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Ladies and couples your opinion on this one is most welcome. Since I how’s a couple of months ago I’ve had zero replies back from ladies and couples. I’ve been nothing but polite, have sent a pic of myself clothed and haven’t suggested anything more than a chat to see if there’s a social connection at the least. What’s going on??? ?? |
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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Your profile wouldn't appeal to me no pics no bio very little to go with it needs more to interest people then you might get a bit more of a response.....just my opinion not trying to be rude  |
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"I don’t have pics because I want to stay private but I’m sending a pic when I message anyone so It’s not as if I’m totally hiding "
You asked for the reason. You've been given the reason. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have pics because I want to stay private but I’m sending a pic when I message anyone so It’s not as if I’m totally hiding "
You can still post pics and remain private , look at your profile as your shop window, you need to entice people in. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"Your profile wouldn't appeal to me no pics no bio very little to go with it needs more to interest people then you might get a bit more of a response.....just my opinion not trying to be rude "
Exactly this. I look at a profile before I even open a message and if it doesn't appeal or is basic and no effort then I usually just delete the message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said you need to make your profile appealing to the random strangers you are trying to initiate a conversation with.
There are other ways such as getting involved here and going to socials but adding a little bit of content to your profile is a very easy first step  |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"This place is going to the dogs like if I get blocked one more time for sending I'm horny and in your area messages. Try that new site DialARide "
You're not allowed mention unapproved websites, that's against site rules. The naughty step for you madam!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This place is going to the dogs like if I get blocked one more time for sending I'm horny and in your area messages. Try that new site DialARide
You're not allowed mention unapproved websites, that's against site rules. The naughty step for you madam!! "
Sure I'm always on the naughty step it's my permanent residence |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"This place is going to the dogs like if I get blocked one more time for sending I'm horny and in your area messages. Try that new site DialARide
You're not allowed mention unapproved websites, that's against site rules. The naughty step for you madam!!
Sure I'm always on the naughty step it's my permanent residence "
It's easier to check out people's asses when you're sitting down low anyway... So, positives...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh if I get messages from blank profiles I just delete them they are like spam messages in my Gmail. I'm more likely to respond to a thoughtful bio with some photos. Even well established single guys here struggle so effort is required to reap the rewards. Every day there's hundreds of guys here looking to meet the small few women who are online at any one time. |
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"This place is going to the dogs like if I get blocked one more time for sending I'm horny and in your area messages. Try that new site DialARide "
I knew you were the horny milf in my area trying to contact me! |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"Tbh if I get messages from blank profiles I just delete them they are like spam messages in my Gmail. I'm more likely to respond to a thoughtful bio with some photos. Even well established single guys here struggle so effort is required to reap the rewards. Every day there's hundreds of guys here looking to meet the small few women who are online at any one time. "
More like thousands of guys than hundreds I'm guessing.. That's what I'm telling myself anyway to help excuse the low level of interest I get   |
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Lots of couples and single ladies get so many messages they use a sillohette profile like yours as another filter, & delete. the message before it's read
I do slightly different & open the profile, if I like what I see I'll open the message, yours shows & tells me nothing
A profile photo alone with a few images on your profile is so important on here, they don't have to be face shots or show any distinguishing features, they can be clothed head cropped off, just something to give an idea of who you are
You bio is they place to sell yourself, with there being so many more guys to couples and sIngles females on this site you need to stand out
Why should they reply to you, what are your like and dislikes, kinks, what do you have to offer them someone else can't etc
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To put it into perspective there's currently 44 ladies online for all of Ireland and over 300 plus guys. Out of those 44 some aren't meeting and some are just on for the forums or to perve on friends. The couples and girls here have a lot of messages so they usually only respond to the stand out ones. Suggest to you OP you have a look at other male profiles for inspiration |
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"Ladies and couples your opinion on this one is most welcome. Since I how’s a couple of months ago I’ve had zero replies back from ladies and couples. I’ve been nothing but polite, have sent a pic of myself clothed and haven’t suggested anything more than a chat to see if there’s a social connection at the least. What’s going on??? ??"
What we do any time we get a new message, we click the profile to have a look before opening the message.
If we clicked into your profile, we would delete it without reading as you have no pics or info.
