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I know they are popular. I know they are a great way to get verified and meet new people.
I just find them very meh. A lot of fakeness. Especially from some men who go ( not all men btw). Socials seem to pop up everywhere, so i must be part of a very small minority who give them a wide berth, or am i? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There was a time when I wasn't bothered if I never attended a social but the few I've been to I've really enjoyed and the company has been great with no hint of fakeness detected |
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"There was a time when I wasn't bothered if I never attended a social but the few I've been to I've really enjoyed and the company has been great with no hint of fakeness detected "
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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"OP, do you mean meet and greets or meeting someone for a social individually? meet and greets"
So just a few hours rather than an overnight away in a hotel
I enjoy both especially if people you play with are there |
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"OP, do you mean meet and greets or meeting someone for a social individually? meet and greets
You haven't been to one of ours  im a divil for tarring with the one brush"
Guilty of that too... thats why we started organizing our own  |
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"OP, do you mean meet and greets or meeting someone for a social individually? meet and greets
You haven't been to one of ours im a divil for tarring with the one brush
Guilty of that too... thats why we started organizing our own "
fairplay, that takes balls |
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I agree up to a point over the fakeness part.
I've seen people using them to cover previous misdemeanors and getting verified by people who aren't aware of their history.
That then gives them an air of respectability that they didn't have before.
Hence why I'm always wary of the everyone's welcome approach. |
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over a year ago
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"Find them boring as hell to be honest but I find most situations in a pub boring to be honest. "
This is why we don't go to them, horses for courses. Clearly a lot of people adore them |
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Ours is a popular do. 300 people down for the next one so I suppose they do have Their fans but you’re right they don’t appeal to everyone, particularly those who aren’t interested in the ‘lifestyle’ and are just looking for a bedroom experience  |
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There is only one pseudo group of people on here who I know organise socials. I haven't gone to one yet but I would love to, just so I can put faces to names and let them see the kind of person I am. I believe that people on here can generally sniff out fakers. I don't care about them either way myself. I'm only concerned with making friends. |
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I've only been to one social so far. My life is very busy personally and professionally the last 6 months so unfortunately I missed two socials I was booked for since the first but honestly I can't wait to go to my second one.
I had no idea what to expect but what it done for me is opened my eyes. I genuinely had one of the best nights of my life.
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"I've only been to one social so far. My life is very busy personally and professionally the last 6 months so unfortunately I missed two socials I was booked for since the first but honestly I can't wait to go to my second one.
I had no idea what to expect but what it done for me is opened my eyes. I genuinely had one of the best nights of my life.
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Always a pleasure to see you xx
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over a year ago
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"I've been to a few and forget the point of being there and don't talk to anyone apart from who I'm with.
But then I could never be accused of being sociable "
I enjoy the company and catching up with people haven't seen in ages  |
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"I've been to a few and forget the point of being there and don't talk to anyone apart from who I'm with.
But then I could never be accused of being sociable
I enjoy the company and catching up with people haven't seen in ages "
You have to be sociable to see those people to begin with
What dates are you up so I can see if I'm working? |
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"I've been to a few and forget the point of being there and don't talk to anyone apart from who I'm with.
But then I could never be accused of being sociable
I enjoy the company and catching up with people haven't seen in ages
You have to be sociable to see those people to begin with
What dates are you up so I can see if I'm working?"
Last weekend February |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there great craic op "
yep i usually enjoy them but im outgoing and sociable, i go for the craic and chat, put faces to names, catch up with folk etc
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never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site. |
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"I've been to a few and forget the point of being there and don't talk to anyone apart from who I'm with.
But then I could never be accused of being sociable
I enjoy the company and catching up with people haven't seen in ages
You have to be sociable to see those people to begin with
What dates are you up so I can see if I'm working?
Last weekend February "
I'm off that weekend but out the sat night, that should work perfect. |
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site."
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
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I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go". |
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go". "
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go". "
Sorry long weekend |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
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I love going to socials. Like other people I am very busy usually with work and sporting events that I help run but I try to keep 1 weekend a month free for a social or club night. It's a great way to get chatting to a few guys in one night that you can meet for fun in the future. |
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go". "
It's more the "I'm not having a go BUT" and the general tone of the opening statement which implies - whether you consciously meant it to or not - that socials are for people who have no other social outlet. It had an air of "look at me with all my friends and my rammed social diary", and that if Fab socials are your only social outlet then there's something slightly lacking in your life. Now you might think I've done an awful lot of projecting or reading between the lines but you know me Willy I've always talked straight with you, that's how it came across. And as DD rightly said, if Fab IS some people's only social outlet then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You never know why some might find themselves socially isolated - it can happen to any of us in the blink of an eye - and if they find a new tribe here then more power to their wee wheels |
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go".
It's more the "I'm not having a go BUT" and the general tone of the opening statement which implies - whether you consciously meant it to or not - that socials are for people who have no other social outlet. It had an air of "look at me with all my friends and my rammed social diary", and that if Fab socials are your only social outlet then there's something slightly lacking in your life. Now you might think I've done an awful lot of projecting or reading between the lines but you know me Willy I've always talked straight with you, that's how it came across. And as DD rightly said, if Fab IS some people's only social outlet then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You never know why some might find themselves socially isolated - it can happen to any of us in the blink of an eye - and if they find a new tribe here then more power to their wee wheels"
To be fair we pretty much abandoned our vanilla circles...
Both agree that we prefer to have friends we might occasionally have drama free sex with.
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go".
