FabSwingers.com > Forums > Introductions > Married wife

Married wife

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *atsuma 2023Man over a year ago

Barnsley

I personally wouldn’t judge anyone on what they are looking for on here.

We all have our reasons

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex did but I didn't mind. Was kind of hot.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *azza12Man over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"
the choice is yours, it's not upto anyone to judge. I personally find it a turn on being with a married lady

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *urreyloverMan over a year ago

Guildford

It appears that women meeting behind their partner's back is not as frowned upon as if it was the man doing it. If it helps scratch the itch that is not being satisfied in an otherwise sound relationship then IMHO, carry on. If there is something more wrong with the marriage then maybe fab is not solving it.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *omAbdnMan over a year ago

Ellon

I would think there is substantial amount of married men and women playing on here and the respective partner does not know.

Tom

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Not going to judge, each to their own. There's got to be a reason though?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

No, I don't think it is ok. O don't think it's ok for men to see people behind their wife's back either.

I don't care what other people do in that respect though as long as they don't involve me. They will have to live with the consequences if there are any and I don't know what goes on in their relationship.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as you wouldn't mind if he was doing the same thing.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"
[ quote its is fine as long if it makes you happy and you are having a great time and makes you happy]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We won't judge you for it, but us personally, we wouldn't meet someone who is cheating. Of course it's not often people are honest about having an unknowing spouse at home. Any single play we do, which we don't do very often, is fully up front to each other

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer unmarried wives but married ones are sexy too!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

As long as you wear those god damn sexy boots of yours then hell yeah it’s ok

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Can’t see why anyone would judge.. nobody knows your story and your reasons.. enjoy your best life

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *hesblokeMan over a year ago

Derbyshire village

You do you, but it's not something we'd ever be comfortable being involved in.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own.

My personal opinion? If it’s something you’re doing frequently, which you say you are, then there’s something very wrong with your marriage.

You haven’t divulged your circumstances but cheating is wrong for whatever reason.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Many men will find that a turn on here, some won't agree.

I don't think it's OK to cheat, male or female, think how your husband would feel if he knew or how you'd feel if you found him on here.

However we all make our own choices and deal with the consequences.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now"

Just took the words right out of my mouth.. (as Mr loaf would sing)... If it had been a male posting it you'd have been denounced as the spawn of Satan. My opinion, can't judge others when you have no idea of their circumstances.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ethnmelvCouple over a year ago

Chudleigh

It is not a question we ask in a Club. On here we might think twice if it was a married guy or lady that we were planning to meet at a Club. But we also admire honesty, so it would be case by case but easier not to ask as it’s not our business

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

As others have said, if it was a man posting this....

But if I understand you correctly, you are meeting married women behind their husbands back?

It doesn't matter whether male or female as far as I'm concerned. We are all here for our own reasons. I never judge anyone's reason. I think it's between you and the married person you are seeing. If both parties are fully informed then each can make an informed decision, whether female/female, male/male, male/couple etc, etc.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *musedforlifeMan over a year ago

Scunthorpe

There's a reason behind everything we do, as long as you're happy with your reasons then who are we to judge x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's cheating, it's never ok.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *panddaCouple over a year ago

West Mids

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Each to their own, but it is dishonest and disrespectful in our opinion.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Married men asking me to wear their wife s outfits, saying their wives wont wear for them, am l doing wrong by wearing them for them, l do find it kink.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only if you get found out.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *xxLandNxxxCouple over a year ago

Nuneaton

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Is it ok for him to do it too?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes, probably does but l don't know

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Married men asking me to wear their wife s outfits, saying their wives wont wear for them, am l doing wrong by wearing them for them, l do find it kink. "

Yep, you are in my opinion.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 23/07/21 23:43:47]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well no harm done

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *anther81Man over a year ago

Drogheda

I think your a very sexy lady who needs a bit extra and I think why not.

Sexy pics on your profile mmm

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *azbo1970Couple (MM) over a year ago

Mirfield

Depends if you wouldn't mind him doing the same thing lol

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it okay to cheat on your partner? Is it something you would want done to you? The answer to both of those, for me, is no. Of course it’s not okay.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x

Each to their own, but it is dishonest and disrespectful in our opinion."

