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"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?" Snapchat filters are a little bit of a nonooo Your intro screams a boy, not a man Have some confidence. Single males, well, so so many, you'll have to stand out me thinks You've only been here ummmm two weeks?..  | |||
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"I've read the first line of your profile. It says "I can't be bothered". Is that what you want your message to be to the people that read your profile? " Was just about to say the same thing! More positivity required, even if one is being self deprecating | |||
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"Okay help me out how do I do it?" OP If you hit 'reply +quote' it will help people understand who you are replying to x | |||
"Okay help me out how do I do it? OP If you hit 'reply +quote' it will help people understand who you are replying to x" Like this? | |||
"Okay help me out how do I do it? OP If you hit 'reply +quote' it will help people understand who you are replying to x" Oh shit thanks | |||
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"I don't know what you mean "I can't be bothered" most people wrote full stories " The fact you have written that gives off the attitude who cont care and not willing to put an effort in. You don't have to write an essay in your bio but that just comes across as rude | |||
"Get out and meet people in the real world. Go to socials or a club, make connections with fellow fab users and then chat to them on here. "Good advice cheers | |||
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"I don't know what you mean "I can't be bothered" most people wrote full stories The fact you have written that gives off the attitude who cont care and not willing to put an effort in. You don't have to write an essay in your bio but that just comes across as rude" Oh, I didn't think if that thanks, I'll change it up | |||
"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages " I hear that for real | |||
"Get out and meet people in the real world. Go to socials or a club, make connections with fellow fab users and then chat to them on here.
Good advice cheers"You are most welcome | |||
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"Dear OP, you really need to delete the unpalatable remark "Not really going to bother". Also, regarding grammar and parenthesis - your profile narrative requires some structure and general tidying up. And take on board the p+sitive comments from the forumites above. Good luck." Thank you my grammar has never been great ngl I just don't want to write loads and loads of information but I'm like a chill guy so I don't want to seem weird I don't know | |||
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"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages " There's an element of truth in that. 99.99% of the messages are shit. There's much more than an element of truth in that. To be fair, I used to do ok on my old singles profile. Most of my connections came via the forums. Winston | |||
"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance "But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are | |||
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"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages There's an element of truth in that. 99.99% of the messages are shit. There's much more than an element of truth in that. To be fair, I used to do ok on my old singles profile. Most of my connections came via the forums. Winston " Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect? | |||
"Tbf it’s called fab swingers so can’t complain when can’t find much when we single just more work" Amen | |||
"Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect?" Supply and demand, my friend. | |||
"Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect? Supply and demand, my friend." Interesting | |||
"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance
But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are
"That's what the socials are about. Meeting like-minded individuals, or lets face it, couples and groups, and having a chat in a safe and social environment. The host will introduce you to people, if I'm there I'll talk to you. It's not easy meeting people as a single guy but it's 10 times better than the slim chance that you will get a message. | |||
"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance
But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are
That's what the socials are about. Meeting like-minded individuals, or lets face it, couples and groups, and having a chat in a safe and social environment. The host will introduce you to people, if I'm there I'll talk to you. It's not easy meeting people as a single guy but it's 10 times better than the slim chance that you will get a message. "Real truth, thanks | |||
"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance
But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are
"Group socials are aimed at everyone, including single guys (and gals) and we've found them to be very welcoming. I (Mrs) have also been on my own to some. | |||
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"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance
But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are
Group socials are aimed at everyone, including single guys (and gals) and we've found them to be very welcoming. I (Mrs) have also been on my own to some. "I'll have to check these out | |||
"Get over to the London forum and sign up for the London Surrey social in February. It was very well attended last night by the fabulous folk of fab. The Croydon social has also made a reappearance
But as a single guy ya know it's not easy like meeting people regardless of how nice or whatever you are
Group socials are aimed at everyone, including single guys (and gals) and we've found them to be very welcoming. I (Mrs) have also been on my own to some.
