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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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You only have one life, maybe there's something you can do to regain whatever it was that you felt at the beginning of your relationship that put you together. It's a shame to stay together if you are miserable, life is precious try to find ways of enjoying your relationship or if it's not possible make a change. |
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Been there, don’t that (well, been in a passionless relationship) but i personally didn’t look elsewhere - until it was over. But it was very soul destroying. Life is short... make a decision to either stick with it, or go perhaps? |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark."
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!"
I'm upfront about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone deals with their relationship issues differently.
It helps to reach a point where you can both start dialogue with each other. For some couples this is harder than others.
You might need to seek help from professional counsellors as a couple or separately.
Counselling individually can help you understand your own issues and then give you practical steps in how to approach the subject with your partner.
I knew as a teenager I preferred men but suppressed it as I never had an opportunity to explore it.
I got married, got on with my career and raising a family.
In my 40s I unexpectedly hit what felt like a wall. Suppressing my sexuality was no longer possible.
With the help of counselling I found a way to tell my wife.
It was not easy and we then spent nearly ten years where both of us were in a sexless marriage.
We then reached a point where we both engaged in honest dialogue.
We found a solution and remained together through out our experience.
We now both have satisfying sex lives outside of our marriage but still value each other and respect each other.
Solutions can be found. If you can't resolve it between yourselves then try seeking help.
I wish we had looked for guidance sooner. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I've done the affair and in typical pissed off 'other woman' she grassed me up and i moved into the doghouse. I then had sex with her again a few months later, and she did it again. FFS. I only have myself to blame.
One of the reasons why i was informed of this place (by the 'other woman' of all people) is that i'd like to keep it discreet but explore my sexuality as my wife has never ever initiated sex, and the only time she has played any part is when i told her of the first fling. She actually put some effort in.
We've been to councillors, and we are basically together for the sake of our son. In all honesty we havent got on for years, but i cannot go on without sex. |
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!
I'm upfront about it"
To your wife? (There will be many that judge here) I personally don’t... but just honestly think about your life... if you are ‘miserable’ that’s a very bleak outlook. Be brave x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I read the thread title.....
I knew the Op was going to be a male...."
Well it wouldn't be her as she is extremely pretty and could get it anywhere... |
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"When I read the thread title.....
I knew the Op was going to be a male....
Well it wouldn't be her as she is extremely pretty and could get it anywhere..."
Lot of wemon on here despise cheating this isn't a cheat site were wemon drop at your feet to give you what you say your wife isn't.... I'm no mans substitute you are not going to get far on here so I suggest you try harder in your relationship xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, not upfront with her, just on my profile.
How about you try being upfront with your wife?...talk..nothing will change if you don't talk...."
Be upfront with yourself  |
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"No, not upfront with her, just on my profile.
How about you try being upfront with your wife?...talk..nothing will change if you don't talk....
Be upfront with yourself "
Still making no sense I see  |
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I came to the world of swinging via a long and valued but also sexless marriage. A 'chance' encounter on a skiing holiday introduced me to the lifestyle when 'befriended' by experience swingers. My wife is aware and tolerates the few away days I have subsequently enjoyed as the price of us remaining together. Please don't label all married men who swing as 'cheats'! I value my marriage and it was being seriously challenged by being sexless (yes we did all the counselling stuff - it got us nowhere) but now I am happier and the marriage is much more secure. I'm lucky to have 'negotiated' a half way house. |
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"I came to the world of swinging via a long and valued but also sexless marriage. A 'chance' encounter on a skiing holiday introduced me to the lifestyle when 'befriended' by experience swingers. My wife is aware and tolerates the few away days I have subsequently enjoyed as the price of us remaining together. Please don't label all married men who swing as 'cheats'! I value my marriage and it was being seriously challenged by being sexless (yes we did all the counselling stuff - it got us nowhere) but now I am happier and the marriage is much more secure. I'm lucky to have 'negotiated' a half way house. "
Wouldn't class you as cheating ... your wife knows x hes openly admitted he is cheating the worse ones are the ones who blame the wife... |
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"When I read the thread title.....
I knew the Op was going to be a male....
Well it wouldn't be her as she is extremely pretty and could get it anywhere...
Lot of wemon on here despise cheating this isn't a cheat site were wemon drop at your feet to give you what you say your wife isn't.... I'm no mans substitute you are not going to get far on here so I suggest you try harder in your relationship xx"
Please see my post on this thread, not all married men, swinging as singles are cheats! |
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"When I read the thread title.....
I knew the Op was going to be a male....
Well it wouldn't be her as she is extremely pretty and could get it anywhere...
Lot of wemon on here despise cheating this isn't a cheat site were wemon drop at your feet to give you what you say your wife isn't.... I'm no mans substitute you are not going to get far on here so I suggest you try harder in your relationship xx
Please see my post on this thread, not all married men, swinging as singles are cheats!"
Thanks for acknowledging that - our messages must have crossed in the 'ether' ! |
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"So I've done the affair and in typical pissed off 'other woman' she grassed me up and i moved into the doghouse. I then had sex with her again a few months later, and she did it again. FFS. I only have myself to blame.
One of the reasons why i was informed of this place (by the 'other woman' of all people) is that i'd like to keep it discreet but explore my sexuality as my wife has never ever initiated sex, and the only time she has played any part is when i told her of the first fling. She actually put some effort in.
We've been to councillors, and we are basically together for the sake of our son. In all honesty we havent got on for years, but i cannot go on without sex. "
Your private life is your business but your wife doesn't have the chance to put her side of this, I don't think you should talk about her like this.
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"When I read the thread title.....
I knew the Op was going to be a male....
Well it wouldn't be her as she is extremely pretty and could get it anywhere...
