FabSwingers.com > Forums > Ireland > Would you date someone you met on fab?
Would you date someone you met on fab?
Jump to: Newest in thread
I think it is alot of the couples having the most fun here on fet. If you met someone here you dont have to establish the kinkyness over time, you would both know your dirty fuckers already hahahaha. But dating is dating, i dont think it matters where you meet someone as long as you love them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So as the title say,
Would you date someone you met through fab?
Very curious to hear what people think about this.
"
100%
In many ways fab relationships can be the most honest because it helps us be completely honest about deepest desires, many of which are taboo in other contexts. Once we are open about deepest desires we can be open about anything - but it comes with the caution of remaining free of jealousy and possessiveness in regards to partners and their swinging desires. Both parties must remain free, but aligned |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site) 16 weeks ago
|
"So as the title say,
Would you date someone you met through fab?
Very curious to hear what people think about this.
"
I didnt set out to date but found a guy and 3 yrs later im living with him. Sometimes fab has good folk about  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Fab provides a framework for upfront honesty as some questions are already answered.
I feel like the root of the question is would you date someone who is non monogamous.
My answer to that would be yes and I have and will again.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Would you trust them or have to share?"
What has trust got to do with it? Surely you'd only date someone you trusted and you'd discuss the question of monogamy before embarking on the relationship? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *panishRebelMan 16 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"Fab provides a framework for upfront honesty as some questions are already answered.
I feel like the root of the question is would you date someone who is non monogamous.
My answer to that would be yes and I have and will again.
"
Nail on the head.
And as I said previously yes I would. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We first met here and have been together 5 years now.
We have a fantastic and open relationship mainly thanks to who we are and because of the site, but also how it educated us over the years.
Some ‘Vanilla’ relationships can develop insecurities and untruths, leading to paranoia etc.
With us both being lovers of the lifestyle it was so easy to continue this path together.
We are the perfect ‘Wingman’ and ‘Wingwoman’
  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *spMan 16 weeks ago
Who know's |
Yes yes yes I would and did. It’s was fantastic and loved every moment of our time together. We loved been in our own company and both enjoyed seeing each other with others. We were both singing of the same hymn sheet and had no jealousy |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So as the title say,
Would you date someone you met through fab?
Very curious to hear what people think about this.
"
Another question to ask is, why not? As ye'll know thing's about eachother beforehand. Compared to meeting someone off a dating app or wherever ye meet eachother. Dating app's aren't for everybody either.
Dating app's weren't for me at all. So I'd be open to dating someone from here, if we click.
So like I asked earlier, "why not"? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Yes, I'm open to everything, theres no reason you cant find someone here. In the long term you either stay here together with some ground rules or you explore together, leave together but know what you both like now and live happily ever after |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eijaWoman 15 weeks ago
City Centre |
I have in the past and I am currently
Who wouldn't love finding someone open minded enough to explore the scene with you. Someone you can be honest and open with about your kinks and desires
Not sure I could ever be in a 'vanilla' relationship again.
B x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'd happily date someone from fab if we both had the same outlook on the relationship. I don't ever forsee me being a one man woman ever again. Have always thought I'll never be in a relationship again but maybe a fab connection might change my mind. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Am certainly not here to date but possibly meet a fwbs certainly that would be the closest thing I'd be looking for... reason I joined fab is because relationships don't work for me and previous ex's showed me that time and time again....
No the answer would be no from me that's why I joined fab am a swinger through and through |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I am at every opportunity, met as a one off and has developed into a fwb situation where we both have lives outside the site. However with a different set of circumstances I'd say we pretty much would be having a relationship. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I am at every opportunity, met as a one off and has developed into a fwb situation where we both have lives outside the site. However with a different set of circumstances I'd say we pretty much would be having a relationship."
I’d say you’d be 100% right on that one |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Absolutely 100% yes.
I think in fact the people you meet via Fab or someother "alternative" sites have a greater chance of me dating due to a common outlook on life and approaching relationships and dynamics.
I would see it as only enhacning the dating experience and making it last longer. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
You know the more ive considered it I'd say I'm far more likely to discuss a longer-term relationship or commitment to someone I met on fab rather than elsewhere.
The genuine romance stories from here are amazing! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
These threads appear every now and then, usually by women and I always wonder what she means by 'date' because in the past women have clarified to 'leave Fab to be monogamous'.
A guy who has been successful on here with many meets and much experimentation with group sex, fantasies etc in my opinion might agree to monogamy but might find it difficult in the long run, _specially if they were still reasonably young.
