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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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I'd love to give the club scene a try. Only problem is I'm single and not sure i have the balls to go alone 😂
Any advice?
This is not an invitation to head to my inbox. I'm genuinely looking for any advice. Thanks. |
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Honestly,clubs are not as daunting as you think. Maybe try an organised group social first. You might meet some people there who you would feel comfortable visiting a club with.
A good club buddy is a real find in the lifestyle.
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Can absolutely recommend Chameleons Wednesbury OP , was our first club years ago ,friendly respectful,play if you want it or just mingle and see what's going on. Hardest part is going through the door but you'll be fine honestly  |
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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"Honestly,clubs are not as daunting as you think. Maybe try an organised group social first. You might meet some people there who you would feel comfortable visiting a club with.
A good club buddy is a real find in the lifestyle.
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Yeah,it's definitely a daunting thought.
That is an idea,yes. I would still have the problem of going on my own,though.
That is my thinking,to find a club buddy, but I've not had much luck up to now. I'm rural so that doesn't help  |
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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"Can absolutely recommend Chameleons Wednesbury OP , was our first club years ago ,friendly respectful,play if you want it or just mingle and see what's going on. Hardest part is going through the door but you'll be fine honestly "
Yes, it's Chameleons I've been looking at
Haha, I guess I need to put on my big girl pants and just do it 😅
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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"I’d recommend looking for events that have a pre event chat, that way you can make connections in advance, even if they’re just social. "
I didn't realise that was a thing. Great suggestion. Thank you. |
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"I'd love to give the club scene a try. Only problem is I'm single and not sure i have the balls to go alone 😂
Any advice?
This is not an invitation to head to my inbox. I'm genuinely looking for any advice. Thanks."
I regularly attend Ignite on my own. The first time I did it I was sat in the car park on the phone to a friend, and very nearly drove away. He persuaded me to give it a go, saying the worst that could happen is that I go in , didn't like it and leave but just imagine all the good things that could happen.
I normally attend socials there and couples/single ladies nights and have made some good friends through it. The other thing that I do if I know I'm going on my own and my friends aren't going to be there is to look at the meets and see who has said they are going. I'll reach out to them beforehand just to say hello and hopefully have a friendly face inside to look for. If you tell the staff you are on your own, they will normally look out for you as well.
Chams is on my bucket list to try so need to be brave and venture there on my own as well.
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"Can absolutely recommend Chameleons Wednesbury OP , was our first club years ago ,friendly respectful,play if you want it or just mingle and see what's going on. Hardest part is going through the door but you'll be fine honestly
Yes, it's Chameleons I've been looking at
Haha, I guess I need to put on my big girl pants and just do it 😅
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Do whats good for you! Note other comments on socials and they're a great idea also but promise you'll feel at home of you try Chams and wish you every good luck with it |
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"I'd love to give the club scene a try. Only problem is I'm single and not sure i have the balls to go alone 😂
Any advice?
This is not an invitation to head to my inbox. I'm genuinely looking for any advice. Thanks."
First bit of advice - don’t be afraid to try - they’re amazing fun safe sexy spaces for single women. Every single female friend I have feels safer alone wearing nothing but lingerie in a swingers club than going to a pub, bar or vanilla club with pissed up people. Everyone is there for a good time - being friendly and drinking excessively is very rare to see and the men are generally well behaved as they are regulated by club rules and value their membership. There are of course some chancers and dickheads (couples too) but a firm ‘No Thank You’ will send them on their way.
2. Pick a nice reputable club on a hosted night or an evening theme that suits you. Saturday nights are often couples and single ladies only but can be a bit hit or miss for single ladies. Guest list only nights are a good choice too. Avoid Hotwife/ greedy girl nights until you’ve got a couple of visits and are more confident - they can be a bit overwhelming as a first experience.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask a couple, another single lady or single gent to go with. No obligation to hang out with them but it’s a great way to be introduced, calm nerves and ease your first experience.
4. You will not be jumped on the moment you walk in the door! It’s a very social space, people there will be courteous, welcoming and fun.
My first club visit was to Liberty Elite. I went alone, sat in the car in the carpark for 20 minutes, heart thumping. Had trouble making my legs move properly to walk to the front door. Could barely write my details down for membership. But then walked in the bar area, loads of lovely people laughing, chatting have a great time. Immediately relaxed, someone gave me a tour, chatted to people (admitted it was my first time). It was a fantastic night and a great experience. Clubs have become a important / significant social escape, providing fun friendly places for me to go to, use the sauna, sitting in the jacuzzi with a drink, chatting with other naked people from all walks of life, all shapes, sizes colours and creeds.
