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LADIES IN CLUBS - What do you look for in a Club Night?
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Here is a question for the ladies, what do you look for in a club night?
There are so many themed nights now in clubs? Does a theme attract you to a night?
Do you look for a particular feature? Like a licensed bar or lockable private Playrooms?
Do you prefer a dress down club or a smart dress club?
Let's hear what the ladies look for in a lifestyle club.
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We like a mix of play rooms . If going with a couple that we have pre built a connection with it’s nice to retain that intimacy , equally we love a show ( albeit hubby doesn’t massively like men standing watching wanking as puts him off )
The opportunity to pre connect with people going ( via chat platform ) is also great .
We have always said some ice breaker games whilst corny would really help people mix x |
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I enjoy a mix of open play rooms and private lockable rooms, maybe with viewing windows or stable doors? I don't always feel comfortable playing in the open, but a lockable room with a viewing window satisfies my need to feel safe, as well as my need to "show off".
I don't mind theme nights, they can be fun finding the right outfit. |
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For us theme nights with elaborate costumes are a bit of a waste though we do appreciate the effort.
Ones where the music is themed though attract us... The Dirty Dancing/Grease night coming up at Club Play is a winner for us! |
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Single guys! Good quality, friendly, flirty single guys are what a lot of single girls are looking for at club nights. Events that "limit" guys to like 10 or something are no good, especially as the chosen few are invariably always the same guys who are friends with the host or something.
I would love to see a club actively encouraging single guys to join rather than making them feel like just cashcows, perhaps offering a free induction or something or a club social event to get them across the door for the first time. |
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"Single guys! Good quality, friendly, flirty single guys are what a lot of single girls are looking for at club nights. Events that "limit" guys to like 10 or something are no good, especially as the chosen few are invariably always the same guys who are friends with the host or something.
I would love to see a club actively encouraging single guys to join rather than making them feel like just cashcows, perhaps offering a free induction or something or a club social event to get them across the door for the first time. "
yes, I agree. I'd happily play with single men in a club, but most make a mistake of not talking, just staring, sometimes with their cock out, as if to say "look what I have". That's a totally wrong approach for me, I need my brain stimulated before my body can be- and the only way to achieve that is to have a little bit of a conversation with me.
So if the club could have an introductory event for single men, where they wouldn't have to pay an arm and a leg to get in, and where, maybe, at least for the first hour, it was just a social, that could help with the nerves? Though I guess it would also depend on the men's state of mind. If they were hell bent on "getting their dicks wet", then any kind of introductory social would not help. |
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I was warned about cliques when I started to go to clubs. I’ve been lucky and always had people invite me into their social group for the night and it’s made me feel welcome and want to go back to that club but I appreciate that my experience was lucky and a lot of people won’t have had this.
I was going to events at random in different clubs, a month or more apart but became a regular when I found friends at my local club. An event that focuses on the social aspect as much as play, with games and mixing up the crowd would be attractive to me if going to a new club. It would feel less intimidating.
Other than that. Lockers, no phones, visible security presence, hosts that provide a good tour and clearly know people and introduce you as you go around. A DJ rather than a playlist. A DJ can read the room and respond, lift the vibe, set the mood, keep the energy going. A playlist can’t. |
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By *aandLoCouple 3 weeks ago
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Theme nights can be fun but we won't go out of our way to dress up - other than Xmas. Dress down clubs are great for when we just want to chill in the spa but we do enjoy getting dressed up and socialising.
I think a mixed of rooms is important as we've seen the most virile of men flop under the gaze of others.
We also enjoy a locked room but with viewing windows/bars.
Bit of everything really, lol
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I don't like clubs which are immediate dress down on arrival. I like to dress down before going into the playrooms. I won't go back to the club which lets men fully clothed in coats go into the playrooms. I would never go to a naked night. |
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I (Kaz), like lockable rooms...I am not too much of an exhibitionist and like privacy. I have my moments though 
I am not a fan of dress down clubs, although used to go to them when I was younger. I like to see people make an effort and dress up..I find attraction in people dressing up for a night and not looking like they are going shopping..
As for themes, I think they have their place as a previous poster mentioned such as Christmas and Halloween but not a theme every week..this is very much horses for courses though.
Music.. sexy music at the right level is very much an aphrodisiac for me..but banging ear splitting music takes away chances for chatting to other people without saying 'pardon' every couple of minutes.
You cant please everyone so when choosing where we go we try to get the right mix of what we are looking for as best as we can. Xxx |
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Clubs that allow and encourage single guys, especially on a Saturday night. I'm not too bothered about themed nights as it can add an extra cost for an outfit.
Good amount of guys, mix of open and private play rooms and reasonable entrance /membership fees. I'm not local to any club really so memberships can make trying a new club expensive! |
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Hi, I like theme nights because I'm nervous when going to clubs and it feels like I can hide behind the costume. Also I have a large collection of outfits and it gives me a bit more confidence to dress in a sexy outfit. We don't find the idea of naked people or people in towels particularly sexy so don't like dress down. I like private rooms, it helps to be able to get out of the way of the same unwanted men following us around. This was one of the reasons we stopped going to clubs. However we're going to try another this month, hope it works out 🤞.
