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So my question to you all is how do you prepare for a meet... i mean once the basic chat n social and you are satisfied this is someone you want to spend time with...
I ask because I make choices in order to prepare days in advance... Then get let down on the night... So I guess those people don't prepare...just wondering how others approach a prearranged meet...
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"So my question to you all is how do you prepare for a meet... i mean once the basic chat n social and you are satisfied this is someone you want to spend time with...
I ask because I make choices in order to prepare days in advance... Then get let down on the night... So I guess those people don't prepare...just wondering how others approach a prearranged meet...
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Scarcely believable. Who'd turn down a meet with you in the Capital... |
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You didn't answer my question lol
He didn't turn it down.. been talking months while we have both been busy we said on Sunday we were both free tonight and when I messaged yesterday he said he'd been busy at work. So replied today and he says he didn't think we had made arrangements... |
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over a year ago
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"So my question to you all is how do you prepare for a meet... i mean once the basic chat n social and you are satisfied this is someone you want to spend time with...
I ask because I make choices in order to prepare days in advance... Then get let down on the night... So I guess those people don't prepare...just wondering how others approach a prearranged meet...
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I don't prepare and now I tend to arrange meets last minute so therefore I don't have alter other plans just for strangers off the internet. |
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"You didn't answer my question lol
He didn't turn it down.. been talking months while we have both been busy we said on Sunday we were both free tonight and when I messaged yesterday he said he'd been busy at work. So replied today and he says he didn't think we had made arrangements...
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Scarcely believable. Who'd make other plans rather than meet you in the Capital... |
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Haha no I dont mean shower that's standard lol I mean shaving so you REALLY smooth, moisturising. Sunbeds, eating low carb so your not bloated... picking our ur favourite undies... Deciding what to wear
Now I think I'm in a minority
But I treat each fuck as a one off even if it might develop into Fbuddies.. so ... I prepare lol |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Haha no I dont mean shower that's standard lol I mean shaving so you REALLY smooth, moisturising. Sunbeds, eating low carb so your not bloated... picking our ur favourite undies... Deciding what to wear
Now I think I'm in a minority
But I treat each fuck as a one off even if it might develop into Fbuddies.. so ... I prepare lol"
You're not the only one who prepares like that. I've seen others say similar. But do all that for a couple of drinks? Nope.
If I'm meeting for a shag I'll shower and shave, and make sure I have nice undies, but I won't change my diet. that's a step too far, and they wouldn't notice anyway. |
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It's not really changing my diet lol... Its a reason not to eat SHIT for a few days though lol
N as i said not for a few drinks I meant for a full 'meet'
But I think this thread has answered my question lol |
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over a year ago
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Hi ..it seems there are a lot of time wasters on here..i have been talking to a couple and a single guy for a few months and only having my first meet tonight..it seems ok at the momement..we talk on phone too,,very relazxed |
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"I wish I could change but it is not in my nature  "
This could open the whole nature nurture debate haha.
But i can relate. Everyone says they don't want to sleep with half of Fab... But im not lying when I say it lol |
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over a year ago
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"Haha no I dont mean shower that's standard lol I mean shaving so you REALLY smooth, moisturising. Sunbeds, eating low carb so your not bloated... picking our ur favourite undies... Deciding what to wear
Now I think I'm in a minority
But I treat each fuck as a one off even if it might develop into Fbuddies.. so ... I prepare lol"
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Speak on the phone asap and fix watertight plans that include prior communication on the day of the meet.
Review how you've done things, after a series of failures. Common issues are guys fantasizing whilst you're chatting and not being serious about the meet. Or they're married etc and can't meet. |
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"I wish I could change but it is not in my nature
This could open the whole nature nurture debate haha.
But i can relate. Everyone says they don't want to sleep with half of Fab... But im not lying when I say it lol"
Neither are most of the people that say it, but what's wrong if someone does sleep with half of the people here? |
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Re:If someone appears to have slept with half of Fab..
Nothing wrong  that's their thing :D
Just not my type of person. And I feel you have sort of removed this from our original context.  this wasn't supposed to generate an arguement rather acknowledge there are different types of people... Different types of meets... Different ways people get ready... Form knowledge of one another |
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"I turn up clean.
Don't fall for the media shit that we all have to be perfect and men will only be interested in such perfection. It's bollocks. "
I do love this though.
Just to assure you, I do everything for myself and my own confidence :D |
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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago
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"Tip .... never eat beans or sprouts the day before ....."
I remember one thread on here where a woman said it took her SIX WEEKS to prepare for a meet, since she wanted to eat all the right things to make sure she tasted sweet enough(!). |
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"Tip .... never eat beans or sprouts the day before .....
I remember one thread on here where a woman said it took her SIX WEEKS to prepare for a meet, since she wanted to eat all the right things to make sure she tasted sweet enough(!). "
Fucking neurotic, if you ask me. Wouldn't want to meet anyone who kept me waiting for longer than a few days. |
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I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.  |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet. "
Leave in conditioner? Fuck that mate! It's only sex!
Does that mean you're gonna start preparing for Manchester next weekend?  |
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I never make assumptions. If someone asks if I'm free Sunday and I say yes, I don't assume we are meeting unless a time and place have been agreed and a see you Sunday has been received. If they don't keep in touch in the days before Sunday I will message Saturday to make sure it's still on for tomorrow, then again on the day. If I don't hear back I don't get ready. That has happened to me once. |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet. "
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave. |
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...at the slightest hint of a meet ...I redecorate the bedrooms, change the beds, vacuum and dust, cut fresh flowers, long soak in the bath, shave and trim, choose carefully what to wear, get the coffee machine ready, chill the champagne......and fuck all happens. |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Leave in conditioner? Fuck that mate! It's only sex!