I'll have to check these out "The list will fill up fast for single guys for any social but more so for the one at abfabs. Two birds with one stone, a social and a club visit in one | |||
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"I've taken all the advice and changed it up a bit any better?" Yes much better. Relax, get to know people, be yourself. Enjoy!! | |||
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"I've taken all the advice and changed it up a bit any better? Yes much better. Relax, get to know people, be yourself. Enjoy!! " Super thank you so much | |||
"Being a single male can be like being a parsnip in a bouquet of flowers. Pic more, post more, party more, have fun, good luck!" Cheers thank you | |||
"Everyone's experience is different, but I have had lots of fantastic meetings and messages, and every single one through the Forum. Get to know the mood of the room, what makes people tick, whilst helping others know what makes you tick. Perhaps it reduces the sense of being an unknown quantity? I'm not sure. But without false modesty, I'm very much not an obvious catch in the way many men here are, and yet people are lovely to me. It can't hurt, anyway. The Loungers are a welcoming lot. And best of luck to you." Not a catch? Don't sell yourself short my dear fellow. Just read your glowing verifications | |||
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"Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here. If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait" Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender | |||
"Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here. If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender" That's because she's a she | |||
"Yes, expecting other to seek you out. You have to be pro active on here. If you're thinking that knocking up a quick profile and uploading a handful of pics is going to have people flocking to you, then you're in for a long wait Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender" A woman can create a new account, silhouette, blank profile. And she will still have more messages flood in than she can probably get through. That's Fab for you | |||
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"I don't get anyone message me either. You have to remember that there are thousands of men on Fab. Just message plenty of women instead. Be honest, polite and respectful. Don't send women dick pics and don't be vulgar in the first message. " Quite but hello hotty! | |||
"Strange a colleague of mine made her profile on the same day as me she's been swimming in messages from every gender" Supply and demand, remember?  | |||
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"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?" As the song says ... Welcome to the Jungle... ..it's just the way it is here. | |||
"Carrots mate,chicks love carrots "And rabbits | |||
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"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?" could be your age, nice pics, need more write up, could be the way you message, remember your profile is your advert  | |||
"Lol oh gosh, I really need to check out these forums more often, first off hun, like a chap said... there's thousands of single men on here allll Street the very same thing you are, my advice is to attend one of these club nights as a single and attempt to build strong bonds there x " Love how you blame yourself for this happening before you start giving your advice to op. I'm not criticizing by the way, just noting as I thought it was nice. | |||
"Tbf being single lad on here is a challenge, coupling up boosts messages There's an element of truth in that. 99.99% of the messages are shit. There's much more than an element of truth in that. To be fair, I used to do ok on my old singles profile. Most of my connections came via the forums. Winston Why do you think that is? That single men find it so hard to connect?" Broad sweeping generalisation time...... A lot of men join Fab thinking it's full of sex starved women who just want cock. Any cock, they're not fussy. All they need to do is upload 47 unflattering, blurry pictures of their cock, write a biog that consists of "need a wet hole, HMU", send a few hundred cut and paste "I'm horny, wanna ride my pole" messages and women will flock to them. They dont understand it's the equivalent of walking up to a total stranger in a bar, flopping your cock out and saying "fancy a fuck". Life and Fab in particular isn't like that. Manners, respect, presentation and attraction still apply, even more so on line, especially on sites like Fab, where estimates suggest there's 100 women for every man. It's a cliche, but your profile is your shop window. Think about the shops you go in...... Not the boarded up, deserted ones with smashed windows. And certainly not the ones that don't have anything in you want to buy. Fab offers a myriad of ways to connect, messages, the forums, clubs, socials. In my (single man) experience one of those rarely worked for me. People will say its easier as a couple. However manners, respect, presentation and attraction still apply. Attraction is possibly harder as 3 or 4 people need to feel the attraction. For many couples add in childcare and school events and co-ordination is a nightmare. Good quality pictures, a hint of humour and (non sexual) fun, plus a biog that shows your character, what you offer and what you're looking for is the bare minimum. Make it a comfortable read. Find the tools that work for you and use them. Good luck. Winston | |||
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"Why is it I've had 0 people message me? Am I doing something wrong?" Most women and couples don't message people, they wait for messages. You seem like a decent bloke. Definitely try the socials. Good luck. | |||
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"I find the easiest way to get a full inbox is to be controversial on the forums ...and if you're controversial enough you're guaranteed atleast 1 DM ...usually saying "forum ban" ..but it's still a message "Can vouch for this , Got a ban | |||
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"You mean you've had no men message you to suck your dick even if your profile says straight.... Dude" And I thought that it was just me that got those | |||
"You mean you've had no men message you to suck your dick even if your profile says straight.... Dude And I thought that it was just me that got those "We all get those | |||
