So.. chatting to my man the other day and he says he thinks a man getting a blow job is like an act of dominance over a woman .. so I said is a man giving a woman oral her being dominant over him and he said, no.. male sexuality is inherently aggressive..
so.. do you see or both of these as dominance or neither?
What’s your opinion? |
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The more I think about it, the more I'm inclined to believe he thinks only of himself and very highly of himself. Giving pleasure is not a sign of submission. Receiving pleasure isn't a sign of dominance. Being charitable he might be throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks but christ  |
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By *om TangoMan 14 weeks ago
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This can be a bit tricky and I’m afraid to go into it with the fear off getting cut up about it. Kinda depends on the settings really. Like is he demanding you to suck him off? Is he face fucking you hard and telling you to take his cock like a dirty girl. Then when he is giving you oral, is he teasing you, listening to your breathing and watching your body and telling you that you are not allowed to cum until he says, is he telling you to look into his eyes. Will he tease your clit a little before moving away before you cum. Than does he go for it and tell you to cum for him. Like I say. It’s a tricky one. Maybe he’s a pleasure Dom. meaning he takes control of your pleasure. I know others will agree and disagree with me on this as there is a difference of view on what some Doms are and arent. Same applies to subs. Most will have a different view |
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By *0kc00Man 14 weeks ago
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Interesting topic...I've heard it said that everything is about sex, except for sex as that is about power.
I think the blowjob scenario is seen as dominant if the man is standing and person performing is kneeling.
I guess reverse applies if woman is standing etc etc...
Standing up is often seen as trying to be dominant or trying to intimidate ..thats why you crouch down to kids eye level when you need to have a serious chat. |
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"The more I think about it, the more I'm inclined to believe he thinks only of himself and very highly of himself. Giving pleasure is not a sign of submission. Receiving pleasure isn't a sign of dominance. Being charitable he might be throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks but christ "
I think the OP ment opinions on the blowjobs not her partner 🤣 |
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Noo no no…
This man gives and gives and gives.. in fact he’s made me almost into a pillow princess he gives so much!
He was saying it in a way that he doesn’t want me to do it to him ( I want to) as he sees it as a dominance thing some guys might expect or push for a woman to do. |
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"This can be a bit tricky and I’m afraid to go into it with the fear off getting cut up about it. Kinda depends on the settings really. Like is he demanding you to suck him off? Is he face fucking you hard and telling you to take his cock like a dirty girl. Then when he is giving you oral, is he teasing you, listening to your breathing and watching your body and telling you that you are not allowed to cum until he says, is he telling you to look into his eyes. Will he tease your clit a little before moving away before you cum. Than does he go for it and tell you to cum for him. Like I say. It’s a tricky one. Maybe he’s a pleasure Dom. meaning he takes control of your pleasure. I know others will agree and disagree with me on this as there is a difference of view on what some Doms are and arent. Same applies to subs. Most will have a different view "
100% agree. |
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"Noo no no…
This man gives and gives and gives.. in fact he’s made me almost into a pillow princess he gives so much!
He was saying it in a way that he doesn’t want me to do it to him ( I want to) as he sees it as a dominance thing some guys might expect or push for a woman to do. "
Sorry I'm currently frustrated from hay fever. I still wouldn't see it as a dominance thing unless it's "face fucking". You could honestly counter argue that in a situation where you are controlling his pleasure, you're in a dominant position. |
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I think a bj is dominant if he is trying to control the whole act.
I like to be mostly in charge giving a bj. I dont mind a guy telling me what he likes but I dont like a man holding my head and thrusting his cock into my mouth. |
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"So.. chatting to my man the other day and he says he thinks a man getting a blow job is like an act of dominance over a woman .. so I said is a man giving a woman oral her being dominant over him and he said, no.. male sexuality is inherently aggressive..
so.. do you see or both of these as dominance or neither?
What’s your opinion? "
Feels like a pretty basic stereotype. Lacks context. |
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Pleasure is mutual, never entered my head that either could be dominant or anything like that, just feels amazing.I enjoy both equally as i love giving pleasure,actually probably more than receiving pleasure |
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By *ork_timMan 14 weeks ago
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"So.. chatting to my man the other day and he says he thinks a man getting a blow job is like an act of dominance over a woman .. so I said is a man giving a woman oral her being dominant over him and he said, no.. male sexuality is inherently aggressive..
so.. do you see or both of these as dominance or neither?
What’s your opinion? "
I've received a 'dominant' blowjob where the woman controls everything, intensity, speed, etc...
If she's in control, if she decides when I can cum, then it's an act of dominance, but coming from the woman. 
Male sexuality is aggressive because people thinks it's only way to have sex, which is sad. |
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Great question.
As far as I'm concerned it's all fluid, 😂, yeah fluid.., it's dominance and submission. Subjective or dominant in the positioning and state of "aggression" might be in direct relation to some peoples perspective of dominance or submission...
Just enjoy it , most of it is in your own head, so it is what it is to you.
No one knows what an apple tastes like to anyone else. |
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"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean"
Frankly I have no idea how they aim. There's no way I have the presence of mind when I'm going over the edge. |
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By *affa31Woman 14 weeks ago
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"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean
Frankly I have no idea how they aim. There's no way I have the presence of mind when I'm going over the edge."
They don’t…that’s why we close our eyes and hope for the best |
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By *affa31Woman 14 weeks ago
Galway |
Bjs aren’t an act of dominance until they are 🤷🏻♀️
They can also be a submissive act where the pleasure control is given over to the person giving the bj. Maybe the receiver is restrained, blindfolded, is being edged.
