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Hotlist match notification

By *oungcouple238 OP Couple over a year ago

hartlepool

Hi, I think it would be a great idea if the site implemented something were if you have someone on your hotlist and they add you to their hotlist that it should notify you as like a match or something? Does anyone think this is a good idea? X

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I do x

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By *oppyrose97Couple over a year ago

Swansea

Yep 100%. The friends list does nothing for us, we use the hot list

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi, I think it would be a great idea if the site implemented something were if you have someone on your hotlist and they add you to their hotlist that it should notify you as like a match or something? Does anyone think this is a good idea? X"

Actually a brilliant idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I'd be pleased with that

. I have seen quite a few people on the forums say they use it as a "not list" though, so that might be awkward

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By *.H.SMan over a year ago

London

I agree too good idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely agree

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

I add people who I most definitely don’t want to be matched with. So no. Not for me.

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By *r and Mrs A HornyCouple over a year ago

coventry

Definitely xx

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By *oungcouple238 OP Couple over a year ago

hartlepool

"I add people who I most definitely don’t want to be matched with. So no. Not for me. "

I don’t understand why you would add people to it you don’t want to meet? Rather than just block them?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

"I add people who I most definitely don’t want to be matched with. So no. Not for me.

I don’t understand why you would add people to it you don’t want to meet? Rather than just block them? "

There are people I know who only play bareback and I keep track of their verifications so I don't meet them.

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By *oungcouple238 OP Couple over a year ago

hartlepool

Ah that makes more sense, best to be safe than sorry

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple over a year ago

london

We like the idea. Very tinder in format but better starting position than a wink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use mine as a mix of hot list, ‘not’ list and ‘suspected psychopaths’ list, so count me out.

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

"I use mine as a mix of hot list, ‘not’ list and ‘suspected psychopaths’ list, so count me out."

I’m with you on that ... I use it to see where some undesirables are planning nights out so I can avoid lol

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

Excellent idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wonder if I’m on anyone’s hotlist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Defo a good idea

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By *asualsexMan over a year ago

Garwick & Surrounding Area

Sounds like a great idea. It’s a bit like a good favourite list

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS over a year ago

Durham

I think it would be a good idea. But i think it should be an opt in rather than on by default. A lot of people hotlist as a not list.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Isn't this just like a wink? Someone winks you, if you like them wink back. I'm on another site that has this function and it's quite useless really. I like my hotlist to be secret until I'm ready to contact them

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By *w214Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

I don't like this idea.... I fuckin love it!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Could you not have a match list in addition to the hotlist.

I like that our hotlist is private, we are infrequent swingers so we don't like to notify people that we are interested until we know we have a free night.

Otherwise we get messages like aren't you interested in us, or get accused of being time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Could you not have a match list in addition to the hotlist.

I like that our hotlist is private, we are infrequent swingers so we don't like to notify people that we are interested until we know we have a free night.

Otherwise we get messages like aren't you interested in us, or get accused of being time wasters. "

A match list would be a great idea, especially if you had the option for messages from people you've put on it to go the top of your inbox as well?

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

This is one of the better ideas ppl have come up with.id back it. It could be something as some as two hearts come up showing your a match

Good idea I like it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only have people on my hot list that I think are freaks/entertaining/horrifying or funny. So I wouldn't want this feature.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would need 2 lists then ... hotlist and notlist

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By *hewifeandiCouple over a year ago

Bristol

"Would need 2 lists then ... hotlist and notlist "

We do it's a block button,it's our not list

normal feeds then a hot list not many on that at the moment though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My hotlist isn't people I want to fuck tho, it's people I have. Some peoples are people they want to avoid too so... No, not my favourite idea

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By *orthEastJohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

Brilliant idea

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

"Would need 2 lists then ... hotlist and notlist

We do it's a block button,it's our not list

normal feeds then a hot list not many on that at the moment though "

Unless you want to see who someone has been verified by. Then it’s not so helpful.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

Sounds like it might be a good idea if implemented with a proper "Not" list at the same time. As said just blocking someone makes you blind to their club visits etc.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

"Sounds like it might be a good idea if implemented with a proper "Not" list at the same time. As said just blocking someone makes you blind to their club visits etc.

