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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Something I have found useful to do in the past, was to consciously place myself in very stressful situations, sometimes extraordinarily so, in order that normal life would be easy to cope with
A desensitisation process, essentially. |
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Fresh air, exercise, a 10 min walk could make all the difference. Having someone to talk it through with. I find when stuff is said our loud, it often makes it easier to deal with. When you know what works for you, make a note of it, so you always have it to revert back to. A plan of action for when needed so to speak. |
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over a year ago
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Currently in therapy for anxiety and depression, was told to concentrate on my breathing and stretch, I find my self subconsciously doing it now when I feel my self getting anxious, another thing that I’ve found that helps me is getting a decent nights sleep |
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If its a sudden bout of anxiety I try to remove myself from the situation, even just for 5 or 10 minutes. I had to tell a colleague that I would be back in 5 during a meeting. I walked to the toilets and jogged on the spot. Sound insane but it helped, I rejoined the meeting and carried on. If I had stayed throughout I would have had a full blown panic attack. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot of anxiety is born of unknowns and feeling a lack of control, resisting.... fighting inevitabilities or things outside of your control.
Acceptance is freeing. Just acknowledge your limits. What's reasonable?
Asigning responsibility where it truly belongs also helps. Don't take on for the choices and consequences of others.
Own what is yours alone to bear or affect or control. And what is not.... set it down.
Breathe deep and let all of the rest go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of anxiety is born of unknowns and feeling a lack of control, resisting.... fighting inevitabilities or things outside of your control.
Acceptance is freeing. Just acknowledge your limits. What's reasonable?
Asigning responsibility where it truly belongs also helps. Don't take on for the choices and consequences of others.
Own what is yours alone to bear or affect or control. And what is not.... set it down.
Breathe deep and let all of the rest go."
Thanks you are so right
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So probably another thread for someone else but do you just go along with what your wife wants
Or do you say look carry on yourself or what I don’t know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If its a sudden bout of anxiety I try to remove myself from the situation, even just for 5 or 10 minutes. I had to tell a colleague that I would be back in 5 during a meeting. I walked to the toilets and jogged on the spot. Sound insane but it helped, I rejoined the meeting and carried on. If I had stayed throughout I would have had a full blown panic attack. "
That's great actually, knowing your limits and taking a break to gather yourself is good advice  |
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Depends on the where, when and why?
Breathing, clearing the mind, mindfulness, meditation for which there are plenty of podcasts and videos available.
Distraction of any kind, writing a journal, drawing/painting, colouring in, doing a jigsaw puzzle, engaging with a pet, chatting with a friend, exercise of sorts...
But in reality, to deal with it effectively, you may want or need to get to the source of the anxiety to allow a healing process. That may require professional help. |
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Everyone is different and what works for one May not work for you .
Make a small change/ improvement to your daily routine.
Try anything you think you might like, if it doesn’t work, no harm, try the next thing you think might work.
Talk . Talk to someone about what you are experiencing.
Asking the question on here was a good start.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Looking back on pervious times when you thought it had all gone to shit and there was no future for you and then time passes and things change. Trying to live in the present moment as much as you can. Choosing to ignore the bad news. In simplistic terms a lot of our fears and anxieties are made up in our own minds. We create them. But many have no foundation. They are not real. How can you be afraid of something that is not real. The news and newspapers love to create fear and anxiety with their reporting. Look at all the fears created when Covid manifested. Ultimately a lot of it never manifested. If you are anxious about something tell a friend. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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The cost of living crisis, rampant inflation, war in Ukraine and years of Covid lockdowns have pushed many people's anxiety levels off the scale, resulting in widespread depression.
There is no magic bullet solution to this, but getting out into fresh air, walking and talking and interacting with as many people as possible is vital, as social animals.
Dogs are ice-breakers, in that dog-owners interact more frequently and more easily; get a dog that suits your personality, but novice owners should avoid Collies or Collie crosses, and Malinois or other Belgian Shepherds are too difficult to own because of their energy and incessant need for stimulation as they are working breeds. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Avoid news and social media, apart from the scaremongering and the unhelpful comparisons with others presenting a faux perfect life, the internet is a major timesucker and stops us from doing more productive things, thus increasing our sense of being out of control.
Avoid alcohol, caffeine, w*ed, they don't help
Physical activity both distracts and helps burn off anxiety. Any activity where you have to fully engage your brain calms the random shit buzzing around in there
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I’ve found exercise to be very helpful. Also anything that occupies the mind reading and gaming helped. Getting out in the garden, something about digging in the dirt is strangely relaxing.
