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Hey all, we have always played as a couple and enjoy doing it together but recently we have been considering playing alone to make it easier for childcare etc.
Does anyone else do this?
If so how do you find the whole experience?
Are there other couples out there who would want to meet someone on their own who is part of a couple?
Any responses would be much appreciated.
C & J X |
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We’ve met both men and women from couples separately but we wouldn’t do it ourselves.
We love the lifestyle but it’s all about us sharing experiences.
If it works for you then that’s fine, everyone has their own preferences  |
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Yes me and wife meet together and apart. We love it for the variety. Just be absolutely sure you are both comfortable doing this. It works for us but seen some couples when does not. Had that recent with a hub who was controlling his wife. He thought he could what he liked but did not seem to like his wife having fun. Not saying that is you but jealousy can happen. If it does out a lot of fun |
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"Thanks for this, we would always discuss feelings and respect each other. "
That’s good. Is it both of you who are considering this. One thing to remember it can be easier for lady to meet and hub can feel left out. We have been doing for years and both of us have contacts - so if one of us in mood we can arrange and both get equal fun |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm half a couple and we have our own profiles as meeting couples isn't that easy.I'm straight and most want fem play ,then you've to figure in 4 way attraction.
Jack my partner has met couples and women alone ,he tells me about it all after which I like.
As long as we both let each other know if we want to meet or we're chatting to someone that could be a meet, it's all good. |
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Oof - childcare! Tell us about it 
We've tried solo a few times but it's largely not as fun as our shared mutual pleasure is what makes it for us. Everyone's different of course.
School time meets are our bag  
Best of luck to you OP xx |
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"Hey all, we have always played as a couple and enjoy doing it together but recently we have been considering playing alone to make it easier for childcare etc.
Does anyone else do this?
If so how do you find the whole experience?
Are there other couples out there who would want to meet someone on their own who is part of a couple?
Any responses would be much appreciated.
C & J X "
Absolutely! We prefer threesomes to couple meets as it's easier to work the dynamic with 1 extra! We have something permanently on our fuck-it list where we have rotating threesomes with other couples, all taking it in turns to meet the other pair 
As long as you're both happy and work out your level of involvement (calls, pics, vids, watching live!) It can be extra hot! |
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over a year ago
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The only play alone for us is if she wants some female/female fun without guys around.. We would say whatever preferences people have it's all good as long as the trust is there xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs wants that Mr plays separate and she has no interest or intention doing it herself.
After certain amount of pussy, you start to see things differently.
Having fun together is what excites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're similar and have discussed it, childcare is the main driver but we're mostly looking for men so it becomes quite one sided so trying to find ways that the situation is fun and enjoyable for both of us (and safe) |
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I (Mrs) have met a couple of times alone now. The problem is it’s much easier for me to get meets than hubby and although he says he doesn’t mind it does feel like I’m the one having all the fun.
Playing together is preferable but life just makes that difficult sometimes.
Kx |
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over a year ago
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"I (Mrs) have met a couple of times alone now. The problem is it’s much easier for me to get meets than hubby and although he says he doesn’t mind it does feel like I’m the one having all the fun.
Playing together is preferable but life just makes that difficult sometimes.
Kx"
You need to find some couples to start a rota with! |
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"We've spoken to quite a few who do this and it's usually either just the male half that tries to or if both it's just the female half that gets interest."
It has to be equal or its not fair, maybe a rota and some trading if trying to sync up special dates like friends birthdays, etc |
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Yes we do it occasionally , as we don’t get to play as often as we like as a couple , sometimes planned and sometimes spontaneous , but we always inform each other before when we can , or after when spontaneous , as trust is a big thing with us , playing apart is only exciting when you get to kiss and tell |
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"I (Mrs) have met a couple of times alone now. The problem is it’s much easier for me to get meets than hubby and although he says he doesn’t mind it does feel like I’m the one having all the fun.
Playing together is preferable but life just makes that difficult sometimes.
Kx
You need to find some couples to start a rota with!"
Haha….wouldn’t that be the ideal |
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By *exyFZeeCouple
over a year ago
Harrow |
We do it!
