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It’s almost like going for a job with hundreds of other applicants. Some job adverts even state “If you don’t hear anything, assume you are unsuccessful “.
I would say that for this site and all the others-no reply =not interested. If I had over 300 messages (can but dream) I’d find it difficult to find the time to reply to them all, let alone with any constructive feedback! |
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"It’s almost like going for a job with hundreds of other applicants. Some job adverts even state “If you don’t hear anything, assume you are unsuccessful “.
I would say that for this site and all the others-no reply =not interested. If I had over 300 messages (can but dream) I’d find it difficult to find the time to reply to them all, let alone with any constructive feedback!"
I think it’s more like getting unsolicited advertising mail through your front door, followed by some marketing guy from Lidl turning up and asking you why you aren’t interested in his waterproof mattress covers and telling you that you’re rude for not saying no thanks. |
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Unfortunately like a lot of posters say some get hundreds of messages per day way more men on hear and women have a large choice of men to choose from
Get involved in forums more games etc I know it’s been said before
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By *elloWoman 3 weeks ago
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"How difficult to say
"thank we are not interested"
After reading messages  "
It's not difficult at all, but why should anyone send that. They didn't ask you to send them a message so why should they respond when they're obviously not interest.
When I get unsolicited post or spam email from companies I don't contact the company and say thank you but no thanks |
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"How difficult to say
"thank we are not interested"
After reading messages "
As difficult and annoying as it would be to have to contact every company that sends you junk mail to tell them you’re not interested. No response is a response. |
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By *ustBoWoman 3 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I don't get messages but I still don't reply to people I'm not interested in. I don't want to open lines of communication with them because 1 I'm not interested and 2 if I do then tighten my filters again they will be able to bypass those from then on .So I learned early on to not reply.It may seem harsh but it's how I do fab. And it's the same when I send a first message I don't automatically expect a reply from the person just because I sent them a message first. |
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"It’s not difficult.
BUT……the inexcusable abuse some get for simply saying no thanks, is what makes it easier for the recipient to not respond. "
Or the repeated messages .... a week or so later when they've forgotten you already said no thanks.
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I always think people (men) who want this haven't thought it through.
Do you really want to open Fabs, see you've got ten messages and have them all be "no thanks"? Sounds depressing as fuck, personally. |
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It's not difficult at all, my saintly young Sirrah. We menfolk are surrounded by some of the finest illiterate women, who seemed to have coalesced within the Fab quagmire of eternal hope and perpetual disappointment.
How on Earth these harpies are unable to even muster a single "no thank you" is beyond me. One or two swipes on the keyboard is all it takes, heck - they might even burn a calorie or two as they move their dainty fingers along the keyboard of regret.
Pay no heed to them. They waste our time, they fritter away lost opportunities of quality shags and classy bonks. They've never had it so good.
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By *illy IdolMan 3 weeks ago
Somewhere near the middle |
"It's not difficult at all, my saintly young Sirrah. We menfolk are surrounded by some of the finest illiterate women, who seemed to have coalesced within the Fab quagmire of eternal hope and perpetual disappointment.
How on Earth these harpies are unable to even muster a single "no thank you" is beyond me. One or two swipes on the keyboard is all it takes, heck - they might even burn a calorie or two as they move their dainty fingers along the keyboard of regret.
Pay no heed to them. They waste our time, they fritter away lost opportunities of quality shags and classy bonks. They've never had it so good.
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As you say, lazy on the keyboard... |
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"It's not difficult at all, my saintly young Sirrah. We menfolk are surrounded by some of the finest illiterate women, who seemed to have coalesced within the Fab quagmire of eternal hope and perpetual disappointment.
How on Earth these harpies are unable to even muster a single "no thank you" is beyond me. One or two swipes on the keyboard is all it takes, heck - they might even burn a calorie or two as they move their dainty fingers along the keyboard of regret.
Pay no heed to them. They waste our time, they fritter away lost opportunities of quality shags and classy bonks. They've never had it so good.
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And you said I’m sassy today  |
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without replying to individual comments on here - you dont take a no thanks because the reply comes back as why.
you dont take a your not my type because the reply comes back as well what is your type and why is it not me.
you dont take im not meeting anyone because the reply comes back as what are you doing on here then.
and comments about women frittering away opportunity because they are on fab although may be said in jest are repeated to our faces when we say no because you have 100 men chasing you and you should be grateful!!
