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Do looks really matter?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was just wondering about your thoughts on whether looks are important to you or whether you prefer people with good personalities and looks don't matter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A good mix of both here...
Looks to a degree... but personality can sway things greatly.. and has done!
Looks are the initial attraction.. but if a naf personality, then nothing is likely.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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looks for deffo, im shallow lol well thats wot i get called wen i tell guys they aint my type.
but i guess a looker to me , may not be a looker to you... good job everyone has different taste xx |
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By *icknDeeCouple
over a year ago
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Dee and I have different views on this.
Dee thinks looks are important and she couldn't go with anyone she doesn't fancy.
I on the other hand find the experience and situation far more of a turn on. As such, looks arn't as important as being able to click with a lady...
Is that a general difference between men or woman, or just Dee and I?
Mick.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For Mrs Two2 looks are important. If we are looking long term then personality is also important but at a club where effectively a guy is a dildo with a pulse conversation etc is not essential  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am living proof that looks are not the most important thing many people look for, at 54 or most other times in my life I could never really be called good looking, but I get my fair share of fun and like to think that it is mostly down to personality and that I am "acceptable for my age" and not a total minger.
For us looks do come into the equation but a personality can put us off a stunning person or turn us on to someone who like me isn't the best of the crop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well.......to a degree looks gotta come into it. But one person "yuk" is anothers "oh yeah baby"....cause what turns us all on in the first instance is how the other woman/man looks to us personally.....If a person has a great personality but we do not desire them physically.. we may chat for some time but on a sexual level it would go no further....to conclude (each to his own)... xx There is a space somewhere that a man and or woman click..but surely there has to be some physically attraction....for us to spark a conversation in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To us looks are foremost but they have to be coupled with a nice personality too.Initialy its always looks that attract,you can't see personality on a photo.
Not having a go here but it seems its often single guys that say looks aren't important which smacks of desperation a bit.
Trace & Ric
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I once travelled a very long way on public transport to spend the night with a woman and I'd never seen a pic of her just had a general description.
We had the most glorious time and she was just what I look for anyway
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Harry Jones |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I once travelled a very long way on public transport to spend the night with a woman and I'd never seen a pic of her just had a general description.
We had the most glorious time and she was just what I look for anyway
Regards
Harry Jones"
Credit due,you've sure got some bottle. No way ever would we have a blind date.
Trace & Ric
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Are looks important?
If the situation is pre-arranged then yes, always… but they still can’t be a twat attitude wise.
If the situation is spontaneous then not always… as the situation is usually charged with horniness. However, I would need to feel some form of attraction to kiss or do stuff to them.
In some situations I care not what they look like as I don’t look… the arousal is purely the situation and the sensation of the physical contact.
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"I once travelled a very long way on public transport to spend the night with a woman and I'd never seen a pic of her just had a general description.
We had the most glorious time and she was just what I look for anyway
Regards
Harry Jones"
She was lucky to get you Harry x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think looks are important, only to a point though, of course personality is more important on the whole, attractiveness comes in many forms, so long as there is something there then all is ok, imo.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Def personality, id rather have a evening with someone you could have a good conversation with and a laugh. Laughter is the way into my knickers lol"
I can show you my pecker, you will laugh then. ;-0
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Initially looks are what attract me,but personality will win everytime
If we're lucky enough to meet people with both then woo hoo what a bonus! lol |
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quote.
Not having a go here but it seems its often single guys that say looks aren't important which smacks of desperation a bit.
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Thats a bit of a stereotype unfortunately but i can see why you think that .
As a single guy not all of us are desperate for sex. Probably more than you think can actually be selective,especially as men get more experienced and lose that manic flush of youth..lol...
So many men in there profile suggest meeting for a drink first,i suggest its not just to look at the cover.
I definitely do not want to go with a cold hearted bitch with no interest in me personally.
Friendship ,intelligence being kind hearted are far more important traits to me than looks (especially as the media led stereotype of "good looking" is so far away from reality) ...
I love a woman or couple to be good looking on the inside first.
Dont lump us all together please ...ta
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By (user no longer on site)
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"quote.
Not having a go here but it seems its often single guys that say looks aren't important which smacks of desperation a bit.
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Thats a bit of a stereotype unfortunately but i can see why you think that .
As a single guy not all of us are desperate for sex. Probably more than you think can actually be selective,especially as men get more experienced and lose that manic flush of youth..lol...
So many men in there profile suggest meeting for a drink first,i suggest its not just to look at the cover.
