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A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
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By *eturning MGMan 1 week ago
mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland |
"I am a bit of this. I need my brain challenged a little to find someone attractive. I do find the whole thing a bit pretentious though which is why I don't mention it generally."
Agree fully. Personality goes a long way for me and the ability to hold a conversation. |
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"A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
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Mindless fucks I suppose is the opposite.
I personally do need the brain engaged first though. |
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"A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
Mindless fucks I suppose is the opposite.
I personally do need the brain engaged first though. "
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"In fairness some people look so well that they could be as thick as a plank and you'd still want to meet them
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I think I'm a bit weird in that this is a hard no from me. They could be supermodel attractive and if there is nothing behind the eyes I've no interest whatsoever. |
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"In fairness some people look so well that they could be as thick as a plank and you'd still want to meet them
I think I'm a bit weird in that this is a hard no from me. They could be supermodel attractive and if there is nothing behind the eyes I've no interest whatsoever."
Part of the issue is that the initial attraction can only be based on looks ....what can be shown....then you meet and chat
If I can't have a conversation its not going any further
One of the reasons I was attracted to Toxic was the fact that she was the first women to get all my quiz questions right every Monday for months |
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I have a pic on my profile reading a book.
When I posted it I got messages from 2 different women saying how they were attracted to a fellow bibliophile and sapiosexual.
I had to Google both words before replying. |
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"I have a pic on my profile reading a book.
When I posted it I got messages from 2 different women saying how they were attracted to a fellow bibliophile and sapiosexual.
I had to Google both words before replying. "
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"In fairness some people look so well that they could be as thick as a plank and you'd still want to meet them
I think I'm a bit weird in that this is a hard no from me. They could be supermodel attractive and if there is nothing behind the eyes I've no interest whatsoever."
It isn't that weird tbf.
I mean reading forum posts alone from guys on here you'd be in the minority if you judged off looks alone.
Maybe adjusted to 50/50 for the pander brigade but still |
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People sometimes incorrectly believe that people describing themselves as sapiosexual are also claiming to possess a high IQ. The term refers to finding intelligence an attractive trait and those using it to describe themselves may in fact not consider themselves to be overly intelligent but recognise and admire it in others. |
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"I find it a bit cringe too if I’m honest. I think they might think it’s a way to say they consider themselves to be smarter or more sophisticated than the average moe on here! "
Ya definitely. Everyone likes to converse with people of reasonable intelligence and may find some more interesting than others, fairly normal.
There is a certain level of pretentiousness around declaring your sapio-sexuality imo.
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"A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
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I don't think anyone is looking for an idiot who can't function, but of the people I've met it's pretty clear who enjoys intelligence and who doesn't
And that's ok, some people just want someone who matches their sexual energy and nothing else |
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Some people have/like hot bodies, and it's widely accepted to mention it or show it off. But somehow there's a stigma about doing the same about a sharp mind and it's seen as shameful or arrogant.🤷 |
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"Some people have/like hot bodies, and it's widely accepted to mention it or show it off. But somehow there's a stigma about doing the same about a sharp mind and it's seen as shameful or arrogant.🤷"
That's an interesting point actually.
Fuck what anyone else thinks anyway, we're all on our own journeys here and looking for fellow travellers to enjoy it with. If sharp minds is what we want we'll find them!! |
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We’ll never really know the full extent of what people think about and want from partners there is a base we start from but as we get older that changes all of the time. So dose the journey what one sets out to achieve rarely comes to pass as it was envisaged unforeseen changes in life can can put people into circumstances never seen at the start of the journey. The size or shape of a bum or boobs or indeed what’s between anybody’s legs dose have it’s place and time but as we mature we realize it’s it a small part of what we want to experience and enjoy
People who are highly educated can be some of the most boring bordering on stupid people you might meet whereas others with life experience can be more intellectual and interest in giving their partner everything they want physically and more importantly mentally
There’s a lot to be said for each to their own as well as opposites attract but having fun on the journey is as important and who knows one day you might fulfill that dream |
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"I find it a bit cringe too if I’m honest. I think they might think it’s a way to say they consider themselves to be smarter or more sophisticated than the average moe on here! "
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No Not At All, Quote "they consider themselves to be smarter or more sophisticated than the average moe on here" 🤔 I'm interested in Intellect & conversation & a connection of minds, some call that Sapiosex |
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By * BlackMan 1 week ago
Laois/ Dublin |
Interesting comments on what Sapiosexual is or not
Plenty of shaming towards those who identify as Sapiosexual.