Lot of wemon on here despise cheating this isn't a cheat site were wemon drop at your feet to give you what you say your wife isn't.... I'm no mans substitute you are not going to get far on here so I suggest you try harder in your relationship xx
Please see my post on this thread, not all married men, swinging as singles are cheats!
Thanks for acknowledging that - our messages must have crossed in the 'ether' !"
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"Staying together for kids rarely works out as they know! Makes them miserable too... "
This is so true I can state from personal experience of being the child. Life was so much better once my parents split. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Lots on here in your situation op
I don't personally think its helping either of you ,staying together for your child's sake and they pick up on things.
If your wife already knows you have cheated then you being on here isn't good
If you ultimately cannot live without sex tell her this and that you need to leave if not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!"
Can you now hazard a guess as to how many ' single females ' are cheating on their better half? |
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"Op how would you feel if you came across your wife on here and found she had 20 odd veris from meets ??
That is funny!"
It's a valid point I'd say, I wonder how he'd feel knowing she's may well be getting gangbanged on a Friday instead of bingo, and would he confront the wife for "HER" naughty antics |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a valid point I'd say, I wonder how he'd feel knowing she's may well be getting gangbanged on a Friday instead of bingo, and would he confront the wife for "HER" naughty antics "
Because I've known her 20+yrs?
If she was then it would be a different story, but she has zero interest in sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My OH (partner in crime on here) was in a sexless marriage for many years before making the decision to end it. Can’t/won’t speak for him but I’d say he’s happier now. Spent some years on here both as a single and as a couple with exes.
We’ve been together almost a year, he introduced me to swinging, both enjoy it as an extra to what we have but it also helps to spice up what we do when it is just us. Talking about people we’ve seen/played with etc. It’s the most honest and horniest relationship I’ve had and can’t see either of us not carrying on with it. His daughter is also very happy spending time with him both on his own and within our now combined family, we make the time enjoyable & fun. Sadly her mum seems stuck in the past and hasn’t moved on...almost feel like arranging a meet for her...to get her back in the saddle as it were!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Happily married and on here as a single. In a sexless marriage due to medical reasons and an agreement with my wife that I can have fun elsewhere as long as I don’t rub her face in it.
If that is no okay with anyone then great, that is your call. However please don’t judge everyone before you make the effort to find out their story. |
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"It's a valid point I'd say, I wonder how he'd feel knowing she's may well be getting gangbanged on a Friday instead of bingo, and would he confront the wife for "HER" naughty antics
Because I've known her 20+yrs?
If she was then it would be a different story, but she has zero interest in sex!"
We've been together since we were 15 but I didn't know the wife likes the idea of being with another woman on till 4 years ago
It was just a hypothetical question with a valid point so IL ask again how would you feel if you found out she was on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone deals with their relationship issues differently.
It helps to reach a point where you can both start dialogue with each other. For some couples this is harder than others.
You might need to seek help from professional counsellors as a couple or separately.
Counselling individually can help you understand your own issues and then give you practical steps in how to approach the subject with your partner.
I knew as a teenager I preferred men but suppressed it as I never had an opportunity to explore it.
I got married, got on with my career and raising a family.
In my 40s I unexpectedly hit what felt like a wall. Suppressing my sexuality was no longer possible.
With the help of counselling I found a way to tell my wife.
It was not easy and we then spent nearly ten years where both of us were in a sexless marriage.
We then reached a point where we both engaged in honest dialogue.
We found a solution and remained together through out our experience.
We now both have satisfying sex lives outside of our marriage but still value each other and respect each other.
Solutions can be found. If you can't resolve it between yourselves then try seeking help.
I wish we had looked for guidance sooner. "
I love this!!!
it’s all about communication. Can’t be fixed if both are on different pages Kx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Op how would you feel if you came across your wife on here and found she had 20 odd veris from meets ??
That is funny!"
I found my husband on here cheating.... I’m now on here (single) having a ball. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" we are basically together for the sake of our son. In all honesty we havent got on for years, but i cannot go on without sex. "
I think you need to seriously question whether living in a miserable household is the best thing for any of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I found my husband on here cheating.... I’m now on here (single) having a ball.
Did you suspect, or were your looking for extra-marital?"
No someone told me that he was on here, made a profile and then read his veri’s, all I needed to know that it wasn’t just coffee. |
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"Op how would you feel if you came across your wife on here and found she had 20 odd veris from meets ??
That is funny!
I found my husband on here cheating.... I’m now on here (single) having a ball. "
Sorry to hear that but so glad you're having fun now good on you girl |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Op how would you feel if you came across your wife on here and found she had 20 odd veris from meets ??
That is funny!
I found my husband on here cheating.... I’m now on here (single) having a ball.
Sorry to hear that but so glad you're having fun now good on you girl "
Thank you,,, I just wished he had the conversation with me and maybe we of both had fun on here together but hey ho
OP talk to your wife and be honest about how you’re feeling as right now she can’t help fix it |
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"Op how would you feel if you came across your wife on here and found she had 20 odd veris from meets ??
That is funny!
I found my husband on here cheating.... I’m now on here (single) having a ball.
Sorry to hear that but so glad you're having fun now good on you girl
Thank you,,, I just wished he had the conversation with me and maybe we of both had fun on here together but hey ho
OP talk to your wife and be honest about how you’re feeling as right now she can’t help fix it "
Yea maybe he should have oh well his loss the daft man lol
We can't stand cheating in any fashion ppl that do it can dress it up any way they like but it's cheating
Op does your wife know you're on here |
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Your not having sex, you already don't get on and you4 together just for the son.
Why not be honest and say your going to use fab for sex and she's welcome to join you.
