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What others do is none of my business but it's not for me. I'm also highly unlikely to meet someone where it's evident they have unprotected sex with multiple partners.
Nothing is completely foolproof though, and no-one is infallible, so I mitigate as best I can.
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Not something I'd do unless I know the person very well.
Fabs opinion on it though is one of my favorite things to watch.
The people that will scream we are all here for the same thing and that they thought fab was supposed to be non judgemental on threads that suit their own situation, will start to shout their distain from the highest roof tops because it's usually an easy pile on |
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With my partner I play without but with everyone else it's a must
I have a few couples tell me that I should let them fuck me without condoms as it's too awkard and time consuming to put them on every time |
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By *og-ManMan 15 weeks ago
somewhere |
"Always insist on safe sex even as far as condoms on when sucking or being sucked
VERY few use condoms for oral, in fact I've never once seen it "
I've seen some fab profile pics where the man had a condom on during a blow job
Never seen a woman with a dental dam ( is that the correct name ) |
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Always use condoms for fab meets. No exceptions. But as Filthy said above no one seems to worry about oral sex without a condom, which kinda makes you wonder! My last vanilla relationship, we were probably a year or so together and always used them and it wasn't for the fear of pregnancy either. |
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'I prefer bare and will try with every woman just because it feels better and she might let me in the heat of the moment'
Wrote no man on fab ever but I've heard that story from every woman I know.
I practice safe sex. Condoms are one part of that risk assessment. Regular testing and knowing/trusting my partner's approach to safe sex is more important than just relying on a condom in my opinion.
For example, it is, in my opinion, safer for me not to have sex, even with a condom, with a woman who fucks a lot of guys bare because if the condom breaks then I am exposed.
Conversely if I am with someone who I've built up enough trust with that I know they will keep me safe then condoms aren't going to make us safer.
The first sex party I ever went to led to me recieving multiple phone calls afterwards that they're had been an outbreak of gonorrhoea and I should get tested. I didn't fuck anyone that night because it was my first party so my clear test wasn't a big surprise but how did that happen?
It happened because people prefer bare and build circles of trust. Once that circle gets wide enough the balance of probability increases the risk exponentially and I believe this is more common than anyone will write on fab. |
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By *P_80Man 15 weeks ago
Waterford |
No exceptions unless I'm in a relationship. Even then it's a couple of months before I'd consider not wearing one.
As for oral, I'd have no problem wearing a condom for it and have done before.
With regards to stopping the flow of things, I tend to have a condom within arm's reach and put it on while giving oral so it doesn't break the vibe. |
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"'I prefer bare and will try with every woman just because it feels better and she might let me in the heat of the moment'
Wrote no man on fab ever but I've heard that story from every woman I know.
I practice safe sex. Condoms are one part of that risk assessment. Regular testing and knowing/trusting my partner's approach to safe sex is more important than just relying on a condom in my opinion.
For example, it is, in my opinion, safer for me not to have sex, even with a condom, with a woman who fucks a lot of guys bare because if the condom breaks then I am exposed.
Conversely if I am with someone who I've built up enough trust with that I know they will keep me safe then condoms aren't going to make us safer.
The first sex party I ever went to led to me recieving multiple phone calls afterwards that they're had been an outbreak of gonorrhoea and I should get tested. I didn't fuck anyone that night because it was my first party so my clear test wasn't a big surprise but how did that happen?
It happened because people prefer bare and build circles of trust. Once that circle gets wide enough the balance of probability increases the risk exponentially and I believe this is more common than anyone will write on fab."
Nicely put and love the way a lot of guys here say they only use condoms but the truth is that, given the chance, 95% of guys would fuck without it, I can show hundreds of messages in my inbox with guys talking about breathing me and filling me up, as a woman never twke anyones word, if I'm playing with a man outside my partner then I bring the condoms and I generally dont let them fuck from behind because they take it off |
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By *ll4Man 15 weeks ago
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"'I prefer bare and will try with every woman just because it feels better and she might let me in the heat of the moment'
Wrote no man on fab ever but I've heard that story from every woman I know.
