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I have finally felt comfortable to start meeting people on here, and even daring to visit a club soon. My problem, however, is that as soon as people find out I travel with work they run a mile. I explain that I return to the same places regularly but by then it's too late. Any advice would be really appreciated
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Thats not usually my experience when I let people know I'll be in their area, but having boobs helps. Having said thatI got stood up last time.
No need to tell them you're travelling. You just managed to book the hotel as it was convenient/near the club/for a treat. |
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It's because people don't like to feel they're a convenience to while away an otherwise lonely night in an hotel. I'm pretty sure that's not how lots of travelling for work people see it. But its other people's perceptions that count in the short term rather than the actuality. Perhaps if you point out that you're likely to be back often it might make a difference. |
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I always try to be honest, there are so many bad guys on here and they cause havoc for the Decent guys. I do work a lot in the same areas and regularly come back. I like the hotel as a treat idea though, thank you |
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"I always try to be honest, there are so many bad guys on here and they cause havoc for the Decent guys. I do work a lot in the same areas and regularly come back. I like the hotel as a treat idea though, thank you"
Lol, you try to be honest but you're prepared to blur the truth about your reasons for staying in a hotel.
I know it must be frustrating to be judged to be the same as all the bad guys on here. But if you're planning on returning to an area regularly won't the reason you're in a hotel eventually become obvious? |
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"And that right there is why honesty is so important. Those little white lies are like ripples that cause waves down the line.
I claim to be a genuine good guy, I'm now wondering if they exist!"
They do exist.
I think you're doing the right thing by saying you're happy just to make friends .
We still laugh about the guy who was coming down here for a week and fondly imagined we were going to take him round the place and show him the sights  while providing sex in the evenings. There was another couple who thought staying with us would be great, they even offered to get a hotel if we didn't get along.
We're not a seaside attraction along with donkey rides and 99s.
I think you probably suffer from the fallout from the actions of the type of people I've mentioned above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's because people don't like to feel they're a convenience to while away an otherwise lonely night in an hotel. I'm pretty sure that's not how lots of travelling for work people see it. But its other people's perceptions that count in the short term rather than the actuality. Perhaps if you point out that you're likely to be back often it might make a difference."
I have exactly this problem. I often end up in different parts of the country and would love to have some company as it's pretty lonely sometimes. Many do see it as just wanting someone when it's convenient but what is actually wrong with that? It's supposed to be a two way thing, I'm not expecting anyone to meet me unless it's convenient for them too. It's just making use of free time that would otherwise be spent alone. |
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"It's because people don't like to feel they're a convenience to while away an otherwise lonely night in an hotel. I'm pretty sure that's not how lots of travelling for work people see it. But its other people's perceptions that count in the short term rather than the actuality. Perhaps if you point out that you're likely to be back often it might make a difference.
I have exactly this problem. I often end up in different parts of the country and would love to have some company as it's pretty lonely sometimes. Many do see it as just wanting someone when it's convenient but what is actually wrong with that? It's supposed to be a two way thing, I'm not expecting anyone to meet me unless it's convenient for them too. It's just making use of free time that would otherwise be spent alone."
There isn't a problem. We quite often meet people for a drink who are just passing through and would have no problem doing so on a regular basis if we got on. The same goes for moving on to more.
Where we have a problem is as i said being treated like part of the facilities. There's a subtle difference and i don't think I'm explaining it properly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's because people don't like to feel they're a convenience to while away an otherwise lonely night in an hotel. I'm pretty sure that's not how lots of travelling for work people see it. But its other people's perceptions that count in the short term rather than the actuality. Perhaps if you point out that you're likely to be back often it might make a difference.
I have exactly this problem. I often end up in different parts of the country and would love to have some company as it's pretty lonely sometimes. Many do see it as just wanting someone when it's convenient but what is actually wrong with that? It's supposed to be a two way thing, I'm not expecting anyone to meet me unless it's convenient for them too. It's just making use of free time that would otherwise be spent alone.
There isn't a problem. We quite often meet people for a drink who are just passing through and would have no problem doing so on a regular basis if we got on. The same goes for moving on to more.
Where we have a problem is as i said being treated like part of the facilities. There's a subtle difference and i don't think I'm explaining it properly."
No you are, I do understand. The frustrating part is that many rule out meeting someone who is just passing through regardless of any other factors. You don't which is refreshing but my experience is you are the minority. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had the same experience too...i will read this forum post very keenly to take any advice from experienced folks. I am new to the game and I love curvy women and MILFs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi
I have finally felt comfortable to start meeting people on here, and even daring to visit a club soon. My problem, however, is that as soon as people find out I travel with work they run a mile. I explain that I return to the same places regularly but by then it's too late. Any advice would be really appreciated
Tony "
It sounds like you are approaching people telling them you're in x location for work and when they say they're not interested tell them you'll be returning. If that's so maybe explain from the outset you're going to be a repeat visitor in x location. It would make a difference to us for the reasons already suggested. I don't want to be the alternative to a night watching porn alone in your room. We would rather have chance to meet a guy socially first and get to know them a bit, which isn't usually the case with fleeting work visitors.
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By *r missCouple
over a year ago
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I dont see why so many have an issue with it. If we had a message from someone wanting a meet and they were only passing for the one night it wouldnt bother us. Who cares? A meet to us is based on attraction, and us getting on. I really dont get why its such an issue to people. Our last meet we were away from home that weekend and ended up meeting a local couple and it was great fun!! |
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I have chatted to a lot of couples and i do think this site is very couples friendly. There is a fair share of idiot single guys and the numbers are rising. The rest of us just get tarred with the same brush. |
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"I dont see why so many have an issue with it. If we had a message from someone wanting a meet and they were only passing for the one night it wouldnt bother us. Who cares? A meet to us is based on attraction, and us getting on. I really dont get why its such an issue to people. Our last meet we were away from home that weekend and ended up meeting a local couple and it was great fun!!"
I think this way too, I understand not everyone does but I struggle to understand it.
What difference does it make if I have travelled half way across the country specifically to meet someone or I happen to be there for another reason such as work? I'm still me, they are still them and the interaction between us is going to be no different!
The only thing I can think is some people need to be made to feel special somehow or feel the center of attention, a mutually enjoyable time isn't enough for them.
The exception is if you are someone who insists on a separate social meet before a play meet then I accept it's not going to work. |
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I think people do like to feel special. Women in particular find it hard to shake off the idea that sex for its own sake can be enjoyable without guilt or commitment. So enjoying a one night stand with a stranger passing through town might be a step they would find difficult to take.
Just another thought that crossed mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that there are a number of people on fab who are, shall we say, less than serious about meeting and will look for any excuse they can to back out of a meet if they change their mind (rather than just being honest)
In my view, if someone really wants to meet you, then they will be more co-operative with you in making it happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So the good advice from this thread (for the other guys too) is to reassure you beautiful ladies that i regularly visit an ar a to work, is that right?
Profile rewrite in order i think"
If it's true yes. |
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By *r missCouple
over a year ago
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"I have chatted to a lot of couples and i do think this site is very couples friendly. There is a fair share of idiot single guys and the numbers are rising. The rest of us just get tarred with the same brush. "
True but our stance applies to single men just as much as couples. If we wanted to meet a man and liked him dont make a difference if he is local or from afar lol |
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