What's the wrost that can happen? The lame horse that is your relationship is finally put to sleep...
Take the risk and go out in a blaze of glory. Either u guys become swingers or it ends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your not having sex, you already don't get on and you4 together just for the son.
Why not be honest and say your going to use fab for sex and she's welcome to join you.
What's the wrost that can happen? The lame horse that is your relationship is finally put to sleep...
Take the risk and go out in a blaze of glory. Either u guys become swingers or it ends"
I did that and very glad I did as the ex dragon is now much much better off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your not having sex, you already don't get on and you4 together just for the son.
Why not be honest and say your going to use fab for sex and she's welcome to join you.
What's the wrost that can happen? The lame horse that is your relationship is finally put to sleep...
Take the risk and go out in a blaze of glory. Either u guys become swingers or it ends
I did that and very glad I did as the ex dragon is now much much better off"
And I get on really well with my kids as it's now 18 years since we parted and they can see overall it's been a good thing for both their mum and me. |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark."
Regardless of whether I think your actions are right or wrong, I can guarantee that if she finds out.... It will not help matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In answer to your original question mate, there are plenty but only the morally high will reply to you in here.
Just search the site and you'll find many ladies in your position who will mutually meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And that's the reason why I'm never getting married or having kids ......
On top of that another more likely reason is it's next to impossible for me to find someone that's interested in me haha  |
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"Sex life used to be vanilla, now it's completely gone. Wife just not interested anymore. On here to meet new people. Want to try new things. "
You ever stopped to think why it's gone? A lot of relationship go stale bc the woman is so shattered by night time running a home and being taken advantage off never wined dined or made to feel good I wouldn't want sex either lol |
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"So I've done the affair and in typical pissed off 'other woman' she grassed me up and i moved into the doghouse. I then had sex with her again a few months later, and she did it again. FFS. I only have myself to blame.
One of the reasons why i was informed of this place (by the 'other woman' of all people) is that i'd like to keep it discreet but explore my sexuality as my wife has never ever initiated sex, and the only time she has played any part is when i told her of the first fling. She actually put some effort in.
We've been to councillors, and we are basically together for the sake of our son. In all honesty we havent got on for years, but i cannot go on without sex.
Your private life is your business but your wife doesn't have the chance to put her side of this, I don't think you should talk about her like this.
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Agreed frankly the phrase "she put some effort in" tells me all I need to know.
Turns me off just reading it, and quite understand why the wife here isn't having sex with him.
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"Sex life used to be vanilla, now it's completely gone. Wife just not interested anymore. On here to meet new people. Want to try new things.
You ever stopped to think why it's gone? A lot of relationship go stale bc the woman is so shattered by night time running a home and being taken advantage off never wined dined or made to feel good I wouldn't want sex either lol "
I put a lot of effort into keeping our sex life alive, treated the wife like the precious person she is to me, wined and dined her, gifts, read widely to learn the 'warm up arts' (hence my user name) but it made no difference. Eventually I stopped trying as I realised it was something I was 'doing to her' and I didn't want that. We agreed to marriage guidance at which it emerged that she had virtually no arousal and actually told the counsellor it "would not matter to her if she never had sex again" - it was, in short, a chore!! Happily for me I discovered swinging (or it discovered me, see earlier post) and my limited experience through my FwBs has restored my confidence - the skills I taught myself to keep my marriage together seem well received/appreciated. I not wanting to score lots of women but simply have a sex life whilst I am still physically able!!
The joy of sex has returned, I am happier and the marriage is better for it. |
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"Been there, don’t that (well, been in a passionless relationship) but i personally didn’t look elsewhere - until it was over. But it was very soul destroying. Life is short... make a decision to either stick with it, or go perhaps? "
Totally agree and i went through the same. I did not cheat but left after many unhappy years. Time is the most precious thing we have so why waste it being unhaopy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t waste any more time, luckily I wasn’t married had nearly everything else bar the marriage though! At the beginning you question if it’s the right decision but if your that miserable it’s not worth it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Agreed frankly the phrase "she put some effort in" tells me all I need to know.
Turns me off just reading it, and quite understand why the wife here isn't having sex with him.
Ms Icebreaker "
Yawn... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!"
why single men I've met many women supposed to be single but you can tell there not just saying |
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Jesus h....the amount of effort you've put into this thread you could of put that effort into sorting your own s**t out.....instead of dissing the Mrs on here getting strangers to feel sorry for you (we only get one side of story)....talk to your wife or stop whining about it....have a nice day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's amazing how effortlessly others can judge people like the OP without having walked in his shoes. I was in a sexless relationship for 15 years. We went through all the individual / couples counselling but nothing changed. I was in an easier position than you OP as we were not blessed with kids so I had the strength to do the logical thing and leave the marriage. Logically ( financially ) it wasn't easy and emotionally it was absolute hell. Even in the early stages of our seperation my heart was broken but my gut and my head knew it was wrong to keep going in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I think an awful lot of people reading this thread have / had similar experiences ( and I understand exaxtly why most of them would not comment on here, as unlike others they are not fortunate enough to have reinforced bullet-proof glazing on THEIR glasshouses ).
Leaving your marriage is the right thing to do OP,not just for you but for your wife and child, but I can also see why that might be impossible right now. I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached. You may at first find sleeping with different women behind your parners back exhilarating having been unnaturally sex starved for so long, but it is essentially going to become escapism. If you have a nature where being covert and cheating doesn't take a toal on you, then it might be ideal for you. If like most people deception doesn't come naturally to you then you are likely to eventually find cheating shallow and fraught with unhappiness and unhappy people. You may even find it like a virtual reality, where life is passing you by and you spend all your time like someone glued to a playstation playing a character in a game and you will be envious when you see happy couples your own age holding hands as they walk into a cinema or as you see them engage with eachother as they chat and laugh together in a cafè.