Does that mean you're gonna start preparing for Manchester next weekend? "
Yep! Leave in conditioner and all!
Watch how long you have to wait for me to straighten my hair before we go out  |
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"I never make assumptions. If someone asks if I'm free Sunday and I say yes, I don't assume we are meeting unless a time and place have been agreed and a see you Sunday has been received. If they don't keep in touch in the days before Sunday I will message Saturday to make sure it's still on for tomorrow, then again on the day. If I don't hear back I don't get ready. That has happened to me once. "
Happened to me too. I don't give people my time beforehand now unless I see they're super-commited to the meet, chasing me for times etc. |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Leave in conditioner? Fuck that mate! It's only sex!
Does that mean you're gonna start preparing for Manchester next weekend?
Yep! Leave in conditioner and all!
Watch how long you have to wait for me to straighten my hair before we go out "
Oh cripes! Haha. |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave. "
Even less for me! |
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"...at the slightest hint of a meet ...I redecorate the bedrooms, change the beds, vacuum and dust, cut fresh flowers, long soak in the bath, shave and trim, choose carefully what to wear, get the coffee machine ready, chill the champagne......and fuck all happens. "
I even allow potential meets to choose the colour scheme ...I think I am trying too hard maybe?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My meets are usually planned well ahead and I always prepare well. I'm always freshly shaved in all the right places, I choose my sexy clothing and toys carefully and have them hidden in a bag in my car boot. I then pick my outfit that I'm going to wear to arrive at the meet in. I've sometimes got changed on the way to a meet so I can look really nice in a special dress, instead of the everyday clothes I've had to leave my house in.
So yes, I do put in a lot of effort, and it's always appreciated |
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Shower, give bollocks a good scratch whilst doing so thus manicuring at the same time...blowtorch the stubble, ear and nose hairs (Top Tip-best not to inhale), spash of Brut and off we go.
I do get meets, honest! |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave. "
neither do i and i'm not a man, i do my hair and nails and i can have a set of matching underwear clean and available...i arrange my meets but at the most it takes me an afternoon to do everything..including a cycle of the washing machine....days??  sounds weird to me...what if you meet two in a week, are you preparing for the second meet, while on the first??? |
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over a year ago
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"I don't prepare for meets. I prepare for going to a club and have a great social and if there is a spark with someone we meet we have fun!
Much simpler and less stressful.
Xx"
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave.
Even less for me!"
I basically just shower. |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave.
Even less for me!
I basically just shower."
Me too. The clean clothes are default. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I shower, trim the pubes and shave the balls. Brush my teeth and take mints if the journey might take a while. And I always make sure I have protection ahead of time... nothing worse than the last minute search for a supermarket/chemist!!
And a little flirty texting in the run up to the meet never goes amiss  |
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave.
Even less for me!
I basically just shower.
Me too. The clean clothes are default."
Meh... I get a fair few days wear out of a pair of jeans... |
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Avoid overpowering foods from the day before. Have a shower and a shave. Have nice matching undies and dress looked out in advance. But most importantly, have a backup plan  had a few people cancel at short notice so always have something else lined up. Not necessarily a meet but going to a club, or even catching up with friends. Of course, they've been told in advance I might not know if I'm available til last minute. But it means regardless of how the night works out, the chance of a babysitter has been put to good use |
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"Avoid overpowering foods from the day before. Have a shower and a shave. Have nice matching undies and dress looked out in advance. But most importantly, have a backup plan had a few people cancel at short notice so always have something else lined up. Not necessarily a meet but going to a club, or even catching up with friends. Of course, they've been told in advance I might not know if I'm available til last minute. But it means regardless of how the night works out, the chance of a babysitter has been put to good use "
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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago
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"Tip .... never eat beans or sprouts the day before .....
I remember one thread on here where a woman said it took her SIX WEEKS to prepare for a meet, since she wanted to eat all the right things to make sure she tasted sweet enough(!).
Fucking neurotic, if you ask me. Wouldn't want to meet anyone who kept me waiting for longer than a few days."
And heres to you ...mrs Robinson. |
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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago
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"I take a few hours to get ready. I'll usually also put leave-in conditioner in my hair a few days before to make it softer on the day of the meet. I'll spend time picking out clothes, straightening my hair takes about 2 hours....yeah it's a process to get ready for a meet.
It kills me when people say they're free on Saturday then when you try to set up a meet they say they'll let you know later if they're free...I need to know a few days in advance if I need to start planning for a meet.
Men don't understand that prep for sex isn't just shit, shower and shave.
Even less for me!
I basically just shower.
Me too. The clean clothes are default.
Meh... I get a fair few days wear out of a pair of jeans..."
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I have a sort of a check list that I go through a couple of hours before the meet. I try to focus on other stuff between arranging and getting ready. Not worth getting worked up days before in case it don't pan out.
CHECK LIST
Obtain me time to prepare, No kids, No distractions
Prepare clothing
Pack contraception, equipment required and tooth brush if leaving house.
Hair shaving/trimming/grooming as required.
Clean teeth thoroughly and mouth wash.
Shower
Dry thoroughly
Select fragrance and apply
Put on clothes
Check the check list
Admirer my self in the mirror briefly
MOST IMPORTANTLY leave my every day cares/worries and the grind of everyday life at the door as I leave.
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"So my question to you all is how do you prepare for a meet... i mean once the basic chat n social and you are satisfied this is someone you want to spend time with...
I ask because I make choices in order to prepare days in advance... Then get let down on the night... So I guess those people don't prepare...just wondering how others approach a prearranged meet...
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Splash on the "Sex Panther by Odeon" (couldn't resist an Achorman quote) and head on out |
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