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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had my first taste of being a master recently, I'm now looking for a new slut.
Must be very obedient, extremely slutty and curvy.
If interested, message me.
Address all messages to Master. |
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"I've been very clear with the ladies that have messaged me so far.
No need for insults."
No need to be so defensive Hun. U ok?
I certainly wouldn't expect a sensible sub to message a master/mistress with that info and attitude. You come across like a bad short story that only works in your head.
Why not save the dynamic for actual play and invest in a bit of reality interaction as an intro? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been very clear with the ladies that have messaged me so far.
No need for insults.
No need to be so defensive Hun. U ok?
I certainly wouldn't expect a sensible sub to message a master/mistress with that info and attitude. You come across like a bad short story that only works in your head.
Why not save the dynamic for actual play and invest in a bit of reality interaction as an intro?"
Thank you for the advice. Sorry for offence caused. |
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"I've been very clear with the ladies that have messaged me so far.
No need for insults.
No need to be so defensive Hun. U ok?
I certainly wouldn't expect a sensible sub to message a master/mistress with that info and attitude. You come across like a bad short story that only works in your head.
Why not save the dynamic for actual play and invest in a bit of reality interaction as an intro?
Thank you for the advice. Sorry for offence caused."
None caused...how many times have you Dommed and what was your intro to it?
What kind of kinkplay are you into?
Are you SSC?
Do you want roleplay? What are your boundaries?
Do you use safewords or traffic lights. Will PS be part of the playscene?
These are all questions a sub might need to know before play. If you have a "just trust me" attitude it doesn't engender trust funnily. |
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"I had my first taste of being a master recently, I'm now looking for a new slut.
Must be very obedient, extremely slutty and curvy.
If interested, message me.
Address all messages to Master."
Your profile is about photography and straightforward likes.
Maybe you should change it to reflect that you're now in a master role. |
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Seriously, take a step back. Do some reading. Talk to other dominant people. But for gods sake don’t just meet ‘sluts’ to do with what you will. Without the proper knowledge, discussion and understanding it’s bloody dangerous and borderline abusive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I echo all the advice on here and add the following:
Go to a local munch and meet likeminded peeps.
Read BDSM 101.
Type with two hands and utilise that double handed typing to research all the things mentioned already. |
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Oh and one other thing. “Address all messages to Master”. In my view, a title of any description is given, not taken. It’s sonething you have to earn. And when the time is right, it will happen. Being called Master doesn’t make you one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started getting into the dom role about a year ago but even then I knew that it's not about walking into a room and announcing that that you want a slut and give off the impression that it's a one way game. This isn't dom/sub, this is an abusive, toxic relationship.
Do all the research that you like and you will learn that the sub is the true controller of the situation as she/he can end the scene whenever they like.
The dom is the teacher and the guide. The sub gets pleasure out of pleasing their master through fulfilling his/her desires, the master offers encouragement, rewards and punishment accordingly if she wanes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I started getting into the dom role about a year ago but even then I knew that it's not about walking into a room and announcing that that you want a slut and give off the impression that it's a one way game. This isn't dom/sub, this is an abusive, toxic relationship.
Do all the research that you like and you will learn that the sub is the true controller of the situation as she/he can end the scene whenever they like.
The dom is the teacher and the guide. The sub gets pleasure out of pleasing their master through fulfilling his/her desires, the master offers encouragement, rewards and punishment accordingly if she wanes.
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Yes yes yes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I started getting into the dom role about a year ago but even then I knew that it's not about walking into a room and announcing that that you want a slut and give off the impression that it's a one way game. This isn't dom/sub, this is an abusive, toxic relationship.
Do all the research that you like and you will learn that the sub is the true controller of the situation as she/he can end the scene whenever they like.
The dom is the teacher and the guide. The sub gets pleasure out of pleasing their master through fulfilling his/her desires, the master offers encouragement, rewards and punishment accordingly if she wanes.
Yes yes yes!"
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"I had my first taste of being a master recently, I'm now looking for a new slut.
Must be very obedient, extremely slutty and curvy.
If interested, message me.
Address all messages to Master."
OP, it seems to me that you are not at all dominant, and have absolutely no idea how the d/s dynamic works.
As Benjamin Parker notably said, 'with great power comes great responsibility'
While a good dom/me holds the sub's life in their hands, but it is actualy the sub who has the power. So you see, the dynamics are complex.
Anyone can be a bedroom bully, but few can properly call themselves a dom/me.