I hope in the short term OP you find escapism in this lifestyle. I hope in the long-term you find a way to leave your marriage and begin to live a full and rewarding life either as a bachelor, in a fullfilling monogamous relationship or if you are suited to it a fulfilling swinging relationship. Either way I empathise with your situation and wish you every luck. Everyone should strive for the life that suits them best and hopefully you and all those on here like you will get there eventually.
P.S, for the love of all that's good stay away from the woman you had a fling with before...and anyone like her, as she sounds like the ultimate unhappy, destructive and negative kind of person you should want to avoid.
Good luck OP.
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"It's amazing how effortlessly others can judge people like the OP without having walked in his shoes. I was in a sexless relationship for 15 years. We went through all the individual / couples counselling but nothing changed. I was in an easier position than you OP as we were not blessed with kids so I had the strength to do the logical thing and leave the marriage. Logically ( financially ) it wasn't easy and emotionally it was absolute hell. Even in the early stages of our seperation my heart was broken but my gut and my head knew it was wrong to keep going in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I think an awful lot of people reading this thread have / had similar experiences ( and I understand exaxtly why most of them would not comment on here, as unlike others they are not fortunate enough to have reinforced bullet-proof glazing on THEIR glasshouses ).
Leaving your marriage is the right thing to do OP,not just for you but for your wife and child, but I can also see why that might be impossible right now. I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached. You may at first find sleeping with different women behind your parners back exhilarating having been unnaturally sex starved for so long, but it is essentially going to become escapism. If you have a nature where being covert and cheating doesn't take a toal on you, then it might be ideal for you. If like most people deception doesn't come naturally to you then you are likely to eventually find cheating shallow and fraught with unhappiness and unhappy people. You may even find it like a virtual reality, where life is passing you by and you spend all your time like someone glued to a playstation playing a character in a game and you will be envious when you see happy couples your own age holding hands as they walk into a cinema or as you see them engage with eachother as they chat and laugh together in a cafè.
I hope in the short term OP you find escapism in this lifestyle. I hope in the long-term you find a way to leave your marriage and begin to live a full and rewarding life either as a bachelor, in a fullfilling monogamous relationship or if you are suited to it a fulfilling swinging relationship. Either way I empathise with your situation and wish you every luck. Everyone should strive for the life that suits them best and hopefully you and all those on here like you will get there eventually.
P.S, for the love of all that's good stay away from the woman you had a fling with before...and anyone like her, as she sounds like the ultimate unhappy, destructive and negative kind of person you should want to avoid.
Good luck OP.
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"It's amazing how effortlessly others can judge people like the OP without having walked in his shoes. I was in a sexless relationship for 15 years. We went through all the individual / couples counselling but nothing changed. I was in an easier position than you OP as we were not blessed with kids so I had the strength to do the logical thing and leave the marriage. Logically ( financially ) it wasn't easy and emotionally it was absolute hell. Even in the early stages of our seperation my heart was broken but my gut and my head knew it was wrong to keep going in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I think an awful lot of people reading this thread have / had similar experiences ( and I understand exaxtly why most of them would not comment on here, as unlike others they are not fortunate enough to have reinforced bullet-proof glazing on THEIR glasshouses ).
Leaving your marriage is the right thing to do OP,not just for you but for your wife and child, but I can also see why that might be impossible right now. I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached. You may at first find sleeping with different women behind your parners back exhilarating having been unnaturally sex starved for so long, but it is essentially going to become escapism. If you have a nature where being covert and cheating doesn't take a toal on you, then it might be ideal for you. If like most people deception doesn't come naturally to you then you are likely to eventually find cheating shallow and fraught with unhappiness and unhappy people. You may even find it like a virtual reality, where life is passing you by and you spend all your time like someone glued to a playstation playing a character in a game and you will be envious when you see happy couples your own age holding hands as they walk into a cinema or as you see them engage with eachother as they chat and laugh together in a cafè.
I hope in the short term OP you find escapism in this lifestyle. I hope in the long-term you find a way to leave your marriage and begin to live a full and rewarding life either as a bachelor, in a fullfilling monogamous relationship or if you are suited to it a fulfilling swinging relationship. Either way I empathise with your situation and wish you every luck. Everyone should strive for the life that suits them best and hopefully you and all those on here like you will get there eventually.
P.S, for the love of all that's good stay away from the woman you had a fling with before...and anyone like her, as she sounds like the ultimate unhappy, destructive and negative kind of person you should want to avoid.
Good luck OP.
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I certainly did give him my opinion from having been in a similar (but not identical position), and I did advise him that the lady he described having flings with and broadcasting it afterwards does sound like someone he should avoid. That lady's identity is not know to us on here. She may or may not be as vindictive as he describes but if he believes she is as he discribed then he should have learnt a lesson there.
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"It's amazing how effortlessly others can judge people like the OP without having walked in his shoes. I was in a sexless relationship for 15 years. We went through all the individual / couples counselling but nothing changed. I was in an easier position than you OP as we were not blessed with kids so I had the strength to do the logical thing and leave the marriage. Logically ( financially ) it wasn't easy and emotionally it was absolute hell. Even in the early stages of our seperation my heart was broken but my gut and my head knew it was wrong to keep going in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I think an awful lot of people reading this thread have / had similar experiences ( and I understand exaxtly why most of them would not comment on here, as unlike others they are not fortunate enough to have reinforced bullet-proof glazing on THEIR glasshouses ).