Have a try. |
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"I'd love to give the club scene a try. Only problem is I'm single and not sure i have the balls to go alone 😂
Any advice?
This is not an invitation to head to my inbox. I'm genuinely looking for any advice. Thanks.
I regularly attend Ignite on my own. The first time I did it I was sat in the car park on the phone to a friend, and very nearly drove away. He persuaded me to give it a go, saying the worst that could happen is that I go in , didn't like it and leave but just imagine all the good things that could happen.
I normally attend socials there and couples/single ladies nights and have made some good friends through it. The other thing that I do if I know I'm going on my own and my friends aren't going to be there is to look at the meets and see who has said they are going. I'll reach out to them beforehand just to say hello and hopefully have a friendly face inside to look for. If you tell the staff you are on your own, they will normally look out for you as well.
Chams is on my bucket list to try so need to be brave and venture there on my own as well.
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Just to add to this, if you let the staff at Ignite know its your first time, as they show you around, they will often introduce you to regulars who they feel will be happy to talk to you.
Ignite is a good club, especially on the social nights, for first timers |
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"Can absolutely recommend Chameleons Wednesbury OP , was our first club years ago ,friendly respectful,play if you want it or just mingle and see what's going on. Hardest part is going through the door but you'll be fine honestly
Yes, it's Chameleons I've been looking at
Haha, I guess I need to put on my big girl pants and just do it 😅
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Chameleons is our favourite club, however there are lots of places and they generally do keep an eye on you if it's your first time and of course being a single lady. The hardest part is walking through the doors...you then realise that most people are friendly and sociable.
Best of luck in whatever you decide to do OP x |
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"Can absolutely recommend Chameleons Wednesbury OP , was our first club years ago ,friendly respectful,play if you want it or just mingle and see what's going on. Hardest part is going through the door but you'll be fine honestly
Yes, it's Chameleons I've been looking at
Haha, I guess I need to put on my big girl pants and just do it 😅
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Chams is my local, one of the friendliest clubs around, staff are great and will look after you. Regulars and the occasionals are friendly. There aren’t any hosted nights at Chams which have the guest chat groups like Liberty Elite or Vanilla Alternative but that doesn’t matter. |
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Clubs for single women are amazing I have most of my meets via clubs.
Don't be daunted in 15 years I can count on 1 hand my not so great experiences.
You're in control and women tend to be well looked after in clubs x |
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"I'd love to give the club scene a try. Only problem is I'm single and not sure i have the balls to go alone 😂
Any advice?
This is not an invitation to head to my inbox. I'm genuinely looking for any advice. Thanks."
Single ladies in clubs are the most sought-after denomination, so you won’t be on your own for long once inside  |
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I can't really speak on your perspective as I'm not sure how clubs are experienced by single women, but as someone who has been as a single guy, it can be pretty daunting and you can feel out of place if you don't know anyone and it feels like everyone else knows each other.
I would suggest looking at the meets page and see who else is going and message them beforehand if they take your fancy so you have someone to chat to straight away and it can ease you into the night.
Any events with group chats can be good too but again, the drawback of those group chats is that everyone only interacts with people they know rather than any newbies but it's still worth a shot! |
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By *aandLoCouple 28 weeks ago
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"I can't really speak on your perspective as I'm not sure how clubs are experienced by single women, but as someone who has been as a single guy, it can be pretty daunting and you can feel out of place if you don't know anyone and it feels like everyone else knows each other.
I would suggest looking at the meets page and see who else is going and message them beforehand if they take your fancy so you have someone to chat to straight away and it can ease you into the night.
Any events with group chats can be good too but again, the drawback of those group chats is that everyone only interacts with people they know rather than any newbies but it's still worth a shot!"
To be fair it feels like everyone already knows each other when we as a couple go into a new club, the first few times. And sadly not many regulars will go out of their way to chat to newbies. Human nature is such that we gravitate to those we know, for our own comfort.
But the suggestion of interacting with chat about upcoming club nights or socials is solid. We met a few new people last night at Ignite who we'd chatted to online beforehand. x |
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"To be fair it feels like everyone already knows each other when we as a couple go into a new club, the first few times. And sadly not many regulars will go out of their way to chat to newbies. Human nature is such that we gravitate to those we know, for our own comfort.
But the suggestion of interacting with chat about upcoming club nights or socials is solid. We met a few new people last night at Ignite who we'd chatted to online beforehand. x"
Yeah, I get that when people are in their comfort zones, they rarely stray away but being on the receiving end of being looked through and ignored for most of the night when you've put the effort in, as I've experienced, it doesn't feel great and it's why I've knocked clubs on the head as it always feels like a gamble.