As someone else has already said, the title of 'master' is given, not demanded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone has already pointed out, a submissive actually holds all the power, Allowing the Dominant to be in perceived control up to a point ...the moment a submissive (me, female in this case) uses the safe word, everything stops immediately.. I have ultimate control. I can stop play at any time. To allow a Dominant control is above all else a trust exercise |
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"As someone has already pointed out, a submissive actually holds all the power, Allowing the Dominant to be in perceived control up to a point ...the moment a submissive (me, female in this case) uses the safe word, everything stops immediately.. I have ultimate control. I can stop play at any time. To allow a Dominant control is above all else a trust exercise "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had my first taste of being a master recently, I'm now looking for a new slut.
Must be very obedient, extremely slutty and curvy.
If interested, message me.
Address all messages to Master.
OP, it seems to me that you are not at all dominant, and have absolutely no idea how the d/s dynamic works.
As Benjamin Parker notably said, 'with great power comes great responsibility'
While a good dom/me holds the sub's life in their hands, but it is actualy the sub who has the power. So you see, the dynamics are complex.
Anyone can be a bedroom bully, but few can properly call themselves a dom/me.
As someone else has already said, the title of 'master' is given, not demanded."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As someone has already pointed out, a submissive actually holds all the power, Allowing the Dominant to be in perceived control up to a point ...the moment a submissive (me, female in this case) uses the safe word, everything stops immediately.. I have ultimate control. I can stop play at any time. To allow a Dominant control is above all else a trust exercise
THIS "
Mwah....thank you. I don’t have a master . I have a Dominant . |
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"I started getting into the dom role about a year ago but even then I knew that it's not about walking into a room and announcing that that you want a slut and give off the impression that it's a one way game. This isn't dom/sub, this is an abusive, toxic relationship.
Do all the research that you like and you will learn that the sub is the true controller of the situation as she/he can end the scene whenever they like.
The dom is the teacher and the guide. The sub gets pleasure out of pleasing their master through fulfilling his/her desires, the master offers encouragement, rewards and punishment accordingly if she wanes.
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100% yes to this |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I had my first taste of being a master recently, I'm now looking for a new slut.
Must be very obedient, extremely slutty and curvy.
If interested, message me.
Address all messages to Master."
I'm confused, you said you had your first taste of being a master recently but then further down you say 'all my sluts', which is it? You're new to it or you have a harem of wanton trollops at your beck and call?
You need to really do some research because as people have already said, someone could get seriously hurt and you could end up with the police knocking on your door if things got out of hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had my first taste of being a master recently, I'm now looking for a new slut.
Must be very obedient, extremely slutty and curvy.
If interested, message me.
Address all messages to Master."
OP maybe start by changing your profile to explain what you are looking for; it seems your current one doesn’t reflect this.
BDSM has an array of ‘interests’ and if you’re just starting out can I suggest you look for someone to explore with. It takes time, patience and trust to build a sub/Dom relationship. To call him ‘master’ would have to be given by me; it’s not a right.
Good luck finding someone for your journey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I started getting into the dom role about a year ago but even then I knew that it's not about walking into a room and announcing that that you want a slut and give off the impression that it's a one way game. This isn't dom/sub, this is an abusive, toxic relationship.
Do all the research that you like and you will learn that the sub is the true controller of the situation as she/he can end the scene whenever they like.
The dom is the teacher and the guide. The sub gets pleasure out of pleasing their master through fulfilling his/her desires, the master offers encouragement, rewards and punishment accordingly if she wanes.
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Perfect! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not one for americanisms...however ...over there they use the term “master”
Master mechanic, master carpenter...even master sergeant in some parts of their armed forces...not sure of the origins, but I’m assuming it’s a kind of “time served”
You’ve been doing it long enough to know what you’re doing, do it well and be able to instruct others in your “profession”
Taking this on board, “tried it liked it call me master” doesn’t really work .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just to wrap this up for anyone wanting to seriously known in the future rather than this joke of request.
Its taken from a book I've been reading, pretty much in the first couple of pages of the book.
Should also point out that I'm not accusing OP of abuse, just pointing out where some people can get confused between abuse and bdsm if their intentions and research are flawed
The difference between dom/sub and abuse:
I thought of you when I read this quote from "BDSM Basics for Beginners - A Guide for Dominants and Submissives Starting to Explore the Lifestyle" by Michelle Fegatofi, Marco Belcastro Bara -
"1. Restraints. Abusers tend to restrain their victims with fear and intimidation, not safety clips and quick releases.
2. The availability of mentors, reference materials and technical guides.
3.SM rarely results in facial marks or marks that are received on the forearms (defensive marks).