Trying to face up to the anxiety too, so for me erring out and about talking to people and going to unfamiliar places. It wasn’t easy at first and still isn’t but I’m better able to deal with it now |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind. |
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"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind. "
I used to lie in bed thinking about stuff worrying. Now I say to myself I cant do anything about anything until I get up in the morning so may as well switch my brain off and go to sleep. Now when i go to bed I usually think about boobies schlapping me in the face  |
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"Something I have found useful to do in the past, was to consciously place myself in very stressful situations, sometimes extraordinarily so, in order that normal life would be easy to cope with
A desensitisation process, essentially. "
very interesting. Might you give some examples |
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If something stressful worries me, then I say to myself 'this too shall pass' and it does.
I always try to gain perspective on things as well by comparing a situation to worst case scenarios like something bad happening to my family etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind. "
Ditto. Daytime is usually ok as I keep busy. Nightime, I normally get to sleep ok as I'm so exhausted, then 2 or 3 pm. I am wide awake with thoughts that I just can not control. So it's up to watch TV or read. Vicious circle  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind.
I used to lie in bed thinking about stuff worrying. Now I say to myself I cant do anything about anything until I get up in the morning so may as well switch my brain off and go to sleep. Now when i go to bed I usually think about boobies schlapping me in the face "
boobies slapping me in the face would just make me worry more.I'd think mine have finally tried to do me in |
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"Looking back on pervious times when you thought it had all gone to shit and there was no future for you and then time passes and things change. Trying to live in the present moment as much as you can. Choosing to ignore the bad news. In simplistic terms a lot of our fears and anxieties are made up in our own minds. We create them. But many have no foundation. They are not real. How can you be afraid of something that is not real. The news and newspapers love to create fear and anxiety with their reporting. Look at all the fears created when Covid manifested. Ultimately a lot of it never manifested. If you are anxious about something tell a friend. "
Its that whole thing of thoughts can generate feelings, the feelings feel real yet no basis in reality |
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"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind.
Ditto. Daytime is usually ok as I keep busy. Nightime, I normally get to sleep ok as I'm so exhausted, then 2 or 3 pm. I am wide awake with thoughts that I just can not control. So it's up to watch TV or read. Vicious circle "
Something useful i found for night shit as I call it  is too write three things on your mind or worring you on a piece of paper and then write three things your great full for today . Give them a read and burn the paper |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In my personal life thank God there isn't any reason for anxiety.
But with regard to fwb/fab yes, I've had some anxiety issues which have subsided over the past few months and have decided not to let it affect me again.
But to everyone out there that is suffering, my heart goes out to you and never forget, there's always someone to listen to you. |
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I don't have peaks and troughs or moments of anxiety but from when I did have a sustained dark period the only thing that worked was getting out and doing rather than talking about doing.
CBT, mindfulness,journaling and counselling for me was like self flagellation and that ended as soon as I put my hiking boots on and has never returned. |
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By *ing PaddyMan
over a year ago
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For the last week I've gotten out and did 5k, walk, jog run in the local parks. I find I switch off after 1k and concentrate on finishing the route.
I've started to keep a diary of what I'm eating and started to eat more vegetables and not to eat to fast.
I did an 8k walk, jog, run yesterday, after shower fell asleep. Running ????? is not for everyone but if you can get out for a walk all the better, it helps with breathing. I've also started to read again, books I enjoy reading. My wife's illness can get to me, so I'm hoping to do the local parkruns every Saturday if I can. The parkruns are free and you can walk them, always made feel welcome. You can volunteer at parkruns very easy tasks and good way to get up and out, met new people and go for a coffee and most of conversation is about running, nothing controversial. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's important to not treat these ideas only as a way to manage an isolated stressful event or, if you experience them, anxiety attacks.
You should try and incorporate them in to your day to day, good days and bad, and make your overall wellbeing a priority as a lifestyle not a remedy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Currently in therapy for anxiety and depression, was told to concentrate on my breathing and stretch, I find my self subconsciously doing it now when I feel my self getting anxious, another thing that I’ve found that helps me is getting a decent nights sleep "
Best of luck to you. Hard Road but the fact you recognised you need help is part of thar road. It will make a huge difference. Bon chance.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Meditation,
Theres a book ive read and i revert back too called "this is it" its a wonderful book and helped me get through some datker periods of my life. Give it a try. And good luck. |
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"Currently in therapy for anxiety and depression, was told to concentrate on my breathing and stretch, I find my self subconsciously doing it now when I feel my self getting anxious, another thing that I’ve found that helps me is getting a decent nights sleep Best of luck to you. Hard Road but the fact you recognised you need help is part of thar road. It will make a huge difference. Bon chance."