Even with that I'd want the ability to switch it off. I have a system with my hotlist, I don't want people knowing they've been added. Or removed! It's up to me to tell people.

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By *aimesoixanteneufMan over a year ago

Middlesbrough, Stockton, Darlington

I definitely agree - what a great idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Would need 2 lists then ... hotlist and notlist

We do it's a block button,it's our not list

normal feeds then a hot list not many on that at the moment though "

Oh I have the block list then there are those that I'd rather know who and what they are doing! Maybe more an avoidance list

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would put money on single guys hotlisting everyone in the hope of a match...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought it would already no?

Certainly on Fabguys it does...

I’ve added someone to my Hotlist previously and then in the hotlist updates it’s said “[profile name] You’re both on each other’s Hotlists!”

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If this feature came about I'd disable it or stop using my hotlist.

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By *orthEastJohnMan over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

"If this feature came about I'd disable it or stop using my hotlist. "
would e good, but to all so have a opt in or out ootion

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By *ary_JosephCouple over a year ago

South Shields

That's a mint idea...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this feature came about I'd disable it or stop using my hotlist. "

Me too!!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

You do realise men will hotlist every single woman within 500 miles in the hopes that someone somewhere will 'match' with them, right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Brilliant.

Let's have it Admin!!

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By *he Ring WraithMan over a year ago

Bradford

"You do realise men will hotlist every single woman within 500 miles in the hopes that someone somewhere will 'match' with them, right?

Err …. nope ! (well I suppose many will, but not all).

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

"Yes I'd be pleased with that

. I have seen quite a few people on the forums say they use it as a "not list" though, so that might be awkward

It'd be a great feature.

Those who use it as a not-list should find another way (Hey, how about a block feature. Ahem!). It's called hotlist for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm afraid I'd be against this as I use my hot list as a hot list and a not list... so unless a separate list was available it wouldn't work for me. And I have my own reasons for not blocking my nots

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It'd be useless if people opted out. And I would.

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"You do realise men will hotlist every single woman within 500 miles in the hopes that someone somewhere will 'match' with them, right?

Err …. nope ! (well I suppose many will, but not all). "

And what's the problem with that! If you don't hotlist them, then no harm done. If you do hotlist them, it's been done for a reason.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

God no. Anything that tells someone else what I have on my profile that I’ve not chosen to publish is a hideous idea.

V x

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By *ary_JosephCouple over a year ago

South Shields

This gets our vote. A hotlist match up would be great. If anyone doesn't like the idea, then just don't use the hotlist...very easy...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes i use my hotlist as a not list lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

finally ...what a great idea..

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By *aFee RougeWoman over a year ago

Luton, Bedfordshire

"Would need 2 lists then ... hotlist and notlist "

Totally with that!

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By *irkydirkyMan over a year ago

crewe

Sometimes i use my hotlist as a not list lol"

Why hotlist when you can simply block?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is a great idea in theory.

However kick out time at the boozer and horny blokes will hotlist everybody to see who is a match, then hound them to meet "we're a match".

This in turn will stop ladies hotlisting to get matches.

A novel idea might be a wink system, where you send a wink and if they wink back, they might be interested...

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By *xtra_GirthMan over a year ago

wolvrrhampton

Hello sexy ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love this idea

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By *ussyeater692Man over a year ago

Wrexham

Brilliant idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I add some people just for the funny status updates, I don't think it's a good idea.

If you fancy someone wink or even better, message them.

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By *llan55Man over a year ago

Ayrshire

Think that's a great idea

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

I use my hot list for people i want to actively avoid. So how would that work?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Sometimes i use my hotlist as a not list lol

Why hotlist when you can simply block? "

Because i want to see who these barebackers have fucked so i can avoid them too. Im not alone in thiniing like this. Also have a crazy fucked up stalker dont want to bump into in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And where meets can be narrowed down based on who they are looking for eg males, couples etc

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By *irkydirkyMan over a year ago

crewe

Sometimes i use my hotlist as a not list lol

Why hotlist when you can simply block?