I definitely do not want to go with a cold hearted bitch with no interest in me personally.
Friendship ,intelligence being kind hearted are far more important traits to me than looks (especially as the media led stereotype of "good looking" is so far away from reality) ...
I love a woman or couple to be good looking on the inside first.
Dont lump us all together please ...ta
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PD,
I think the clue is in the use of the word "seems" which is a bit of a stretch from an accusation.
If you take a look at your profile it says looks/size/age/race are not important and you also specify you will meet folk from 18 - 60.
The cynic could look at that and on the face of it form an opinion that you will have sex with anyone. You counter that with a well written profile which dispels that theory but there are loads of others out there who have not, maybe another of those blurred edge things being discussed in another thread. |
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"quote.
Not having a go here but it seems its often single guys that say looks aren't important which smacks of desperation a bit.
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Thats a bit of a stereotype unfortunately but i can see why you think that .
As a single guy not all of us are desperate for sex. Probably more than you think can actually be selective,especially as men get more experienced and lose that manic flush of youth..lol...
So many men in there profile suggest meeting for a drink first,i suggest its not just to look at the cover.
I definitely do not want to go with a cold hearted bitch with no interest in me personally.
Friendship ,intelligence being kind hearted are far more important traits to me than looks (especially as the media led stereotype of "good looking" is so far away from reality) ...
I love a woman or couple to be good looking on the inside first.
Dont lump us all together please ...ta
PD,
I think the clue is in the use of the word "seems" which is a bit of a stretch from an accusation.
If you take a look at your profile it says looks/size/age/race are not important and you also specify you will meet folk from 18 - 60.
The cynic could look at that and on the face of it form an opinion that you will have sex with anyone. You counter that with a well written profile which dispels that theory but there are loads of others out there who have not, maybe another of those blurred edge things being discussed in another thread. "
nahhh i did not take it as a accusation as such, more an observation ...i am not pissed off in anyway, its just pointing out that the Stereotype of any group is not necessarily the reality ...agree about the blurring . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we both share differing views on this one marc goes for looks he always says if he aint attracted to the fem he aint going to get it up lol but a good looking woman with a bad personality has also put him off before where as donna never really goes for looks she just likes a good convosation and a laugh so long as she is respected all works out good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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looks and personality are both important good looking to one person may not be good looking to another it all depends on what you are atracted to .we feel you should be happy in your self don't worry about others and do your thing ,and mostly have fun thats what it's all about at the end of the day you will always find people who will make not so nice remarks but rise above it , we met a couple once whose moto was you alway have to look at the mantel peice when your poking the fire ,maybe thats true !!!! take care and have fun j n g xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were at a little gathering last night... (Sat Night) and it would be somewhat fair to say it had a completely mixed bag of people there..
20's to 60's Slim to Big.. people from just about all walks from what we gathered.. (250+ people we reckon) but those that people may think were the best looking maybe in the conventional sense.. weren't the ones having the best time lol.. some were very very busy and having a ball.. while others, sat back waiting to get chatted up and didn't...
Attitude goes a long way lol.... and one thing is for sure.. Looks fade! |
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ok, well have to say if someone is a lovely person then that makes them good looking as there inner person shines through, equally if someone is not nice natured then i would find them unappealing.
If however, i was in a club and never going to see the person again then they would have to be easy on the eye but long term personality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to me there has to be a mixture of both, seeing as on here you don't really know people you have never met you can only got by profile and pics so i think looks come first, if i saw a pic and really did'nt find them attractive i would'nt message them, but if i did message them and after talking really did'nt like their personality i would'nt go no further, so for me it has to be a good balance of looks and personality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As we said earlier,you can't see personality on photo's.Therefore if everyone was honest we're all attracted by looks.Which is why the first thing most people do is look at the photo's,we do.Also why many,including us,ignore profiles without them.
Its only when you've made contact with someone that you get some idea about their personality and that will,of course, influence your decision to meet.So personality may well be the deciding factor, however looks are what prompt the initial contact.
Trace & Ric
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have chatted to various couples in the past who state they don't need to feel any form of physical attraction to hook up and play.
Definitely not for us & don't know about you guys but that thought sends a scary shudder down my spine whenever I think about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was just wondering about your thoughts on whether looks are important to you or whether you prefer people with good personalities and looks don't matter?"
