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Striggling to get people to message me back
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over a year ago
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"Anyone think my page is boring what do I need to do to it, or is it my age?"
You are aware this is a swingers site?
Although some people are also here to get straight into it (your words) there are others who like a bit of banter and a social ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All you say is you like oral sex and having sex. There's nothing there about you as person or your personality.
Plus if you've been here before surely you know it's about how you sell yourself and make yourself appealing to others, just saying I like sex isn't going to work for many people |
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Your profile waffles a bit, though doesn't really emphasise what it is that makes you in fact you. I'd like to know why I'd really benefit from meeting you, what I'd expect, why I should choose you - instead of all the other guys etc.
You've been on Fab before apparently and yet your profile doesn't really show you physically, in a way that I'd grasp how much physical attraction I have for you.
When you send messages to others, they'll likely view your profile. If it's not brilliant, then you're underselling yourself and potentially wasting the effort of sending messages out. Add a range of photos, that reveal more of how you really look. You don't need to show everything but enough to give the sparks of desire a chance to set more passion on fire.
Good luck!   |
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"It's not his age, it's his "I'm here come and get me" style profile  "
I'm glad it's not his age because if was, the only cure is to wait for himself to get older and that takes years. Or seconds, depending on your level of optimism. |
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"It's not his age, it's his "I'm here come and get me" style profile
I'm glad it's not his age because if was, the only cure is to wait for himself to get older and that takes years. Or seconds, depending on your level of optimism. "
Or how quickly you can set up a new profile  |
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You only have one picture up OP, which is a little grainy. A variety would be good.
Your profile text could do with a bit of an overhaul. Put a little more about yourself on there. I've said this quite a few times, but have a look at some of the male forumites profiles. Some of them are very successful at getting meets. You may get some tips as to why, and implement your own spin on your own profile. Just remember, a lot of women will look at your profile before even opening your message. Use it as your selling point, then hopefully more will reply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What does everyone think now anything else I could add there must be something I'm missing?"
too many exclamation marks! but I like the word striggling and have now stolen it...
honest?
be yourself chap; thats the best advice you will ever get |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile waffles a bit, though doesn't really emphasise what it is that makes you in fact you. I'd like to know why I'd really benefit from meeting you, what I'd expect, why I should choose you - instead of all the other guys etc.
You've been on Fab before apparently and yet your profile doesn't really show you physically, in a way that I'd grasp how much physical attraction I have for you.
When you send messages to others, they'll likely view your profile. If it's not brilliant, then you're underselling yourself and potentially wasting the effort of sending messages out. Add a range of photos, that reveal more of how you really look. You don't need to show everything but enough to give the sparks of desire a chance to set more passion on fire.
Good luck! "
Good of you to take time to answer positively to this guy have one of these |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What does everyone think now anything else I could add there must be something I'm missing?"
Sharpen up the grammar and spellcheck.
I am looking to meet mature woman...no, it's a mature woman or mature women, for example |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What does everyone think now anything else I could add there must be something I'm missing?"
Yes that's better. I would drop the bit about wanting someone to 'show you the ropes'. Nobody will do you that favour. People will either like you or they won't. Experience always helps on the swing scene, so I would advise you to get to some clubs and build up from there. Couples will be hard if you haven't been there before. There are certain dynamics with couple play and a three-way connection is required. As you can't accomodate, it might be worth suggesting an alternative - unless you were expecting to be invited to someone's house on a play meet. |
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"Anyone think my page is boring what do I need to do to it, or is it my age?"
We don't know you: you do. If you take all the advice offered your profile then becomes a generic yawn fest like thousands of others on here.
Don't be afraid to be "selective". Would you really meet a 70 year old? I'm 56 and wouldn't...but it really might be your thing, so hey!
All your sexual fantasies could come true but you need to let others know what you want and can offer in return.
Add an array of pics, just don't let them all be about your knob.
Your age will be a disadvantage, so don't handicap yourself further with a dire profile.
Good luck. |
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It's better than it was James! Quick thoughts here -
I'd cut out anything that's possibly a bit negative. It's not that it makes you sound negative but when reading it the reader acquires some of that negativity and likely associates you with it, albeit unconsciously.
Keep things focused on the priority areas of interest or about you.
There were some bits that were less focused on your main objectives. Eg, meeting a black woman, one day. (That's great but you could also just divert attention back away from your dream, to what you're mainly looking for and offering to others. Emphasise your sexual expertise too.
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Don't be afraid to be "selective". Would you really meet a 70 year old? ...but it really might be your thing, so hey!
All your sexual fantasies could come true but you need to let others know what you want and can offer in return.
Add an array of pics, just don't let them all be about your knob.
Your age will be a disadvantage, so don't handicap yourself further with a dire profile.
Good luck."
Good advice x |
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