , it's each to their own of course but how people have you been Suspicious of or asked yourself the question why can't they accommodate ? Maybe none..but not everyone looks at it the same way ...btw..is that an angry emojie ,???  |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ?
Suspicious of what? "
Why they can't accommodate  ...there could be hundreds of reasons why...read the OP's question... |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ?
Suspicious of what?
Why they can't accommodate ...there could be hundreds of reasons why...read the OP's question..."
I don't need to read it. I still don't get why it's anyone's business regardless?
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ? "
I don't accommodate and I have no intention of explaining why on my profile either. Is it difficult to explain,no.But I don't and won't ever feel the need to explain to random people who look at my profile why I don't accommodate nor would I expect anyone else to either. If I want to know I would ask someone just like someone can ask me.
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Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ?
I don't accommodate and I have no intention of explaining why on my profile either. Is it difficult to explain,no.But I don't and won't ever feel the need to explain to random people who look at my profile why I don't accommodate nor would I expect anyone else to either. If I want to know I would ask someone just like someone can ask me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
I don't expect anyone to have to explain why they won't bring a stranger into their home for sex
That's not what was asked by the OP...if you feel you don't have to ..don't..Your profile..your page ...put whatever you want on it ..but if " can't accommodate " is on a person's profile ilit dues make people on here raise an eyebrow , they think a person has other reasons why he or she can't accommodate , it's each to their own of course but how people have you been Suspicious of or asked yourself the question why can't they accommodate ? Maybe none..but not everyone looks at it the same way ...btw..is that an angry emojie ,??? "
No it's not |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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I can't invite people to mine because I'm out of space under my patio 
Well that and a hotel is a much nicer experience...no cleaning up beforehand or afterwards ....big fancy shower ....coffee machine and dinner
Ain't doing that in my gaff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ?
Suspicious of what?
Why they can't accommodate ...there could be hundreds of reasons why...read the OP's question...
I don't need to read it. I still don't get why it's anyone's business regardless?
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It's not , never said it was a person's business regardless but a reason does help, either on a person's profile or in chatting , either way it's nice to know why ..for both ..but anyway lm not gonna get into it any more but personally if l was lucky to get chatting to a person l would let them know regardless , to me it's called respect and l won't remain a mystery or anything like that to a person in that situation..it's each to their own and that's my tuppence worth..tell a person if you want and don't tell them if you don't want to ... whatever floats your boat... but l would have way more respect for a person that would say why. |
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"Just putting it out there..I am a single guy but can't accommodate, no iam not cheating, separate a year now and in the process of building my own place, this is after doing up the x home place years ago, I see profiles saying if can't accommodate don't contact but won't accommodate in there home or do people see if a single guy not able to accommodate off putting..jus a thought..
Can be the biggest deterrent ok ...can't accommodate...BUT if people can't it should be said on their profile why ..
Why should anyone have to explain though. It's their home they don't need to explain why.
Of course it's their home but if " can't accommodate " is on their details without anything else people are gonna be suspicious...if a person can't accommodate they should just say they don't accommodate cause it's their home..not too difficult to put on a profile is it ?
Suspicious of what?
Why they can't accommodate ...there could be hundreds of reasons why...read the OP's question...
I don't need to read it. I still don't get why it's anyone's business regardless?
It's not , never said it was a person's business regardless but a reason does help, either on a person's profile or in chatting , either way it's nice to know why ..for both ..but anyway lm not gonna get into it any more but personally if l was lucky to get chatting to a person l would let them know regardless , to me it's called respect and l won't remain a mystery or anything like that to a person in that situation..it's each to their own and that's my tuppence worth..tell a person if you want and don't tell them if you don't want to ... whatever floats your boat... but l would have way more respect for a person that would say why. "
I've spoken to a couple of women over the years who insisted that they only met in their own homes without a social.
That's their choice but I have more respect for a woman who wasn't prepared to allow me as a complete stranger into her home. |
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The OP's question is clear. People that do not accommodate, but insist on others accommodating them. That is what I read into his question. If you cannot accommodate, why do you insist on people that cannot accommodate not to contact you, sometimes with hotels, bushes, cars ruled out? The same reasons you cannot accommodate might be exactly the reasons they don't!  |
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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago
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We can’t accommodate for family reasons and we can’t afford to pay for hotels, on top of babysitter costs, for every meet. Couples of a similar age are likely to be in a similar position wrt family and there are less compatible couples, so we reserve our expensive hotel meets for those encounters, while with single men we can be more rigid in engaging only with those who can accommodate as a higher proportion of a higher number CAN accommodate. Don’t take peoples’ preferences as a personal slight OP. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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You can never please them all op:
Some will jump to conclusions and avoid you if you don't accommodate, others will strictly only meet people who can accommodate out of financial reasons etc.
Nothing you can do about... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you'd want to be bat shit crazy to bring a stranger to your home. I wouldn't tell my own mother where I live.  "
I hear you, I expect my children not to call without prior appointment |
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"I can't invite people to mine because I'm out of space under my patio
Well that and a hotel is a much nicer experience...no cleaning up beforehand or afterwards ....big fancy shower ....coffee machine and dinner
Ain't doing that in my gaff "
Under the patio is full already?! Where are you gonna bury the next bodies? |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"I can't invite people to mine because I'm out of space under my patio
Well that and a hotel is a much nicer experience...no cleaning up beforehand or afterwards ....big fancy shower ....coffee machine and dinner
Ain't doing that in my gaff
Under the patio is full already?! Where are you gonna bury the next bodies? "
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"I can't invite people to mine because I'm out of space under my patio
Well that and a hotel is a much nicer experience...no cleaning up beforehand or afterwards ....big fancy shower ....coffee machine and dinner
Ain't doing that in my gaff
Under the patio is full already?! Where are you gonna bury the next bodies?
I'm looking for a pig farm "
Lucrative business to hide your fetishes and kinks |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Single guy here also, live with a relative and don’t want him knowing my business so I don’t offer to host. Hotel is the ideal venue imo"
Yet your profile states you can.....bit strange that one |
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"Single guy here also, live with a relative and don’t want him knowing my business so I don’t offer to host. Hotel is the ideal venue imo
Yet your profile states you can.....bit strange that one "
Miss Marple is on the ball today |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Single guy here also, live with a relative and don’t want him knowing my business so I don’t offer to host. Hotel is the ideal venue imo
Yet your profile states you can.....bit strange that one
Miss Marple is on the ball today "
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"Single guy here also, live with a relative and don’t want him knowing my business so I don’t offer to host. Hotel is the ideal venue imo
Yet your profile states you can.....bit strange that one "
"Can accommodate" may simply mean he can accommodate elsewhere. There is no definition that states it has to be the person's private, primary residence |
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"Single guy here also, live with a relative and don’t want him knowing my business so I don’t offer to host. Hotel is the ideal venue imo
Yet your profile states you can.....bit strange that one
"Can accommodate" may simply mean he can accommodate elsewhere. There is no definition that states it has to be the person's private, primary residence "
This is true, I know many who use it to mean they are willing to book a hotel room |
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"Single guy here also, live with a relative and don’t want him knowing my business so I don’t offer to host. Hotel is the ideal venue imo
Yet your profile states you can.....bit strange that one
"Can accommodate" may simply mean he can accommodate elsewhere. There is no definition that states it has to be the person's private, primary residence
This is true, I know many who use it to mean they are willing to book a hotel room "
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