Leaving your marriage is the right thing to do OP,not just for you but for your wife and child, but I can also see why that might be impossible right now. I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached. You may at first find sleeping with different women behind your parners back exhilarating having been unnaturally sex starved for so long, but it is essentially going to become escapism. If you have a nature where being covert and cheating doesn't take a toal on you, then it might be ideal for you. If like most people deception doesn't come naturally to you then you are likely to eventually find cheating shallow and fraught with unhappiness and unhappy people. You may even find it like a virtual reality, where life is passing you by and you spend all your time like someone glued to a playstation playing a character in a game and you will be envious when you see happy couples your own age holding hands as they walk into a cinema or as you see them engage with eachother as they chat and laugh together in a cafè.
I hope in the short term OP you find escapism in this lifestyle. I hope in the long-term you find a way to leave your marriage and begin to live a full and rewarding life either as a bachelor, in a fullfilling monogamous relationship or if you are suited to it a fulfilling swinging relationship. Either way I empathise with your situation and wish you every luck. Everyone should strive for the life that suits them best and hopefully you and all those on here like you will get there eventually.
P.S, for the love of all that's good stay away from the woman you had a fling with before...and anyone like her, as she sounds like the ultimate unhappy, destructive and negative kind of person you should want to avoid.
Good luck OP.
Yet interestingly you have judged the woman he had a fling with and despite not walking in his particular shoes feel able to advise him to leave his marriage
I certainly did give him my opinion from having been in a similar (but not identical position), and I did advise him that the lady he described having flings with and broadcasting it afterwards does sound like someone he should avoid. That lady's identity is not know to us on here. She may or may not be as vindictive as he describes but if he believes she is as he discribed then he should have learnt a lesson there.
But yes you are right, I have judged an anonymous person described by a person with a discrete profile. I hope somehow it doesn't cause her embarrassment "
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
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Years ago I was married and we had sex regularly to begin with but it fizzled out as it often unfortunately does.
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"It's amazing how effortlessly others can judge people like the OP without having walked in his shoes. I was in a sexless relationship for 15 years. We went through all the individual / couples counselling but nothing changed. I was in an easier position than you OP as we were not blessed with kids so I had the strength to do the logical thing and leave the marriage. Logically ( financially ) it wasn't easy and emotionally it was absolute hell. Even in the early stages of our seperation my heart was broken but my gut and my head knew it was wrong to keep going in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I think an awful lot of people reading this thread have / had similar experiences ( and I understand exaxtly why most of them would not comment on here, as unlike others they are not fortunate enough to have reinforced bullet-proof glazing on THEIR glasshouses ).
Leaving your marriage is the right thing to do OP,not just for you but for your wife and child, but I can also see why that might be impossible right now. I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached. You may at first find sleeping with different women behind your parners back exhilarating having been unnaturally sex starved for so long, but it is essentially going to become escapism. If you have a nature where being covert and cheating doesn't take a toal on you, then it might be ideal for you. If like most people deception doesn't come naturally to you then you are likely to eventually find cheating shallow and fraught with unhappiness and unhappy people. You may even find it like a virtual reality, where life is passing you by and you spend all your time like someone glued to a playstation playing a character in a game and you will be envious when you see happy couples your own age holding hands as they walk into a cinema or as you see them engage with eachother as they chat and laugh together in a cafè.
I hope in the short term OP you find escapism in this lifestyle. I hope in the long-term you find a way to leave your marriage and begin to live a full and rewarding life either as a bachelor, in a fullfilling monogamous relationship or if you are suited to it a fulfilling swinging relationship. Either way I empathise with your situation and wish you every luck. Everyone should strive for the life that suits them best and hopefully you and all those on here like you will get there eventually.
P.S, for the love of all that's good stay away from the woman you had a fling with before...and anyone like her, as she sounds like the ultimate unhappy, destructive and negative kind of person you should want to avoid.
Good luck OP.
Yet interestingly you have judged the woman he had a fling with and despite not walking in his particular shoes feel able to advise him to leave his marriage
I certainly did give him my opinion from having been in a similar (but not identical position), and I did advise him that the lady he described having flings with and broadcasting it afterwards does sound like someone he should avoid. That lady's identity is not know to us on here. She may or may not be as vindictive as he describes but if he believes she is as he discribed then he should have learnt a lesson there.
But yes you are right, I have judged an anonymous person described by a person with a discrete profile. I hope somehow it doesn't cause her embarrassment
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
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Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark."
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"It's amazing how effortlessly others can judge people like the OP without having walked in his shoes. I was in a sexless relationship for 15 years. We went through all the individual / couples counselling but nothing changed. I was in an easier position than you OP as we were not blessed with kids so I had the strength to do the logical thing and leave the marriage. Logically ( financially ) it wasn't easy and emotionally it was absolute hell. Even in the early stages of our seperation my heart was broken but my gut and my head knew it was wrong to keep going in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I think an awful lot of people reading this thread have / had similar experiences ( and I understand exaxtly why most of them would not comment on here, as unlike others they are not fortunate enough to have reinforced bullet-proof glazing on THEIR glasshouses ).
Leaving your marriage is the right thing to do OP,not just for you but for your wife and child, but I can also see why that might be impossible right now. I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached. You may at first find sleeping with different women behind your parners back exhilarating having been unnaturally sex starved for so long, but it is essentially going to become escapism. If you have a nature where being covert and cheating doesn't take a toal on you, then it might be ideal for you. If like most people deception doesn't come naturally to you then you are likely to eventually find cheating shallow and fraught with unhappiness and unhappy people. You may even find it like a virtual reality, where life is passing you by and you spend all your time like someone glued to a playstation playing a character in a game and you will be envious when you see happy couples your own age holding hands as they walk into a cinema or as you see them engage with eachother as they chat and laugh together in a cafè.
