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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
I am not straight so can’t really speak from that experience. However I always wonder why straight guys are going there apart from social aspect.
Your target audience are single ladies and couples probably.
I’d imagine single lady goes there to find another lady or a couple with bi lady at least. Couples are going there to find either bi lady, bi guy or bi couple. So if you are after some fun - that’s the wrong type of party for you.
But if you want to make new friends, perv a bit or try new things - club atmosphere is great no matter the theme of the night |
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"How are bi club nights for straight guys, is it worth going? "
Most bi nights are geared for bi men and male on male play is not just expected, but even encouraged. So unless you're "hetero flexible" at least, meaning you don't mind a bit of cock play, I would not recommend a bi night.
I obviously can't speak for all the ladies and couples but I personally go to a bi night/bi event to watch some male bi play as that's missing from a regular club night, and possibly join.
So if you are fully straight and the thought of even seeing some open male on male play turns you off, please leave the bi nights to genuinely bi or bi-curious men. It's not that entry is any cheaper on those nights anyway. |
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"How are bi club nights for straight guys, is it worth going? "
We are both bi but really struggle to approach others in that respect - generally okay finding guys to play with Char at clubs but not women for her or guys for me.
We thought about a bi night because then everyone is "fair game". Then in a WhatsApp group, it turned out that a bunch of straight guys we're going and it put us right off - if we *know* that some guys are straight, or anxiety will make us assume that all are and we'd not be able to approach any of them.
It probably says more about our own insecurities than anything else, but we'd only consider bi nights if we were assured of a purely bi attendance.
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Surely, as the name suggests, a bi night is for bi participants. If you are not bi, then all you are doing is creating uncertainty for those who seek a bi experience and specifically seek out these events. Be respectful of others and seek your entertainment with the right demographic. |
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Not 'worth going', when you are investing time and money that will get you around people who are not there to meet someone like you, as well as encourage some people to not want to visit, or to be uncomfortable with your attendance.
If you want to see men have sex, visit a gay/bi sex club or sauna.
Too often already, couples are having to fend off straight men who will pretend to be bi, just to try to get to the woman. Leave them the freedom of knowing that bi nights will only have men interested in sex with men, as well as with women. People respect honesty from others, concerning their true sexual interests
Some people aren't fully comfortable with being out either, so that you could inhibit them or increase anxiety etc.
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Flirts bar in xtasia has a bi friendly night every Thursday. We encourage everyone to come and socialise and if people hit it off, they can go into the play rooms together.
It's became a really good chill night where everyone can have a laugh and meet others  |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
just somewhere around here |
Try it but, don't get upset or angry when a guy wants to suck your cock! Or get offended when you see two males playing.
As a bi couple, it does annoy us when straight guys attend bi events and pretend to be bi just to get to females. We test them straight away....before anything happens my Husband will go to suck the guys cock.....watch them change their mind very quickly!!
A bi night is very different to a normal couples and singles night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To get your name on the list to attend bi nights at most clubs your profile will have to state you are bi and they will normally want to see verifications confirming this.
There are plenty of other nights for straight males. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't bother going, as part of a bi male straight female couple we only let you play if you fucking me as she gets her kicks from watching me getting fucked by multi guys only. We tried her joining in but only if all agreed our terms but most gents will say anything to get in the ladies knickers. So now she only watches which she just as much enjoys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try it but, don't get upset or angry when a guy wants to suck your cock! Or get offended when you see two males playing.
As a bi couple, it does annoy us when straight guys attend bi events and pretend to be bi just to get to females. We test them straight away....before anything happens my Husband will go to suck the guys cock.....watch them change their mind very quickly!!
A bi night is very different to a normal couples and singles night."
Exactly this |
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"How are bi club nights for straight guys, is it worth going? "
I don’t see an issue as long as you are bi friendly and ok with watching men playing with men and club allows straight male to attend these parties. Most bi couples won’t play with straight men so don’t go with expectation that you will only play with ladies. No one should jump on your cock thinking that you are at bi party so it’s a fair game. Same rules apply as any other night and No means No. boundaries should be agreed and respected before play. I always wonder what if Bi folks are not allowed on straight parties?  |
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"How are bi club nights for straight guys, is it worth going?
I don’t see an issue as long as you are bi friendly and ok with watching men playing with men and club allows straight male to attend these parties. Most bi couples won’t play with straight men so don’t go with expectation that you will only play with ladies. No one should jump on your cock thinking that you are at bi party so it’s a fair game. Same rules apply as any other night and No means No. boundaries should be agreed and respected before play. I always wonder what if Bi folks are not allowed on straight parties? "
It's not exactly that straight people are not allowed at bi parties, they are just discouraged from attending to make space for the people the night is geared towards. A bi event is, in most clubs, once a month, or even less often. Is it really that difficult to leave that ONE night for those that are bi? Or is the FOMO too much? |
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By *JCouple
over a year ago
Teesside |
"How are bi club nights for straight guys, is it worth going?
