So I've been to both once before (wasn't the best experience). I went there not expecting much but I walked into a pretty judgemental and clicky atmosphere.
I'm thinking of trying one of them again next month but unsure.
What are your thoughts?
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"In what way did you find them judgemental?"
In the way that a middle aged woman screamed in my face that I wasn't to be near her because she didn't want single guys near her. And got very confrontation. And I also was looked up and down in almost disgust. I was dressed straight from a social so not scruffy. Plus I didn't dress down either. That was Pandora's.
Then at quest I again got plenty of looks of not being welcome there and even a few comments of there being too many single guys there already and they don't need more around.
I have spoken to people on here and at socials since about this and they have said I just had bad luck with the nights. This is what has led to me wanting to try again
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"In what way did you find them judgemental?
In the way that a middle aged woman screamed in my face that I wasn't to be near her because she didn't want single guys near her. And got very confrontation. And I also was looked up and down in almost disgust. I was dressed straight from a social so not scruffy. Plus I didn't dress down either. That was Pandora's.
Then at quest I again got plenty of looks of not being welcome there and even a few comments of there being too many single guys there already and they don't need more around.
I have spoken to people on here and at socials since about this and they have said I just had bad luck with the nights. This is what has led to me wanting to try again
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With quest it depends on the night but on event nights the ratio of men are a good mix during weekends. I've never heard any complaints of having too many men at my events so I'm wondering if you've been on the 2nd Thursday or a Tuesday as I'm guessing you're not a member? |
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Quest gets our vote. We’ve been to each a couple of times and both times at pandoras we weren’t impressed. Simple things like toilets in a very bad state an hour after opening and staff weren’t bothered when we told them.
Found quest a lot more welcoming each time too |
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Quest would be my suggestion. I get that as a single female my experience may be different but I’ve never felt uncomfortable in quest. As long as they are respectful and polite, I’ve never seen a single male treated like they shouldn’t be there personally. |
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"In what way did you find them judgemental?
In the way that a middle aged woman screamed in my face that I wasn't to be near her because she didn't want single guys near her. And got very confrontation. And I also was looked up and down in almost disgust. I was dressed straight from a social so not scruffy. Plus I didn't dress down either. That was Pandora's.
Then at quest I again got plenty of looks of not being welcome there and even a few comments of there being too many single guys there already and they don't need more around.
I have spoken to people on here and at socials since about this and they have said I just had bad luck with the nights. This is what has led to me wanting to try again
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Been to Quest three times now as a single guy and always found the staff and clientele very friendly tbh.aybe as others said you just had a bad night, I'd try it again to be sure. |
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Then at quest I again got plenty of looks of not being welcome there and even a few comments of there being too many single guys there already and they don't need more around.
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I have been to Quest hundreds of times and have never heard comments like this. You were very unlucky. |
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"In what way did you find them judgemental?
In the way that a middle aged woman screamed in my face that I wasn't to be near her because she didn't want single guys near her. And got very confrontation. And I also was looked up and down in almost disgust. I was dressed straight from a social so not scruffy. Plus I didn't dress down either. That was Pandora's.
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How close were you to the woman before she screamed at you ?
As you didn't dress down didn't you not go upstairs at Pandora's? Or did she scream at you because you were in a playroom not dressed down ? |
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"In what way did you find them judgemental?
In the way that a middle aged woman screamed in my face that I wasn't to be near her because she didn't want single guys near her. And got very confrontation. And I also was looked up and down in almost disgust. I was dressed straight from a social so not scruffy. Plus I didn't dress down either. That was Pandora's.
How close were you to the woman before she screamed at you ?
As you didn't dress down didn't you not go upstairs at Pandora's? Or did she scream at you because you were in a playroom not dressed down ? "
I was downstairs, literally wasn't even looking at her I walked towards a group to have a chat and then boom she's in my face. |
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As someone who’s tried both, please try again!
I personally didn’t feel comfortable in Pandoras and I don’t think I’d try again, but I’d never say never.
However, I’ve been to quest a few times now, and I’ve never had a problem, I don’t think the single men there did either. Everyone was friendly, welcoming and the atmosphere was amazing!
Good luck 
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"As someone who’s tried both, please try again!
I personally didn’t feel comfortable in Pandoras and I don’t think I’d try again, but I’d never say never.
However, I’ve been to quest a few times now, and I’ve never had a problem, I don’t think the single men there did either. Everyone was friendly, welcoming and the atmosphere was amazing!
Good luck
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What about Pandora's made you uncomfortable? |
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"So I've been to both once before (wasn't the best experience). I went there not expecting much but I walked into a pretty judgemental and clicky atmosphere.
I'm thinking of trying one of them again next month but unsure.
What are your thoughts?
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I've been to several clubs as a single guy mate, and it's very routine to feel like a leper if you're on your own, and don't know a soul inside.
I've not been to Quest or Pandoras, but I will at some point, and look forward to being pleasantly surprised! For a change lol..... 
Have a look at Club f in Stanley, or the new place Babylon in Sunderland? Neither are that far from you?
I approach every club visit with an open mind, and zero expectations other than having an alternative night out. If I felt welcome, all the better  |
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That's very very unusual for Pandoras. We have been going there 3 years now and everyone has always been welcoming and friendly and I (Jason) am no oil painting lol. She definitely doesn't sound like one of the regulars. |
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