This.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *exy wife and her CuckCouple over a year ago

Angus

"Is it okay to cheat on your partner? Is it something you would want done to you? The answer to both of those, for me, is no. Of course it’s not okay.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes rhats what you want to do

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes enjoy it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

My wife done it when we were younger, I found out but didn't stop it x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Lucky lady

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iss LovelyWoman over a year ago

Here and There

Cheating isn’t ok whether you’re male or female, single or attached.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *andy IanMan over a year ago

cheshire/Preston

If either partner wants to experience sexual pleasures outside of their marriage in secret and are prepared to risk being found out then they should do it. I’ve met with several wives who wanted NSA sexual pleasure and was not getting it from her husband. More common is for a husband to say he’s not getting what he wants from his wife but they are the ones who kick off most when they find out the wife has cheated on them.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *retty womanWoman over a year ago

Near Bournemouth

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now"

This

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

You husband can't give you so you cheated, an oath is an oath

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Not here to judge but I do have a question for you, op. Are you not concerned about passing an std on to your husband as clearly having guys cum in your arse is a kink of yours?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *angero3aMan over a year ago

swords

yes nice to see married woman on here.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"yes nice to see married woman on here."

Why??

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d imagine there’s a lot of people on here lying about there marriage status .At least you’re being upfront about it .

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To all the guys that are encouraging the OP.....

Wonder how you’d feel if it was your partner or wife dong the same thing behind your back?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lfacatMan over a year ago

Cumbria

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

As long as you keep those boots on yes!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 24/07/21 16:17:23]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"To all the guys that are encouraging the OP.....

Wonder how you’d feel if it was your partner or wife dong the same thing behind your back?"

We sincerely hope karma gets each and everyone of them.

Or better still, their wives are all fucking their best mates.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of us are here for completely different reasons.

Best if you want someone else start afresh.

But your reasons and my reasons are our reasons and private to ourselves only.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ozapperMan over a year ago

Lancashire

"OP Well no harm done"
we all have to live with our decisions and consequences... but at least you are being honest to yourself. Sumilar circumstances here but f4om the male point of view so I don't judge others as we all have our reasons.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *r Discreet 75Man over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

People cheat for different reasons.. could have grown apart or they aren't doing it for you or need a bit of excitement.... whatever the reason its your choice ... I've had women cheat on me in the past I don't hold anything against them their life their choice

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"People cheat for different reasons.. could have grown apart or they aren't doing it for you or need a bit of excitement.... whatever the reason its your choice ... I've had women cheat on me in the past I don't hold anything against them their life their choice "

Don't cheat.

Just leave.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *r Discreet 75Man over a year ago

LIVERPOOL

Don't cheat.

Just leave.

some people can't just leave they have kids and mortgages it's alright for people on the outside looking in saying just leave but they're not in the same situation

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone has their own reasons for being on here. Personally I find married or attached ladies a huge turn on.

Forbidden fruit tastes better.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

My only question is would you feel bad if he had done it to you?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't cheat.

Just leave.

some people can't just leave they have kids and mortgages it's alright for people on the outside looking in saying just leave but they're not in the same situation "

This theory of yours is ok until the cheater is found out then mortgage and kids all goes to shit any way

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *oldyoudown41Man over a year ago

caledonian

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

He without sin cast the first stone and all that

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Who gives a fuck what people think, you have your reasons, it's your life, noone else's. Have your cake and eat it!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ornyandhungry0312Man over a year ago

lancaster

My wife was doing this for a couple of years as it was the easiest way for her to get her fix, she is now engaged to said dealer and left me with our 6 year old son. We are still married too...

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 25/07/21 08:33:38]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ionrampant500Man over a year ago

West Midlands

If a wife is unfulfilled and the husband isn’t sorting it out then someone else soon will be, we all have needs, just try not to get caught !!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 25/07/21 13:21:17]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Married men asking me to wear their wife s outfits, saying their wives wont wear for them, am l doing wrong by wearing them for them, l do find it kink. "

Sorry OP but that is the pits.

You’re an adult. It seems to me you are getting a kick out of asking these questions.

