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Hypothetically speaking what would you do if your family found out you were on here
Would you leave or would you tell them to piss off its none of their business.
Personal I love it so i would tell them to piss off its our own business what we do.
We might change our profile so they can't find us but that would be it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Mine already know, and also my friends. It’s not a deal. I use it for sex, same as others use T1nd3r. It’s not a big deal- but I’m single. I guess if you are married there is more judgement on your marriage |
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Absolutely not. It's a conversation we've had back when we started all this, as we knew that our secret hobbies might get found out by relatives, friends, coworkers... And, uh, Fab is only the tip of the iceberg compared to the other scene...
But at the end of the day, that's who we are, that's what we do, and we're only keeping it discreet out of courtesy for a society which lives under mental restraints. What happens between consenting adults is no one else's business. Some of it doesn't even hurt anyone! 😅 |
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By *om TangoMan 51 weeks ago
Tedavnet Co.Monaghan |
I got exposed last year which was the best thing happened. But I never tell anyone where I’m going or what I’m upto. As far as anyone knows I’m away with a group from Rory’s solo travel group. This lifestyle fixed me when I was broken and I’m in no rush to leave it. So anyone that finds out I’m here will have to accept it of piss off. I will say a few have pissed of and these days I get weird looks when I go to local football matches |
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"I got exposed last year which was the best thing happened. But I never tell anyone where I’m going or what I’m upto. As far as anyone knows I’m away with a group from Rory’s solo travel group. This lifestyle fixed me when I was broken and I’m in no rush to leave it. So anyone that finds out I’m here will have to accept it of piss off. I will say a few have pissed of and these days I get weird looks when I go to local football matches"
Some people are just so damn opionated, that's why I go away to socials rather than finding somebody in my local pub etc!! I don't let on to anyone what I'm doing, none of their business!! My sister has her suspicions but she doesn't question me anymore!! I ignore her when she comments on something, couldn't be bothered entertaining her!! |
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By *om TangoMan 51 weeks ago
Tedavnet Co.Monaghan |
"I got exposed last year which was the best thing happened. But I never tell anyone where I’m going or what I’m upto. As far as anyone knows I’m away with a group from Rory’s solo travel group. This lifestyle fixed me when I was broken and I’m in no rush to leave it. So anyone that finds out I’m here will have to accept it of piss off. I will say a few have pissed of and these days I get weird looks when I go to local football matches
Some people are just so damn opionated, that's why I go away to socials rather than finding somebody in my local pub etc!! I don't let on to anyone what I'm doing, none of their business!! My sister has her suspicions but she doesn't question me anymore!! I ignore her when she comments on something, couldn't be bothered entertaining her!! "
I can’t get my head around how people judge us for going to socials and meeting like minded friends and new people. And how dare someone judge someone else because they enjoy sex. Yes that sex might be with someone you don’t know very well but so what. |
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I'm 50 odd years of age, not old and even still people think it weird/funny that I could be still enjoying sex!! One of my sister's questioned me years ago why I did an specific sexual act.... it was okay for her to do it as she was in a relationship!! I ignored everything else she had to say after that!! I can't be arsed explaining myself!! |
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By *og-ManMan 51 weeks ago
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"Nope
No point closing the stable door after the horse has bolted 
Sure everyone knows once you're in you can never leave. Everyone always cums back 🤪😈
My sentiments exactly  "
I'll be singing hotel california all day now |
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By *om TangoMan 51 weeks ago
Tedavnet Co.Monaghan |
"I'm 50 odd years of age, not old and even still people think it weird/funny that I could be still enjoying sex!! One of my sister's questioned me years ago why I did a specific sexual act.... it was okay for her to do it as she was in a relationship!! I ignored everything else she had to say after that!! I can't be arsed explaining myself!! "
You go girl and enjoy yourself and do what makes you feel wonderful and live your life as you see fit. Not how others want you to live it. I couldn’t give a fuck how others judge me these days. Big deal. I love sex and meeting like minded people. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"I found my sister on here a while back. I fabbed her pics. Can’t find her now, she either left or blocked me lol. It’s not been mentioned between us"
Nope- this should be in the fantasy story section |
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"I found my sister on here a while back. I fabbed her pics. Can’t find her now, she either left or blocked me lol. It’s not been mentioned between us
Nope- this should be in the fantasy story section"
That's a bit harsh. Why do you assume he didn't? |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Would never leave if they knew. I’m not ashamed of what I do and who I am. If they want to look, my profile is there for them to look through. I’d actively let them pop up and say hey |
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My sisters know and my best friend... none of which were surprised lol
What people don't know outside of here is that you can use it as a dating and a social site it's not all just sex. I've met some close friends on here too.