Because i want to see who these barebackers have fucked so i can avoid them too. Im not alone in thiniing like this. Also have a crazy fucked up stalker dont want to bump into in clubs."

Ah yes, makes sense

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By *r_Jake70Man over a year ago

London

I’m not entirely sure of this. Some guys would hotlist every woman, just as some guys do on Tinder. Moreover, some people hotlist for ‘the future’ and don’t want the recipient to know before they are ready. The hot list gets used for a variety of purposes, not all of which are because you think someone is ‘hot’. There should absolutely be a opt-out option, but perhaps a specific ‘match me’ feature which deals exclusively with this alone. It’s certainly going to be of much greater interest to the guys, and I’m not entirely sure that’s a good thing, given the abuse that some of them send women who have deleted or not read their messages.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Mine has far more Nots, than Hots

I really wouldn't want any of those getting a match thing and actually thinking I liked them

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By *usie4uTV/TS over a year ago

Havant

GreT idea x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I use mine as a mix of hot list, ‘not’ list and ‘suspected psychopaths’ list, so count me out.

I’m with you on that ... I use it to see where some undesirables are planning nights out so I can avoid lol

I agree with the above. I use the hotlist as a 'marker/reminder' for a wide variety of reasons...including as a private blacklist of folk who are not my cuppa tea..

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By *rsbrooksandjohnCouple over a year ago

Swansea

Great idea

But read that some use the hot list as a not list or to keep track of people they don t wan t to meet . Can i suggest adding a not list for that.

Instead of blocking people put them on your not list then you can see what they re upto ( bareback players?)

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By *UNKIEMan over a year ago

south east

I've said this exact thing many times over the years ..I'm 100% in favour

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By *uckymooMan over a year ago

Mid-Cheshire

Really good plan !

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Excellent idea!

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

To those who are against the idea and use it as a 'not' list, why poo poo the idea because you use for a reason that it's not intended for! I think the fors well beat the againsts.

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"It is a great idea in theory.

However kick out time at the boozer and horny blokes will hotlist everybody to see who is a match, then hound them to meet "we're a match".

This in turn will stop ladies hotlisting to get matches.

A novel idea might be a wink system, where you send a wink and if they wink back, they might be interested..."

A novel idea! It's already there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only if Fab implemented a couple more list options like a 'watch' or 'avoid' list otherwise it's definitely a no, or most on it would be very disappointed lol. Most on my hot list have little to be hot about for me

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

"It is a great idea in theory.

However kick out time at the boozer and horny blokes will hotlist everybody to see who is a match, then hound them to meet "we're a match".

This in turn will stop ladies hotlisting to get matches.

A novel idea might be a wink system, where you send a wink and if they wink back, they might be interested...

A novel idea! It's already there."

That’s his point...

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

"To those who are against the idea and use it as a 'not' list, why poo poo the idea because you use for a reason that it's not intended for! I think the fors well beat the againsts."

There are so many people using it that way, does it not occur to you it might be quite standard? “Oh no, sorry, get that finger away from the hot list button - I’m afraid you don’t actually like that profile so you’re not allowed to keep track anonymously”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mine has far more Nots, than Hots

I really wouldn't want any of those getting a match thing and actually thinking I liked them

I like the idea that they could get a match notification but then with a middle finger emoji to say sorry but NOT match dickhead

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"To those who are against the idea and use it as a 'not' list, why poo poo the idea because you use for a reason that it's not intended for! I think the fors well beat the againsts."

And I think it will never happen. Better suggestions have been put forward and the site has not implemented them.

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"To those who are against the idea and use it as a 'not' list, why poo poo the idea because you use for a reason that it's not intended for! I think the fors well beat the againsts.