I hope in the short term OP you find escapism in this lifestyle. I hope in the long-term you find a way to leave your marriage and begin to live a full and rewarding life either as a bachelor, in a fullfilling monogamous relationship or if you are suited to it a fulfilling swinging relationship. Either way I empathise with your situation and wish you every luck. Everyone should strive for the life that suits them best and hopefully you and all those on here like you will get there eventually.
P.S, for the love of all that's good stay away from the woman you had a fling with before...and anyone like her, as she sounds like the ultimate unhappy, destructive and negative kind of person you should want to avoid.
Good luck OP.
Yet interestingly you have judged the woman he had a fling with and despite not walking in his particular shoes feel able to advise him to leave his marriage
I certainly did give him my opinion from having been in a similar (but not identical position), and I did advise him that the lady he described having flings with and broadcasting it afterwards does sound like someone he should avoid. That lady's identity is not know to us on here. She may or may not be as vindictive as he describes but if he believes she is as he discribed then he should have learnt a lesson there.
But yes you are right, I have judged an anonymous person described by a person with a discrete profile. I hope somehow it doesn't cause her embarrassment
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
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Get divorced simple as, if you’re a good Dad to the kids that’s all that matters. Be there for them and they will be fine. Much better than to grow up in a house where there is obvious tension, yes they will pick upon it. |
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
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To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ? |
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Make a joint profile if you're trying to spice up your marriage "
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"Get divorced simple as, if you’re a good Dad to the kids that’s all that matters. Be there for them and they will be fine. Much better than to grow up in a house where there is obvious tension, yes they will pick upon it.
You can never be sure if they tell truth let's see the wife's side.... bet we never do ??"
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"Get divorced simple as, if you’re a good Dad to the kids that’s all that matters. Be there for them and they will be fine. Much better than to grow up in a house where there is obvious tension, yes they will pick upon it.
You can never be sure if they tell truth let's see the wife's side.... bet we never do ??
True he could be a complete twat for all we know. Two sides to every story."
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?"
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!! |
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"Good evening,
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Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
Make a joint profile if you're trying to spice up your marriage
Omg read the whole thread, he is after sympathy any post he didn't like is a "yawn" how rude...if he didn't want ppl judging he shouldn't wash them dirty pants in public... "
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Wasn’t going post as the married men are never to blame, half don’t give a toss about there wife’s/girlfriends. Sadly they always don’t give a toss about the damage they cause as well. Just for once maybe they should take a long look at themselves and think why isn’t my wife interested in sex anymore, can I do anything to repair this marriage but sadly most think with there cocks and first sign of trouble they cry been hard done by and go looking for sex. Here’s a thought spend the time talking to your wife’s instead been on Fab |
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"Good evening,
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Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
Make a joint profile if you're trying to spice up your marriage
Omg read the whole thread, he is after sympathy any post he didn't like is a "yawn" how rude...if he didn't want ppl judging he shouldn't wash them dirty pants in public...
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"Wasn’t going post as the married men are never to blame, half don’t give a toss about there wife’s/girlfriends. Sadly they always don’t give a toss about the damage they cause as well. Just for once maybe they should take a long look at themselves and think why isn’t my wife interested in sex anymore, can I do anything to repair this marriage but sadly most think with there cocks and first sign of trouble they cry been hard done by and go looking for sex. Here’s a thought spend the time talking to your wife’s instead been on Fab "
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!"
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
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We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ? |
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"Wasn’t going post as the married men are never to blame, half don’t give a toss about there wife’s/girlfriends. Sadly they always don’t give a toss about the damage they cause as well. Just for once maybe they should take a long look at themselves and think why isn’t my wife interested in sex anymore, can I do anything to repair this marriage but sadly most think with there cocks and first sign of trouble they cry been hard done by and go looking for sex. Here’s a thought spend the time talking to your wife’s instead been on Fab
This is a massive generalisation. We know nothing about people's private lives or the partners in these situations."
A very big generalisation. Yes there are people that want to cheat regardless of their home sexlives and how caring, loving and fateful their partner is but there are also attached people who do not want ti ne in sexless marriages, who have gone for couple's counselling and who have found that their partner is totally uninterested in sex. Nobody in their right mind wants to make love to someone who is doing it out of duty or fear their partner will leave them. In my experience talking with friends and people on here most people eventually find a way to leave such marriages. For those who haven't been able to leave yet it is a soul distroying situation. Not all relationships can be mended regardless of how much effort is put into them. Cheating is certainly not fair or in any way good, but it's very easy to say what someone should do when you are lucky enough not to be in their position. |
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ? "
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it. |
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ?
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it. "
Really get a grip it's a swinging site not a cheating site I don't care how you wrap up your cheating world I DON'T WANT A PART OF IT!!!..... or do I need to speak it out different ways for all your pathetic stories ! |
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ?
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it. "
Really past experience,s now? No it's the fact the OP is dissing g his wife to a bunch of total strangers without her even being able to defend herself.... seriously do you not understand if you want to tell the world your personal life what do you expect? He pulls his wife down then his mistress oooooo let's see who,s the common denominator in this hmmmmm......you don't want ppls opinions keep Ur cake hole shut about your affairs and how you feel about your wife....simple really...... |
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"So I've done the affair and in typical pissed off 'other woman' she grassed me up and i moved into the doghouse. I then had sex with her again a few months later, and she did it again. FFS. I only have myself to blame.
One of the reasons why i was informed of this place (by the 'other woman' of all people) is that i'd like to keep it discreet but explore my sexuality as my wife has never ever initiated sex, and the only time she has played any part is when i told her of the first fling. She actually put some effort in.