Do you have sex in their marital bed as well?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's loads of married women on here OP. What you do is your business! Welcome, and have fun xx

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Personally no it is not ok and my advice would be how would you feel if your husband was cheating but equally it your life to do as you wish with.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *teve999Man over a year ago

Cardiff

I’m not going to get into the moral argument but I definitely prefer meeting married women, they know why they are there and what they want and that works for me. How or if they explain this to their partner is their business and I don’t interfere

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just keep your private life private! Is justification or verification needed? I think that messages received can be the outcome of disclosure in the verification process. I personally don't get any of it, when verifications go into detail, then you can read the profile associated and it requests being "discreet" why this platform of verification is considered important is ridiculous. And I have yet to find a negative verification, so 100% successful meets? I suppose makes me wrong. You can only get yourself into a mess, nobody can judge you, but can neither give you credible advice either. Be lucky.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would love fun with a married woman. I'm non judgemental

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Best no secrets. My wife plays with one close friend

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *r essexfunsterMan over a year ago

harlow

Friend of hers or friend of yours ?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I don't think it is ok. O don't think it's ok for men to see people behind their wife's back either.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ngelesAndDemonsCouple over a year ago

Derry, Ireland

It's more down to you and the other don't know which one is married but everything comes with a consequence!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I prefer unmarried wives but married ones are sexy too! "

Whats an unmarried wife?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

Don't cheat.

Just leave.

some people can't just leave they have kids and mortgages it's alright for people on the outside looking in saying just leave but they're not in the same situation "

If kids are a consideration well they deserve a happy home not one where one partner is dishonest and cheating.

And as for the mortgage, well that always needs to be sorted.

Lots of divorcing couples deal with both of these problems every day.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now

Satan must be the heaviest comer on the planet!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ad_Bod_ToddMan over a year ago

Worcestershire

Hmmmmmm, IMHO I'd say that the first port of call is to see if what is wrong/broken in the marital relationship can be fixed? If it can't (or the OP is unable or unwilling to do this) then they ought to at least consider limiting the damage/harm that could occur to the unwilling/unknowing participants.

Read a wonderful quote on a poly blog recently: "Suggesting an open relationship after a partner has been 'unfaithful' in an exclusive one is like suggesting having a joint account after your partner has stolen all your money'.

Do as you wish OP, not judging you, but please consider others that are involved whether they know about it or not.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Hmmmmmm, IMHO I'd say that the first port of call is to see if what is wrong/broken in the marital relationship can be fixed? If it can't (or the OP is unable or unwilling to do this) then they ought to at least consider limiting the damage/harm that could occur to the unwilling/unknowing participants.

Do as you wish OP, not judging you, but please consider others that are involved whether they know about it or not."

The last paragraph is true, but cheats don't consider others, they only think about themselves.

Kids, mortgages, just a smoke screen. They are just worried about their own skin.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ougie321Man over a year ago

Milford Haven

I’m not judging and would not do myself whatever the women looks like, is this “ fab swinging” . I am sure there’s a dating site for this kind of thing though.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Honestly? Since you've asked for opinions, never OK. It's a lazy, inept and cowardly way of managing a situation you don't like.

A guy asking the same question would get rinsed on here, you don't get a free pass because you're a woman.

Plenty of guys will say it's ok as they'll say anything to improve their chances of a fuck.

Swinging and cheating are not the same thing.

It's also totally up to you how you behave, but you did ask.

Thor

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

Exeter

Going behind anyone someone's back whether it's the wife or husband, Both wrong uns in our eyes.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *onnyABCMan over a year ago

tain

I think it’s so nice that you are sharing that fantastic body with others, I just wish I could enjoy it xx

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iffyjeffMan over a year ago

lancs

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Even better knowing this in before a meet

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ich_ChesterMan over a year ago

Chester

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

If you are happy and safe then fine, plenty on here doing the same thing. I know i'm one of them

happy to chat to see if we could meet up

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Evening

I like to become FWB for married couples

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suprise, suprise, generally considered okay for the women to do it!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"
You obviously don't think so bit the answer is obviously yes

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe you just don’t get that excitement at home so you go out looking for it who’s faults that ayy ???????

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *exy n up 4 itCouple over a year ago

western isles

"I prefer unmarried wives but married ones are sexy too! "

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *exy n up 4 itCouple over a year ago

western isles

"I prefer unmarried wives but married ones are sexy too! "

And what is the difference?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

"Suprise, suprise, generally considered okay for the women to do it!

Double standards, we know.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ttentive gentMan over a year ago

torbay

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Its interesting reading this thread, there is a similar thread by a man who asked about married men, and seeing other women. He got slated as a lier and a cheat

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *erbyshire BobMan over a year ago

derby

If your needs are not being met by your spouse and you are very discrete then I have little problem.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ohnny3333Man over a year ago

fleetwood

My wife does it and i dont mind

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do it to my wife with men and women.