But if you do find people to chat to and they're open to speaking to you as well, you can have a great night! |
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"To be fair it feels like everyone already knows each other when we as a couple go into a new club, the first few times. And sadly not many regulars will go out of their way to chat to newbies. Human nature is such that we gravitate to those we know, for our own comfort.
But the suggestion of interacting with chat about upcoming club nights or socials is solid. We met a few new people last night at Ignite who we'd chatted to online beforehand. x
Yeah, I get that when people are in their comfort zones, they rarely stray away but being on the receiving end of being looked through and ignored for most of the night when you've put the effort in, as I've experienced, it doesn't feel great and it's why I've knocked clubs on the head as it always feels like a gamble.
But if you do find people to chat to and they're open to speaking to you as well, you can have a great night!"
I feel your pain mate! Clubs can be the most soul-destroying, self confidence-crushing places to be as a single guy. 8 out of 10 visits, I've left after about an hour and a half, tired of the 'Moses parting the waves' phenomenon.... 
The OP will be fine though, wherever she chooses to visit. Just let the staff know it's your first time, and you're by yourself. They will look after you, not least because they want hot, single ladies like you frequenting their club....  |
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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Thank you all so much for your responses 
There's some great advice and reassuring too(being a woman 😏)
I have messaged another female on the thread in my position and we are hopefully meeting up towards the end of Nov to attend together 😁
I will update if it happens 🤞
Thanks again,y'all |
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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I've messaged another single female on here.. We are hoping to go together.
Perhaps start your own thread and try to find someone in your position nearby.
It sounds much harder for fellas to be welcomed  |
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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"100% Chameleons - there's enough places there to hang out and chat, and if you want to explore everyone is so respectful and No always means No and nobody will be upset if you do say No."
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 28 weeks ago
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"If you go to a club that has a pool or jacuzzi there is something to do other than sit in the bar lounge area. It may be a more comfortable experience for you. Good luck - enjoy! "
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By (user no longer on site) 28 weeks ago
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I used to live in Newtown many years ago! Pity I'm nowhere near now or I'd take you whichever you wanted NSA! It's easy really once you're through the door! Hang about and wait for another woman to go in with?? The staff anywhere will guide you and look after you!! Chams is your best bet down there! I'm going 12th or 14th Nov depending on weather! Good luck! |
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I love chams it genuinely is such a safe and inviting place.
The staff are amazing, the people are typically lovely.
once you've been once you'll be fine. I do understand the nerves though, I was lucky and found someone that I felt comfortable with to give it a try and they took me. Since that first time I've been going alone, a club buddy is a really nice find though .
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 27 weeks ago
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"I’m thinking of going to Chams soon. I have never been to a club scene before. What would I wear? Heals? So confusing I will probably get there and chicken out. "
A few people have said heels are not a good idea... lots of stairs apparently...I'll be wearing my sexy sliders when i go 😜😂 |
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"I’m thinking of going to Chams soon. I have never been to a club scene before. What would I wear? Heals? So confusing I will probably get there and chicken out.
A few people have said heels are not a good idea... lots of stairs apparently...I'll be wearing my sexy sliders when i go 😜😂"
I have a sparkly pair of sandals for summer and then ballet pumps for winter. |
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By *otstuff77 OP Woman 27 weeks ago
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"I’m thinking of going to Chams soon. I have never been to a club scene before. What would I wear? Heals? So confusing I will probably get there and chicken out.
A few people have said heels are not a good idea... lots of stairs apparently...I'll be wearing my sexy sliders when i go 😜😂
I have a sparkly pair of sandals for summer and then ballet pumps for winter. "
Haha,yeah, I'm sure I could find something a bit more flattering..thanks for the ideas |
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"I’m thinking of going to Chams soon. I have never been to a club scene before. What would I wear? Heals? So confusing I will probably get there and chicken out. "
I think you’ll be fine, it may be me that’s more nervous lol |
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"I'd love to give the club scene a try. Only problem is I'm single and not sure i have the balls to go alone 😂
Any advice?
This is not an invitation to head to my inbox. I'm genuinely looking for any advice. Thanks."
u found clubs liberating as a single woman... and spent over 2 decades attending by myself... often taking new ladies for their first club visits |
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Totally go alone. I know its nerve-wracking but its a great experience and opportunity to boost self confidence doing it yourself. The best way to discover the scene is to discover it yourself and find your own path without hanging on someone's coattails. Because this scene is different for everyone. And as much as its a dive into the unknown clubs are safe spaces and they will look after you. Especially when you tell them its your first time.
Make sure you get all the practical stuff and information squared away before you visit. Even the little stuff like is it cash only? Check the website and if you still have questions just phone the club. |
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