We've been to councillors, and we are basically together for the sake of our son. In all honesty we havent got on for years, but i cannot go on without sex. "
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over a year ago
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"Agreed frankly the phrase "she put some effort in" tells me all I need to know.
Turns me off just reading it, and quite understand why the wife here isn't having sex with him.
Ms Icebreaker well said Hun x
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"Agreed frankly the phrase "she put some effort in" tells me all I need to know.
Turns me off just reading it, and quite understand why the wife here isn't having sex with him.
Ms Icebreaker well said Hun x
Yawn... seriously no wonder your wife is the way she is "
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over a year ago
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ?
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it.
Really past experience,s now? No it's the fact the OP is dissing g his wife to a bunch of total strangers without her even being able to defend herself.... seriously do you not understand if you want to tell the world your personal life what do you expect? He pulls his wife down then his mistress oooooo let's see who,s the common denominator in this hmmmmm......you don't want ppls opinions keep Ur cake hole shut about your affairs and how you feel about your wife....simple really......"
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ?
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it.
Really get a grip it's a swinging site not a cheating site I don't care how you wrap up your cheating world I DON'T WANT A PART OF IT!!!..... or do I need to speak it out different ways for all your pathetic stories !"
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ?
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it.
Really get a grip it's a swinging site not a cheating site I don't care how you wrap up your cheating world I DON'T WANT A PART OF IT!!!..... or do I need to speak it out different ways for all your pathetic stories !"
Well tbph I'm nowhere near as emotionally invested in this issue as you seem to be. I'm lucky in that it's not ' my cheating world' as I did not cheat when I was in a similar position to the OP as I was able to leave a marriage where we were not suited. As for you 'not wanting to be part of it' then just don't. Nobody is forcing you to read or comment on the OP's thread....but like I said I'm just not as animated about his story as you are. |
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"I would just caution ( from my own experiance) that exciting and rewarding sex is brilliant if your single. It's can be a byproduct of a healthy relationship when you are married...but it's no substitute for a happy marriage when you are attached.
Tbh I'm not going through that im a single female wanting single male NSA no drama sex yet men always bring it here I don't need to know your In a sexless marriage that is not my problem SO DONT MAKE IT, I don't need to know the ins and outs of what you say YOUR WIFE DOES I'm not here to be dragged into your sympathy shag bc you WILL NOT GET IT HERE!!!
To be fair I don't see how the OP is making it anyone's problem but his own by posting what his situation is right now. This is an ideal site for single people like you and swinging couples who want NSA drama free meets. The OP by his own volition is not someone you would like to play with so I don't see why he and this thread should annoy you so ?
Erm he is trying to make it our problem that he is in a sexless marriage... exactly why do we need to know that ? Screams to me oh feel sorry for me .... well no I feel sorry for the wife who has no clue this dick is using her as an excuse for sex !!!!!!
Can see that's how you read it and maybe you are right, I personally read it as someone who is trying to work out if there are people in a similar situation to his on here, and if so what has their experience has been.
Like a lot of people have said there are two sides to every story, and of course the OP could be lying about his wife's lack of interest in sex, any of us could be posting a pack of lies on here, and I know that there are supposed to be tones of fake profiles.
My take is ( regardless of if what the OP is saying is true or false ) that what he describes is a problem for a significant number of attached people. Taking the OP's post on face value and giving opinions on what's discribed is going to inform those genuinely in a sexless marriage who have not been able to work through the problem.
It is interesting though that you raise a point about men using a pity angle on here to get laid. Surely pity shags are as rare as hens teeth ? Surely a guy ( or girl ) would have to be uncommonly dim to think that a 'poor me' angle was going to make them appealing on here ??? The OP doesn't come across as dim or deluded to me I have to say.
We are not here for a story.... you wanna cheat least be honest about it let us decide if we want that kind of excitement... I had some guys supposed stalker ex ring me while my kids were in the room ..... think I deserve to know that may happen when he gets found out ...don't u ?
In an ideal site / world of course people should be able to know who is and isn't cheating. Sounds like you got played by a pathetic lier Naughty....not fair by no means. The OP has stated he's married and cheating. Sounds like past experience has you taring him with the same brush as those who pretend to be single on here. That's your call and your entitlement to call it as you see it.
Really past experience,s now? No it's the fact the OP is dissing g his wife to a bunch of total strangers without her even being able to defend herself.... seriously do you not understand if you want to tell the world your personal life what do you expect? He pulls his wife down then his mistress oooooo let's see who,s the common denominator in this hmmmmm......you don't want ppls opinions keep Ur cake hole shut about your affairs and how you feel about your wife....simple really......"
Fair point about him knocking his wife and former lover. That didn't register with me at first as it's all anonymous. If the OP dismisses other's opinions that's one thing, but I find all the opinions expressed here very interesting, as anyone reading this who has experience of a sexless relationship probably does. |
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Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!
Can you now hazard a guess as to how many ' single females ' are cheating on their better half?"
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!
Can you now hazard a guess as to how many ' single females ' are cheating on their better half?
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"Good evening,
Just thought I'd pop in and say hello.
Anyone else in a sex-less/miserable marriage and on here to spice it up a bit? Apologies if i have over stepped the mark.
I’d hazard a guess that over 50% of ‘single male’ profiles on Fab will be married/attached and cheating on their better half!"
Oh and there are no females playing behind there partners backs |
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"No, not upfront with her, just on my profile.
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Read your profile twice....
Don't think you are up front actually.
If I hadn't read your forum post I'd have no idea you were married, which is a difference between a meet and a pass for me (Not that I'm saying you'd be interested, but hypothetically).
