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Female needs profile advice! (Yes, really!)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey Fabbers 
I have been here for a week or so, and obviously as a girl I have been getting lots of interest but not necessarily of the type I want. Is there something I need to change on my profile or should I just filter?
Are my photos ok?
Is my profile content good enough?
Any advice greatly appreciated |
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"Awful lot to read through......  "
She's looking for intelligence, a long profile helps to pre-reject those who can't cope Perhaps make it longer still
Good profile - also a good move to not include explicit pics, we've found this reduces the amount of idiots. Pick your own pop-psych reason for this - we assume it's because dickheads looking for an easy time a drawn to the explicit pics. Fewer naughty pics, more nicer people, but YMMV! |
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By *htcMan
over a year ago
MK |
its long, i doubt many will read it fully some will skim read or not even read it. most men only tend to read a short profile before messaging. photos are fine, even without photos same amount of message come through.
and the amount of messages you get is what every guy does to every woman, as far too many guys upto women, so they are just trying there luck.
just put filters on age limits and delete or even block when no interest so no more messages from this person.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile text is well laid out and clear. Not hostile like some, no problems here.
Picture wise maybe a few more sexy full body shots from different angles. Your existing pics are mainly quite close up and don't show all of you off  |
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By *issVeryWoman
over a year ago
streatham |
I think it just looks long because you've spaced out your likes and don't likes into one word bullet points. One sentence with commas is your option if you're worried it's too long.
Bio content is great otherwise, photos too. There are men who will read it all!
However, whatever you have on there, nothing will automatically filter the douchebags. Don't overthink it though..One single gentle tab and delete. On to the next candidate.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all for your constructive comments
I know my profile is long, but to be honest, I wanted to make it as explicit as possible with regards to what I am looking for, so people known themselves before they message me if they fit the criteria. To be honest, I find intelligence very important, being a sapiophile, and if someone didn't take the time to read my profile on the basis that it was 'too long', then chances are they aren't what I am looking for anyway 
I am hoping to get some more photos taken tomorrow so will include some full-body shots  |
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By *andVCouple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
Your profile looks good and takes all of 2 minutes to read (if that) so thumbs up from us lol
Although like some have said no matter what you put a lot of people won't read them, and you will still get plenty of eye rolling messages from people who clearly haven't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey Fabbers
I have been here for a week or so, and obviously as a girl I have been getting lots of interest but not necessarily of the type I want. Is there something I need to change on my profile or should I just filter?
Are my photos ok?
Is my profile content good enough?
Any advice greatly appreciated "
I like your profile, it appears open and honest and gives plenty that would make messaging easy.
Pics are good too, tasteful is always best.
It's probably the volume of messages thats the problem really.. any decent ones would be lost in the rest I suspect.
Maybe block blokes for a while and message the ones that you like the sound of if it's not going right? |
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Nothing wrong with it as far as I can read, it seems to say what you want and what you do not want.
Only issue from my point of view is your age range, but other than that and the distance from me; its great.
ps I like you pics (yeh i am sure everyone says that !¬) |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
Northampton |
Your profile is fine :D Welcome to fab - where most guys take the 'scattergun' approach when messaging - hoping a shot or 2 lands!
Personally, I have found that quite often, half an hour in a local chat-room (or even in general chat) can be good to find someone, because you get a better sense of how they interact with you (and others) in real time.
Good luck !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have one of the best well written profiles I've seen on here complemented by lovely photos, now if I was a bit younger and lived closer lol well done with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I can't see nothing wrong with it and took less than 5 minutes to read and if I was a none smoker and lived closer you'd have an extra message to deal with lol. Would you mind looking at mine? I'm having trouble with replies and beginning to think there's something wrong with it, I put thought into messages say I want socials first but I don't know what I'm doing g wrong x |
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It's the sign of an interesting person who doesn't want to waste her time replying to the same questions constantly.