I don't hide the fact I'm married I like what I like and enjoy it a lot so I say if thats who you are then so be it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *arkinberksMan over a year ago

Ascot

The trouble is that the majority of respondents here are making a snap judgement without knowing the full story

For those who say just leave, things are never that simple. Most married couples have mortgages and bills to pay. Trying to take a combined income that had previously supported one property and now make it cover a second of similar value just won’t work. Invariably leaving means substantially reducing one’s standard of living. The basic maths of separation are that your living costs as a single person are always higher than half the cost of when you are married and living together.

Next. For those who say that it is disrespectful to have secret affairs, isn’t it equally disrespectful for a partner to decide to cease any sexual aspects of a relationship? Equally, if a relationship is tolerable in all other respects aside from the sexual angle, is that sufficient justification for terminating it ? Particularly if the outcome would be financially harmful to both parties?

I would agree that there are plenty of married men and women on here without their partner’s consent. Whether that means their partner is unaware of their behaviour or cares about it particularly is another matter.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Saw a thread yesterday from a man basically asking this same question and he got torn apart. Some unbelievable double standards on fab

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Saw a thread yesterday from a man basically asking this same question and he got torn apart. Some unbelievable double standards on fab"

Yep I seen that too

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *panddaCouple over a year ago

West Mids

"I do it to my wife with men and women.

I don't hide the fact I'm married I like what I like and enjoy it a lot so I say if thats who you are then so be it"

Would you feel the same if your wife found out?

Or if she walked into her home unexpectedly when you were accommodating?

Or does she already know?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

It’s really hard, I’m the same and open about it on my profile and don’t want to mess people about on here and people should be able to make their own choices. Everyone has their reasons and someone will agree, someone will disagree. I find it hard but really enjoy chatting, even if nothing more so good to be open like you are.

Nice to see an open question like this to, good luck and let me know if you need a natter over the Pennines lol

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ale1989Man over a year ago

travelling, ill be close

"Married men asking me to wear their wife s outfits, saying their wives wont wear for them, am l doing wrong by wearing them for them, l do find it kink. "

This is very sexy

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *wice pleaseMan over a year ago

Nr Darlington

I dont quiz potential meets on their marital status and dont expect to have to answer 20 questions on mine. The old When? Where? What? How? and Why? gets complicated and it supposed to be NSA fun for all juse t enjoy

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now"

I was roasted alive for the same thing men doing it we are bastards women doing it then ok carry on

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"Saw a thread yesterday from a man basically asking this same question and he got torn apart. Some unbelievable double standards on fab"

Yep that was me can’t beleive the difference

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

I asked the same question and was hung drawn and quartered for it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My opinion is that you should try it together x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

[Removed by poster at 28/07/21 21:41:24]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *quirrelMan over a year ago

Tameside

It's no one's business but your own.

You have your reasons why you're seeing someone outside of your marriage,and if they're good enough for you that's all you need. Don't seek approval from strangers as they don't have your perspective or know your circumstances.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x

I asked the same question and was hung drawn and quartered for it "

Stop moaning you cheating bastard

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No it's not ok how would you feel if your husband was fucking loads of women behind your back?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x

I asked the same question and was hung drawn and quartered for it "

Stop moaning you cheating bastard

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

I would hate to think that any of the pharisaic stances on this and the current sister thread have anything to do with a perceived need to appear more virtuous than than the undoubtedly considerable competition for the limited amount of available action on the site in general.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *arhotMan over a year ago

Reading

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Depends on your situation but probably yes.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *xx770Man over a year ago

Manchester

[Removed by poster at 29/07/21 00:27:54]

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now"

Yel, some of the unprovoked messages I received are really hurtful and unnecessary

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some partners do love their other half's and can't bare the thought of leaving them but if their in a sexless of virtually non existent sex life its hard, not everyone will get this but I do and feel as long as no one gets hurt then you go girl.

But you have to remember if you get caught are you prepared for the outcome.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your no different to thousands of others so why not, ever thought of inviting him too

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not hun. The majority of guys are doing that on here anyway.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *otandpepperCouple over a year ago

wolverhampton

I am not asking... Not my business if somebody here is married or not. As long as there is full consent of the person involved in the fun.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

The comments on here compared to the married men thread....

wow haha

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

The real question is. How qoukd you feel if you found out your husband was doing the same behind yiur back?