I practice safe sex. Condoms are one part of that risk assessment. Regular testing and knowing/trusting my partner's approach to safe sex is more important than just relying on a condom in my opinion.
For example, it is, in my opinion, safer for me not to have sex, even with a condom, with a woman who fucks a lot of guys bare because if the condom breaks then I am exposed.
Conversely if I am with someone who I've built up enough trust with that I know they will keep me safe then condoms aren't going to make us safer.
The first sex party I ever went to led to me recieving multiple phone calls afterwards that they're had been an outbreak of gonorrhoea and I should get tested. I didn't fuck anyone that night because it was my first party so my clear test wasn't a big surprise but how did that happen?
It happened because people prefer bare and build circles of trust. Once that circle gets wide enough the balance of probability increases the risk exponentially and I believe this is more common than anyone will write on fab.
Nicely put and love the way a lot of guys here say they only use condoms but the truth is that, given the chance, 95% of guys would fuck without it, I can show hundreds of messages in my inbox with guys talking about breathing me and filling me up, as a woman never twke anyones word, if I'm playing with a man outside my partner then I bring the condoms and I generally dont let them fuck from behind because they take it off"
Can't believe they take it off that'd disrespectful to the recipient its consensual but with protection can't see why people just don't wear them this day and age. |
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"My wife tells me that it's more common that lads look to go in bare initially than those who automatically assume condoms will be used."
It's so common that every pretty much every woman I've met has already assumed I want to go bare and didn't bring condoms so offers me one of hers to avoid any awkwardness. I bring my own because I only wear one brand/size but it always happens.
This isn't to say that they're aren't women who are willing to risk it. There are and I have met women who don't mind and don't test and those women I don't fuck.
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Nicely put and love the way a lot of guys here say they only use condoms but the truth is that, given the chance, 95% of guys would fuck without it, I can show hundreds of messages in my inbox with guys talking about breathing me and filling me up, as a woman never twke anyones word, if I'm playing with a man outside my partner then I bring the condoms and I generally dont let them fuck from behind because they take it off
Can't believe they take it off that'd disrespectful to the recipient its consensual but with protection can't see why people just don't wear them this day and age."
It's not that its disrespectful...its that its sexual assault! |
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By *og-ManMan 15 weeks ago
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Just the other side of the coin we've all seen the female profiles that say safe sex only and yet have unprotected sex without an issue
Its not just a male issue
Part of the problem is that people are afraid to be honest especially in Ireland as it's a small world over here
I've only ever seen one couple on here saying they only want sex with men that don't wear condoms
Wouldn't it better if everyone was more honest about it
In the UK forums there's a lot of couples and women saying they only have sex without condoms |
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"Just the other side of the coin we've all seen the female profiles that say safe sex only and yet have unprotected sex without an issue
Its not just a male issue
Part of the problem is that people are afraid to be honest especially in Ireland as it's a small world over here
I've only ever seen one couple on here saying they only want sex with men that don't wear condoms
Wouldn't it better if everyone was more honest about it
In the UK forums there's a lot of couples and women saying they only have sex without condoms "
I have to agree with this frim my experience so far, people need to be more straight foward but then in this cancel culture theses days saying the wrong thing can have a whole side of life shit down for you in moments |
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"'I prefer bare and will try with every woman just because it feels better and she might let me in the heat of the moment'
Wrote no man on fab ever but I've heard that story from every woman I know.
I practice safe sex. Condoms are one part of that risk assessment. Regular testing and knowing/trusting my partner's approach to safe sex is more important than just relying on a condom in my opinion.
For example, it is, in my opinion, safer for me not to have sex, even with a condom, with a woman who fucks a lot of guys bare because if the condom breaks then I am exposed.
Conversely if I am with someone who I've built up enough trust with that I know they will keep me safe then condoms aren't going to make us safer.
The first sex party I ever went to led to me recieving multiple phone calls afterwards that they're had been an outbreak of gonorrhoea and I should get tested. I didn't fuck anyone that night because it was my first party so my clear test wasn't a big surprise but how did that happen?
It happened because people prefer bare and build circles of trust. Once that circle gets wide enough the balance of probability increases the risk exponentially and I believe this is more common than anyone will write on fab.