I (f)love it because I get freedom to select men and receive their unadulterated attention. I don't mind if a man is part of a couple (but often they attention they give isn't as good and sometimes jealousy from partners can mean that it suddenly disappear)
It's harder for him to get a meet than me. We've enjoyed dynamics with couples where I see the man and he sees the woman. Not enough couples play solo for us to do that |
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By *exyFZeeCouple
over a year ago
Harrow |
"We do it!
I (f)love it because I get freedom to select men and receive their unadulterated attention. I don't mind if a man is part of a couple (but often they attention they give isn't as good and sometimes jealousy from partners can mean that it suddenly disappear)
It's harder for him to get a meet than me. We've enjoyed dynamics with couples where I see the man and he sees the woman. Not enough couples play solo for us to do that"
he's still managed to have a fair amount though! And loves the freedom he gets to pursue whoever he wants (I'm fussier than he is) |
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"Hey all, we have always played as a couple and enjoy doing it together but recently we have been considering playing alone to make it easier for childcare etc.
Does anyone else do this?
If so how do you find the whole experience?
Are there other couples out there who would want to meet someone on their own who is part of a couple?
Any responses would be much appreciated.
C & J X "
In our experience over the years and many couples who play separate, it has been 100% hubby playing, we dont play with those 'couples' |
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In our experience over the years and many couples who play separate, it has been 100% hubby playing, we dont play with those 'couples'"
Sadly a lot of them on here. Would be happy with separate play if everyone in agreement and communication was there, just unfair and selfish if one sided especially by those sneaking around behind their so called loved ones backs putting emotions and health at risk  |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Totnes |
Having had a couples profile with a lady I met on fab, we found it near impossible to find another couple we both a) found attractive ,b) were interesting to chat to and we found charming.
At first we thought it was us...but talking to folk it seems the norm ..and we met numerous couples that played as singles ..just because it was easier |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've spoken to quite a few who do this and it's usually either just the male half that tries to or if both it's just the female half that gets interest."
Haha exactly this, we have a cpl profile and our separate single profiles here…. As a couple we do fairly well, as a single I make the effort when we know free time/play time availability is coming and get practically nowhere… OH is constantly inbox filled with offers
Alas I know being a “single guy” makes me less desirable being that I am just one drop in the huge open water of males - not having a moan  |
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"In our experience over the years and many couples who play separate, it has been 100% hubby playing, we dont play with those 'couples'"
This is why we stopped using our couple profile to arrange solo meets, for Mrs this was no problem but for me it was making people think the profile was setup as a couple but only actually a male using it for my own gain so we decided to have single profiles for solo play so not to taint our cpl profile  |
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My husband and I are solo ENM, so meet separately. Have to confess it's largely my preference as I see my Fab persona as totally separate to my daily life one and so prefer meeting separately.
It does also help with balancing other stuff in life (childcare) and the idea of finding a couple where there is mutual attraction in both directions for all 4 just seems way too difficult to find anyway! |
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Forgot to add, attempting to meet separately does have the downside that it is so much harder for men to find suitable connections than it is women. I feel it isn't fair/right to meet when husband isn't planning his own fun. |
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"Forgot to add, attempting to meet separately does have the downside that it is so much harder for men to find suitable connections than it is women. I feel it isn't fair/right to meet when husband isn't planning his own fun."
This can be a problem, but if you make a good connection with a regular couple, you could agree to have MMF or MFF whenever the other tags out. The same could go for the friend couple as well, everyone has problems with babysitters or things that crop up. If you are all Bi you could even have 2 missing and MM or FF for some solo play. If you find a couple you have that strong bond with, don't ever let them go. |
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Our scenario is that we establish a connection with a couple, where we would each meet the respective halves separately, with the understanding that both meets should happen within a few days of each other. That way we still feel like we are planning an event together, even though we are actually meeting separately. |
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"Hey all, we have always played as a couple and enjoy doing it together but recently we have been considering playing alone to make it easier for childcare etc.
Does anyone else do this?
If so how do you find the whole experience?
Are there other couples out there who would want to meet someone on their own who is part of a couple?
Any responses would be much appreciated.
C & J X "
always going to be the male playing, 100% in our experience never the female |
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"Yes we do it occasionally , as we don’t get to play as often as we like as a couple , sometimes planned and sometimes spontaneous , but we always inform each other before when we can , or after when spontaneous , as trust is a big thing with us , playing apart is only exciting when you get to kiss and tell "
This is same here  |
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We are both single parents living in different cities and on different time lines. So we totally get how difficult it can be for a couple balancing life. But also sometimes mismatched desire for mischief.
