Our first club experience was at Hellfire around a year ago at their Swish kink night. We absolutely loved it but really didn't enjoy the behaviour of the single guys.
We got surrounded by a group of them wanking while we were playing in the cinema until we had to tell them to back off because they were so close we thought we were going to get covered in cum. One guy also tried to lift the blind to get a view when we were in a private room together. They seemed to be travelling the club in packs as they dashed to see whatever action they could and it felt quite intimidating for us newbies.
Since then we have only gone back on couple's nights to avoid the issue and have always had a great time but, as we are more experienced now, we are keen to try the Swish night again in November as we love the kink side of things in the dungeon.
Since our first visit we have seen a lot more signs in the club reminding people of how to behave - mostly for single guys and also for people going to the dungeon - which is reassuring.
We know that not all single guys are a problem at clubs but a minority can spoil it for the rest. We are much more confident about setting boundaries now and will do that when we go to the Swish night again but we wondered what people's recent experience of single guys at Hellfire has been like?
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It’s been mixed.
Went with a FWB on a Wednesday and the single men were quite respectful. No one tried to lift the blinds when we were in a private room or got too close when we were in the cinema.
The Wednesday before with friends, they weren’t as respectful.
SWISH nights haven’t been too bad for us. Some arseholes, but they have been few and far between. |
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"It’s been mixed.
Went with a FWB on a Wednesday and the single men were quite respectful. No one tried to lift the blinds when we were in a private room or got too close when we were in the cinema.
The Wednesday before with friends, they weren’t as respectful.
SWISH nights haven’t been too bad for us. Some arseholes, but they have been few and far between. "
That's really helpful - thanks. At least these days we don't worry about telling guys to fuck off and it won't ruin our night. |
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"It’s been mixed.
Went with a FWB on a Wednesday and the single men were quite respectful. No one tried to lift the blinds when we were in a private room or got too close when we were in the cinema.
The Wednesday before with friends, they weren’t as respectful.
SWISH nights haven’t been too bad for us. Some arseholes, but they have been few and far between.
That's really helpful - thanks. At least these days we don't worry about telling guys to fuck off and it won't ruin our night. "
I have threatened guys with my floggers when they try and get to close. Even had to chase off a d*unk woman who tried to touch my partner’s hair during a scene. |
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I've been to 3 in the last 4 months and the guys have been outnumbered by the couples. I've not seen anything that would be described as inappropriate behaviour from the single guys on the swish nights I've been to. It seems well run and I'm sure the regulars would call out poor conduct.
Never forget the rule of 3; no, no, fuck off.
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"Our first club experience was at Hellfire around a year ago at their Swish kink night. We absolutely loved it but really didn't enjoy the behaviour of the single guys.
We got surrounded by a group of them wanking while we were playing in the cinema until we had to tell them to back off because they were so close we thought we were going to get covered in cum. One guy also tried to lift the blind to get a view when we were in a private room together. They seemed to be travelling the club in packs as they dashed to see whatever action they could and it felt quite intimidating for us newbies.
Since then we have only gone back on couple's nights to avoid the issue and have always had a great time but, as we are more experienced now, we are keen to try the Swish night again in November as we love the kink side of things in the dungeon.
Since our first visit we have seen a lot more signs in the club reminding people of how to behave - mostly for single guys and also for people going to the dungeon - which is reassuring.
We know that not all single guys are a problem at clubs but a minority can spoil it for the rest. We are much more confident about setting boundaries now and will do that when we go to the Swish night again but we wondered what people's recent experience of single guys at Hellfire has been like?
We have found the single guys there very respectful, particularly on a Wednesday evening
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"It’s been mixed.
Went with a FWB on a Wednesday and the single men were quite respectful. No one tried to lift the blinds when we were in a private room or got too close when we were in the cinema.
The Wednesday before with friends, they weren’t as respectful.
SWISH nights haven’t been too bad for us. Some arseholes, but they have been few and far between.
That's really helpful - thanks. At least these days we don't worry about telling guys to fuck off and it won't ruin our night.
I have threatened guys with my floggers when they try and get to close. Even had to chase off a d*unk woman who tried to touch my partner’s hair during a scene. "
Oh we once had a d*unk woman come over and start trying to play with us without consent on a couple's night once and I had to tell her twice to back off. So it's definitely not just single men who are idiots and forget about consent. |
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We have found the single guys there very respectful, particularly on a Wednesday evening
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Thanks. We'd never be able to get there on a Wednesday night as we aren't local but that's good to know. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"It’s been mixed.
Went with a FWB on a Wednesday and the single men were quite respectful. No one tried to lift the blinds when we were in a private room or got too close when we were in the cinema.
The Wednesday before with friends, they weren’t as respectful.
SWISH nights haven’t been too bad for us. Some arseholes, but they have been few and far between.
That's really helpful - thanks. At least these days we don't worry about telling guys to fuck off and it won't ruin our night.
I have threatened guys with my floggers when they try and get to close. Even had to chase off a d*unk woman who tried to touch my partner’s hair during a scene.
Oh we once had a d*unk woman come over and start trying to play with us without consent on a couple's night once and I had to tell her twice to back off. So it's definitely not just single men who are idiots and forget about consent. "
I can believe that! Some women can be worse, clearly no idea what consent means |
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Can safely say the ratio of “know how to behave vs don’t know how to behave” single guys was about as expected last night.
The majority were very respectful and watched us in the dungeon from a respectful distance enjoying the show, one however decided it would be ok mid scene to declare “putting on a great show, would it be ok for her to play with my cock while you keep doing what you are doing?” I guess for some seeing others play in the flesh gets a bit too much.
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