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"Single guys! Good quality, friendly, flirty single guys are what a lot of single girls are looking for at club nights. Events that "limit" guys to like 10 or something are no good, especially as the chosen few are invariably always the same guys who are friends with the host or something.
I would love to see a club actively encouraging single guys to join rather than making them feel like just cashcows, perhaps offering a free induction or something or a club social event to get them across the door for the first time. "
We totally hear you and agree with actively encouraging quality guys to clubs. We think quality guys are an asset to a club party night |
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"I was warned about cliques when I started to go to clubs. I’ve been lucky and always had people invite me into their social group for the night and it’s made me feel welcome and want to go back to that club but I appreciate that my experience was lucky and a lot of people won’t have had this.
I was going to events at random in different clubs, a month or more apart but became a regular when I found friends at my local club. An event that focuses on the social aspect as much as play, with games and mixing up the crowd would be attractive to me if going to a new club. It would feel less intimidating.
Other than that. Lockers, no phones, visible security presence, hosts that provide a good tour and clearly know people and introduce you as you go around. A DJ rather than a playlist. A DJ can read the room and respond, lift the vibe, set the mood, keep the energy going. A playlist can’t."
We totally agree about a live DJ to keep the energy flowing. We love our music at V2V |
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I look for ones that have a good mix of couples and single ladies. Not into theme nights at all. Seems to add unnecessary pressure on an already anxious time. Dress down is ok as long as there is an option to cover up with a towel. |
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We totally hear you and agree with actively encouraging quality guys to clubs. We think quality guys are an asset to a club party night"
Then I shall look forward to taking a road trip to try your club soon 😀 |
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We totally hear you and agree with actively encouraging quality guys to clubs. We think quality guys are an asset to a club party night
Then I shall look forward to taking a road trip to try your club soon 😀"
We would love to welcome you to the V2V Club x |
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I agree with a lot of what the ladies have said already and is what I like too - enjoy theme nights, mixed play spaces of open and private, and would love to see more single men.
However, the downside of that is clubs that allow any single men to walk in off the street, take their money and let them roam as this is where it becomes an issue for single women, especially in clubs that are not overly busy as a rule (usually because they’re run down, dirty and full of cliques). I find with these men and these clubs, it’s very much a ‘I’ve paid so I get’ attitude and this is where it becomes a dangerous environment. I have been hounded as one of a few single women in a club, followed everywhere I go (even to the point they hover outside the toilet), constantly inappropriately and non consensually touched, and there was one time I’d been playing with an open door and we finished, I was followed by one of these ‘wanking dead’ guys who said ‘what, don’t I get a go then?!’ and when you report them to staff, they do nothing and they still allow these men to attend and put women at risk.
Clubs that allow single men who are on dedicated swinging sites on a guest list is far better, even moreso if they’re verified as you know they won’t be constantly hassling you as a single female and are much less of a risk |
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"I agree with a lot of what the ladies have said already and is what I like too - enjoy theme nights, mixed play spaces of open and private, and would love to see more single men.
However, the downside of that is clubs that allow any single men to walk in off the street, take their money and let them roam as this is where it becomes an issue for single women, especially in clubs that are not overly busy as a rule (usually because they’re run down, dirty and full of cliques). I find with these men and these clubs, it’s very much a ‘I’ve paid so I get’ attitude and this is where it becomes a dangerous environment. I have been hounded as one of a few single women in a club, followed everywhere I go (even to the point they hover outside the toilet), constantly inappropriately and non consensually touched, and there was one time I’d been playing with an open door and we finished, I was followed by one of these ‘wanking dead’ guys who said ‘what, don’t I get a go then?!’ and when you report them to staff, they do nothing and they still allow these men to attend and put women at risk.
Clubs that allow single men who are on dedicated swinging sites on a guest list is far better, even moreso if they’re verified as you know they won’t be constantly hassling you as a single female and are much less of a risk"
Agree with this 💯! Lots of single guys, just not any single guy!
I've had the "when's my turn" comment too 🤢🤢 |
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Happy for dress down clubs as find some non dress down clubs can take longer to get started and can end being extended social meets.
Not interested in theme nights find some slightly cringing.
Do like nights where single guys are invited but not overrun.
We tend to like a mix but would be turned off by a theme night.
But, each to their own. |
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I like the party nights because they tend to be a bit busier in most clubs.
What puts me off is men or couples who don’t speak and expect that you are going to fuck them.
Smelly men. Not capable of conversation. Arrogant. Cocky. Wanking dead. All of this puts me off. I have no idea why they think it will get them anywhere.
I think they all need a lesson before being allowed in a club
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"Single guys! Good quality, friendly, flirty single guys are what a lot of single girls are looking for at club nights. Events that "limit" guys to like 10 or something are no good, especially as the chosen few are invariably always the same guys who are friends with the host or something.
I would love to see a club actively encouraging single guys to join rather than making them feel like just cashcows, perhaps offering a free induction or something or a club social event to get them across the door for the first time. "
I couldn’t agree more. Lots of clubs limit single guys!!
I don’t like theme nights much either |
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(with the possible exception of Halloween) Grown adults wandering around in fancy dress is embarrassing (in my opinion, but plenty seem to like it). I never know where to look for fear of laughing, or my face saying what my mind is thinking! 