Count back through the messages, count up for and against and then make your statement again, nothing standard about it. I say again, if you use the hot list as a not list, it's your problem. That's not what it's for. Make an alternative suggestion yourself to solve your problems and don't ruin it for those who think it's a good idea. Still can't get my head around why use it as a not list when you can save messages from those you don't like and keep a track of them from there. Seems like folk are being contrary for the hell of it!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

"To those who are against the idea and use it as a 'not' list, why poo poo the idea because you use for a reason that it's not intended for! I think the fors well beat the againsts.

Gosh aren't you belligerent!

I'm not counting thanks, the fact is in the small cross section of people who use the forums there are already plenty that use it this way too. So there are probably plenty more. Who'd have thought it eh?!

There are plenty of other tools that you can use like the wink system or even, shock horror, the messaging one!

No need to tell others that using the site in the way they want to is 'their problem'. and 'ruining it for others.' Im not ruining the site for anyone. There are no set rules about how to use the tools on this site.

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"It is a great idea in theory.

However kick out time at the boozer and horny blokes will hotlist everybody to see who is a match, then hound them to meet "we're a match".

This in turn will stop ladies hotlisting to get matches.

That’s his point..."

I got in touch with Capt. Obvious. He said, and I quote "hotlist means i like you, not list means I don't. If you choose to use the hotlist for something completely different and not intended, it's your problem. He also said he would give free cheese to accompany your wine!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is no clear definition of what the Hotlist actually is.

For some it implies that the people on your hotlist is hot, i.e. sexually attractive.

For others it could mean too hot to handle like a burning ember.

A wink is more clear cut because the other person is notified. If the hotlist had been called what it is used for, it would be a stalklist / to do list / a risk to health list / a "I'd better keep an eye on this lunatic" list / an asmire from afar as I don't meet their requirements list.

What seems obvious, isn't always so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I add people who I most definitely don’t want to be matched with. So no. Not for me. "

I add them to the block list

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Some are hotlist, some are notlist lol

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

I hotlist people I would like to meet. I have a like function on another site and get an automated message saying “xx likes your profile” or “you have a like match” when we both click like.

I understand why people use the hotlist as a notlist. I rely on the private notes function and studying a users verifications before I look through the verifiers to see who they’ve played with. Anything I don’t like is another private note. If I stumble across the profile again then I look at my notes and hit the back button or update the note.

That works for me but each to their own xx

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By *entleman55Man over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

This feature is on Fabguys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's wrong with just messaging someone you like to tell them that? There are also winks to let someone know you're intetested. If they like you too you'll hear back from them.

Really don't understand the fuss and need for even more notifications.

Things work perfectly fine as they are.

Next thing people will want outomatic messages for one thing and another, automatic matches based on whatever, etc. Where does it stop?

Why not just communicate like we're meant to.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s a good idea but wouldn’t affect me as i’m Probably not on anyone’s hotlist

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"What's wrong with just messaging someone you like to tell them that? There are also winks to let someone know you're intetested. If they like you too you'll hear back from them.

Really don't understand the fuss and need for even more notifications.

Things work perfectly fine as they are.

Next thing people will want outomatic messages for one thing and another, automatic matches based on whatever, etc. Where does it stop?

Why not just communicate like we're meant to.

Mrs"

This is the most sensible reply ..... ever

V x

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"It is a great idea in theory.

However kick out time at the boozer and horny blokes will hotlist everybody to see who is a match, then hound them to meet "we're a match".

This in turn will stop ladies hotlisting to get matches.

That’s his point...

The tools that fab provides are there to be used. If we (and others) chose to use them for another purpose that is our choice. Have been doing this over about 7 years and ain't gonna change. Why are some people hung up about how others use this site? Is it really anybody elses business?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"To those who are against the idea and use it as a 'not' list, why poo poo the idea because you use for a reason that it's not intended for! I think the fors well beat the againsts.

How is people using the hotlist as a not list ruining it for others. This is not happening, it's only a suggestion and highly unlikely that fab will implement it. My system has worked well for me. A few who I like to avoid in clubs put on their updates that they are going to x club, I see that on my newsfeed and go to Y. THAT works for me and frankly that's all I am bothered about.

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"There is no clear definition of what the Hotlist actually is.

For some it implies that the people on your hotlist is hot, i.e. sexually attractive.