I think the OP means to 'leave Fab' here too. Open to correction of course. Mrs  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely !!! As long as everyone communicates it can be more honest … "
This is it bang on, as long as both parties communicate well and honestly and given ghat place to do so it can be an amazing dating experience. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"These threads appear every now and then, usually by women and I always wonder what she means by 'date' because in the past women have clarified to 'leave Fab to be monogamous'.
A guy who has been successful on here with many meets and much experimentation with group sex, fantasies etc in my opinion might agree to monogamy but might find it difficult in the long run, _specially if they were still reasonably young.
I think the OP means to 'leave Fab' here too. Open to correction of course. Mrs "
I didn't mention leaving fab, Or monogamy.
I was just curious if people would start dating or have a relationship with someone they've met here.
I've had a few men tell me they wouldn't want that with a woman from fab, and was told that they wouldn't tell future partners that they were ever on fab. Which I thought was ridiculous.
I'd happily date someone from here. And hopefully continue having lots of fun with them
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *aseylee324Couple 15 weeks ago
Valley of Squinting Windows |
"These threads appear every now and then, usually by women and I always wonder what she means by 'date' because in the past women have clarified to 'leave Fab to be monogamous'.
A guy who has been successful on here with many meets and much experimentation with group sex, fantasies etc in my opinion might agree to monogamy but might find it difficult in the long run, _specially if they were still reasonably young.
I think the OP means to 'leave Fab' here too. Open to correction of course. Mrs
I didn't mention leaving fab, Or monogamy.
I was just curious if people would start dating or have a relationship with someone they've met here.
I've had a few men tell me they wouldn't want that with a woman from fab, and was told that they wouldn't tell future partners that they were ever on fab. Which I thought was ridiculous.
I'd happily date someone from here. And hopefully continue having lots of fun with them
"
Madonna-whore complex is alive and well |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"These threads appear every now and then, usually by women and I always wonder what she means by 'date' because in the past women have clarified to 'leave Fab to be monogamous'.
A guy who has been successful on here with many meets and much experimentation with group sex, fantasies etc in my opinion might agree to monogamy but might find it difficult in the long run, _specially if they were still reasonably young.
I think the OP means to 'leave Fab' here too. Open to correction of course. Mrs
I didn't mention leaving fab, Or monogamy.
I was just curious if people would start dating or have a relationship with someone they've met here.
I've had a few men tell me they wouldn't want that with a woman from fab, and was told that they wouldn't tell future partners that they were ever on fab. Which I thought was ridiculous.
I'd happily date someone from here. And hopefully continue having lots of fun with them
"
You made an excellent point there.
I date outside of fab and once I get to know a person I'm up front about my lifestyle.
Sometimes that's cool and nothing changes and sometimes a person might say no thanks the ENM life isn't for me.
Sometimes a person might say they are cool with ENM and it turns out down the road it's not for them.
It's not uncommon to see things like "No ENM, Poly or other Acronyms" on people's dating profiles now.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely !!! As long as everyone communicates it can be more honest … "
Exactly this!
It’s all about communication and it really adds something more when we can chat about our desires etc.
it’s a HUGE sexy plus, knowing what we know about each other and how we like to play.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Oh... So the question would be 'would you leave fab to be monogamous with someone you met on fab'?
That would take a bit more consideration. All depends on the individual situation!"
That's trickier. It's something that I'd have to think long and hard (giggle) about.
It's something I'd find kinda difficult to just turn away from once the box is opened.
Honestly I'd probably struggle to be with someone who is very closed off with regards sexual adventures . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"These threads appear every now and then, usually by women and I always wonder what she means by 'date' because in the past women have clarified to 'leave Fab to be monogamous'.
A guy who has been successful on here with many meets and much experimentation with group sex, fantasies etc in my opinion might agree to monogamy but might find it difficult in the long run, _specially if they were still reasonably young.
I think the OP means to 'leave Fab' here too. Open to correction of course. Mrs
I didn't mention leaving fab, Or monogamy.
I was just curious if people would start dating or have a relationship with someone they've met here.
I've had a few men tell me they wouldn't want that with a woman from fab, and was told that they wouldn't tell future partners that they were ever on fab. Which I thought was ridiculous.
I'd happily date someone from here. And hopefully continue having lots of fun with them
"
Thanks for the clarification  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Pretty define dating differently too.
Right now I enjoy dating casually and non exclusively. I'm not open to a relationship.