Nicely put and love the way a lot of guys here say they only use condoms but the truth is that, given the chance, 95% of guys would fuck without it, I can show hundreds of messages in my inbox with guys talking about breathing me and filling me up, as a woman never twke anyones word, if I'm playing with a man outside my partner then I bring the condoms and I generally dont let them fuck from behind because they take it off
Can't believe they take it off that'd disrespectful to the recipient its consensual but with protection can't see why people just don't wear them this day and age."
It's also a form of assault |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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Can't believe they take it off that'd disrespectful to the recipient it’s consensual but with protection can't see why people just don't wear them this day and age."
If a person consents to sex using protection and the protection is removed without consent that is a sexual assault. It can and should be reported and prosecuted. |
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By *P_80Man 15 weeks ago
Waterford |
"It is bonkers how these threads don't seem to ever have those who just admit they have bare sex, and yet so many are."
My biggest fear in life is getting someone pregnant. So, STIs aside, I always use the Extra Safe condoms.
But you're right though. In all my adventures over the years, it's astounding how many times I could have gone bare if I wanted to. |
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By *affa31Woman 15 weeks ago
Galway |
I would say that in 70% of encounters I’ve had on fab, the guy has either tried to get away with no condom or has asked if he needs to wear one.
For me, it’s a yes, yes you do. I always have condoms with me on meets so there’s no excuse.
There are plenty of people on here who don’t use condoms. That’s their choice but it would be great if everyone was upfront about it. |
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"It is bonkers how these threads don't seem to ever have those who just admit they have bare sex, and yet so many are.
My biggest fear in life is getting someone pregnant. So, STIs aside, I always use the Extra Safe condoms.
But you're right though. In all my adventures over the years, it's astounding how many times I could have gone bare if I wanted to."
If your done having kids or you're sure you don't want any you could consider getting the snip. I never looked back after mine. It's great peace of mind and means I don't have to trust at anyone else when it comes to contraception.
You might be able to relax with more accommodating rubbers.
Just fyi I use Skyns and have never had one break. |
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"Just wondering about people opinions on unprotected sex on fab? "
Absolute no no for me . I have however developed a fwb relationship over the last 3 years on here so we’ve made the exception for each other . But with anyone else , definitely no |
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A friend just pointed out to me that she got an sti at a party and never goes bare with anyone.
I feel a bit stupid for not having realized this myself but as I've never been in a position to do so I'll chalk it down to a school day.
Boys and girls need to wash their hands if they have had fingers inside a woman and they want to put them inside another woman... |
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By *insBadMan 15 weeks ago
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"Always insist on safe sex even as far as condoms on when sucking or being sucked
VERY few use condoms for oral, in fact I've never once seen it "
I have, not often, but more than once.
I don't mind. Either way. Never had an issue wearing condoms, and regular screenings are so easy these days.
I have been asked would I feel comfortable playing if all parties showed recent & clean test results, again it's not often and it was with couples I have known and met with quite regularly. |
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It's an absolute must for us, no weavers if someone mentions they've practiced unprotected sex outside their partners or marriage that's us out, as some said above not a fan of sti only if it's a subaru version then wouldn't mind a spin in 1 lol |
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By *dfabMan 15 weeks ago
Dunboyne |
Always covered.
Even in married life for those two eventful nights a year.
Only time uncovered was to have kids.
Pill doesn't suit her so we just use condoms as our contraception.
Absolutely no way I'd play bare away from home either. Dangerous enough playing away without adding that into the mix 
Apparently studies in UK show more women having affairs play bare and, as previous poster hinted at, seems bare is more and more common across the water.
As someone else mentioned though, that may be just their more open, honest discussion and pics of same.
Still, not for me thanks. |
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It's not even a conversation to be had for me. If you're not prepared to be considerate to others needs as well as your own then I don't want to know you.
Safe sex is the default at all times for me.
Why would I want chance my own wellbeing or anyone else for that matter? |
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"It's not even a conversation to be had for me. If you're not prepared to be considerate to others needs as well as your own then I don't want to know you.