Personal view is that its honestly not my business to judge anyone on here.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple over a year ago

Somerset

Why do people keep asking this same question over and over, especially if you have been doing it for years anyway? Who cares what a bunch of strangers thinks on the internet. I am guessing the ones from men, for they normally are, are really thinly veiled adverts hoping for DMs, but this one is more baffling.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

I’m in the same boat as you are let’s keep it quiet together

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The comments on here compared to the married men thread....

wow haha "

Classic ain't it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

"Why do people keep asking this same question over and over, especially if you have been doing it for years anyway? Who cares what a bunch of strangers thinks on the internet. I am guessing the ones from men, for they normally are, are really thinly veiled adverts hoping for DMs, but this one is more baffling."

Nope ur wrong I asked to see what the opinions was plus didn’t get any dm just abuse

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x

I asked the same question and was hung drawn and quartered for it "

Freeeeeeeedddoooommmmmmm!!!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"The comments on here compared to the married men thread....

wow haha

Classic ain't it

Bonkers isn’t it!

I’m against it for anyone... but I didn’t actually believe the difference haha

Literally just attention seeking posts though... they know it’s a controversial subject but post it anyway, if your gonna cheat you don’t care what a load of randomers online think lol!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *enuinebiMan over a year ago

Wellingborough

Your choice, your life.

My wife meets other women behind my back, has done for years and I know it's led to her having threesome's in the past, it's something she needs and I accept that.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

I’d probably say yes, wouldn’t favour you in divorce proceedings if he found out.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lyreelMan over a year ago

King's lynn

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

It goes on, always will go on, for whatever reason and for every 5 ladies that are going “ oh that’s terrible, shocking” blah blah then one of yer hubbies is getting it somewhere else and maybe with one of the 1 in 7 ladies that likes it on the side too.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *aughtySirMan over a year ago

manchester

If it works for you and you are happy with what is happening then thats all that matters

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *acksparrow99Man over a year ago

Canary Wharf, London

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Can't see it being an issue, if it makes you happy.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The comments on here compared to the married men thread....

wow haha "

What's funny is that there is condemnation in both. Most of the support in both threads is from single guys!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

"The comments on here compared to the married men thread....

wow haha

What's funny is that there is condemnation in both. Most of the support in both threads is from single guys!"

If you ask for opinions you’ll get them

My comment wasn’t aimed at anyone’s opinion or condemnation in particular, it was simply how vile it is for men to cheat but how ok it is for women too based on fab forums!

It doesn’t surprise me that you’ve found it to be single men being supportive of it

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

Just curious.

Which side of the fence are you sat on?

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The comments on here compared to the married men thread....

wow haha

What's funny is that there is condemnation in both. Most of the support in both threads is from single guys!

If you ask for opinions you’ll get them

My comment wasn’t aimed at anyone’s opinion or condemnation in particular, it was simply how vile it is for men to cheat but how ok it is for women too based on fab forums!

It doesn’t surprise me that you’ve found it to be single men being supportive of it

I've been pretty direct in condemning women and men for cheating, it's just crap however you paint it. Certainly don't need that drama in what is supposed to be a fun little distraction

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

It certainly is easy to judge, especially when you're asked to!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op it's entirely up to you. I'd be disappointed if I had a girl and she cheated on me, but everybody has a reason I guess.

Just Hooe it doesn't turn out bad for you x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ave1963BarnsleyMan over a year ago

Barnsley

"It appears that women meeting behind their partner's back is not as frowned upon as if it was the man doing it."

Exactly this. Men seem to be more harshly judged for playing away than women. My view of people playing away without their partner's knowledge is that it's not something I would do or have ever done, however I don't judge those who do because their actions are not my responsibility.

All I will say is that I personally would not knowingly play with anyone who is going behind their partner's back, regardless of their reasons.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *isAdventure69Woman over a year ago

Hampshire

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now"

This

Personally no I don’t think it’s okay …

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ick1962Man over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don't think it's ok at all, someone is just going to get really hurt, sorry..

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lyreelMan over a year ago

King's lynn

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

Just curious.

Which side of the fence are you sat on?"

For someone who states they want no contact from single men I cannot see the relevance to your curiosity?

But I will tell you…. one persons meat is another persons poison…. It’s down to the individual, no one knows what goes on behind doors and within relationships, I am on no side of the fence, I am not judgemental or vindictive like so many sanctimonious ass holes on these forums.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *entleman1984Man over a year ago

Dereham

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

I just wish I was in your age range!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it ok to have fun behind husband s back, l ve been meeting seeing a good few over the years, want to know your thoughts thankyou x"

Nothing wrong with this in my eyes and killer legs by the way wow x x

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolutley pathetic lads

the desperation in here is on another level.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You're not going to get much criticism op because you're a woman. A man posting this would have been roundly denounced by now"

This

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

DMs kept the OP busy?