SO accept its a no thanks or its a block or its just deleted - it all means the same - not interested move on |
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By *lder.Woman 3 weeks ago
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"I used to be on a site that had a polite rejection button, and I still received abuse for rejecting someone. The block button here is amazing as a rejection button"
We could do with a polite ejection button and blast them out into space. |
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To be fair to the OP - he has assiduously read and responded to every message on this thread thus proving his own theory.
It is only right and just that every woman he contacts does the same...
the same as he has done on this forum post.
Thanks in advance for you kind response op. |
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"I used to be on a site that had a polite rejection button, and I still received abuse for rejecting someone. The block button here is amazing as a rejection button"
Sorry but you have been unsuccessful on this occasion, please rest assured that if a position becomes available in the future you will be contacted |
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By *mma1973Woman 3 weeks ago
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"I used to be on a site that had a polite rejection button, and I still received abuse for rejecting someone. The block button here is amazing as a rejection button
We could do with a polite ejection button and blast them out into space. "
Yes please |
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So sorry to everyone. It was just a question on forum to talk something. After reading everyone comment it's look like backfired me. Apologies to everyone. I m not angry to any women or any thing it was just question for forum
So sorry and I will send every single person who commented here a sorry message.
Hope u all understand ?????????? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I used to be on a site that had a polite rejection button, and I still received abuse for rejecting someone. The block button here is amazing as a rejection button
Sorry but you have been unsuccessful on this occasion, please rest assured that if a position becomes available in the future you will be contacted "
Bagsy doggy.......   |
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"So sorry to everyone. It was just a question on forum to talk something. After reading everyone comment it's look like backfired me. Apologies to everyone. I m not angry to any women or any thing it was just question for forum
So sorry and I will send every single person who commented here a sorry message.
Hope u all understand ??????????"
I don’t think you need to apologise... this topic comes up regularly.
It's good that you wanted to get people responding but maybe try something more positive or lighthearted next time  |
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"So sorry to everyone. It was just a question on forum to talk something. After reading everyone comment it's look like backfired me. Apologies to everyone. I m not angry to any women or any thing it was just question for forum
So sorry and I will send every single person who commented here a sorry message.
Hope u all understand ??????????"
Theres no need to send personal apology messages, its a forum toi can post what you want juat not everyone will have the same opinion as you |
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Tried to sent my apologies in private to most of u. Few of u already blocked or I m out side age range so please accept my apologies here.
Didn't thought that I will get that kind of response or hurt all of u.
Sorry |
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"Tried to sent my apologies in private to most of u. Few of u already blocked or I m out side age range so please accept my apologies here.
Didn't thought that I will get that kind of response or hurt all of u.
Sorry"
Don't worry about it. Folk are just jesting with you.  |
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Why should they bother to put more effort into a reply than most people put into their original message? Most of them just say "Hi" or "hru" or similar. Why should we go to the trouble of hitting reply and typing anything coherent to garbage like that when we've already said in our profile that we're not interested in people who don't have anything interesting to say and we're not looking for single men. This is on our profile already!
Grrr. |
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By *oody BMan 3 weeks ago
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"How difficult to say
"thank we are not interested"
After reading messages
That fact people don't reply or delete your message tells you they are not interested. "
^ this mate. And on the scale of difficulty, it’s a LOT easier for them to NOT reply. |
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By *hrimper36Couple 3 weeks ago
Central France dept 36 |
"How difficult to say
"thank we are not interested"
After reading messages "
For us it’s not difficult op and that’s what we did when you messaged but living in France which is VERY clear on our profile we don’t get HUNDREDS of messages like most.
The rules state no reply = no thank you but I’d guess you never read the rules did you.
Best of luck.
T |
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"It’s almost like going for a job with hundreds of other applicants. Some job adverts even state “If you don’t hear anything, assume you are unsuccessful “.
I would say that for this site and all the others-no reply =not interested. If I had over 300 messages (can but dream) I’d find it difficult to find the time to reply to them all, let alone with any constructive feedback!"
Think I might use that on my profile "thank you for your application, however if you do not hear back from me, it means you have been unsuccessful" |
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"Even if you just delete, you occasionally get the odd person who turns snotty and says ‘a no thank you would’ve been nice instead of just being rude and deleting.’ You can’t win. "
That's when you send them the link that says no response is a response it means no! Lol |
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I reply to every message that is polite, well considered against my profile, and where the sender has a decent profile, even if it’s to say no thanks.