4. There is usually an even pattern of marks if it is SM, indicating the bottom held quite still during the stimulation.
5. The marks are often quite well-defined when inflicted by a toy like cane or whip, whereas in abuse there are blotches of soft-tissue bruising, randomly distributed.
6. The common areas for SM stimulation is on the buttocks, thighs, back, breasts, or the genitals. The fleshy parts of the body can be stimulated intensely and pleasurably.
7. D/s is about the building of a trusting relationship between two consenting adult partners.
8.Abuse is about the breach of trust between an authority figure and the person in their care.
9. D/s is about the mutual respect demonstrated between two enlightened people.
10. Abuse is about the lack of respect that one person demonstrates to another person.
11. D/s is about a shared enjoyment of controlled erotic pain and/or humiliation for mutual pleasure.
12.Abuse is about a form of out-of-control physical violence and/or personal or emotional degradation of the submissive.
13. D/s is about loving each other completely and without reservation in an alternate way.
14. Abuse is hurtful. It is also very damaging emotionally and spiritually to the submissive.
15. D/s frees a submissive from the restraints of years of vanilla conditioning to explore a buried part of herself.
16. Abuse binds a submissive to a lonely and solitary life of shame, fear and secrecy... imprisoning her very soul.
17. D/s builds self-esteem as a person discovers and embraces their long hidden sexuality.
18. Abuse shatters and destroys a person's self-esteem and leaves self-hatred in its place." |
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!"
Thing is... blundering into a BDSM scene with no knowledge or understanding can be dangerous for both participants. We HAVE to make that clear when an absolute beginner sets up like that.
Half an hour into a first scene once I had to pause play because I recognised my sub was going into mild shock because of excitement. A friend of mine has nerve damage in her hand PERMANENTLY due to an ill informed Dom's shoddy rope work and inattention.
BDSM can be a lot of fun but even simple scenes can go wrong and abusive practice must be highlighted when it is seen. If OP had said "I've tried this and I really like it can experienced people give me his btw on how to get into it?" Then there's a warm and welcoming community out there. |
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Thing is... blundering into a BDSM scene with no knowledge or understanding can be dangerous for both participants. We HAVE to make that clear when an absolute beginner sets up like that.
Half an hour into a first scene once I had to pause play because I recognised my sub was going into mild shock because of excitement. A friend of mine has nerve damage in her hand PERMANENTLY due to an ill informed Dom's shoddy rope work and inattention.
BDSM can be a lot of fun but even simple scenes can go wrong and abusive practice must be highlighted when it is seen. If OP had said "I've tried this and I really like it can experienced people give me his btw on how to get into it?" Then there's a warm and welcoming community out there. "
Hints* (not 'his btw') |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!"
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more.. |
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"I’m not one for americanisms...however ...over there they use the term “master”
Master mechanic, master carpenter...even master sergeant in some parts of their armed forces...not sure of the origins, but I’m assuming it’s a kind of “time served”
You’ve been doing it long enough to know what you’re doing, do it well and be able to instruct others in your “profession”
Taking this on board, “tried it liked it call me master” doesn’t really work ...."
It's a hangover from the apprentice system, where young people learn by working under supervision.
When they have finished, they prove they are qualified by producing a 'master piece', to show they know the tricks of the trade. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more.."
No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?"
He could potentially injure someone with his lack of knowledge on the subject so I think the responses were all quite valid. Also, on the subject of rude, calling women sluts and insisting we call him master isn't rude? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?
He could potentially injure someone with his lack of knowledge on the subject so I think the responses were all quite valid. Also, on the subject of rude, calling women sluts and insisting we call him master isn't rude? "
Not we in my opinion it's the particular woman he's looking for.Some women respond to naughty talk, don't take it personally.Anyway the way you express your opinion is in a decent fashion which is nice to see. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?"
BDSM may not be your thing, which is fine, but perhaps you should demonstrate a little knowledge on the subject, before offering advice on such a potentially dangerous activity.
And I say dangerous, as yes, people have died. |
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Smacking down the OP may also be useful for those looking to explore their sub side, too. I get plenty of messages like the OP. I know enough to delete/ tell them to get lost, but not everyone does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been very clear with the ladies that have messaged me so far.
No need for insults.
No need to be so defensive Hun. U ok?
I certainly wouldn't expect a sensible sub to message a master/mistress with that info and attitude. You come across like a bad short story that only works in your head.
Why not save the dynamic for actual play and invest in a bit of reality interaction as an intro?
Thank you for the advice. Sorry for offence caused."
You do sound pretty new - how about a bit of D/s research, Google style! Read and see if it's really for you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?
BDSM may not be your thing, which is fine, but perhaps you should demonstrate a little knowledge on the subject, before offering advice on such a potentially dangerous activity.
