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Single straight guy club questions and advise
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Is it worth it as a single guy? Give it a try, you’ll always wonder ‘what if’ if you don’t! But definitely go with a female friend the very first time, would be my best advice. At least if nobody is in the mood for chatting with a pair of newbies on the night, you will have each other to chat with, which is always preferable to an evening of your own company, feeling left out. Good luck   | |||
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"Hi mate, we have chatted via other forum threads, so happy to tell you my experience of being a single guy in clubs. First off; for your first time in any club, go with a female fwb. I cannot stress enough, the difference of reception you get as a single guy, to that of being in the company of a female. Put simply; people want to get to know you when you’re ’coupled up’, and by people, I include club hosts, as well as the clientele. Clubs are populated by established groups of friends, or ‘cliques’ for short. It’s not easy to break in to these social circles as a single guy, no matter how ‘friendly and welcoming’ every club purports to be, it will probably take several visits to get yourself known, and accepted. But, you might get lucky first time out, and have a great time, even if it’s just a sociable night, it all depends who is in, which is the exciting, unknown, appeal of the club scene
Is it worth it as a single guy? Give it a try, you’ll always wonder ‘what if’ if you don’t! But definitely go with a female friend the very first time, would be my best advice. At least if nobody is in the mood for chatting with a pair of newbies on the night, you will have each other to chat with, which is always preferable to an evening of your own company, feeling left out. Good luck "I disagree I'd speak to single guys before I'd speak to a couple & going with a FWB could limit your experience, for example when my husband and I are looking for a couple we want a real couple not FWB as you wouldn't have the same emotional connection to one another a real couple would have we may as well meet two singles Providing your polite and respectful single guys are a great addition in clubs | |||
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"Oooo which one ya thinking of going to? Just being nosey really. Only advice I can give is don't touch without asking or an invite. Common sense stuff really." Ofcourse, I would never touch without being invited or be pushy I can't thunk of a bigger red flag. I just want to meet new people, socialise and explore the scene, if anything happens it happens I wouldn't go with any expectations. Sooo first I'm thinking DareTo becuse it's literally like 5 mins away so probs the next party there. I've also been looking at Route69 and some in Swindon. Will no doubt venture out from the south west across the UK the more I get to know the scene and more people | |||
"Oooo which one ya thinking of going to? Just being nosey really. Only advice I can give is don't touch without asking or an invite. Common sense stuff really." 100%!!!!!!! Friday 21st January, at Chameleons (Darlaston), someone physically abused my Wife at the Bar! He received a slap and walked off into the crowd. This was witnessed by another gentleman and with the Management they independently identified him. The Club Management immediately revoked his membership and evicted him from the club. | |||
"Hey Fab, so I'm planning for my first club experience... Should I bring a female fwb with me or go for it alone? Have other guys here had many issues with pushy guys? I don't want to feel uncomfortable. I remember going to La Chambre for the first time as a single. Arrived, shown around then stripped, got in the hot tub where everyone else seemed to be. As I sunk into the water everyone else got out !….. But the last one to get up, a lady, said c’mon luv you can come upstairs with us. One of the better nights of my life…. So, you never know. Any general tips for first timers? Cheers! " | |||
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"Clearly I'm not a single male... so I can't say I've been in your shoes. But I think maybe I can offer some tips from my POV as to what I look for in a guy. So... firstly in event nights many clubs have chat groups on an chat app called kick (spelt minus the c). It's a great way to converse, chat, banter, tease and show you're a human being not just one of those single walking wanking zombies lol this will also give you some 'familiar' people to maybe say hello to when you're there. Secondly... don't stalk or follow people who look like they're going to play. Just be chill... be social... that's attractive. I do know a lot of single women that only like single men.... so it's not impossible to play but it can be tricky Have fun "Thank you for your solo female input, it's greatly appreciated! From my point of view, having been a solo guy several times in various clubs, I have struggled to find them to be the warm, friendly, inviting places they all sell themselves to be. My recent visit to Club Play in Blackpool being a classic example of this 
How does one find these kik groups for events? Is it a case of keeping an eye in the events forum?
I've never followed/stalked people, or wandered around with a jangly locker key, but guess I've just been unlucky with the nights, and clubs I've chosen, as I've rarely seen any solo ladies in | |||
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" Thank you for your solo female input, it's greatly appreciated! From my point of view, having been a solo guy several times in various clubs, I have struggled to find them to be the warm, friendly, inviting places they all sell themselves to be. My recent visit to Club Play in Blackpool being a classic example of this
How does one find these kik groups for events? Is it a case of keeping an eye in the events forum?
I've never followed/stalked people, or wandered around with a jangly locker key, but guess I've just been unlucky with the nights, and clubs I've chosen, as I've rarely seen any solo ladies in "Msg the host to find out if there is a chat for the event. Many of the Cupid's ones have them... I believe some of the TH ones (even tho TH isnt posted on here so you'll have to find them directly) No 3 have them for events nights too.... But of course i only know around the Manchester area. Hedonism on Feb 4th at Cupid's is looking like a wicked event with a chat! | |||
