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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was warned be carefull what you wish for . Some Dommes can be very cruel . "
That's why you talk talk talk before hand and set boundaries. If after that they are still cruel, than they clearly have no idea what they are doing and you run, run away fast.
Poppy |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"I was warned be carefull what you wish for . Some Dommes can be very cruel .
Or even a bit sadistic"
Some people want/need that and some Dommes are able to give it to them 
Non consensually is a different matter so please don't confuse the two  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Want to be submissive to a dom to take full control of me!!"
Your wish is a fantasy. However the term "full control" is totally unrealistic for a newbie.. even for experienced subs. We all have boundaries and limits (although an experienced Domme will push your boundaries and explore your limits)
For example I do know of a Domme who, at the request of one of her female submissives, will be beating her severely and stapling her vagina shut (extreme chastity), so be careful what you wish for.
Remember a true Domme uses safe words and plays safe, sane and consensual.
Take little steps and explore to find out what you like. Then your next and most difficult challenge is to find someone on your wavelength, who is willing to make your experience mutually rewarding, exciting and fun, but at the same time having your safety as paramount. Dommes and subs play on a multitude of different levels, from tie and tease, to very extreme.
Hope this helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a total sub. Tried to switch but I can't get into that headspace. It is only given if the Dom/domme knows the sub can take it. Said from experience for a few that have subs into the more extreme. And never overstep the limit you can take |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"Want to be submissive to a dom to take full control of me!!
Your wish is a fantasy. However the term "full control" is totally unrealistic for a newbie.. even for experienced subs.."
To be fair when I see things like 'full control' it can indicate a lack of experience and understanding or an inability to verbalise the true needs so it gives little for a Domme to go on. I tend to stay away, I have enough people who want a specific kink, scene, feeling or experience to keep me occupied.
It might be worth the OP thinking about what full control might look like, how would it/you feel, what type of things might happen, what don't you want to happen. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
The North / Party Hard Everywhere |
"I'm a total sub. Tried to switch but I can't get into that headspace. It is only given if the Dom/domme knows the sub can take it. Said from experience for a few that have subs into the more extreme. And never overstep the limit you can take"
You're certainly pushing your boundaries bit by but spud x |
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By *az1Man
over a year ago
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"I was warned be carefull what you wish for . Some Dommes can be very cruel .
That's why you talk talk talk before hand and set boundaries. If after that they are still cruel, than they clearly have no idea what they are doing and you run, run away fast.
Poppy"
True. It’s not just about fucking the other person hard or spanking them or calling them names. You have to build a bit of intimacy and mind connection for regular dom/sub meets ect x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was warned be carefull what you wish for . Some Dommes can be very cruel .
That's why you talk talk talk before hand and set boundaries. If after that they are still cruel, than they clearly have no idea what they are doing and you run, run away fast.
Poppy"
Communication is key. Set your hard and soft limits. Sometimes the idea of total submission/ control is intoxicating but the reality is different. However, if you are in the right mindset limits can be tested but a good Domme will read the signs. If downtime after hard play isn’t considered then it can really mess you up. Get it right with your Domme first. Talk talk talk as Poppy has already highlighted.....take her good advice.
Rob. (A very happy Dom). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a total sub. Tried to switch but I can't get into that headspace. It is only given if the Dom/domme knows the sub can take it. Said from experience for a few that have subs into the more extreme. And never overstep the limit you can take
You're certainly pushing your boundaries bit by but spud x"
I'm getting there Miss. Doing more and more these days.... Been hell of a ride |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh yes. Not many have managed to get in my head though"
You need to look for something other than or more than a beating spud. Something you fear, something someone will lead you to and take you through. That's where the headspace is at and it's the most satisfying type of domination for me. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"The OP said dom not domme, he's looking for a man  maybe not take a look at his profile .
He's bi looking for males ,females ,couples ,TV. TS "
Some people forget to make the distinction but either way, no Domme has actually offered the OP a meet, just discussed issues that have come up so it's a moot point |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"The dark side .very much my world
I'm still searching and looking for my boundries
Next stop ..fireplay and flesh hooks .
Big step from fantasy to reality .how many dare...how many can "
Fireplay ive done and it's great. Flesh hooks not, I'm at needles but I guess there's always the next step...  |
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