We are both free to be solo. We both have our own profiles. On occasion we both do go solo. Mainly visiting clubs alone when we are in the mood but can't be together. More so Mrs because she more opportunities to get out alone.
But it's incredibly rare we go solo even though we can. It's just not the same alone. We love sharing this scene and our mischief together. So there not much desire to play solo even though we can. |
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We have been doing this for a while - we enjoy the variety and whilst our preference is couples and group meets childcare means we can't do it as often as we would like. Yes, it's inequitable at times but c'est la vie. I (male) still make the most of it an happy to fly solo at clubs (and/or with other females) when I can. One thing is really noticeable - how differently club staff and patrons talk to you when you turn up as a single guy. Very eye-opening! |
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We do this. We still have our solo profiles (we met on here) alongside our joint profile.
The one thing we do find difficult is people who are happy with us sharing details. It’s part of the fun for us, talking together and often playing while talking about it once we’re back in the sane place. We’re very open about that being a part, but lots of other couples and especially single guys don’t like it so we don’t meet them.
Like others we don’t organise solo stuff through the couples profile. I don’t think anyone would bat an eyelid if J did, but would probably taint the profile if I did.
When it works it works really well though. We love it. |
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We mainly play as a couple as the thrill of seeing the partner play is part of the fun.
We have played singularly with good friends though. Both of us have a same sex friend that we spend time with.
Sometimes just a day or evening but other times overnight.
There has to be trust in the friend for us to meet away from each other |
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"Hey all, we have always played as a couple and enjoy doing it together but recently we have been considering playing alone to make it easier for childcare etc.
Does anyone else do this?
If so how do you find the whole experience?
Are there other couples out there who would want to meet someone on their own who is part of a couple?
Any responses would be much appreciated.
C & J X "
It's on our fuck-it list to arrange rotating threesomes with other couples who play separately. Always sharing the fun with pics, vids and calls so whoever is sat at home is involved, even if they're not physically there! |
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Last time we were in a club Em felt confident enough to go off on her own. I settled in for a soak in the hot tub but much to my surprise got invited to join in a threesome.
So it can work, but normally the female part of the couple will have a lot more options. |
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By *JCouple
over a year ago
Teesside |
"Hey all, we have always played as a couple and enjoy doing it together but recently we have been considering playing alone to make it easier for childcare etc.
Does anyone else do this?
If so how do you find the whole experience?
Are there other couples out there who would want to meet someone on their own who is part of a couple?
Any responses would be much appreciated.
C & J X "
With 2 children aged 2 and almost 1 this is very much us as well OP.
The dream would be finding a couple we could build trust with where we could rotate various 3some options with and then play as a 4 on the odd time the stars align so to speak.
So far it's not been easy to find. Which considering how many couples want to experience MFF you'd think there would be more interest as it would allow for all combinations of MFF, MMF and MFMF. Also of which we love as each of those dynamics are incredibly sexy. Even a F joining us for MFF is totally different to our female joining a couple for MFF.
Would love to hear from any couples who have been able to have these dynamics.
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We ve always played together...was tricky with childcare when they were younger...however, it seems much harder the older they get with their nosey trunk questions of where are we going...playing separately isn't for us, occasionally a fantasy |
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By *of9Couple
over a year ago
Staffordshire |
We don’t have solo profiles, just our couples one, but whilst we love playing together primarily, Spike is also free to meet alone either with a woman or a couple, as long as he tells me all about it afterwards. Bonus points if the woman wants to give me a juicy description from her perspective too. I have occasionally got roped into fun in a club environment where Spike has been elsewhere, but generally I’m not really that interested in playing alone.
We do sometimes find people are quite suspicious that the male of a couple wants to meet them separately, but we always offer a social meet with me, or at very least a conversation, to hopefully help settle any concerns. The majority of people that Spike would meet alone also know us as a couple, which makes it easier for them to know that we are genuine, and that I’m just simply a very naughty voyeur who loves watching and thinking about her husband with other women. |
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We play as a couple for full swap with other couples and also threesomes with guys and girls.
We also play hotwife/stag where she plays solo either arranged meets or out on pull or guys she meets elsewhere. |
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