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OK am i in the wrong place?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give it time.. There are a HUGE amount of men on here probably wanting the same thing.
You havn't been here long, so just be patient, make your profile read fun and i am sure you will attract people.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated. "
Are you into hardcore BDSM? |
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There are hundreds of men on here
BDSM is a particular fetish so you must realise some women won't be into it so your odds are reduced, then out of the remaining women you need add to the fact that your married and playing away so some will judge you for it and choose not to meet you, then the fact some women could be working day times reduces the odds again, and finally that some women won't accommodate in the home they share with their children so the odds are stacked against you I'm afraid |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Depends what you class as hardcore? I like bondage, spanking, tied & teased. What i consider soft might not be to someone else. Should i be more specific? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends what you class as hardcore? I like bondage, spanking, tied & teased. What i consider soft might not be to someone else. Should i be more specific?"
Yes you should be more specific!  |
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You're older,can't accommodate and are married,that cuts down times you can meet. Personally I won't meet attached men,nor will a lot of ladies...too much drama.
Your profile doesn't say if you're dom or sub,you bdsm interests and experience,what are your no go areas. If you're dom female subs are as elusive as the single bi female. You have age, you can't accommodate going against you, improve your profile and be patient.it's a swingers' site not insta shag x |
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Married
Can't accommodate
No specification as to dom/sub
No public photos to establish attraction
The above put me off immediately. Finding a match for a sub is hard enough without added drama and complications.
Even if you were looking for a Domme I don't fit your physical description of your wants.... not judging that of course as we all have preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't judge men who are married. They have their reasons. But the restrictions that married men have irritates the hell out of me. Only being able to meet at certain times. Unreasonable of me to feel like that, but selfishly I think what's the point if they can't meet when I'm available to meet.
Mrs |
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By *az__42Man
over a year ago
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try going to clubs like Valhalla that cater to fet. and bdsm people. Have a few drinks, loosen up, and chat. You can't just jump straight in as there's a high level of trust involved in bdsm play. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Not sure if my profile is crap or just getting lost in the sheer number of guys? Want to meet either a lady or couple for some daytime BDSM fun. any advice would be appreciated. "
ill be honest some people on here dont know what it is, you get critism..the divide between fet and swingers is rather large..my dynamic seeks to bridge that gap and we have success, but on here, youll get a mixed bag..go to clubs that have kink nights or furniture, mix mingle and network...its rare people do fet casually anyway..youd be better off going to fet events if you want a play partner x good luck in your search x |
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"I don't judge men who are married. They have their reasons. But the restrictions that married men have irritates the hell out of me. Only being able to meet at certain times. Unreasonable of me to feel like that, but selfishly I think what's the point if they can't meet when I'm available to meet.
Mrs"
I agree. I don't judge the guy but I have a life and therefore inevitably time. Especially never work.
In any D/so situation time is essential as it is that which builds trust to move into different areas.
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There are some good points already been made redundant other sites which offer specific social events. Could be an option to investigate for you. |
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