Most people who think bjs are an act of dominance like their bjs to be face fucking encounters. No thank you. |
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"So.. chatting to my man the other day and he says he thinks a man getting a blow job is like an act of dominance over a woman .. so I said is a man giving a woman oral her being dominant over him and he said, no.. male sexuality is inherently aggressive..
so.. do you see or both of these as dominance or neither?
What’s your opinion? "
In our view neither would be an act of dominance it's making someone feel good by giving them an act of pleasure |
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In my honest opinion, I wouldn't know why one would even consider taking a cock in their mouth, even though a product of millenia of evolution and driven to perfection in design and form, the clit and vagina are even more perfect and would always choose it over a cock...
That being said, I think your partner has a complex of some sorts around the issue, and that nothing short of having a clitoris down your throat instead of tonsils and you having orgasms while delivering him a blow job would satisfy his ethical and moral conundrum.
At the end of the day, why bother even? If you are happy for him to transform you into a pillow princess and he's happy to do so, enjoy your selves.
I am pretty sure he extracts his pleasure out of your relationship in other equally, if not more, mutually pleasurable manners.
Like, I dunno... Strapping you in a sturdy leather harness and using that to exact the living daylights out of you... Being dominant and all that... |
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I actually love giving pleasure almost as much as I love receiving.
On occasion I like to encourage a man to face fuck me.. pull my hair.. cause my mascara to run.. but that’s all in the pursuit of his pleasure and in the long run mine..
getting your partner off, for me gives me a big kick.
I don’t feel dominant in these situations or submissive.. and any of you that know me, know I’m not submissive.
It’s all fun and games really.. |
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By *om TangoMan 14 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean"
Personally I think it’s disrespectful. Yes I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into |
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By *affa31Woman 14 weeks ago
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"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean
Personally I think it’s disrespectful. Yes I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into"
Do you think that a woman squirting on your face is disrespectful?
I fail to see how something that has been agreed to or ask for could possibly be disrespectful. |
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"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean
Personally I think it’s disrespectful. Yes I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into"
But but but, what if she wants it? Begs for it? Threatens to never even pass gas in your general direction if she doesn't get that natural skin care package delivered?
I mean, who am I to deny such a strongly worded request and demand?
*shrugs* |
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By *om TangoMan 14 weeks ago
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"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean
Personally I think it’s disrespectful. Yes I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into
Do you think that a woman squirting on your face is disrespectful?
I fail to see how something that has been agreed to or ask for could possibly be disrespectful. "
I love squirting on my face when it happens. Please note I said personally I think it’s disrespectful. Personally I don’t feel good about myself doing it as I feel I have disrespected the lady. Also please note I said I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into. Your kink isn’t my kink and my kink isn’t your kink. And I wouldn’t agree to cum over a lady’s face so it was never agreed on my behalf |
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By *om TangoMan 14 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean
Personally I think it’s disrespectful. Yes I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into
But but but, what if she wants it? Begs for it? Threatens to never even pass gas in your general direction if she doesn't get that natural skin care package delivered?
I mean, who am I to deny such a strongly worded request and demand?
*shrugs*"
Beg all she wants. I’d likely go soft because it’s out of my comfort zone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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I think oral sex can be interpreted differently... It can be an act of tenderness, trust, devotion, play or or act of domination. Each of us is different, raised in a different culture, in some the man has power, is dominant, religion, beliefs for example a woman on her knees is a subordinate, servant, objectified woman. We have different experiences, pornography or from their life... and preferences... some people only derive pleasure from giving. Each person can perceive sexual acts differently, and everyone is right, depending on the perspective and point of view. I think the most important thing in this is matching preferences, understanding and respect. |
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I have a few sub leaning fantasies myself, and love going down on a lady. But like said above, it depends. If it's bedroom fun, sex, foreplay, and oral, I don't see any dynamics there for Dom sub. But myself, I'm a huge face sitting fan, and if she wants/demands oral, that's dominating, she is using me for her own needs. Same on the flip side, face fucking, blowjob after telling her or no reciprocation, I'd consider that domming her. But if it's mutual bedroom play, it's just two adults having fun.
Basically what I'm getting at, for me anyways, is there need to be more to the oral to make it dominating. |
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By *enitMan 14 weeks ago
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"So.. chatting to my man the other day and he says he thinks a man getting a blow job is like an act of dominance over a woman .. so I said is a man giving a woman oral her being dominant over him and he said, no.. male sexuality is inherently aggressive..
so.. do you see or both of these as dominance or neither?
What’s your opinion? "
If both are into it and enjoying I don't see anything dominant about it. |
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By *ingetMan 13 weeks ago
West Cork |
"I actually love giving pleasure almost as much as I love receiving.
On occasion I like to encourage a man to face fuck me.. pull my hair.. cause my mascara to run.. but that’s all in the pursuit of his pleasure and in the long run mine..
getting your partner off, for me gives me a big kick.
I don’t feel dominant in these situations or submissive.. and any of you that know me, know I’m not submissive.
It’s all fun and games really.. "
I also love love the pleasure of giving oral to a lady, her orgasm is my pleasure and yes I also enjoy receiving oral, it can actually be better than penetrative sex if done slowly and gently. |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"Just wondering what the act of Cumming over a womans face like men do in porn films meant to mean
Personally I think it’s disrespectful. Yes I get it some lady’s might like it but it’s not something I’d be into
Do you think that a woman squirting on your face is disrespectful?
I fail to see how something that has been agreed to or ask for could possibly be disrespectful. "
Jeez be rude not to if it's wanted or asked for 😂😂 be actually disrespectful not to |
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