If you sent us a message, we wouldnt even look at your profile because you do not have a profile pic. We would just delete.
I know of people on here with 1000s of messages. Luckily we never got that many but we still had to block single guys after getting 100s of messages a day.
That may sound harsh but I'm just telling you why your messages may not be read. You need to put some effort in.
Best of luck. |
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"Tbh if I get messages from blank profiles I just delete them they are like spam messages in my Gmail. I'm more likely to respond to a thoughtful bio with some photos. Even well established single guys here struggle so effort is required to reap the rewards. Every day there's hundreds of guys here looking to meet the small few women who are online at any one time. "
I do exactly this. Blank profile = delete |
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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago
Enfield & Dublin |
"This place is going to the dogs like if I get blocked one more time for sending I'm horny and in your area messages. Try that new site DialARide
You're not allowed mention unapproved websites, that's against site rules. The naughty step for you madam!!
Sure I'm always on the naughty step it's my permanent residence "
Would you mind if I join you on the step? |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your results"
add the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere. |
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere. "
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere. "
This is very true. He may get nowhere, same as every other profile on the site.
We came on here with absolutley no expectations. We just wanted to see if this would be for us and if we would find people we liked and they liked us back. And if we didn't, then so be it.
Just cos you're on the site doesn't entitle you to anything. Thats half the battle, have no expectations and just see it as a little fun and things should work themselves out for you. |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
This is very true. He may get nowhere, same as every other profile on the site.
We came on here with absolutley no expectations. We just wanted to see if this would be for us and if we would find people we liked and they liked us back. And if we didn't, then so be it.
Just cos you're on the site doesn't entitle you to anything. Thats half the battle, have no expectations and just see it as a little fun and things should work themselves out for you."
worst thing you can possibly do as a man on here is put all your eggs in one basket. |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere "
taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website. "
Could also be that the messages they send are really bad |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
Could also be that the messages they send are really bad "
once your polite and pick something out in orofile should be enough. doesn't need to be a short novel. alot of it is luck also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
Could also be that the messages they send are really bad once your polite and pick something out in orofile should be enough. doesn't need to be a short novel. alot of it is luck also. "
Only 1% of single men do that tho. Even a lot of couples send rude messages |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
This is very true. He may get nowhere, same as every other profile on the site.
We came on here with absolutley no expectations. We just wanted to see if this would be for us and if we would find people we liked and they liked us back. And if we didn't, then so be it.
Just cos you're on the site doesn't entitle you to anything. Thats half the battle, have no expectations and just see it as a little fun and things should work themselves out for you. worst thing you can possibly do as a man on here is put all your eggs in one basket. "
Wait! There are baskets? Is that in club meets? Do I have to weave my own? So many questions... |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website. "
The nature of the website is that they aren't taking the advise. They change bits of their profile or in some cases change it completely so they are like a different person but they forget to change their attitude.
That brings them back to the forums after a few weeks with little digs about still not being able to get verified or meet anyone or they go off on another whinge about timewasters etc.
It's one thing to say don't put all your eggs in one basket but some people are one trick ponies and haven't a clue how to be otherwise. |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
Could also be that the messages they send are really bad once your polite and pick something out in orofile should be enough. doesn't need to be a short novel. alot of it is luck also.
Only 1% of single men do that tho. Even a lot of couples send rude messages "
I have spoken to me who say they send nice mails and get nowhere. don't know is that lies though. |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
The nature of the website is that they aren't taking the advise. They change bits of their profile or in some cases change it completely so they are like a different person but they forget to change their attitude.
That brings them back to the forums after a few weeks with little digs about still not being able to get verified or meet anyone or they go off on another whinge about timewasters etc.
It's one thing to say don't put all your eggs in one basket but some people are one trick ponies and haven't a clue how to be otherwise. "
don't put all your eggs in one basket meaning don't solely rely on this site for fun sexual meets and you nor I havnt a clue if these lads are sending polite opening mails with profile enduring stuff or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
Could also be that the messages they send are really bad once your polite and pick something out in orofile should be enough. doesn't need to be a short novel. alot of it is luck also.
Only 1% of single men do that tho. Even a lot of couples send rude messages I have spoken to me who say they send nice mails and get nowhere. don't know is that lies though."