Safe sex is the default at all times for me.
Why would I want chance my own wellbeing or anyone else for that matter?"
Excellent answer and completely agree ! |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I just like to remind people when this thread pops up that Around one third of all people who get syphilis do so through having unprotected oral sex with no other vaginal or anal sex involved! Most people with syphilis don’t notice any symptoms and don’t know they have it. |
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By *enitMan 15 weeks ago
Galway |
"I just like to remind people when this thread pops up that Around one third of all people who get syphilis do so through having unprotected oral sex with no other vaginal or anal sex involved! Most people with syphilis don’t notice any symptoms and don’t know they have it."
Jassssuuusssss  |
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, I’ve no idea how men can watch their partners being filled by some rando from Fab, and then hop in straight after- never mind the chance of her getting pregnant but do they never worry about her or them getting riddled, like if rando is bare backing your wife/partner then they’ve BB’d others- anyhow each to their own, not yucking anyone’s yum…peace |
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Since we dipped our toe into this world we have noticed that a lot of people who post about safe sex and say they won't play bare often tend to be the ones who turn the conversation to bareback play if you start chatting to then about potentially meeting, esp the guys.
In the past we have met couples who acted surprised and offended when we have brought up protection despite them stating in their profiles strictly safe sex. |
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By *oldByMarCouple 14 weeks ago
playa de ingles / outa da west |
"I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, I’ve no idea how men can watch their partners being filled by some rando from Fab, and then hop in straight after- never mind the chance of her getting pregnant but do they never worry about her or them getting riddled, like if rando is bare backing your wife/partner then they’ve BB’d others- anyhow each to their own, not yucking anyone’s yum…peace"
Totally agree with you 💯 on the above statement
It’s like a loaded gun with 5 live & 1 blank
It only takes one shot
You choose whether to pull the trigger or not
They have no respect for their own health never mind anyone else .
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By *rRiosMan 14 weeks ago
dublin |
"Protection is a must apart from oral.. so many here insist on bare so its a no no with me..
Jaffa quotes you've a high chance of Syhpilis from oral, that's why I refuse to do it"
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"With my partner I play without but with everyone else it's a must
I have a few couples tell me that I should let them fuck me without condoms as it's too awkard and time consuming to put them on every time"
"Time consuming" it literally takes less than 30 seconds.... anyone who says it's awkward or not fun are selfish cunts! Stay safe until you are checked or Ina long relationship...that's just my 2cents anyways. |
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A young man messages me last week looking to know could he fill me up and impregment me funny enough he didn't reply when I asked him how he felt about geriatric pregnancy
My special power is being a erection killer  |
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"A young man messages me last week looking to know could he fill me up and impregment me funny enough he didn't reply when I asked him how he felt about geriatric pregnancy
My special power is being a erection killer "
Did he want to go public or private?..
Like, does he understand the cost of cots and buggies these days. Some lads don't know what they're letting themselves in for!! |
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
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"A young man messages me last week looking to know could he fill me up and impregment me funny enough he didn't reply when I asked him how he felt about geriatric pregnancy
My special power is being a erection killer
Did he want to go public or private?..
Like, does he understand the cost of cots and buggies these days. Some lads don't know what they're letting themselves in for!!"
I've been asked to be a sugar daddy and pay for cots and buggies with promise of sex when the baby is born ....blocked |
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By *rRiosMan 14 weeks ago
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"A young man messages me last week looking to know could he fill me up and impregment me funny enough he didn't reply when I asked him how he felt about geriatric pregnancy
My special power is being a erection killer
Did he want to go public or private?..
Like, does he understand the cost of cots and buggies these days. Some lads don't know what they're letting themselves in for!!
I've been asked to be a sugar daddy and pay for cots and buggies with promise of sex when the baby is born ....blocked "
I do not think you understand what a sugar daddy is 🙃 |
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Wayyyy back 10 years ago I would have been a bareback queen and loved it but I very quickly caught my self on and now only use protection (condoms and I medically can not get pregnant) don’t get me wrong I have a trusted FWB that I allow to go bare back and I fuckknf love it and still miss the other lads but safety is number one lol. |
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