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anyone have any tips to stop cumming too soon, had an early departure yesterday
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some ladies would take it as a compliment. 
An ex of mine loved it when the passion and emotion were so intense that there was hasty pudding. On the flip side I might have been crap and she just wanted it over quickly......
Joking aside, don't get hung up on it. Treat it as a one off and look forward to the next time.
It's only a problem if you make it one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hot betty thats why i can never gat an appointment ha ha. Sometimes its a bit more sensitive than others. Try and drag it out with lots of foreplay and if you feel a little too excited slow the pace down. When you can hold it i promise when you do come it will be with the thunder  |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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You can get condoms with a mild numbing agent on them that can be useful.
I have the problem where I want to cum early, but then stop myself because I don't want the fun to stop, then find it hard to actually cum when I want to later on in the evening  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Excuse my ignorance but what is edging..? "
Basically, getting to the 'edge' of ejaculation and then stopping/pulling away - stopping entirely. For some, attenpting this over and over helps control and duration. |
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Edging, holding back,delaying orgasm,deliberately stopping before coming...
Doubt if you can do it if you have the op's dilemma,premature ejaculation..
Try thinking about football or what you need in Tesco etc.. |
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I haven't had this problem in years. I suddenly realised one day that I hadn't cum prematurely for ages.
I tried to work out what it was. I can only assume that it is the fact that I am comfortable and aware of myself enough that I don't worry about it. This in turn stops the panic and the inevitable moment because when I feel myself build I am relaxed enough to change speed or movement so that I don't get close.
This does sometimes mean I have trouble cumming, but that is no issue for me. |
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"Happens all the time, blimey if every bloke went to the docs when it did there'd be no appointments for actual ill people "
So this is why I have to wait until May for an appointment to see my gp lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hot betty thats why i can never gat an appointment ha ha. Sometimes its a bit more sensitive than others. Try and drag it out with lots of foreplay and if you feel a little too excited slow the pace down. When you can hold it i promise when you do come it will be with the thunder "
Bloody men and 'illnesses'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happens all the time, blimey if every bloke went to the docs when it did there'd be no appointments for actual ill people
So this is why I have to wait until May for an appointment to see my gp lol."
Haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho  "
more like wanted!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"
dip it in vinegar for 20mins foil safe as tell ya  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try doing mental arithmetic or put an open serious book on the bedside table and read as you fuck. These distractions will help control the impulse to cum. |
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"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "
I agree with men it's the best approach - but you do seem like my kind of woman also - we have such similar views... xx |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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All good advice, were you nervous before the meet, sometimes nerves play a part.
I notice also no one has suggested Kegel exercises.
When you go for a wee try stopping mid flow. This strengthens the pelvic floor (pubococcygeus and the bulbocavernosus muscleor) muscles which controls the ejaculation; women do similar exercises after childbirth.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Become an expert with your mouth and fingers. Practice making her cum lots. Cum early and then get her to cum a few times before you're hard again. Take your time. Be sure to factor enough time for recovery and a second go into meets. |
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"Become an expert with your mouth and fingers. Practice making her cum lots. Cum early and then get her to cum a few times before you're hard again. Take your time. Be sure to factor enough time for recovery and a second go into meets. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"
Blimey she's good |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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since you have all nicked my ann widdicombe suggestion in one way or another... I am going to have to come up with something else...
If i was close one of the mental tricks i use to use was to recite the alphabet backwards in my head..... took my brain off thinking about the task in hand...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"since you have all nicked my ann widdicombe suggestion in one way or another... I am going to have to come up with something else...
If i was close one of the mental tricks i use to use was to recite the alphabet backwards in my head..... took my brain off thinking about the task in hand...
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dont quote me, but when i was a lot younger i used to do times tables in my head, it worked, but still shit at maths lol |
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To think half of yous while having sexual intercourse are not concentrating on the woman but instead thinking of other things in your head haha and some women think "wonder if he's thinking of another woman" when realistically yous are thinking of what ingredients it takes to make a decent pie to stop yourselves from cumming hahaha when you cum you cum, but that doesn't stop the fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "
_lirtyjj I love your way of thinking but I personally prefer to focus on the woman then see what treats she's got on offer before a good fucking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"
Cialis holds back orgasm. Or pinch the base of the penis top and bottom when you feel you are coming close. Watch out for blue balls though! |
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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago
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"All good advice, were you nervous before the meet, sometimes nerves play a part.
I notice also no one has suggested Kegel exercises.
When you go for a wee try stopping mid flow. This strengthens the pelvic floor (pubococcygeus and the bulbocavernosus muscleor) muscles which controls the ejaculation; women do similar exercises after childbirth.
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This advice is a bit mixed up. When you go for a wee practice stopping and starting and get to understand what muscle control you are exerting, and how. Once you understand that you can exercise the muscles - see Google for how to do it and when to use it. A by-product could be stronger orgasms.
Him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Excuse my ignorance but what is edging..?
Basically, getting to the 'edge' of ejaculation and then stopping/pulling away - stopping entirely. For some, attenpting this over and over helps control and duration."
Similar to pelvic floor exercises??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Strt the meet with a bj, cum quickly and they take it as a compliment to their technique, then you can spend time focusing on them until your ready again for the main event and as you've already cum you should last longer. |
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"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "
And concentrate on you JJ?? And there was me thinking you'd turned over a new leaf, and decided to let the man have all the fun!!
You'll never change |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One women I fuck regular makes me come in minutes , yet any otheir meets I can go ages strange ,,, "
Very similar thing with me. I can pretty much guarantee one lady will come with me whenever I come, and another one I need to be certain she is actually coming before I let myself go (second lady can 'teeter on the edge' for ages without coming so we have to back off and build up all over again).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would love to take only a few minutes sometimes. Minimum for me is 40-60 mins. Nothing to do with not being aroused enough. 4 hours the other month was fucking ridiculous.
K is very sympathetic but it bothers me.
Just goes to show its not just early cumming that can cause an issue! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was circumcised a year ago. I used to cum very quickly - now it takes me a long time if at all.
It's a drastic solution but getting cut definitely helps. How many guys do you see in porn films with foreskins? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rub some tooth paste on to it and the tingling feeling will take your mind off cumming and if you put in females mouth first think off the fresh smelling breath she will av . |
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"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "
Nothing wrong with being a greedy girl. LOL |
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I don't think you should overly worry about it. Sometimes you'll cum quicker than others, it just happens. As long as you can recover quickly enough and end up giving her the pleasure she wants before you leave I don't see what the problem is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find if you stick a rotating cactus up your arse it takes your mind off it"
that would probably have the desired effect unless you are into that kind of thing |
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"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"
Slap your bellend a few times... |
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