We are both bi but really struggle to approach others in that respect - generally okay finding guys to play with Char at clubs but not women for her or guys for me.
We thought about a bi night because then everyone is "fair game". Then in a WhatsApp group, it turned out that a bunch of straight guys we're going and it put us right off - if we *know* that some guys are straight, or anxiety will make us assume that all are and we'd not be able to approach any of them.
It probably says more about our own insecurities than anything else, but we'd only consider bi nights if we were assured of a purely bi attendance.
(Bry)"
This is exactly why straight males are not allowed at the Bi events at our club.
It's about creating a safe space where open bi sexual play is fine and encouraged mainly male to male. As let's be fair female bi sexuality is a common part of any swinging night event.
OP genuinely curious as to why you'd want to go if your "100% straight"?
KJ |
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In reality Bi nights are really Bi guy nights because every club night is a Bi Woman night.
Some clubs don't allow straight guys and women unless they come as part of a couple with a Bi other half. And also state any straight part of a couple must be bi/gay friendly.
The main thing to remember being Bi/gay is still very difficult and taboo for many males in a way it just isn't for women. So Bi nights are a safe space to indulge opening in male on male activity. So if your a straight male not attending with a bi female partner why would you want to attend at all? Bear in mind that most females there want to enjoy Bi male activity with their partners so won't be interested in what you have to offer. The vast majority of club nights are not bi male orientated nights, so go to them instead. |
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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago
dark side of the moon |
Why would you want a bi night if you are straight? Do you think the women would be easier to get into? I go to bi nights because I like to see a bit of man on man action, I don't want to see straight men freaking out & complaining that a man has come onto them or something similar.
I know Club Play checks to see if someone is genuinely bi through veris or if they personally know they are bi at their bi nights, it would defeat the complete point of bi nights to allow straight Males in |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
just somewhere around here |
"In reality Bi nights are really Bi guy nights because every club night is a Bi Woman night.
Some clubs don't allow straight guys and women unless they come as part of a couple with a Bi other half. And also state any straight part of a couple must be bi/gay friendly.
The main thing to remember being Bi/gay is still very difficult and taboo for many males in a way it just isn't for women. So Bi nights are a safe space to indulge opening in male on male activity. So if your a straight male not attending with a bi female partner why would you want to attend at all? Bear in mind that most females there want to enjoy Bi male activity with their partners so won't be interested in what you have to offer. The vast majority of club nights are not bi male orientated nights, so go to them instead."
This exactly... Mr R |
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Well done everyone for been so polite in answering OPS post.
I really had to hold back I responding.
There's nothing worse when I'm attending a bi event and chatting with a guy, then asking him to come and play with come cock. And he's straight.
I've even spoken out loud in a open play area when guys are lurching over us
I've said hey. If your not prepared to suck cock then fuck off, several guys left the room with their tail between there legs
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well done everyone for been so polite in answering OPS post.
I really had to hold back I responding.
There's nothing worse when I'm attending a bi event and chatting with a guy, then asking him to come and play with come cock. And he's straight.
I've even spoken out loud in a open play area when guys are lurching over us
I've said hey. If your not prepared to suck cock then fuck off, several guys left the room with their tail between there legs
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Ive sat in a hottub with a load of guys at a club and felt like asking for a show of hands as to who was actually bi... so I knew who I could play with. |
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"Well done everyone for been so polite in answering OPS post.
I really had to hold back I responding.
There's nothing worse when I'm attending a bi event and chatting with a guy, then asking him to come and play with come cock. And he's straight.
I've even spoken out loud in a open play area when guys are lurching over us
I've said hey. If your not prepared to suck cock then fuck off, several guys left the room with their tail between there legs
Ive sat in a hottub with a load of guys at a club and felt like asking for a show of hands as to who was actually bi... so I knew who I could play with."
Lol. That's where I'm cheeky enough to say it out loud |
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"Well done everyone for been so polite in answering OPS post.
I really had to hold back I responding.
There's nothing worse when I'm attending a bi event and chatting with a guy, then asking him to come and play with come cock. And he's straight.
I've even spoken out loud in a open play area when guys are lurching over us
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Above is the correct answer. The unique thing about a Bi event is that in a group situation a man or women should not be embarrassed approaching someone of the same sex and wanting to interact with them without the fear of rejection based on sexuality.
Unfortunately there are lots of straight guys who think its acceptable to ignore all rules and guidelines. Even though all our marketing material stresses the fact our parties are Bi every week we still get loads of enquiries from straight men. |
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By *hynot3Man
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
"Well done everyone for been so polite in answering OPS post.
I really had to hold back I responding.
There's nothing worse when I'm attending a bi event and chatting with a guy, then asking him to come and play with come cock. And he's straight.
I've even spoken out loud in a open play area when guys are lurching over us
I've said hey. If your not prepared to suck cock then fuck off, several guys left the room with their tail between there legs
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"How are bi club nights for straight guys, is it worth going? "
As a single?
No.
We expect some if the guys in couples to be straight, but find it very annoying and frustrating when the singles are too! |
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