For others it could mean too hot to handle like a burning ember.

What seems obvious, isn't always so.

A definition of hot list, are you serious! When someone is described as 'hot' are you saying stay away. I don't think so. The menu box contains 'private notes'. Make a note of any profiles which annoy you, job done!

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"There is no clear definition of what the Hotlist actually is.

For some it implies that the people on your hotlist is hot, i.e. sexually attractive.

For others it could mean too hot to handle like a burning ember.

What seems obvious, isn't always so.

Also, a hammer is a hammer, a spanner is a spanner. If someone uses a spanner to hit a nail, fine but it's not what it's meant for!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can only assume the rational behind this is to get round other filters otherwise one would just simply message someone if one thinks they are hot and interested in meeting.

What's not so hard about messaging someone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"There is no clear definition of what the Hotlist actually is.

For some it implies that the people on your hotlist is hot, i.e. sexually attractive.

For others it could mean too hot to handle like a burning ember.

What seems obvious, isn't always so.

But that doesn't make them appear on updates. Why are you so annoyed at how others run their profiles? It really is nobody elses business. Use the tools the site gives you as you see fit (within site rules obviously).

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By *he James gangCouple over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

I'm not annoyed at how others use it, I'm annoyed at the objections to the idea. People are using it as a not list because they can't be bothered to make a private note. They're are castigating a genuinely good idea because of their own selfish methods, period.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

castigating... selfish

Actually - I use them in tandem. So I'm actually taking too steps, hardly lazy. I use the notes feature a lot but if there's someone I want to keep a particular eye on e.g. a bare backer whose Veris I want to see, I keep them on my hotlist as an alert. I don't have the time to keep proactively visiting their profiles just in case.

So not lazy at all. Or is my inefficiency now going to ruin it for you too?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

We do use our notes. As I said that doesnt link to our newsfeed. Do you seriously think that those that use the hot/not list are all that is stopping this being implemented. Seriously?? We will carry on running our profile our way....selfishly lol, cos it's for our benefit.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

How dare you run your profile how you see fit......and the same as us

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By *umpty01Man over a year ago

glasgow.

Great idea, I’d certainly hotlist more..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can only assume the rational behind this is to get round other filters otherwise one would just simply message someone if one thinks they are hot and interested in meeting.

What's not so hard about messaging someone?"

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users."

We have people on our hot list who we want to meet and will message when we are free. If we message them today but can’t meet for two months they may feel we are time wasting.

It would have to be an opt in feature if it was to be implemented. That way people can use it how they feel, or even make it a hot or watch list. Click hot it will alert them if they also click hot on yours, click watch it won’t notify who you’ve clicked watch on, but will put them on your feed, although it’s a bit like stalking really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users."

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

" If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see. "

Just like...you?

I have seen a whole load of people who want it telling others how to use the site. And a whole load of people explaining why they'd not want to have it. But they're not telling anyone how to use the site - they're not the ones saying use your notes, don't put this person on your hotlist because you don't actually want to meet them, block the people you don't want to meet. They're just explaining how they make use of a tool.

Opt in would sort it. Although then those of us who chose to opt out for perfectly valid reasons would be accused of ruining the site.

But it's academic as I've seen very few suggestions taken up to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Just like...you?

Opt in would sort it. Although then those of us who chose to opt out for perfectly valid reasons would be accused of ruining the site.

But it's academic as I've seen very few suggestions taken up to be honest! "

In what way...like me? Did I state just one side was guilty? Did I say there is a problem having an opinion? Did I tell people to keep their nose out of how I would like to see/use the site? Did I ignore the obvious? Or did I just point out the arrogance of the posters only interested in their own selfish agenda?

One side says use your notes, the other says use your winks blah blah, both are one sided and selfish so let's just be logical and as I suggested, those that want a not list should have one rather than making up nonsense about privacy and suchlike.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see. "

Regardless of how one uses the hot list. There are a handful of people on this thread that think it’s a great idea. Not many really.

