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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wrote this for the Scotland room, hope it helps
it is time for version 2
welcome to the world of swinging as a single guy.. I hope you have lots of fun and suggest you may find taking a few minutes to read this may be worthwhile..
the site has rules for behaviour so please read them, understand them and adhere to them... makes it all worthwhile and you will hopefully reap the benefits of good behaviour..
this site is for adults who enjoy chatting, meeting and making friends as well as enjoying great sex with people they are attracted to.. and that attractions comes from reading profiles, chatting, getting to understand if they are socially and sexually compatible.
one myth is all swingers are gagging for it... and you are so gonna service the lot... if you are wanting instant sex... may I offer a suggestion... 'pop the porn on and have a wank and enjoy'...
many ways to introduce yourself to your fellow fab members.. messaging, chatting in the chat room and posting in the forum.. alongside that, are social event that are held on a regular basis for everyone.. time for clarification... social events are not mass orgies in a venue.. they are social drinks, dance and laughs, .. there may be sex after the events in the privacy of hotel rooms, homes etc..
but dont sign up to a social if you think you are gonna walk into a venue.. shout ' huge big cock here' and the needy are gonna jump on .... that being said, they are a great way to meet other members and are discrete as the venues are not published to anyone else apart from the attendees..
Profiles are composed to sell yourself to other members,to make it clear what you are looking for and in some cases what you are not looking for.. Be honest on the profile.. and I repeat .. be honest on your profile.. sexuality, size, married/ with partner... there is a match out there, trust me.. no matter what your persuasion/color/size/with hair or baldy like me... there is someone looking for 'someone like you'... Have pics, either public or private ones... not just a cock pic.. you may be 11inches.. but honestly.. one cock looks like another cock.. maybe one is wearing a hood and the other is cut.. one may be 3 inches and the other 11... but honestly... unless your cock can sing 'AVA MARIA' in Latin, we have seen one similar.
Read the profiles fully... do you fit what they want... if so.. write a polite message.. not one line.. introduce yourself, tailor your message to what they are looking for.. providing you are being honest.. Do not lie.. you will be caught out..
SOME WILL REPLY AND THATS NICE.. SOME MAY NOT.. FEMALES AND COUPLES GET HUNDREDS AND HUNDREDS OF MESSAGES AND WE GUYS ARE LUCKY IF WE GET 2 A DAY.. WE CAN ANSWER 2 .. THEY ARE UNLIKELY TO BE ABLE TO ANSWER ALL OF THEIRS AND STILL LIVE A NORMAL LIFE OUTSIDE SWINGING.. IF THEY DON'T REPLY, DONT STROP AND BITCH ABOUT RUDENESS.. moaning and moaning in a non sexual way is not attractive and starts to dig the 'swingers grave'....
If they reply... fab.... start to build a rapport.. exchange pics.. is there chemistry.. there will certainly not be attraction in every case, so again, if not.. be polite, wish them well and MOVE ON.. asking for constant explanations as to why the lady is not 'begging for your whopper'.. and DO NOT BE ABUSIVE.. you will likely be reported and banned.
Chatrooms... great way to get to know people.. again it is a 'CHAT' room and not just a meeting place for folks gagging for sex at that very minute of the day.. dont expect that.. chat .. introduce yourself, it moves fast, sit and watch, practise, practise and practise.. we are long standing friends.. think of it as a pub, yu walk in your local for the first time, it takes a while to get to know folks, .. it's no different...
READ THE CHATROOM RULES AND ADHERE.. moderators will monitor and take appreopriate action .... they do a great job.
if you want to direct people sexually... GO TO THE DIRECTING ROOM..
the others are for chat..
dont work your way down all the females and couples asking for a meet, it is very rude and comes across as desperate...
respect all the ladies chatting and/or on CAM.. they are not pieces of meat and respect goes a long way... and you will be noticed for your politeness.... you will also be noticed for bad bahaviour and very likely ignored...
it is not cliquey ... its just folks know some folks better and are more friendlier with them... YOU GET BACK... WHAT YOU PUT INTO IT... YOU PUT IN NOTHING AND YOU WILL GET NOTHING..
Forums... are informative and a place of reference.. they are great.. many use these forums as a type of chat room and again many friendships have been built up , so keep posting and get to know everyone.. it takes time...
in summary...
BE NOTICED, BE DIFFERENT, STAND OUT FROM THE 1000'S OF OTHER GUYS.. BUT FOR THE RIGHT REASONS.. NOT FOR BEING AN ARSE..
BE HONEST...
BE RESPECTFUL TO ALL..
BE PATIENT..
IF THEY NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE GUYS DON'T WRITE TO THEM..
IF THEY ARE.. CRAFT A MESSAGE THAT SELLS YOU ABOVE THE REST..
BE CONFIDENT NOT ARROGANT..
HAVE NICE PICS...
NO MEANS NO...
DONT MOAN AND MOAN
DONT STROP IF YOU DONT GET A REPLY.. MOVE ON...
SWINGERS ARE NOT GAGGING FOR YOUR WONDERFUL COCK...
JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE SPARE HOUR TO FILL, STAYING IN A LOCAL HOTEL.. DONT EXPECT TO SHOUT..... AND EVERYONE JUMP..
GET VERIFIED.. PHOTO VERIFIED... HELPS PROVE YOU GENUINE..
DONT ASK FOR MSN ADDRESSES STRAIGHT AWAY.. LOOKS LIKE YOU LOOKING FOR INSTANT CAM WANK..
IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE.. IT IS A BIG MAN WHO CAN SAY I AM SORRY... APOLOGISE..
YOU WILL NOT LIKE EVERYONE, BUT BE NICE.. IT REFLECTS LIFE.. WE DONT GET ON WITH EVERYONE, BUT NO NEED FOR BITCHING AND NASTYNESS...
BE NICE, BE HONEST , BE RESPECTFUL, BE PATIENT....
BUT MOST OF ALL..... ENJOY IT... ITS A WORLD I LOVE AND HAVE MADE FRIENDS FOR LIFE...
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