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"The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending. Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why. Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen. It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed. We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes. Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well. " We agree, as club owners it can almost be comical. We insist guys come along on a Wednesday social so we can help them with etiquette etc but some are just beyond help, or should begin with a shower !! It's simple really, smell nice, look nice and talk to people, the rest will follow. Remember swinging is about socialising and the ladies feeling great, so relax and enjoy ... Expect nothing and it will be fine for all xx | |||
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"Single men at swingers clubs in general? I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on. of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people.. " | |||
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"The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending. Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why. Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen. It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed. We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes. Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well. " The simple reason why Rios does not tick any of those boxes: Its not a swingers club. It may be a licensed spa, but the management are really only interested in their equipment not getting broken, what happens to anyone there is not their concern. | |||
"We are more than happy to chat with single men as long as they don't think it means they get a play. you can tell the nice guys who are genuinely social versus the ones wanting a quick dip " Lol, I tend to run more risk of living the impression of not being interested, haha.. as long as its a fun night and everyone's having a laugh, anything more is a bonus | |||
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"Single men at swingers clubs in general? I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on. of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people.. " see... i think there are two approaches.... you can sit in the corner like a mute lost lamb...... or you can action just mingle and talk to people... you'd be surprised... but a "hello" does go a long long way... as long as you talk to both of a couple, and realise that not every hello is a come on then you'll be fine I treat it like any normal saturday night out... go out with an open mind and no expectations.... | |||
"The club closest to you, Club F, in Stanley, has a mixed night on Saturdays, with limited single men attending. Now, we went on that particular night, and we talked to a number of the single men present, but we weren't there to play with them, we play with couples at clubs, that doesn't mean we had to ignore them but obviously some couples will because they think it will be seen as a come on, if they dont, and some single men will take it as a come on if you talk to them, so that's why. Generally, single men on the scene who are social, dress well and chat to people, including the guy, not the girl, if its a couple, will do much better than someone who turns up in shit jeans and a t-shirt with most that mornings breakfast still on it, smelling of a badgers arse. And you can laugh, but that does happen. It's also wrong to go to a club with an expectation of play, because you will not always get it (Couples don't either) if you become of that mindset, you will frequently be dissappointed. We only attend clubs on mixed nights, where the numbers of men are well regulated, they behave, the club enforces their own rules and is something we feel comfortable with. Rios would be a good example of a club which doesn't tick any of these boxes. Ourplace4fun and Club F, are two clubs that do run mixed nights very well. The simple reason why Rios does not tick any of those boxes: Its not a swingers club. It may be a licensed spa, but the management are really only interested in their equipment not getting broken, what happens to anyone there is not their concern." While it might be not be overtly advertised as a swingers club or sex club, everyone knows what it is, including the people who own it. Rios is owned by the same management that own the gay string of saunas 'Chariots' and its set up exactly the same way, their fully aware of the swingers market and orientate their club accordingly. It's just not overtly advertised as a swingers club and they don't feel obliged to control their guests accordingly. But people have sex there, both in the playrooms, and the sauna and the jacuzzis, what are the 'rest' rooms for? Not for resting.So its certainly not just a health Spa, it's primarily a sex club and that is its main source of income. It's just the same as Paradise in East London. It has a couples only night on a Saturday until midnight which is always packed out and there are swingers there on any given night, along with some naturists and other people who normally go there by accident. It is also listed on every club site in their club listings, so they may well only care about the ££ on the door and their equipment being broken, but the majority of those ££ come from the swinging scene. De facto, its a club frequented by swingers. It doesn't mean it will be any good but it still means we can comment on what it achieves and doesn't achieve, quite rightly, in its place on the scene. | |||
"Single men at swingers clubs in general? I've been to them but have a polite yet fairly cool response when mingling. I observe the other single men and see how they get on. of course there's the odd couple that's up themselves which i steer clear of, though got on well with and had a good chat with other more down to earth people.. see... i think there are two approaches.... you can sit in the corner like a mute lost lamb...... or you can action just mingle and talk to people... you'd be surprised... but a "hello" does go a long long way... as long as you talk to both of a couple, and realise that not every hello is a come on then you'll be fine I treat it like any normal saturday night out... go out with an open mind and no expectations...." Best approach 100% | |||
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