I put party/club organisers on my hot list so I can easily see if there are any status updates for club nights I’m interested in. I don’t want to meet them other than that, and doubt we’d be a “match” as mainly they’re couples.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Regardless of how one uses the hot list. There are a handful of people on this thread that think it’s a great idea. Not many really.

V x

At a rough tally there are 35 for this idea and 25 against. I tried to take into account repeat posters both ways but even if I am not entirely accurate there is still far more than a handfull for it, and a definite majority.

It wouldn't matter in your situation anyway if it was an opt in feature.

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

Great idea! Might make for a few easier hook ups!

And for those no so keen would be easy to switch on / off via tick box, so could choose to use or not!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Regardless of how one uses the hot list. There are a handful of people on this thread that think it’s a great idea. Not many really.

V x

It wouldn't matter in your situation anyway if it was an opt in feature. "

I sincerely doubt this will happen. Don't get your hopes up. There have been threads in the past with alot more suppirt over the years and fab rarely makes changes.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

" If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Just like...you?

Opt in would sort it. Although then those of us who chose to opt out for perfectly valid reasons would be accused of ruining the site.

But it's academic as I've seen very few suggestions taken up to be honest!

The excessively emotive language used by some of the ‘pro-match’ posters is hilarious.

Nonsense, selfish, arrogance, crying, castigating, ruining...Each one has made me come close to laughing out loud.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

" If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Just like...you?

Opt in would sort it. Although then those of us who chose to opt out for perfectly valid reasons would be accused of ruining the site.

But it's academic as I've seen very few suggestions taken up to be honest!

The excessively emotive language used by some of the ‘pro-match’ posters is hilarious.

Nonsense, selfish, arrogance, crying, castigating, ruining...Each one has made me come close to laughing out loud. "

I know .....and all for pointing out that some use the site tools to enhance their experience on here. How dare they! The selfishness of it all

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see. "

Nobody is crying about this suggestion. People are pointing out the tools the site provides and how they are used differently. We don't need a not list, we are fully capable of using the hot list for that, and will continue to do so, like others can and do. That's our way to run the profile.....and no tears shed from us.

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By *entleman55Man over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

As I said earlier, it works very well on the sister site Fabguys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Regardless of how one uses the hot list. There are a handful of people on this thread that think it’s a great idea. Not many really.

V x

It wouldn't matter in your situation anyway if it was an opt in feature.

I sincerely doubt this will happen. Don't get your hopes up. There have been threads in the past with alot more suppirt over the years and fab rarely makes changes."

Thing is, I don't even want or care about this feature being implemented. I also know full well that fab won't change a damn thing. (Check my green arrow if you like)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Just like...you?

Opt in would sort it. Although then those of us who chose to opt out for perfectly valid reasons would be accused of ruining the site.

But it's academic as I've seen very few suggestions taken up to be honest!

The excessively emotive language used by some of the ‘pro-match’ posters is hilarious.

Nonsense, selfish, arrogance, crying, castigating, ruining...Each one has made me come close to laughing out loud. "

That's fine, the lies, hypocrisy and self importance from the "against" camp back me up completely. If it makes you laugh feel free but the words I chose are 100% appropriate.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Regardless of how one uses the hot list. There are a handful of people on this thread that think it’s a great idea. Not many really.

V x

It wouldn't matter in your situation anyway if it was an opt in feature.

I sincerely doubt this will happen. Don't get your hopes up. There have been threads in the past with alot more suppirt over the years and fab rarely makes changes.

Thing is, I don't even want or care about this feature being implemented. I also know full well that fab won't change a damn thing. (Check my green arrow if you like)

Nah your ok thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Just like...you?

Opt in would sort it. Although then those of us who chose to opt out for perfectly valid reasons would be accused of ruining the site.

But it's academic as I've seen very few suggestions taken up to be honest!

The excessively emotive language used by some of the ‘pro-match’ posters is hilarious.

Nonsense, selfish, arrogance, crying, castigating, ruining...Each one has made me come close to laughing out loud.