It's more the "I'm not having a go BUT" and the general tone of the opening statement which implies - whether you consciously meant it to or not - that socials are for people who have no other social outlet. It had an air of "look at me with all my friends and my rammed social diary", and that if Fab socials are your only social outlet then there's something slightly lacking in your life. Now you might think I've done an awful lot of projecting or reading between the lines but you know me Willy I've always talked straight with you, that's how it came across. And as DD rightly said, if Fab IS some people's only social outlet then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You never know why some might find themselves socially isolated - it can happen to any of us in the blink of an eye - and if they find a new tribe here then more power to their wee wheels"
as the profile below u states, "we pretty much abandoned our vanilla circle". thats pretty much what I'm hitting at. this is some peoples social life. I have always stated I'm not a true swinger. I didn't sign up here to attend parties and meet and greets. I have enough of that In normal life. I do see alot bigger emphasis on here in telling new people to attend meet and greets to get verified. is the age old day of women meeting lads one to one waning? |
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I don't believe it is...many who meet at socials will go on to meet one on one. And it's a time efficient way of meeting several people face to face for those that don't have huge amounts of time to do endless solo coffee meets |
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"never been. I'm outgoing and love to socialise but I have a huge group of friends and an active social life in everyday life. I can go out whenever I like. I'm not having a go, everyone is different but I feel fab is some peoples social circle. it is their community. what I do find been said alot more on here is new lads looking for meets and been told there best chance is a meet and greet. I feel alot of women are moving away from the one to one scenario. I suppose there is a fair share on here who want no strings sex but have no interest in the community side and social/party side of the site.
And so what if its their social circle? I have made friends on here that I would consider better friends than some I have known for years.
I guess you missed the bit where I said, "I'm not having a go".
It's more the "I'm not having a go BUT" and the general tone of the opening statement which implies - whether you consciously meant it to or not - that socials are for people who have no other social outlet. It had an air of "look at me with all my friends and my rammed social diary", and that if Fab socials are your only social outlet then there's something slightly lacking in your life. Now you might think I've done an awful lot of projecting or reading between the lines but you know me Willy I've always talked straight with you, that's how it came across. And as DD rightly said, if Fab IS some people's only social outlet then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You never know why some might find themselves socially isolated - it can happen to any of us in the blink of an eye - and if they find a new tribe here then more power to their wee wheelsas the profile below u states, "we pretty much abandoned our vanilla circle". thats pretty much what I'm hitting at. this is some peoples social life. I have always stated I'm not a true swinger. I didn't sign up here to attend parties and meet and greets. I have enough of that In normal life. I do see alot bigger emphasis on here in telling new people to attend meet and greets to get verified. is the age old day of women meeting lads one to one waning?"
It suits some and it doesn't suit other, although I enjoy the socials and mng, I prefer one on one meets as I'm useless at flirting or competing for attention in a group situation and I'm same in vanilla life. I'm crap at reading signals from guys |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't believe it is...many who meet at socials will go on to meet one on one. And it's a time efficient way of meeting several people face to face for those that don't have huge amounts of time to do endless solo coffee meets"
This is exactly what I do.  |
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I dont go to many, but ive enjoyed the ones i went to. I find people interesting, even the ones im never going to meet again. I love meeting anybody who is open and honest about their sex life. Its so liberating. |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't believe it is...many who meet at socials will go on to meet one on oneI mean the opposite. Will they meet guys one to one without attending a party /meet and greet."
I used to do try to do that too but got tired of no shows or last minute cancellations. At least when you meet them at an event you know they definitely have the nerve to show up. |
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For us they're essential.
Great to meet face to face and gauge what a person is like when relax and let there hair down.
Plus good old fashion flirting in a fun setting. |
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"I don't believe it is...many who meet at socials will go on to meet one on oneI mean the opposite. Will they meet guys one to one without attending a party /meet and greet.
I used to do try to do that too but got tired of no shows or last minute cancellations. At least when you meet them at an event you know they definitely have the nerve to show up. "
do u meet guys one to one anymore? |
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"I don't believe it is...many who meet at socials will go on to meet one on oneI mean the opposite. Will they meet guys one to one without attending a party /meet and greet.
I used to do try to do that too but got tired of no shows or last minute cancellations. At least when you meet them at an event you know they definitely have the nerve to show up. do u meet guys one to one anymore?"
Sometimes when I find I have free time. But the first meet is always social only. Either one to one or at an event. I have no problem meeting one to one for play meets after that. |
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"I don't believe it is...many who meet at socials will go on to meet one on oneI mean the opposite. Will they meet guys one to one without attending a party /meet and greet.
I used to do try to do that too but got tired of no shows or last minute cancellations. At least when you meet them at an event you know they definitely have the nerve to show up. do u meet guys one to one anymore?
Sometimes when I find I have free time. But the first meet is always social only. Either one to one or at an event. I have no problem meeting one to one for play meets after that. "
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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago
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Been to a few in the past, not in ages though. I have found them great as I got chatting to guys (that I subsequently met some for one to one fun at later stages) that I probably wouldn't have chatted to from here as they were usually younger than me and outside my age limits |
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I must try to make it to one.
Never been to a swinger one.
I can be a bit socially awkward but seems like a good way to get to know people with no reassure.
I can understand it might be boring just chatting or drinking if you just want to play.
I like getting to know people and am kind of looking for some sort of relationship so, maybe they're good?
Been to similar in kink community, and found them great to get to know people and make friends safely before playing with them. |
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