And I say dangerous, as yes, people have died."
What you call BDSM may just be a harmless variety of roleplay,thats the way I viewed his post.He didn't mention anything life threatening. |
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?
BDSM may not be your thing, which is fine, but perhaps you should demonstrate a little knowledge on the subject, before offering advice on such a potentially dangerous activity.
And I say dangerous, as yes, people have died.What you call BDSM may just be a harmless variety of roleplay,thats the way I viewed his post.He didn't mention anything life threatening."
When you're giving up that kind of control, you have to be extremely cautious. Even as just role play it can be a serious head fuck, and that needs to be minded as well.
Asking for submission before negotiation takes place is inappropriate and means that safety checks can be missed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to wrap this up for anyone wanting to seriously known in the future rather than this joke of request.
Its taken from a book I've been reading, pretty much in the first couple of pages of the book.
Should also point out that I'm not accusing OP of abuse, just pointing out where some people can get confused between abuse and bdsm if their intentions and research are flawed
The difference between dom/sub and abuse:
I thought of you when I read this quote from "BDSM Basics for Beginners - A Guide for Dominants and Submissives Starting to Explore the Lifestyle" by Michelle Fegatofi, Marco Belcastro Bara -
"1. Restraints. Abusers tend to restrain their victims with fear and intimidation, not safety clips and quick releases.
2. The availability of mentors, reference materials and technical guides.
3.SM rarely results in facial marks or marks that are received on the forearms (defensive marks).
4. There is usually an even pattern of marks if it is SM, indicating the bottom held quite still during the stimulation.
5. The marks are often quite well-defined when inflicted by a toy like cane or whip, whereas in abuse there are blotches of soft-tissue bruising, randomly distributed.
6. The common areas for SM stimulation is on the buttocks, thighs, back, breasts, or the genitals. The fleshy parts of the body can be stimulated intensely and pleasurably.
7. D/s is about the building of a trusting relationship between two consenting adult partners.
8.Abuse is about the breach of trust between an authority figure and the person in their care.
9. D/s is about the mutual respect demonstrated between two enlightened people.
10. Abuse is about the lack of respect that one person demonstrates to another person.
11. D/s is about a shared enjoyment of controlled erotic pain and/or humiliation for mutual pleasure.
12.Abuse is about a form of out-of-control physical violence and/or personal or emotional degradation of the submissive.
13. D/s is about loving each other completely and without reservation in an alternate way.
14. Abuse is hurtful. It is also very damaging emotionally and spiritually to the submissive.
15. D/s frees a submissive from the restraints of years of vanilla conditioning to explore a buried part of herself.
16. Abuse binds a submissive to a lonely and solitary life of shame, fear and secrecy... imprisoning her very soul.
17. D/s builds self-esteem as a person discovers and embraces their long hidden sexuality.
18. Abuse shatters and destroys a person's self-esteem and leaves self-hatred in its place.""
Very well put and i hope many read this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my Daddy Dom here and I am most fortunate he's the real deal and not some wanna be Christian Grey type. He never ordered me to submit to him or demand I address him as Daddy. Both of these were my decision and my gift to him. Submission is a gift to be given not to be demanded. I think a lot of Dom types don't think this way. They need to educate themselves more on Ds relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?
BDSM may not be your thing, which is fine, but perhaps you should demonstrate a little knowledge on the subject, before offering advice on such a potentially dangerous activity.
And I say dangerous, as yes, people have died.What you call BDSM may just be a harmless variety of roleplay,thats the way I viewed his post.He didn't mention anything life threatening.
When you're giving up that kind of control, you have to be extremely cautious. Even as just role play it can be a serious head fuck, and that needs to be minded as well.
Asking for submission before negotiation takes place is inappropriate and means that safety checks can be missed. "
I see your point. |
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Very entertaining thread. IMHO the original message was not terrible not great but not the worst I've seen from a beginner. Things seem to go bad here when OP answered inquiries as to he could offer with a fear response " I am the master what can you offer me ? " . Id recommend OP read some literature as suggested by some lovely people. But also consider going on a site like fetlife and joining your local community and finding a mentor. The maxim of treat others how you would like to be treated is true in BDSM as in any arena. Even if you are not a masochist , you can respect someones choice to be as they respect yours to do an Alaskan pipeline.Lol
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There is another post on here, from a guy who had an inexperienced female dom play with him at a club. He ended up with serious injuries as she lost control and had wanted to 'break' him - so it is risky.