We get a lot of rude ones and when you pull them up on it they see nothing wrong with what they send. I would say most women and couples would agree |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
The nature of the website is that they aren't taking the advise. They change bits of their profile or in some cases change it completely so they are like a different person but they forget to change their attitude.
That brings them back to the forums after a few weeks with little digs about still not being able to get verified or meet anyone or they go off on another whinge about timewasters etc.
It's one thing to say don't put all your eggs in one basket but some people are one trick ponies and haven't a clue how to be otherwise. don't put all your eggs in one basket meaning don't solely rely on this site for fun sexual meets and you nor I havnt a clue if these lads are sending polite opening mails with profile enduring stuff or not. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
The nature of the website is that they aren't taking the advise. They change bits of their profile or in some cases change it completely so they are like a different person but they forget to change their attitude.
That brings them back to the forums after a few weeks with little digs about still not being able to get verified or meet anyone or they go off on another whinge about timewasters etc.
It's one thing to say don't put all your eggs in one basket but some people are one trick ponies and haven't a clue how to be otherwise. "
Exactly this here |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
The nature of the website is that they aren't taking the advise. They change bits of their profile or in some cases change it completely so they are like a different person but they forget to change their attitude.
That brings them back to the forums after a few weeks with little digs about still not being able to get verified or meet anyone or they go off on another whinge about timewasters etc.
It's one thing to say don't put all your eggs in one basket but some people are one trick ponies and haven't a clue how to be otherwise. don't put all your eggs in one basket meaning don't solely rely on this site for fun sexual meets and you nor I havnt a clue if these lads are sending polite opening mails with profile enduring stuff or not. "
I know exactly what you mean but it's not all about polite messages. Everyone's definition of polite is different and most women don't even open messages if they don't like the profile so it doesn't really matter what they write if they can't back it up with effort in their profiles and pics and even forum interaction. |
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"The way I see it you have 2 choices.
1) Keep doing the same thing and getting the same results
2) Take the advice, change things up, and give yourself a chance of changing your resultsadd the 3rd one in there and it's not been hypocritical just honest. 3)he could do everything advised and still get nowhere.
Or he could take the advise and get somewhere taking the advise doesn't guarantee him getting anywhere. thats the point been made. I saw the same advise been given to single men in the past. they followed but still struggled. its just the nature of the website.
The nature of the website is that they aren't taking the advise. They change bits of their profile or in some cases change it completely so they are like a different person but they forget to change their attitude.
That brings them back to the forums after a few weeks with little digs about still not being able to get verified or meet anyone or they go off on another whinge about timewasters etc.
It's one thing to say don't put all your eggs in one basket but some people are one trick ponies and haven't a clue how to be otherwise. don't put all your eggs in one basket meaning don't solely rely on this site for fun sexual meets and you nor I havnt a clue if these lads are sending polite opening mails with profile enduring stuff or not.
I know exactly what you mean but it's not all about polite messages. Everyone's definition of polite is different and most women don't even open messages if they don't like the profile so it doesn't really matter what they write if they can't back it up with effort in their profiles and pics and even forum interaction. "
I agree profile pic and text is important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies and couples your opinion on this one is most welcome. Since I how’s a couple of months ago I’ve had zero replies back from ladies and couples. I’ve been nothing but polite, have sent a pic of myself clothed and haven’t suggested anything more than a chat to see if there’s a social connection at the least. What’s going on??? ??"
You’re competing with people who put actual effort into their profiles. Being polite isn’t going to start someone’s motor |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"I find sending messages when venus is high over saturn works best for me, a little tip for ye there lads
I thought it worked best when Mars was up Uranus  "
Yes. It helps you work, rest AND play? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I see absolutely no profile changes. There is no helping some people."
Ignorance can be a two way street.
Anyhow giving profile advice is a waste of time. It might sound harsh but if you can't figure it out yourself, you won't suceed here anyway. |
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"Ladies and couples your opinion on this one is most welcome. Since I how’s a couple of months ago I’ve had zero replies back from ladies and couples. I’ve been nothing but polite, have sent a pic of myself clothed and haven’t suggested anything more than a chat to see if there’s a social connection at the least. What’s going on??? ??"
Tell lots of lies, the bigger the lie, the more people believe it. |
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