It also shows the men who are really interested because they will put the effort in to read it. Men who are lazy out of the bedroom....
"Awful lot to read through...... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the sign of an interesting person who doesn't want to waste her time replying to the same questions constantly.
It also shows the men who are really interested because they will put the effort in to read it. Men who are lazy out of the bedroom....
Awful lot to read through......
Could you check my profile and give me some advice or tips on it please "
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Profile is great, tells everyone what you are looking for. Think someone earlier in the thread mentioned full body pics, but it is hard to do flattering full body pics on your own, I know as the two I took were tricky to get right/not blurry. But the pics you do have are very cute and I like cute photos as it makes me want to see more
Happy swinging! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's too toooo loooooong.
It's clear well laid out etc. Too much info. What questions would someone ask now in a message or even at a social meet? You've covered it all and left very little room for chat to get to know you. Most guys wouldn't read past the person few lines, then skim to bottom to look for that 'password'  in order to message you. They then would say something in their message which tells you straight away they hadn't read it all.
Short... a few interests. Fewer 'nots' and leave room for interaction. Leave room for imagination. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've become a prolific reader of profiles, I don't think it makes much difference? I would message you and make reference to details of your profile to show I've read it? I still think if you don't like my face pic your not gonna meet me?
Your profile is excellent don't change a thing. Patience will pay off for you just keep at it and I'm sure you will find the perfect man x |
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It's long but doesn't feel like a slog to read, and is laid out in an easy way to digest. Putting in a password to put in the title of messages might allow you to quickly mass delete messages from people you don't know who have not read the profile. Sure some people might skim the text to find it but it's still something you can narrow down the messages to respond too so you don't get exhausted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have a lovely profile indeed you can tell a lot has gone into it.
It is detailed and states what your looking for.
As others have suggested put your filters on and look for who you like you will find them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, your profile is pretty much spot on!
I think you're just in the unfortunate situation of being a single female and you therefore get lots of interest from morons.
You may possibly have to set your profile to not looking for single guys, then look for any guys you want and message them first. |
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"Personally I can't see nothing wrong with it and took less than 5 minutes to read and if I was a none smoker and lived closer you'd have an extra message to deal with lol. Would you mind looking at mine? I'm having trouble with replies and beginning to think there's something wrong with it, I put thought into messages say I want socials first but I don't know what I'm doing g wrong x "
Your profile name will put off most. Also the photo does you no favours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's on the ball tells everyone what you like and want
The only problem you'll have is the guys that will just msg without reading it ?
A common problem for single ladies |
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I like your profie, it's honest and written well, but I do like to read what people say, it gives you a clue as to whether you may get on or if you are wasting your time.
I like your pictures also.
If I was nearer to you and in your age range then I would be interested.
Dave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profiles good. Most don't read them though. Best way is to use your filters or even block men altogether an search yourself and message men that interest yourself first.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's too toooo loooooong.
It's clear well laid out etc. Too much info. What questions would someone ask now in a message or even at a social meet? You've covered it all and left very little room for chat to get to know you. Most guys wouldn't read past the person few lines, then skim to bottom to look for that 'password' in order to message you. They then would say something in their message which tells you straight away they hadn't read it all.
Short... a few interests. Fewer 'nots' and leave room for interaction. Leave room for imagination. "
You're right! How could I have been so blind... everything about my life, my hopes, dreams, fantasies and desires has been summed up in these few short lines of text. If only I weren't such a two dimensional being I could have come up with so much more to put on my profile... *sigh* such is life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a good profile OP, the only thing I found a bit hypocritical was that you call yourself babe but don't want anyone else calling you that."