It is also risky from an emotional stand point. The massive endorphin highs can be as addictive as any other chemical rush. And the crashing lows call for a dom who can sometimes literally hold the sub and keep them safe until it passes. As a human being, it's easy to become addicted to the highs and lows. It's also easy to develop strong emotions, although the nature of the lifestyle means they are likely to move on to the next person the minute they become bored.
The sub holds ultimate control though - via safe words etc. The dom can only do what the sub permits. Anything else means you don't understand this at all! Cliché I know but the dom often has a stressful life and the sub allows this stress to be released in a safe way.
I must admit - the words 'I've had my first taste of' set my alarm bell ringing. And OP may have been using a bit of male bravado with all this chat about 'sluts' etc. But for me, this lifestyle is about respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is another post on here, from a guy who had an inexperienced female dom play with him at a club. He ended up with serious injuries as she lost control and had wanted to 'break' him - so it is risky.
It is also risky from an emotional stand point. The massive endorphin highs can be as addictive as any other chemical rush. And the crashing lows call for a dom who can sometimes literally hold the sub and keep them safe until it passes. As a human being, it's easy to become addicted to the highs and lows. It's also easy to develop strong emotions, although the nature of the lifestyle means they are likely to move on to the next person the minute they become bored.
The sub holds ultimate control though - via safe words etc. The dom can only do what the sub permits. Anything else means you don't understand this at all! Cliché I know but the dom often has a stressful life and the sub allows this stress to be released in a safe way.
I must admit - the words 'I've had my first taste of' set my alarm bell ringing. And OP may have been using a bit of male bravado with all this chat about 'sluts' etc. But for me, this lifestyle is about respect. "
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"Not as bad as I thought it was going to be. Worst I've heard of is space docking 
I goggled it, I think I hate you lol.  "
Yeah I would hate me after that |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Let him make his own voyage of discovery instead of slaughtering him, because you don't like the way he put things in his intro!
Letting the OP 'find his own way' can lead to accidental death or permenant serious injury of the sub.
Perhaps you also need to learn more..No it's not my thing so I have nothing to learn,but I wouldn't choose arrogant teachers if I did.Some posts we're fine but some were downright rude.Maybe that's ok with you?
BDSM may not be your thing, which is fine, but perhaps you should demonstrate a little knowledge on the subject, before offering advice on such a potentially dangerous activity.
And I say dangerous, as yes, people have died.What you call BDSM may just be a harmless variety of roleplay,thats the way I viewed his post.He didn't mention anything life threatening.
When you're giving up that kind of control, you have to be extremely cautious. Even as just role play it can be a serious head fuck, and that needs to be minded as well.
Asking for submission before negotiation takes place is inappropriate and means that safety checks can be missed. I see your point."
Glad you do... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
And by the way, I've had personal experience of a dim doms. I'm still recovering emotionally nearly two years on from his emotional black mail and bullying. It's not just the injuries you can see unfortunately. I now have a lot of trust issues thanks to him. |
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"And by the way, I've had personal experience of a dim doms. I'm still recovering emotionally nearly two years on from his emotional black mail and bullying. It's not just the injuries you can see unfortunately. I now have a lot of trust issues thanks to him. "
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"And by the way, I've had personal experience of a dim doms. I'm still recovering emotionally nearly two years on from his emotional black mail and bullying. It's not just the injuries you can see unfortunately. I now have a lot of trust issues thanks to him. "
Both of us have been in abusive relationships, the issues you mention are the hardest to see at the time and the hardest to recover from we find |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Anyone that thinks one experience makes them a Master is scarily uninformed. One experience makes you a very inexperienced Dom and that's probably being overly kind
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"Some great information but I must not google new terms!!!
Dom and sub relationships are pure trust and respect, anything else is abuse. "
Google it... I dare ya |
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"Some great information but I must not google new terms!!!
Dom and sub relationships are pure trust and respect, anything else is abuse.
Google it... I dare ya "
I did I will never watch a NASA clip without that image flooding my brain! |
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"And by the way, I've had personal experience of a dim doms. I'm still recovering emotionally nearly two years on from his emotional black mail and bullying. It's not just the injuries you can see unfortunately. I now have a lot of trust issues thanks to him. "
Zen Hugs x |
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"You’ve got him there picky girl he has some serious google ing to do now.
I probably shouldn't mention Alaskan pipelines then.
I wish I hadn't gone on Google  "
Yep same here. We may never recover :-0 |
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"You’ve got him there picky girl he has some serious google ing to do now.
I probably shouldn't mention Alaskan pipelines then.
I wish I hadn't gone on Google
Yep same here. We may never recover :-0"
Never Google! Always ends in regret |
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