Make sure they have played before with a girl, because they will hopefully have worked through any issues with jealousy they might have. It can get ugly if they arr faced with the reality after just having fantasies up to then.
Make sure you get on socially first. If you can't enjoy a chat and each others company then you've fuckall hope of everything working in the sack.
Discuss, understand and respect limits. Know in a very clear way what's ok and what might not be. Also communicate your needs and desires clearly. It's needs to be mutual.
Understand your different perspectives on the meet. They have more to lose with their relationships... but they need to understand that you are a person with needs here that are equally as important as theirs. Also you are on your own and are taking your own risks so they need to respect that and do their best to help you feel comfortable.
Keep emotions out of it. Don't fall in love. Don't have expectations beyond that night.
Be your own advocate and speak up. If something isn't working then say so. Guide them in what you need to get off. Help them to hit the spot that you need.
Don't expect them to just know. Be kind and respectful. Address both of them.
Adding a third into an established relationship and be intimidating and scary... but also wonderful and thrilling. Take the opportunity to make memories. Listen and speak openly and clearly. If you make yourself vulnerable then hopefully they will too and you might learn something about yourself and share something really special. |
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"Make sure they have played before with a girl, because they will hopefully have worked through any issues with jealousy they might have. It can get ugly if they arr faced with the reality after just having fantasies up to then.
Make sure you get on socially first. If you can't enjoy a chat and each others company then you've fuckall hope of everything working in the sack.
Discuss, understand and respect limits. Know in a very clear way what's ok and what might not be. Also communicate your needs and desires clearly. It's needs to be mutual.
Understand your different perspectives on the meet. They have more to lose with their relationships... but they need to understand that you are a person with needs here that are equally as important as theirs. Also you are on your own and are taking your own risks so they need to respect that and do their best to help you feel comfortable.
Keep emotions out of it. Don't fall in love. Don't have expectations beyond that night.
Be your own advocate and speak up. If something isn't working then say so. Guide them in what you need to get off. Help them to hit the spot that you need.
Don't expect them to just know. Be kind and respectful. Address both of them.
Adding a third into an established relationship and be intimidating and scary... but also wonderful and thrilling. Take the opportunity to make memories. Listen and speak openly and clearly. If you make yourself vulnerable then hopefully they will too and you might learn something about yourself and share something really special."
The only thing I'd add to this is read the room during the meet. Don't get caught up in the moment/experience to the discomfort of someone else. |
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