I know .....and all for pointing out that some use the site tools to enhance their experience on here. How dare they! The selfishness of it all

You will find I replied because of the type of `nonsense`, `arrogance`, `selfishness` and `castigation` you handily display right here in your last post. Pointing out that users use and want site features applies to both sides of this argument but it seems you think only your opinion should count.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

You might not need a not list but it is not right that you would choose to limit others enjoyment of the site because it doesn`t suit you. The not list is a way to keep the functionality you desire with minimal disruption and implement the op`s suggestion (which is a far more appropriate use of the HOT list).

Unfortunately the against want it all their own way, refuse to compromise and they ignore facts and common sense and keep crying out about their privacy. (a complete non issue as pointed out numerous times yet also conveniently ignored numerous times.)

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

I’m against. I haven’t cried about anything

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

Regardless of how one uses the hot list. There are a handful of people on this thread that think it’s a great idea. Not many really.

V x

It wouldn't matter in your situation anyway if it was an opt in feature.

I sincerely doubt this will happen. Don't get your hopes up. There have been threads in the past with alot more suppirt over the years and fab rarely makes changes.

Thing is, I don't even want or care about this feature being implemented. I also know full well that fab won't change a damn thing. (Check my green arrow if you like)

Nah your ok thanks."

How apt. I have just commented on people choosing to ignore facts.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

How am I limiting how others enjoyment of the site? I have absolutely no power over how fab choses to rum this site. The only power I have is over hoe our profile is run. Get a grip!!! End of.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Seeing as this is in the feedback section would fab admin like to comment whether they are considering implementing this suggestion? Also whether it is against fab rules to use the hot list in alternative ways and how this impacts on other users enjoyment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

How am I limiting how others enjoyment of the site? I have absolutely no power over how fab choses to rum this site. The only power I have is over hoe our profile is run. Get a grip!!! End of."

By objecting to a feature that many people want just so that you can keep using the hot list as you were. You would rather they completely went without so that you don't have (a minor) change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seeing as this is in the feedback section would fab admin like to comment whether they are considering implementing this suggestion? Also whether it is against fab rules to use the hot list in alternative ways and how this impacts on other users enjoyment."

Are you CRYING for the teacher now?

We both know they are not going to change anything and that it isn`t against the rules to use it as a not list and furthermore, it has nothing to do with what is being discussed.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

How am I limiting how others enjoyment of the site? I have absolutely no power over how fab choses to rum this site. The only power I have is over hoe our profile is run. Get a grip!!! End of.

By objecting to a feature that many people want just so that you can keep using the hot list as you were. You would rather they completely went without so that you don't have (a minor) change. "

Not my decision how the site is run. That is for admin to decide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

I’m against. I haven’t cried about anything

V x "

You are guilty by association. To the gallows with you..

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

Are you CRYING for the teacher now?

We both know they are not going to change anything and that it isn`t against the rules to use it as a not list and furthermore, it has nothing to do with what is being discussed."

Crying for the teacher??? What does thst even mean?? This is the feedback section. I can ask admin a question if I want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd say within a few weeks of something like this being implemented, hardly any ladies would use the hot list for fear of being plagued with unsolicited mail.

Yes, as someone earlier mentioned, it would ruin the privacy of hotlist for many users.

If it was an opt in thing not a single thing would change for those not opted in.

This thread is amusing to read, full of people telling people how the site should be and in the same breath also telling them to stop telling others how the to use the site.

If stalking users you don't like is so important to you, you should be asking for a not list rather than crying about a reasonable suggestion that many would like to see.

How am I limiting how others enjoyment of the site? I have absolutely no power over how fab choses to rum this site. The only power I have is over hoe our profile is run. Get a grip!!! End of.

By objecting to a feature that many people want just so that you can keep using the hot list as you were. You would rather they completely went without so that you don't have (a minor) change.

Not my decision how the site is run. That is for admin to decide. "

And decisions are based on input from users like you.

Besides, I said you would choose to limit others enjoyment. But don't let facts get in your way.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Lea Marston

Opinions were asked for. They were given. Some people have become surprisingly belligerent and combative about some of those opinions.

I guess it’s good they are passionate about something!

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