We have to fancy the ppl we meet, a bit, so that we enjoy the fun we have..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I may sound shallow but physical attraction is of paramount importance to me. It helps if someone has a great personality too as it does enable you to have a good luagh with them and it's easier to chat with them. Though at the end of the day your having sex with the physical body and not the inner personality.
I can't remember ever looking around a room and saying WOW, look at her she has a great personality...physical attraction is what strikes me first but personality is very important too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I may sound shallow but physical attraction is of paramount importance to me. It helps if someone has a great personality too as it does enable you to have a good luagh with them and it's easier to chat with them. Though at the end of the day your having sex with the physical body and not the inner personality.
I can't remember ever looking around a room and saying WOW, look at her she has a great personality...physical attraction is what strikes me first but personality is very important too."
i agree, i cudnt meet and play with a guy if he has a face like a bag of spanners , lol
p.s hello gothica xxxxx no choccy for us today lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well me insides are lovely, im just waiting for the outside to catch up. lmao
on a serious note, a guy who can make me laugh and feel special be it for a short while is far more attractive than some rippling adonis with no brains .
the look can be that twinkle in the eye, the cheeky smile, the confidence. etc.
to each his own eh . |
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Looks more important...could not mind about personality...if it's a one time thing...but looks are subjective anyway and so would personalty...people might not find us attractive...:D...but we do..:D... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hmm id say personality for me everytime , i mean to a degree yeah looks are important , but for me they would have to be exceptionally ugly , im not a desperate guy if thats what your thinking its just for me i like to get on with the person or people , otherwise its not going to happen . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"on a serious note, a guy who can make me laugh and feel special be it for a short while is far more attractive than some rippling adonis with no brains.
the look can be that twinkle in the eye, the cheeky smile, the confidence. etc.
to each his own eh ."
Personally i would look for these kind of things in someone with whom i wanted a proper relationship with.
When it comes to NSA sex it 's not such an important criteria. I would have already spent time chatting to someone before meeting and if i didn't find them to be good company i wouldn't meet! I just couldn't be intimate with someone i wasn't attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For us, yes of course there has to be some sort of physical attraction, but that is all pointless if there is no connection other than looks. There have been ocassions when initially we thought one or the other of us (or both) didn't particularly fancy someone but after chatting a few times the attraction changed and we ended up having a great time. Of course it works both ways, not everyone can fancy everyone but for sure the ability to chat and have a laugh is just as important as looks .... for us anyway lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to like the look of someone before I want them but that is true of many folk, if I was looking for something more ie relationship then I would be taking time to get to know someone and their personality etc would come into the equation . |
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"I once travelled a very long way on public transport to spend the night with a woman and I'd never seen a pic of her just had a general description.
We had the most glorious time and she was just what I look for anyway
Regards
Harry Jones
She was lucky to get you Harry x"
Awww thanks Polo xx |
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"A good mix of both here...
Looks to a degree... but personality can sway things greatly.. and has done!
Looks are the initial attraction.. but if a naf personality, then nothing is likely.."
Totally agree with Notts x x x |
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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago
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for us looks to begin with as thats what attracts before you actually have a conservation, but we like both, looks&personalitis!! altho if sum1 was drop dead gorgeous and had a horrid personality then we wouldnt entertain them but if sum1 was ok looking and had a fantastic personality then we would go for it lol!!!
makes sense????????????????????lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was just wondering about your thoughts on whether looks are important to you or whether you prefer people with good personalities and looks don't matter?"
Must be some attraction, swinging is not a charity... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"nice tits and ass help ,, after all you dont look at the mantle piece when ya pokin the fire "
Lets hope your cetral heating is in good order lol... you might get cold. |
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By *raventwoCouple
over a year ago
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There has gotta be chemistry of some kind...what we hate is people who dont have an honest representation of themselves online.....say they are one thing and turn up looking like shrek and fiona....don't do pity sex...we're in it for good horny fun with peeps who turn us on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think if we're going to be honest we all go for looks first, first thing most of us do is look at pics and if there is'nt any ask for them, for me it has to be a good mix of looks and personality, but if im going to be honest, they can be the nicest person i have ever met if i don't find them attractive i wont play, good personality does not sway it for me lol |
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Lasy year I rejected a guy on looks.
He recontacted me this year and we chatted and laughed so muc. I then asked him for a face pic, which he sent with the words, here goes nothing, I looked and realised who he was.
After meeting up for a coffee we had such a good chemistry between us, the sex is brill and he has really grown on my.
So I say looks aren't that important, personality and the ability to make me laugh definately are! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to burst some bubbles here but girls, you can look like the girl of my dreams with a body to match but if you ain't got the personality you ain't got a chance of getting into my boxers.