Looked can't see any replies on the thread....

It's been lucrative

Clever, well done

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi Natalie - just seen this and it is so nice and brave of you posting the question - if a man posts similar they are lambasted , ridiculed, and trolled

On a personal note - as a married man (its in my profile) I would say we are all here for a range of reasons that drive us to look for fun - so good on you

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *ustustwo.1965Couple over a year ago

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

Just curious.

Which side of the fence are you sat on?

For someone who states they want no contact from single men I cannot see the relevance to your curiosity?

What has us not wanting single guys got anything to do with asking a relevant question?

It is neither judgemental, vindictive or sanctimonious to say that dishonesty is wrong.

We all know it is wrong. The sad thing here is the idiots who argue that it is ok.

If anyone chooses to ignore that simple fact that is up to them, but it it doesn't make it right.

We do find that a lot of people who argue it are in fact on the dishonest side.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Natalie - just seen this and it is so nice and brave of you posting the question - if a man posts similar they are lambasted , ridiculed, and trolled

On a personal note - as a married man (its in my profile) I would say we are all here for a range of reasons that drive us to look for fun - so good on you

Have you seen the brave married man posting on his own thread?

Worth a read and support also!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Natalie - just seen this and it is so nice and brave of you posting the question - if a man posts similar they are lambasted , ridiculed, and trolled

On a personal note - as a married man (its in my profile) I would say we are all here for a range of reasons that drive us to look for fun - so good on you

Have you seen the brave married man posting on his own thread?

Worth a read and support also!

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

Just curious.

Which side of the fence are you sat on?

For someone who states they want no contact from single men I cannot see the relevance to your curiosity?

What has us not wanting single guys got anything to do with asking a relevant question?

It is neither judgemental, vindictive or sanctimonious to say that dishonesty is wrong.

We all know it is wrong. The sad thing here is the idiots who argue that it is ok.

If anyone chooses to ignore that simple fact that is up to them, but it it doesn't make it right.

We do find that a lot of people who argue it are in fact on the dishonest side. "

Not true

We just understand there's more to the story about cheaters.

I find either partner that holds back with sex, has some sort of controlling issue to resolve with their other half - to expect them to do without, is truly awful.

Discussions between both is definitely needed.

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi Natalie - just seen this and it is so nice and brave of you posting the question - if a man posts similar they are lambasted , ridiculed, and trolled

On a personal note - as a married man (its in my profile) I would say we are all here for a range of reasons that drive us to look for fun - so good on you

Have you seen the brave married man posting on his own thread?

Worth a read and support also!

Support added

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *erfectman122Man over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Each to there own …. It’s cheating

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *teve 69Man over a year ago

leicester

Sometimes things are not as black-and-white as they seem so yes I’ve no problems with it have fun

Reply privately (closed, thread got too big)

By *lyreelMan over a year ago

King's lynn

Statistically 20% of men cheat, for women it’s 13%.

Nobody knows what it’s like in an individual’s relationship, it’s not black and white. Like most things it’s easy to judge.

Just curious.

Which side of the fence are you sat on?

For someone who states they want no contact from single men I cannot see the relevance to your curiosity?

What has us not wanting single guys got anything to do with asking a relevant question?

It is neither judgemental, vindictive or sanctimonious to say that dishonesty is wrong.

We all know it is wrong. The sad thing here is the idiots who argue that it is ok.

If anyone chooses to ignore that simple fact that is up to them, but it it doesn't make it right.

We do find that a lot of people who argue it are in fact on the dishonest side. "

So you are being judgemental, slightly sanctimonious and you are narrow minded to what may be going on within the relationship that frankly has got nowt to do with you or anyone else.

Working in the past with accident and medically challenged people I have seen and worked with plenty people that are happy and solid in a relationship where one of the partners does look elsewhere for the physical side that can not always be given by the other half.

Similar to BDSM or some Cuckold or any dynamic that suits the two in the relationship but may not be normal to some prejudiced others.

All I am saying is don’t judge , be open minded as to why people do what they do, but always remember it’s up to them what they do.

Nobody here is the relationship police although plenty think so.

It’s odd that the OP has posed such a question as it’s so inflammatory but I don’t care what people do within their lives if it suits them both within a relationship.