In reality… that’s only a handful each day, perhaps less.
All one liners, ghost profiles, FAF, not in my preferences, explicit pics, or miles away… go straight in the bin. If they are too ignorant to realise why, that’s not my problem xx |
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By *_Mr.K_xMan 3 weeks ago
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I get the frustration OP, but unfortunately this is just the way it is.. as many have said some women/couples get hundreds and hundreds of messages a day... probably with the subject of "hi, how are u?" Or "wanna fuck?" So it'd be physically and mentally exhausting to reply to every single one of those.
Try not logging in to your email for a year and then seeing how full your spam or junk folder is, but then being asked to reply to every single junk message in there.
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"Tried to sent my apologies in private to most of u. Few of u already blocked or I m out side age range so please accept my apologies here.
Didn't thought that I will get that kind of response or hurt all of u.
Sorry"
I doubt you have hurt anyone , they are just disagreeing with you. You haven't caused them pain. |
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Do you reply to all the spam in your email inbox OP? I mean it's only polite to say no not interested right?
No one asked you to message & no one is entitled to a reply.
No reply - no thank you.
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Haha yes this happens to me a lot. Then they usually block me when I point that out. It's far easier to delete the message. A polite no often ends up in them asking why I don't find them attractive. |
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Thankyou for the apology but it was not necessary. In fact, it gave those of us new to this scene a good insight into how some things work. Yes, it can be very frustrating when you type out a number of very carefully crafted messages but a thread like this confirms that the recipient also has 300 more carefully crafted messages that they do not physically have time to read. I also get why you should take a no reply as “no thanks” as you don’t want to open lines of communication with someone who you are not interested in. I do get some no thanks messages but I don’t reply to them as I have taken it that the recipient doesn’t want to talk to me. But I do keep them to serve as a list for me of women not to message again. |
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Fab Etiquette (and rules) is that no response is a response. Which is why you may get a warning if you try to sens another message.
As many ladies will attest though, a simple 'no thank you' can often get a reply of 'but why not'... and on and on. How many times do you want or expect someone to say no thank you in various ways? And this can be the polite version.
Don't take it personally. |
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What does the OP do when the "I'm just doing a quick survey" or "have you recently been injured in an accident?" people ring their mobile? You know, the people that harvest your number from somewhere and ring daily to pester you.
I bet the OP hangs up like the rest of us, and don't engage in a full conversation with someone who is trying every number in the hope that someone will "bite".
Fabs is rather the same.... Men in particular will scattergun every woman in a 50 mile radius in the hope that one might reply... |
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"To be fair to the OP - he has assiduously read and responded to every message on this thread thus proving his own theory.
It is only right and just that every woman he contacts does the same...
the same as he has done on this forum post.
Thanks in advance for you kind response op."
This X100. Thanks for bringing this to my attention Tatty. I will continue reading this thread now with hope and expectation that your response from the OP is forthcoming.
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"How difficult to say
"thank we are not interested"
After reading messages "
No reply is saying that, do you reply to unsolicited post through your letterbox
Think it’s in the t&c’s of the site
A couple replies thanks but no thanks then they’re hit with 20 replies asking why  |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"Its not difficult but what they usually do is block you if they aren't interested "
I hear that 'b' word more than the 'f' word on here. It is a filter for us all.We are not all meant to like each other in this fab world. |
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By *red333Man 3 weeks ago
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"Its not difficult but what they usually do is block you if they aren't interested
I hear that 'b' word more than the 'f' word on here. It is a filter for us all.We are not all meant to like each other in this fab world."
Nope i hear what you're saying and it really is a relief to know you're blocked and don't have to come up with another unique message based on the target profile and add humour and a tastefully done pic |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"What does the OP do when the "I'm just doing a quick survey" or "have you recently been injured in an accident?" people ring their mobile? You know, the people that harvest your number from somewhere and ring daily to pester you.
I bet the OP hangs up like the rest of us, and don't engage in a full conversation with someone who is trying every number in the hope that someone will "bite".
Fabs is rather the same.... Men in particular will scattergun every woman in a 50 mile radius in the hope that one might reply... "
This is very irksome |
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I reckon though alot of the time women miss out on decent men when they just have too many messages and do a bulk delete the guy then thinks oh they're not interested and people miss out on potential friends/meetings through no ones fault. If I message someone and I dont get response (usually unread) I just leave it |
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