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As a married guy it’s very frustrating searching profiles to see if ladies will meet married guys or not.
Wouldn’t it be helpful if members could set a preference for this so that a filter could be applied?
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If there was a box to tick to say "wont meet married men" you would find your searches would come back with very few results.
I think the vast majority of women on here won't knowingly meet married men, which is why most men do not put their marital status on their profile. |
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Also they'd need to look at differentiating between those playing with and without permission.
I'm not sure how that could be done really.
I get what you're sayung though op, I have it on my bio, but many just ignore that anyway. |
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I personally don't meet married men but I do read the person's bio. I would hope if they are married or attached that it's in there so I can make an informed decision before messaging them or responding to them. |
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"If there was a box to tick to say "wont meet married men" you would find your searches would come back with very few results."
Not good for the website's engagement rate. But from a personal perspective, better to cut to the chase. |
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"As a married guy it’s very frustrating searching profiles to see if ladies will meet married guys or not.
Wouldn’t it be helpful if members could set a preference for this so that a filter could be applied?
Thanks "
You don't say you ARE married on your profile.
It's one of the first things I ask people if I want to talk to or meet them because I won't entertain cheating on someone else's partner. |
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"As a married guy it’s very frustrating searching profiles to see if ladies will meet married guys or not.
Wouldn’t it be helpful if members could set a preference for this so that a filter could be applied?
Thanks "
Married guys playing on here without permission are clearly not Swingers, they are chests.
That may be the reason you don't get any replies. |
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Works both ways, too; married but playing away isn't only the men. We are ENM rather than swingers (less pick-up play, more connection-forming, for want of a distinction), but if either of us see anyone's profile saying "needs discretion" then it's an instant no; it's a red flag on cheating, for me. |
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"I personally don't meet married men but I do read the person's bio. I would hope if they are married or attached that it's in there so I can make an informed decision before messaging them or responding to them."
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What about those who are attached but in "open relationships"? |
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when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business. |
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"when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business. "
Pardon??
There is nothing illicit or dishonest about swinging.
Swinging is about honesty and trust between couples.
Cheating is the opposite of swinging.
It isn't taking moral ground. It is simply that the basic rules we live by; honesty, integrity, trust, respect for each other, are all ignored when someone cheats on their unknowing partner.
Totally accept that there are many reasons, but good reasons? Not many. Not many good reason to hide things from your partner.
Agreed, it is no one's business, but just how many people come crying on here that no one wants to meet them. Why choose someone who is dishonest over someone who is honest?
Why not just stay out of the limelight??
If the cap fits, wear it. |
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"I personally don't meet married men but I do read the person's bio. I would hope if they are married or attached that it's in there so I can make an informed decision before messaging them or responding to them.
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What about those who are attached but in "open relationships"?"
Easy really.
Have your knowing partner confirm they are aware of you playing.
Shouldn't be a problem if they know already. |
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"I personally don't meet married men but I do read the person's bio. I would hope if they are married or attached that it's in there so I can make an informed decision before messaging them or responding to them.
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What about those who are attached but in "open relationships"?"
I'm inclined not to think that's quite the case |
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"when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business. "
. It's the business of those they look to meet and its not claiming moral high ground to not want to meet someone cheating on their partner.
I don't, because I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me, so I wouldn't knowingly do it to another woman.
Yes people in sexless relationships may look for sex elsewhere, but that doesn't mean everyone will want to meet them op.
You do you. |
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"I personally don't meet married men but I do read the person's bio. I would hope if they are married or attached that it's in there so I can make an informed decision before messaging them or responding to them.
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What about those who are attached but in "open relationships"?"
That's different, there's no cheating involved if it's an open relationship |
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By *aandLoCouple 13 weeks ago
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"when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business. "
I don't agree with swinging being "illicit."
I may not go into work on Monday and say 'I fucked 4 guys and 1 girl this weekend,' but that's more about being discreet with acts others feel are taboo, not because what I'm doing is illicit.
Swinging is consenting adults having sex. If a person is married and hiding their actions from their spouse, that spouse is not consenting. Then it's not swinging it's cheating. |
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"when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business.
I don't agree with swinging being "illicit."
I may not go into work on Monday and say 'I fucked 4 guys and 1 girl this weekend,' but that's more about being discreet with acts others feel are taboo, not because what I'm doing is illicit.
Swinging is consenting adults having sex. If a person is married and hiding their actions from their spouse, that spouse is not consenting. Then it's not swinging it's cheating. "
This so true.
Funny really, ever noticed how the cheaters get shitty?
Love it when they describe themseves as RESPECTFUL and HONEST.
What bullshit. |
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"when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business. "
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I'm not a swinger but even I'll concede that there is nothing illicit about swinging. Therefore you are woefully misinformed.
Those who are "worrying about OTHER people's marrital (sic) status" are simply exercising their preferences; they do not wish to meet married women/men. |
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"when we are all on a sex site for illicit meetings, it seems ridiculous for people to claim moral high ground by worrying about OTHER people's marrital status. There are many good reasons why people who love their partners still need to find sex elsewhere. That is nobody else's business.
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I'm not a swinger but even I'll concede that there is nothing illicit about swinging. Therefore you are woefully misinformed.
Those who are "worrying about OTHER people's marrital (sic) status" are simply exercising their preferences; they do not wish to meet married women/men."
Agree totally.
Funny how all the married cheating guys on here use every excuse to justify their behaviour.
It is after all their decision, but cheating, disrespecting others, abusing the trust of a partner. Hardly attractive traits are they??
Then they get defensive of their behaviour. How do you defend no morals??
How can you treat a loved one like a piece of trash? Just man up, and let them choose whether thay accept your behaviour or not!! You made your choice, let them make theirs.
I don't want to hurt her is what you hear, then why the F..K cheat on her?? |
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