Yes I realised that when you said it have changed it now, thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I can't see nothing wrong with it and took less than 5 minutes to read and if I was a none smoker and lived closer you'd have an extra message to deal with lol. Would you mind looking at mine? I'm having trouble with replies and beginning to think there's something wrong with it, I put thought into messages say I want socials first but I don't know what I'm doing g wrong x
Your profile name will put off most. Also the photo does you no favours. "
What is wrong with the name and photos, if I may ask? |
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By *04davidMan
over a year ago
Blackpool |
Your profile is well written, informative and there's a nice balance between "I like" and "I don't like." I also think that your pics are excellent, they show you as being classy and sexy. Personally I don't think you needed to reveal your medical condition in your profile, it could be something you admit privately before meeting someone. However, intelligent people will understand that revealing it shows that you are totally honest and that you don't want to mislead possible partners. Good luck with your "meets" I'm sure you are going to get a lot of offers. |
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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago
Lichfield |
One problem I can see is your status update.
If you're particular about intelligence and have a well put together profile with likes and dislikes which helps filter out idiots who don't get past the first few sentences, then I'm afraid it's tarnished by your current status update. It doesn't require any of your profile to be read as it just wants men to treat you like a cum slut whore.
I appreciate it is only applicable for tommorow and is to satisfy a carnal need but it's something to bear in mind. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One problem I can see is your status update.
If you're particular about intelligence and have a well put together profile with likes and dislikes which helps filter out idiots who don't get past the first few sentences, then I'm afraid it's tarnished by your current status update. It doesn't require any of your profile to be read as it just wants men to treat you like a cum slut whore.
I appreciate it is only applicable for tommorow and is to satisfy a carnal need but it's something to bear in mind. "
I appreciate what you are saying but I am being true to myself- in this case my short term self. I think it is perfectly acceptable for my short term self to want something that I wouldn't want long term, and indeed I am fostering friendships from Fab that satisfy my longer term needs while also getting a long-existing fantasy out of my system in a safe and healthy way. The kind of men who will be attracted by that status are not the kind to read my profile anyway so there is little chance of a crossover |
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Profile is OK, but id remove the comment about "no silicone here" as it comes off a bit disrespectful to other woman who have had a boob job. Besides because or your large body size and weight I don't think anyone would think you have had a boob job anyway so id remove it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Profile is OK, but id remove the comment about "no silicone here" as it comes off a bit disrespectful to other woman who have had a boob job. Besides because or your large body size and weight I don't think anyone would think you have had a boob job anyway so id remove it."
Was that supposed to come across as shady as hell?
Because it did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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(got here too late for the drama, what a shame)
I have a few editorial tweaks to suggest. I would put the "What I am looking for" section before the likes and dislikes. It is the most crucial part of your profile, in letting people know what you are after - especially for those one-on-one meets, as the club meets are simpler to arrange in some respects.
I would change "A slightly submissive guy" to "A patient/empathetic/sensitive/caring(*) guy who enjoys giving pleasure and will let me set the pace for myself, however slow this may be (etc)" (*use any of these or other adjectives to that effect). So then you can get rid of the *PLEASE NOTE*, that's one paragraph down to help keep your profile trimmer.
Put the list of likes and dislikes at the very bottom, IME most people will only bother reading these as they are spaced out and easy to skim through - unlike reading a serious paragraph about special requirements. You will be able to tell who read just the likes/dislikes and who read your denser text. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could have the best, most well thought out profile on Fab and it won't get read, so just put what you want and filter out the crap messages yourself."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Awful lot to read through......
She's looking for intelligence, a long profile helps to pre-reject those who can't cope Perhaps make it longer still
Good profile - also a good move to not include explicit pics, we've found this reduces the amount of idiots. Pick your own pop-psych reason for this - we assume it's because dickheads looking for an easy time a drawn to the explicit pics. Fewer naughty pics, more nicer people, but YMMV!"
And this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You could have the best, most well thought out profile on Fab and it won't get read, so just put what you want and filter out the crap messages yourself.
