Totally agree my first marriage i was straight cheated on. Second one although we were both part of the scene we always said that if we wanted to meet someone alone the other had to agree. I had no problem with this as I loved cleaning her when she got home 😉. Then out of the blue she told me she had been having an affair for a couple of years. Id not realised as they were meeting at my house while I was at work. She told me she loved him and was moving in with him. I dont know if its damaged me now but I dont think ill ever trust anyone fully ever again. |
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My wife went off any form of sex after the menopause, she knows I have a high sex drive and told me to find my release elsewhere but to never mention anything to her, I only meet during weekday daytimes when I'm supposed to be at work or if I'm away with work in a hotel. I never break my regular pattern at home ie suddenly start going out weekends or evenings on my own. It works for us . But guess the haters will be on my back now . |
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"My wife went off any form of sex after the menopause, she knows I have a high sex drive and told me to find my release elsewhere but to never mention anything to her, I only meet during weekday daytimes when I'm supposed to be at work or if I'm away with work in a hotel. I never break my regular pattern at home ie suddenly start going out weekends or evenings on my own. It works for us . But guess the haters will be on my back now ."
no mate I’m with you on this my wife went of sex after cancer 15 years ago not had a proper sex session with her since I’ve been loyal for ther first 5 years then started trying to get her to play but not interested she then said to me the same thing just don’t bring anything home !! She is just starting to come round to having sex again 🤞
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My wife went off sex due to the menopause. Turned out she didn't go off sex, as heard her masturbating most mornings after I'd got up for work.
Then I caught her having sex with a guy, thanks to my ring doorbell which was in the kitchen charging.
When I asked her if she was cheating on me, she said she would never cheat on me or lie to me, and had never lied to me.
I then showed her the video.
We split soon after.
Menopause was a great excuse to cheat without me knowing, on her days off. |
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"My wife went off any form of sex after the menopause, she knows I have a high sex drive and told me to find my release elsewhere but to never mention anything to her, I only meet during weekday daytimes when I'm supposed to be at work or if I'm away with work in a hotel. I never break my regular pattern at home ie suddenly start going out weekends or evenings on my own. It works for us . But guess the haters will be on my back now .no mate I’m with you on this my wife went of sex after cancer 15 years ago not had a proper sex session with her since I’ve been loyal for ther first 5 years then started trying to get her to play but not interested she then said to me the same thing just don’t bring anything home !! She is just starting to come round to having sex again 🤞"
Difference here is it sounds like both of you have been man enough to have an adult conversation about it with your wives. Too many don’t and just cheat regardless. That’s what hurts the most not the act of sex, but the constant lies. A lot would be surprised if they actually opened up, at how much support they may get from partners. The lies cause the issues and resentment. |
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I don't want to be unfaithful, but like some others, my other half has totally lost interest in anything sexual. We have a loving relationship, but she just doesn't want that. I feel terrible looking here, but I also long for sex.  |
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