Now I know I am a skinny old git who was the cause of the "ugly tree" saying but that doesn't matter, enough people want to play with me to make me happy, I am much happier that it obviously because they like my personality than if I had got a superb physique was younger and better looking, for me it is a bigger compliment.
Looks are important to me when choosing partners but personality is the deciding factor.
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i think there has to be some attraction between ppl when they meet and personality is a must i dont like ppl who love them selvs etha ..but hay its all abt having hot naughty fun and what is ugly to some is beautifull to others xx |
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By *DSRMan
over a year ago
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I haven't always been as well developed as i feel i am today with all honesty admitted... But these adult years have really opened my mind and consciousness to new found glory and understandings...
I find that a connection can be found both mentally, and physically, so looks are very important if the brain/personality connection is a weak one. But that said i can now-a-days find something beautiful in most things i see, read or hear, and the same is said for people too.
I mean just because i don't connect with someone on a topic does not mean for example... Our sexual innuendo's will be the same, or our chemistry inside the bed room. I think looks are less important but they do also build lust sometimes... & that can be something worth playing with (Not staying with lol)
Well my work here is done :P lol
Uni work for the rest of the day... talk soon x
Peace
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lasy year I rejected a guy on looks.
He recontacted me this year and we chatted and laughed so muc. I then asked him for a face pic, which he sent with the words, here goes nothing, I looked and realised who he was.
After meeting up for a coffee we had such a good chemistry between us, the sex is brill and he has really grown on my.
So I say looks aren't that important, personality and the ability to make me laugh definately are!"
now looking at this thread from the other end of the scale, if i was that guy you turned down due to looks and then you wanted to meet me later on because you had spoken to me i would have told you to bog off lol..mean that in the nicest way lol
I have had that so many times, i used to be a size 22 and noone wanted to play with me, i went to many social functions and made many freinds thro swinging, and they all saw me as the same, the nice fat woman, lovely to talk to but you would'nt shag her lol and i had a few tell me that and well the fact noone ever asked me to play i think the others action spoke louder than words, they i joined weight watchers, joined the gym and lost nearly 8 stone going down to a size 10/12 and it was amazing howe many people who had no interest in me before suddenly started chatting to me with slightly more interest than they had ever before and the amount of people i had known for years that started asking if i wanted to meet, my asnwer was always the same......no, so people do judge you on looks and i know that from first hand experience, im the same person i've always been no matter what size i was so if it wasn't the way i look befor why noone wanted to play with me, well what was it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lasy year I rejected a guy on looks.
He recontacted me this year and we chatted and laughed so muc. I then asked him for a face pic, which he sent with the words, here goes nothing, I looked and realised who he was.
After meeting up for a coffee we had such a good chemistry between us, the sex is brill and he has really grown on my.
So I say looks aren't that important, personality and the ability to make me laugh definately are!
now looking at this thread from the other end of the scale, if i was that guy you turned down due to looks and then you wanted to meet me later on because you had spoken to me i would have told you to bog off lol..mean that in the nicest way lol
I have had that so many times, i used to be a size 22 and noone wanted to play with me, i went to many social functions and made many freinds thro swinging, and they all saw me as the same, the nice fat woman, lovely to talk to but you would'nt shag her lol and i had a few tell me that and well the fact noone ever asked me to play i think the others action spoke louder than words, they i joined weight watchers, joined the gym and lost nearly 8 stone going down to a size 10/12 and it was amazing howe many people who had no interest in me before suddenly started chatting to me with slightly more interest than they had ever before and the amount of people i had known for years that started asking if i wanted to meet, my asnwer was always the same......no, so people do judge you on looks and i know that from first hand experience, im the same person i've always been no matter what size i was so if it wasn't the way i look befor why noone wanted to play with me, well what was it?"
good on ya, i hope u have a huge grin on yr face wen u say no to those who are now interested but wasn't then xx |
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You look at the face pics if you like, I'll just check out the ones of his cock, that's all I'm looking for! Providing he's got a nice decent sized cock, if he's too ugly to face he can take me doggy so I don't have to look. A personality is a must though, I enjoy the chat and a giggle while we wait for him to recover for round 2 (or 3 or 4 or .....).
I suppose if he was really grotesque then it would put me off. I'll have to tell J if he ever hooks me up with Quasimodo not to let me know, but just make sure I'm wearing a blindfold before he lets him in the house.
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