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Single guy - no joy - feedback requested

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all,

I’d appreciate feedback anyone can give me on how to improve my “strike rate” as a single guy... if the problem is pics etc feel free to be brutal...

I can empathise with the posters who think this site is fake, yet there seem to be some genuine people on here reading many of the posts.

Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Strike rate

Oh dear hunny

Run away, hide and save yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Poor choice of words - I mean success rate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Poor choice of words - I mean success rate

You meant that

And wrote something else entirely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey guy

From what I can see, probably change the pics, nothing actually wrong with them tbh, just need a wee smile in there somewhere, maybe a body shot, artistically shot with good lighting or something.

The wording is fine, maybe go into a bit more about what you can offer possible future meets. I would also maybe disregard the whole "expectations of sex after a few messages" in there and ya should be grand! Although its a ladies eye, you truly need my good man.

Good luck bro

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks will take that on board.

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By *astings SocialWoman over a year ago

Hastings

Remove the Edit part x

Go along to a social or two and get some verifications

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down. "

Oh dear

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By *rmskirk360Woman over a year ago

Wigan

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down. "

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Remove the Edit part x

Go along to a social or two and get some verifications "

Thanks. Already done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Remove the "New" bit, 'cause after a year you aren't new.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to. "

I just posted for some advice - not scathing comments as I received about something which was obviously just a figure of speech.

I’ve taken the bit about reply + quote on board, ta. Shows how much of a newbie I am.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down. "

Wow, man. Thick skin an all that. You did ask for a little criticism in regards to your profile. Lets all be friends and carry on eh lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile says nothing of what you have to offer anyone. You need to sell yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to.

I just posted for some advice - not scathing comments as I received about something which was obviously just a figure of speech.

I’ve taken the bit about reply + quote on board, ta. Shows how much of a newbie I am.

"
He's getting there.. Lol

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By *rmskirk360Woman over a year ago

Wigan

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to.

I just posted for some advice - not scathing comments as I received about something which was obviously just a figure of speech.

I’ve taken the bit about reply + quote on board, ta. Shows how much of a newbie I am.

I don't see anything scathing in what you were asked. I do, however, see your attitude in your reply.

It usually becomes obvious pretty soon why people struggle, and in my opinion, this is one of those threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

Wow, man. Thick skin an all that. You did ask for a little criticism in regards to your profile. Lets all be friends and carry on eh lol

That was aimed at a sarccy reply on here rather than criticism of my profile. I don’t suffer fools ( have my real life for that! ) and I tell it like it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to.

I just posted for some advice - not scathing comments as I received about something which was obviously just a figure of speech.

I’ve taken the bit about reply + quote on board, ta. Shows how much of a newbie I am.

I don't see anything scathing in what you were asked. I do, however, see your attitude in your reply.

It usually becomes obvious pretty soon why people struggle, and in my opinion, this is one of those threads. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your profile says nothing of what you have to offer anyone. You need to sell yourself"

Thanks for this.

A good comment.

I’ve described my physical attributes, what would you recommend I add to what I’ve already said, in terms of subjects.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to.

I just posted for some advice - not scathing comments as I received about something which was obviously just a figure of speech.

I’ve taken the bit about reply + quote on board, ta. Shows how much of a newbie I am.

I don't see anything scathing in what you were asked. I do, however, see your attitude in your reply.

It usually becomes obvious pretty soon why people struggle, and in my opinion, this is one of those threads. "

Genuinely not meant like that and I apologise if I’ve come across as having an attitude - I haven’t!

It was just an initial request for advice which received a couple of sarcy replies that I reacted to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

Oh dear"

Ok, I overreacted and I apologise for doing so. But, with the greatest respect, I asked for advice on my profile. You haven’t provided any yet attacked something I’d said on this forum.

(Great profile pic btw if you ever fancy a toyboy).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

Oh dear

Ok, I overreacted and I apologise for doing so. But, with the greatest respect, I asked for advice on my profile. You haven’t provided any yet attacked something I’d said on this forum.

(Great profile pic btw if you ever fancy a toyboy).

I just queried why you had written something, that you then went on to say you didnt mean

Im not into young guys, thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

Oh dear

Ok, I overreacted and I apologise for doing so. But, with the greatest respect, I asked for advice on my profile. You haven’t provided any yet attacked something I’d said on this forum.

(Great profile pic btw if you ever fancy a toyboy).

I just queried why you had written something, that you then went on to say you didnt mean

Im not into young guys, thankyou"

No worries. Apologies again. It was a genuine query as I say.

Good to know there’s hope for me when I’m a bit older then.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down. "

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind."

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck."

Proof of what, exactly?

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Yes, you’re looking for those under 40

Can I comment re your profile, says “if you want to know more get in touch” Better wording (merely my opinion) is “look forward to hearing from you lovely people”

Best of luck OP..although I think your sarcasm could possibly be a one possible reason for your struggles here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, you’re looking for those under 40

Can I comment re your profile, says “if you want to know more get in touch” Better wording (merely my opinion) is “look forward to hearing from you lovely people”

Best of luck OP..although I think your sarcasm could possibly be a one possible reason for your struggles here.

Thanks very much for that, will amend accordingly!.

To be clear, I’m not a sarcastic guy generally. I’ve just had some odd responses on here. I’m sure you’re all lovely people and I’ll tone it down accordingly.

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By *tockport 69Couple over a year ago

Stockport

Man man man get a life.or a wife fedup with all you man on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Man man man get a life.or a wife fedup with all you man on this site "

Maybe you should learn to write?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

Proof of what, exactly? "

Have to totally agree. The thing with fab is that you are projecting an image of what you are, thro profile txt, pics, the way you interact on forums, in chat etc. Your profile is mediocre and some of your replies are coming across as rude, so I doubt you will have much success on here. If thats how you are then crack on, if not change it. We certainly wouldn't meet someone coming across like you as it would not be fun.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

Proof of what, exactly?