Absolutely this |
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Brilliant thread, I only realised exactly how bad anxiety can be about 2yrs ago.Great advice here and I'm reading it all for myself. It's a hard road but acknowledging it is the first step. I use to stick a rubber band on my wrist and ping it when I felt I was losing it to bring me back.Best wishes xxx |
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Some great advice above, any ladies suffering chat to your doc about peri menopause.
I have learned its ok to say no and remove myself from situations that made my anxiety worse. I've also stopped worrying what people think of me (well most of the time), instead of buying my emotions or thoughts I tackle them before they get worse.
Biggest advice is just reach out to someone you be surprised who cares. |
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"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind.
Ditto. Daytime is usually ok as I keep busy. Nightime, I normally get to sleep ok as I'm so exhausted, then 2 or 3 pm. I am wide awake with thoughts that I just can not control. So it's up to watch TV or read. Vicious circle "
Best to cut out blue screens a couple of hours before sleep time and in the middle of the night as they signal to the brain that it's daytime.
Sleep teas or camomile tea might help make you sleepy again.
Maybe try an essential oil good for sleep in your bedroom. If you don't have a diffuser a couple of drops in a tissue under the pillow or on a nightstand will do the trick. Lavender, camomile and sandalwood are great.
Frankincense is a meditation oil. It has a grounding effect and might help with racing thoughts, maybe while listening to a meditation for relaxation, even if you just start off with a few minutes.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind.
Ditto. Daytime is usually ok as I keep busy. Nightime, I normally get to sleep ok as I'm so exhausted, then 2 or 3 pm. I am wide awake with thoughts that I just can not control. So it's up to watch TV or read. Vicious circle
Best to cut out blue screens a couple of hours before sleep time and in the middle of the night as they signal to the brain that it's daytime.
Sleep teas or camomile tea might help make you sleepy again.
Maybe try an essential oil good for sleep in your bedroom. If you don't have a diffuser a couple of drops in a tissue under the pillow or on a nightstand will do the trick. Lavender, camomile and sandalwood are great.
Frankincense is a meditation oil. It has a grounding effect and might help with racing thoughts, maybe while listening to a meditation for relaxation, even if you just start off with a few minutes.
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I've tried most of them but they don't work for me when things are stressful in life. They stop my head running riot at times. |
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Since Christmas I've been suffering with anxiety due to work issues.. The last few nights when I've woken I've put relaxing sound music on my phone very low but just enough to hear it & keep me from over thinking.... Brilliant thread |
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"It can be good to keep a pen & paper next to your bed. Anything that you're worried about forgetting in the AM or whatever. Just jot it down and relax."
Yes ,keep a diary and write down positive things everyday that happened.
You can then read them If you're feeling a bit off and it helps to lift the mood sometimes for me anyway. |
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"I find keeping myself busy helps. Along with talking to friends and family and getting out in the fresh air for walks and just spending time with my animals help.
Night time is worst though especially when you wake up and your mind is racing about things you have no control over. Getting a good night's sleep would help but not easy to do when things are on your mind.
Ditto. Daytime is usually ok as I keep busy. Nightime, I normally get to sleep ok as I'm so exhausted, then 2 or 3 pm. I am wide awake with thoughts that I just can not control. So it's up to watch TV or read. Vicious circle
Best to cut out blue screens a couple of hours before sleep time and in the middle of the night as they signal to the brain that it's daytime.
Sleep teas or camomile tea might help make you sleepy again.
Maybe try an essential oil good for sleep in your bedroom. If you don't have a diffuser a couple of drops in a tissue under the pillow or on a nightstand will do the trick. Lavender, camomile and sandalwood are great.
Frankincense is a meditation oil. It has a grounding effect and might help with racing thoughts, maybe while listening to a meditation for relaxation, even if you just start off with a few minutes.
I've tried most of them but they don't work for me when things are stressful in life. They stop my head running riot at times. "
Unfortunately they're not a cure but sometimes a handy tool amongst other things . |
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A few tips in no particular order.
1:Keep a daily journal - the fact you have to think and actually write down your thoughts is therapy in itself.
2: Yoga - it has two benefits, much improved flexibility and calmness/mindfulness
3: Daily swim or even a dip. The cold water is an amazing therapy and very healthy.
4: Walk in nature,woods, parks etc. If you do a regular route you will start to notice the change of the seasons.
5: Switch off the TV. Turn on the radio. Try the John Creedon show - Mon to Fri 20.00 to 22.00. RTE 1 radio. Beautiful choice of music every evening.
6: Don't be afraid to confide in a friend. An ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on are way more effective than any medication.
7: Set out to enjoy life.
"Everyone dies, but very few actually live"
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