My only worry, which someone else mentioned, is my kids or their friends finding out. |
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I have told a few close friends about it and I am on it, one of them because he’s bi but won’t admit to any of us that he is, thought it would help him, but he did not wait on it, always asked me about it, we have a term that we both use, we call it the playground   , and another female knows and she is just jealous that she near got a chance to join, maybe one day I will introduce her to a party or social, but if my close friends or family found out it would not put me up or down, at the end of the day I am single |
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By *ubeMan 51 weeks ago
Drogheda |
Some of my friends know I'm on here, i told my mother a long time back and she was OK with it, but when out for dinner with friends and a few drinks in it is sure to come up on conversation as to why I'm on here and not looking to settle down, my answer never changes done that before and not going back, I'm happy so why fix something that's not broken. Anyway it's not like I'm looking for a woman or couple every weekend, just when the mood takes me. It's not like the place is filled with women or couples just throwing themselves at me anyway. |
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When we had our couples profile a good few years ago( still are a couple with 2 single profiles now) we had to delete our account do to being in a small town and people talking about us. We only found out a few months ago off our now nearly 20 year old son that when he was 11 or 12 how all the lads in school we talking about how his mother and father were swingers.
So to protect my kids I would definitely delete my account in the morning again if I had to |
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By *ancy38Woman 51 weeks ago
galway |
Some of my friends know I'm in here. Some of my family wouldn't be surprised. I don't really care who knows I'm in here. I think one of my adult kids knows. The younger kids I wouldn't want them knowing untill they are adults. We're asking time dead so no point in worrying to much about who knows tbh. They'll be talking about someone else another day anyway or if they are talking about you, they'll be leaving someone else alone.
Life is for living and I'm not getting any younger so I'm here to enjoy myself. |
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"I found my sister on here a while back. I fabbed her pics. Can’t find her now, she either left or blocked me lol. It’s not been mentioned between us
Nope- this should be in the fantasy story section"
It’s all true xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Some of our family know and a select few friends. We definitely wouldn’t hide it if challenged. "
Same, would happily answer any questions or show anything they wanted to see |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Hypothetically speaking what would you do if your family found out you were on here
Would you leave or would you tell them to piss off its none of their business.
Personal I love it so i would tell them to piss off its our own business what we do.
We might change our profile so they can't find us but that would be it."
Well if they've already found out, just keep going, the worst has already happened (apart from rocking up to a meet & the family member is there) the only way they are going to know you keep going is being on the site themselves. I've spotted couple people I know over the years but I'd never say it to them. |
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"back a while ago when on here as a couple realised we were organising a meet with my brother and his wife
we still laugh about it ( we didn't meet up)"
Who do you laugh with??? Your brother? Class!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"yep it was a pic they had we recognised their sitting room
followed by a call are you by chance on fab "
Shame you didn’t meet but glad you can both still laugh about it! |
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"Some of my friends know I'm in here. Some of my family wouldn't be surprised. I don't really care who knows I'm in here. I think one of my adult kids knows. The younger kids I wouldn't want them knowing untill they are adults. We're asking time dead so no point in worrying to much about who knows tbh. They'll be talking about someone else another day anyway or if they are talking about you, they'll be leaving someone else alone.
Life is for living and I'm not getting any younger so I'm here to enjoy myself. "
your dead right life is for living |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"Some of my friends know I'm in here. Some of my family wouldn't be surprised. I don't really care who knows I'm in here. I think one of my adult kids knows. The younger kids I wouldn't want them knowing untill they are adults. We're asking time dead so no point in worrying to much about who knows tbh. They'll be talking about someone else another day anyway or if they are talking about you, they'll be leaving someone else alone.
Life is for living and I'm not getting any younger so I'm here to enjoy myself. your dead right life is for living "
I want to live, explore and be kinky and if some people see me doing that, so be it! |
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Half my family live in the UK and the rest in Dublin. I'd say they are unlikely to be on this site. Might be a bit awkward if some friends were on here and in fact, I did chat with a lady on here several months ago and we also met for a drink. Then, a few weeks later, I was a friend's 60th. He was trying to get me to meet a lady of his acquaintance but I was tired so when home without meeting her. I had a text from her later saying it was a small world and she had seen me at the party. I doubt either of us will be discussing the matter with the friend. . |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Would never leave. I’m proud of my sexual openness and love being on here. If a family member found me on here, I’d happily chat to them, no shame in what we are both looking for |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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When I'm asked how I meet people I tell them tinder, fab and feeld. None of my family would bat an eyelid.
I'm not married and don't have to worry about school gate gossip and I don't work in a job that would consider my lifestyle scandalous. I still wouldn't show my face though because until it's normalised it can be weaponised.
Its funny because people talk all the time about how tinder is for hookups but that's fine.
No I wouldn't leave. No need. |
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