Just as I like to meet casually and non monogamously.
And I prefer too have regular more intimate connections than one offs
Some people associate dating with looking for relationship.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Sorry ; nope.
Why is that. I'm just curious to know.
. No worries.
It will just get complicated going forward, with dating; building a life together post Fab et Al. "
You should never look at problems ahead, look for solutions
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Sorry ; nope.
Why is that. I'm just curious to know.
. No worries.
It will just get complicated going forward, with dating; building a life together post Fab et Al.
You should never look at problems ahead, look for solutions
"
. True! But on this occasion; I'd rather elimate any possibility of problems or need to look for a solution   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"More or less….
Can you describe what the difference is?
This person is exactly the same person you liked before, but once you know they were on fab what changed?"
I guess the baggage that comes with it and how to properly proceed from there. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"More or less….
Can you describe what the difference is?
This person is exactly the same person you liked before, but once you know they were on fab what changed?
I guess the baggage that comes with it and how to properly proceed from there. "
Do you feel your potential partner would worry about how to proceed with you since you were previously on a swinging website? Has your future relationship potential been ruined from this place? Do you feel you have baggage from here that makes you a poor partner choice for a girl in the future? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"More or less….
Can you describe what the difference is?
This person is exactly the same person you liked before, but once you know they were on fab what changed?
I guess the baggage that comes with it and how to properly proceed from there.
Do you feel your potential partner would worry about how to proceed with you since you were previously on a swinging website? Has your future relationship potential been ruined from this place? Do you feel you have baggage from here that makes you a poor partner choice for a girl in the future?"
Question: Do you feel your potential partner would worry about how to proceed with you since you were previously on a swinging website?
Answer : Yes.
Question : Has your future relationship potential been ruined from this place? Do you feel you have baggage from here that makes you a poor partner choice for a girl in the future?
Answer: At the minute ; I'd be leaning towards a yes.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Thanks for your honest answers. Its a shame to me that you feel that your activities here mean that you will struggle to have a relationship. I guess I feel the opposite that being open to casual sexual encounters could encourage positive sexual experiences and relationships. For me nonmonogamy and sexual openness is something that can be a positive force in life rather then something that is to be damaging. Also I feel that being with someone who has been (and is) sexually open doesn't damage them, it enhances their breath of experiences and can lead to new excitement and experiences together in the future. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I believe that relationships can manifest in various ways, and connections can be formed in unexpected places. If I meet someone on here and we share a genuine connection beyond just the swinging aspect, I am open to exploring the possibility of dating. Ultimately, it's about the connection, r_spect, and mutual understanding between two individuals or theree, regardless of where they initially met. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I believe that relationships can manifest in various ways, and connections can be formed in unexpected places. If I meet someone on here and we share a genuine connection beyond just the swinging aspect, I am open to exploring the possibility of dating. Ultimately, it's about the connection, r_spect, and mutual understanding between two individuals or theree, regardless of where they initially met."
Took the words out of my mouth  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Thanks for your honest answers. Its a shame to me that you feel that your activities here mean that you will struggle to have a relationship. I guess I feel the opposite that being open to casual sexual encounters could encourage positive sexual experiences and relationships. For me nonmonogamy and sexual openness is something that can be a positive force in life rather then something that is to be damaging. Also I feel that being with someone who has been (and is) sexually open doesn't damage them, it enhances their breath of experiences and can lead to new excitement and experiences together in the future."
You make some convincing points ; but it will probably be a challenge for me to switch into that lane if you will ; _specially with someone who is still sexually open on Fab.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
|
Yes I sure would date someone I've met on Fab & I have done..5 in fact & still 'close' friends with them & still 'date' them..My meets involve nights out after a strong r_spectful connection has been formed.. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ickin2Man 13 weeks ago
Kilkenny |
"Yes I sure would date someone I've met on Fab & I have done..5 in fact & still 'close' friends with them & still 'date' them..My meets involve nights out after a strong r_spectful connection has been formed.."
I think that that is Fab at its absolute best |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Late to this thread but...
I've went on a couple of dates with guys from fab since joining almost 3 years ago & had positive experiences (mostly). But haven't dated per say, as in been "exclusive" or whatever the hip word is these days lol I also haven't dated outside of fab in that time either. It's all personal perspective & allows for so many variables.
I think if/when you meet "the right person" all perspectives & previous thought process goes out the window. You may not know the answer to this question till your caught by surprise
But agree, if I were going to date someone it would only be someone that I met here and honest open communication would be the only way.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