If you've played away at least twice and she's still with you, then you owe her the decency of an acrimonious divorce, or at least moving out. Your child will not thank you in the long term, and you are teaching them that its ok to cheat on your partner and the other person has to put up with it. It's disrespectful to your wife and must be crushing for her self esteem and mental health.
Even if your child has no idea what you're doing right now, if in for example ten yours you break up anyway the child will eventually find out, and that will jeopoerdise your relationship with them.
Good luck to you in whatever you do,
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over a year ago
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I’m not married but am stuck in a sexless relationship, about 14 years of no sex now to be precise. Yes I’m on here but haven’t cheated because nobody will give me a chance. Personally I think people are judged too harshly on this site any way too many presume they know all there is to know. Why can’t people just accept everyone is entitled to have some fun in life and not everyone is in a position to walk away from dead relationships. Personally me and mine sleep in separate rooms also but we stay “together” simply because neither of us can afford to move out and have our own place. |
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"I’m not married but am stuck in a sexless relationship, about 14 years of no sex now to be precise. Yes I’m on here but haven’t cheated because nobody will give me a chance. Personally I think people are judged too harshly on this site any way too many presume they know all there is to know. Why can’t people just accept everyone is entitled to have some fun in life and not everyone is in a position to walk away from dead relationships. Personally me and mine sleep in separate rooms also but we stay “together” simply because neither of us can afford to move out and have our own place. "
But you need to understand that not our concern and we certainly wont be your sympathy shag your still married not separated and she prob dont even know your looking elsewhere me personally I'm here for un complicated sex dont want a married man who cant get sex of his wife |
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"Everyone deals with their relationship issues differently.
It helps to reach a point where you can both start dialogue with each other. For some couples this is harder than others.
You might need to seek help from professional counsellors as a couple or separately.
Counselling individually can help you understand your own issues and then give you practical steps in how to approach the subject with your partner.
I knew as a teenager I preferred men but suppressed it as I never had an opportunity to explore it.
I got married, got on with my career and raising a family.
In my 40s I unexpectedly hit what felt like a wall. Suppressing my sexuality was no longer possible.
With the help of counselling I found a way to tell my wife.
It was not easy and we then spent nearly ten years where both of us were in a sexless marriage.
We then reached a point where we both engaged in honest dialogue.
We found a solution and remained together through out our experience.
We now both have satisfying sex lives outside of our marriage but still value each other and respect each other.
Solutions can be found. If you can't resolve it between yourselves then try seeking help.
I wish we had looked for guidance sooner. "
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All these men and women cheating make me glad to be single! Hearing of the amount of married people or people in a relationship on here is highly alarming!!!! NO THANKS!!!! |
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"I’ve tried pof and tinder. I’m saddened how many divorced people there are. Put more effort into your marriage than dab and try and save it"
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It's true. We have become a disposable commodity to each other and seem to be looking over the fence feeling something else or somewhere else or someone else will make us happy.
Now I am not saying to stay in a relationship where you no longer feel secure. But a lot throw away just to oFF load and it is a addiction and they put more effort into that than the relationship only until the blindfold comes off and bang reality hits. Plus ego plays a big part. We also have the next generation of broken kids thinking that what there parents went through and done to each other is normal. Starting another cycle. |
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Yep, I feel the same, married for 20 years. Sexless for the past 3,
Kids are nearly grown up, and that may be the catalyst.
Although as a man and the main earner it will cost me a fortune. She earns nothing! Even though she could be out working.
I think that’s the main issue for men as divorce costs us a lot.
Reading this post more women seem to have gotten out of their relationships. Men seem to stick with it and cheat. |
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It is very sad hearing about people in sexless marriages.
Poor reflect on society.
It is really pushing for the single life.
Why. It's like you stop the chase.
Communication skills really need to be addressed. And listen to what isn't been said as words are empty,Action really Speak Volumes.
Plus selfish thinking ruins everything. And assuming that your partner is the sole purpose of your happiness. There is a lot of broken kids that are now Adults. |
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"Yep, I feel the same, married for 20 years. Sexless for the past 3,
Kids are nearly grown up, and that may be the catalyst.
Although as a man and the main earner it will cost me a fortune. She earns nothing! Even though she could be out working.
I think that’s the main issue for men as divorce costs us a lot.
Reading this post more women seem to have gotten out of their relationships. Men seem to stick with it and cheat. "
'she earns nothing' ..she clearly doesn't earn your respect which is sad as i guess she looked after your kids while you were working....how much did that earn her ? |
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"Been there, don’t that (well, been in a passionless relationship) but i personally didn’t look elsewhere - until it was over. But it was very soul destroying. Life is short... make a decision to either stick with it, or go perhaps? "
Been there too, done that. You only become yourself again when you're out of it. You forget how much you lose.
I can understand why others seek solace. It's more than the sex |
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"Yep, I feel the same, married for 20 years. Sexless for the past 3,
Kids are nearly grown up, and that may be the catalyst.
Although as a man and the main earner it will cost me a fortune. She earns nothing! Even though she could be out working.
I think that’s the main issue for men as divorce costs us a lot.
Reading this post more women seem to have gotten out of their relationships. Men seem to stick with it and cheat. "
It's your life and your choices and yes it will cost you money but just remember that life's short and as one door closes another opens.
Its no good being a miserable guy with money on your death bed.
Waking up and going to bed happy, content with life and with a smile is worth more than any money imo.
It sounds like you deeply resent her not working and that it's eating away at you which isn't good for your mental health and your kids will pick up on the atmosphere which isn't good for them.
Have you tried coming off fab and putting your heart and soul into your relationship for say 3 months and then if nothing changes you can say that at least you gave it one last go.
Cheating on her isn't the answer but it's your life so good luck doing whatever you choose to do.
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