This "
Yep, exactly this. I once had on the first line of my profile that I don't meet smokers or married/attached men so don't waste your time messaging if that's you but still got loads of messages from both! I block everyone now and search myself, works really well for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile seems fine to me. My ex girlfriend had the same condition, so thumbs up to you for being so up front about it.
I don't think your profile is too long. Maybe Twitter has fucked people's attention span lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure if it is against forum rules, but I am just ignoring him. Near miss with that one I think.
You asked for comments about your profile"
I did, yes, but I would have thought it common sense that if I had blocked someone from messaging me then it meant I didn't want to hear from said person in any form. Not very classy of the guy to bring any dirty laundry to the forum to air just because I had blocked him from messaging directly and he wanted the last word, now was it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile seems fine to me. My ex girlfriend had the same condition, so thumbs up to you for being so up front about it.
I don't think your profile is too long. Maybe Twitter has fucked people's attention span lol."
Thank you
I'm not ashamed to admit I have this condition-it isn't something I have a lot of control over, but hopefully other people will read my profile and it will help them feel better about similar conditions if they have them, or even just raise awareness that things like this exist.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Profile is OK, but id remove the comment about "no silicone here" as it comes off a bit disrespectful to other woman who have had a boob job. Besides because or your large body size and weight I don't think anyone would think you have had a boob job anyway so id remove it.
Was that supposed to come across as shady as hell?
Because it did. "
Agreed definitely shady and we'd say unnecessary and mean! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile seems fine to me. My ex girlfriend had the same condition, so thumbs up to you for being so up front about it.
I don't think your profile is too long. Maybe Twitter has fucked people's attention span lol.
Thank you
I'm not ashamed to admit I have this condition-it isn't something I have a lot of control over, but hopefully other people will read my profile and it will help them feel better about similar conditions if they have them, or even just raise awareness that things like this exist. "
Honestly you don't have to thank me. I know what it's like.
I like your style |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, I like your profile and the pictures.. I would suggest to leave it in it's current state as to not overdo it. Leave something to the imagination and something to talk about.
Particularly fond of your default profile picture X |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"He couldn't have been blocked when he looked at your profile, as he answered your OP he isn't airing any washing
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I have removed you answer as you are airing dirty washing.
He has only made one post on this thread and it didn't break any rules so please drop it and ignore anyone that you have issues with. If you think a person has broken forum rules report the post and Admin will review. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, I like your profile and the pictures.. I would suggest to leave it in it's current state as to not overdo it. Leave something to the imagination and something to talk about.
Particularly fond of your default profile picture X"
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol notice those who claim it's too long are men?! Says a lot and it's not actually a surprise to get honest.
Op, your profile is great. You shouldn't delete anything. It's your body and upto you whatever you wish to do with it. A decent guy will respect that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol notice those who claim it's too long are men?! Says a lot and it's not actually a surprise to get honest.
Op, your profile is great. You shouldn't delete anything. It's your body and upto you whatever you wish to do with it. A decent guy will respect that.
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I always read profiles but done me no favours at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have stated who you are, your likes and your dislikes. Honestly, we can't find anything wrong with your profile nor do we have any suggestions on how to improve it further
- Mrs. J - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey Fabbers
I have been here for a week or so, and obviously as a girl I have been getting lots of interest but not necessarily of the type I want. Is there something I need to change on my profile or should I just filter?
Are my photos ok?
Is my profile content good enough?
Any advice greatly appreciated "
Sadly most men cannot/will not read profiles which is why I am blocking men even though I am bi. |
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I think your profile is great, if people bother to read it they know what you like, don't like, and why you're here. Just the advice you gave me on my profile
You'll never stop the hotlist, cock pics or friend requests nor people that don't match what you want messaging you too (me included from our forum chats lol & when your pics at that good lol)
To me if people read it properly they'll get you and want you want x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you all
I have spoken to some really nice people who get where I am coming from and what I am looking for, and I just block people who send me the kind of generic, copy and paste, sexually explicit messages I am not looking for |
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