What is it with one word texts!
I know this is an old complaint, but a little effort can change everything.
What happened to engaging through conversation, after all … we wouldn’t walk up to someone at a social event and say “hi, hello, well etc”
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By *ettaManMan 5 weeks ago
Based in Kerry, work in Cork. |
"What is it with one word texts!
I know this is an old complaint, but a little effort can change everything.
What happened to engaging through conversation, after all … we wouldn’t walk up to someone at a social event and say “hi, hello, well etc”
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It might have something to do with how behaviour is reinforced on here.
If people put in effort but don't get a reply, they will stop putting in the effort.
If they don't get a reply with a lack of effort, then they might stop sending messages altogether or continue to invest the same lack of effort bcos they believe the outcome will be the same, so they may reason "why put in the effort?" |
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"What is it with one word texts!
I know this is an old complaint, but a little effort can change everything.
What happened to engaging through conversation, after all … we wouldn’t walk up to someone at a social event and say “hi, hello, well etc”
It might have something to do with how behaviour is reinforced on here.
If people put in effort but don't get a reply, they will stop putting in the effort.
If they don't get a reply with a lack of effort, then they might stop sending messages altogether or continue to invest the same lack of effort bcos they believe the outcome will be the same, so they may reason "why put in the effort?""
I tried loads of different ways to get a reply I just given up in the end but that's just me and understand why with all the single guys on this and them sending stupid amounts of messages to women and men for that matter.
It's very hard to get notice but hopefully some day someone will notice me for being a nice and sound lad ( which no serial killer ever said 🤣🤣) |
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By *om TangoMan 5 weeks ago
aughnacloy monaghan area |
Hi or hey.
Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message. |
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"Hi or hey.
Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message. "
But that's the whole point.. it DOES matter what single guys say.
I've had some messages lately that have just been plain ignorant/stupid/lazy/disrespectful. And that's just the part I can see without opening it. So no, I'm absolutely not going to bother reading any further.
A message doesn't necessarily have to reference something from our profile, it just needs a bit of cop on. |
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By *iscuits8Man 5 weeks ago
Meath / Dublin / Birmingham |
"Hi or hey.
Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message.
But that's the whole point.. it DOES matter what single guys say.
I've had some messages lately that have just been plain ignorant/stupid/lazy/disrespectful. And that's just the part I can see without opening it. So no, I'm absolutely not going to bother reading any further.
A message doesn't necessarily have to reference something from our profile, it just needs a bit of cop on. "
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I'd say 90% of the messages I've gotten from women or couples have been one or at most two words. 'Hi there'
It's the same as the dating apps. That's a pretty normal way to start a conversation in tinder for example.
I guess the expectation on Fab is that guys need to make more effort as there's more competition and also more general dross that needs to be risen above. |
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Honestly with the amount of times single guys get ignored i am not surprised about the lack of effort..i have given up trying to start conversations on here...i usually get a one word response if any at all so why try it anymore |
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I mean, for me, it makes it easier to figure out who doesn't know how to approach a conversation. It also includes people who just say 'how are you?' and nothing else. You need to sell yourself in a message. Give people a reason to write back. |
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Have to admit that if someone messaged us with a one word text we have been known to reply with single word texts just to see how long it takes them to catch on and sometimes they don't but it's like pulling teeth |
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"Have to admit that if someone messaged us with a one word text we have been known to reply with single word texts just to see how long it takes them to catch on and sometimes they don't but it's like pulling teeth "
Have done this too if I'm very bored...like text tennis, just to see whether I can get a whole sentence. I usually give up before that happens 🤣 |
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It’s quite hard to start a conversation, I used to introduce myself and say hi hopefully we can chat and I would reckon I’ve received around 10-15 replies in my time here.
I have often complimented a profile and received a lot more replies which is generally my approach now. I don’t expect to get meets but I do enjoy chatting . One word messages seem to me like I’m interested but don’t want to waste my time if you’re not |
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"Hi or hey.
Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message.
But that's the whole point.. it DOES matter what single guys say.
I've had some messages lately that have just been plain ignorant/stupid/lazy/disrespectful. And that's just the part I can see without opening it. So no, I'm absolutely not going to bother reading any further.
A message doesn't necessarily have to reference something from our profile, it just needs a bit of cop on. "
This exactly it. But its sometimes how singel women and couples message us. |
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If I get a one-word message, I either don’t reply or reply with another single word (it’ll be a thread full of variations of “hi”, “hello”, “hiya” or maybe someone stretching out to “how’s you?”). And it never goes anywhere! |
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I know i make an effort. It doesn't always go over. But that's not up to me.
I'm never rude nor assumptive. I try to be interesting and polite.
I think the perception from some guys is that because you're on here it means it's legs open, eyes down and a full house.
So, they dont think they need to make an effort. I also think that applies to certain couples too.
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