Best of luck."

Thanks for the feedback.

How would you improve the profile?

Re. the rudeness, not intentional, but I’ve had some pretty unjustifiably rude responses (being told to “get a life” etc.) when all I’ve done is come on here for some advice...

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile says "can't accommodate" but in the text it says you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Your profile says "can't accommodate" but in the text it says you can"

Thanks - that was a mistake I’ve now corrected (I can accomodate).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

This may be why you're struggling. Just a thought...

Ps. Reply and quote so we know who you're replying to.

I just posted for some advice - not scathing comments as I received about something which was obviously just a figure of speech.

I’ve taken the bit about reply + quote on board, ta. Shows how much of a newbie I am.

You seem to moan about every reply - you'll go down well as these will all remember you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

Proof of what, exactly?

Best of luck.

Thanks for the feedback.

How would you improve the profile?

Re. the rudeness, not intentional, but I’ve had some pretty unjustifiably rude responses (being told to “get a life” etc.) when all I’ve done is come on here for some advice...

OP, try to be a little more open, if you only want to meet up to 50, that's your choice, if you express a preference for under 40 then the 40-50's wont be impressed, they might feel second choice. If its 50, just say that and then filter through replies, don't put up barriers to people responding.

The suggestion to put 'look forward to hearing from you' is a really good one, shows openness. And the one about a smiley photo.

Congratulations on avoiding the gratuitous c*ck pic.

Mrs

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

Proof of what, exactly?

Best of luck.

Thanks for the feedback.

How would you improve the profile?

Re. the rudeness, not intentional, but I’ve had some pretty unjustifiably rude responses (being told to “get a life” etc.) when all I’ve done is come on here for some advice...

You are better rising above it.

If you look at msgiveswood profile she has soon good advice for newbies.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You're an attractive guy, tall and able to accommodate, your write up is ok, perhaps you could do with some tasteful body shots.

If you were in my area I'd be tempted to contact you although the fact your still unverified after a year + would make me think twice. It can't be that difficult to arrange at least a social in London?

Is it the type of messages you send? Maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

Proof of what, exactly?

Best of luck."

Absolutely agree.

OP your three pictures are pretty “samey” try uploading some different ones, including body shots too as some women would like to see that.

Your written bit doesn’t say much about you and what you like, it doesnt showcase your personality either so for me I would pass it by.

Also with your age preference you say you’d prefer people under 40 but have a limit up to 50, and I agree with what someone said, those between 40 & 50 may feel like second best and not reply to you just because of that.

Your profile is kind of like your shop window, the better you make it the more success I assume you’ll get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just some advice smile in ur pics and also tell us more about what you can offer future meets

Side note

When in forums asking for advice expect a lil sarcasm from some people it happens ignore it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The thing with forums and profiles is that the medium does not show very well (if at all) the nuances, signs and signals that meeting in person does.

Quite often what someone is trying to say, get over and project is not how they are percieved, its hard to get someones personality from a cold hard computer screen.

Over time if you contribute to a forum you build up a rapport with like minded folk and some do get you and some do not.

You will never please everyone so dont try to, just be yourself and if you ask for advice then read it and try to take the positives rather than react to the negatives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You're an attractive guy, tall and able to accommodate, your write up is ok, perhaps you could do with some tasteful body shots.

Is it the type of messages you send? Maybe?"

Thanks for that (and for the compliment).

The honest answer to that is that I signed up last year but then almost immediately started dating someone who wasn’t into the swinging scene. Now newly single again so have jumped back into fhe pool.

I probably need to try a social first.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

Oh dear

Ok, I overreacted and I apologise for doing so. But, with the greatest respect, I asked for advice on my profile. You haven’t provided any yet attacked something I’d said on this forum.

(Great profile pic btw if you ever fancy a toyboy).

I just queried why you had written something, that you then went on to say you didnt meanIm not into young guys, thankyou"

Yet you didn't accept what he said and carried on querying it.

If you have no advice about peoples profiles when they are asking for help as a newbie please avoid the threads as it isn't helping or welcoming the new member

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Man man man get a life.or a wife fedup with all you man on this site "

Then avoid the threads asking for advice from a new member or single men altogether please

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"FFS. It’s a figure of speech.

Not looking for an argument, just some constructive advice on how I can improve my profile.

If you can’t provide that then pipe down.

I looked at your profile and thought I would meet you then I changed my mind.

Did you? If so, you evidently didn’t read it.

You’re 57!

...and further proof.

I wish you happy fabbing and the very best of luck.

Proof of what, exactly?

Best of luck.

Thanks for the feedback.

How would you improve the profile?

Re. the rudeness, not intentional, but I’ve had some pretty unjustifiably rude responses (being told to “get a life” etc.) when all I’ve done is come on here for some advice...

You are better rising above it.

If you look at msgiveswood profile she has soon good advice for newbies."

I know.

Tbh I’m quite tongue in cheek and when I’m met with sarcasm tend to shoot it straight back. I can see how my early messages made me look like a massive dick. Not my intention at all (and I’m actually not like that).

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

To the OP, please don't be put off , there are some people about who will give constructive advice when asked as shown. Try not to rise to any bait when people are nasty or trying to humiliate the newbie, if you report instead from the post it will be looked at that way. You were bound to reply even if people don't think you should.

There is some good advice on this and other threads, I am sure you will figure it out. Stick around on the forum while you wait for a meet, sometimes it can be fun

To the people who are so obviously not interested in giving advice or tempted to be nasty in your replies...please avoid the advice threads altogether as it really isn't welcoming to new members of which you were all once.

Welcome to the forum OP

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