People in glass houses and all that.
Sounds like the word intelligence triggers some people's own intelligence or lack of it.
Live and let live less of the Sexuality Shaming.
Diversity is a positive |
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I always thought that sapiosexual meant that intellectual stimulation was the primary driver for arousal.
That's a subconscious response and a far cry from a smarty pants with a superiority complex. |
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By *P_80Man 1 week ago
Waterford |
What defines intelligence though?
I know a lot about topics I'm interested in that others won't know. Others will know a lot about topics they're interested in that I won't know.
An astro physicist isn't more intelligent than any of us. They just had a particular interest that they studied.
So, are sapiosexual people really just looking for someone with common interests that they can discuss, or are they looking for people who know more about particular topics so they can gather more knowledge from them? |
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If it's a real thing, then fair enough. Personally, I don't find intelligence arousing, but I do need to find someone interesting if im going to think about them sexually. I mean, you have to like a person and enjoy their company if you are going to truly relax and open yourself up to them, right? |
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"What defines intelligence though?
I know a lot about topics I'm interested in that others won't know. Others will know a lot about topics they're interested in that I won't know.
An astro physicist isn't more intelligent than any of us. They just had a particular interest that they studied.
So, are sapiosexual people really just looking for someone with common interests that they can discuss, or are they looking for people who know more about particular topics so they can gather more knowledge from them?"
It's not as defined as that. Its not something that someone thinks they are gonna do according to any rule. It could be any/all/none of these things. Attraction is a funny thing and it just happens without thinking about it at all. This goes for sapiosexual people the same as people who find other traits attractive |
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"I always thought that sapiosexual meant that intellectual stimulation was the primary driver for arousal.
That's a subconscious response and a far cry from a smarty pants with a superiority complex."
I should have ready this before I replied as you word this very well. A subconscious response. It's something someone realises they are attracted to rather than making decisions about what they want to be attracted to. |
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By *P_80Man 1 week ago
Waterford |
"What defines intelligence though?
I know a lot about topics I'm interested in that others won't know. Others will know a lot about topics they're interested in that I won't know.
An astro physicist isn't more intelligent than any of us. They just had a particular interest that they studied.
So, are sapiosexual people really just looking for someone with common interests that they can discuss, or are they looking for people who know more about particular topics so they can gather more knowledge from them?
It's not as defined as that. Its not something that someone thinks they are gonna do according to any rule. It could be any/all/none of these things. Attraction is a funny thing and it just happens without thinking about it at all. This goes for sapiosexual people the same as people who find other traits attractive "
Yes I understand that. I suppose if I was to re-word my comment it would be what is it they are attracted to with regards intelligence.
Is it an attraction to people who are what we might consider smart?
Is it in the way people act or conduct themselves?
Is it an attraction to someone who is knowledgeable in certain topics?
I'm genuinely interested in what people would consider intelligent with regards to attraction. That's why I'm asking.
I'm not trying to belittle the term Sapiosexual, in case that's how it looks. |
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I suppose if I was to re-word my comment it would be what is it they are attracted to with regards intelligence.
Is it an attraction to people who are what we might consider smart?
Is it in the way people act or conduct themselves?
Is it an attraction to someone who is knowledgeable in certain topics?
I'm genuinely interested in what people would consider intelligent with regards to attraction. That's why I'm asking.
I'm not trying to belittle the term Sapiosexual, in case that's how it looks."
Speaking for myself my interest is piqued by articulate people. Not necessarily conventional smart/educated/specialist. My attraction can develop through witty banter, informed debate or creative use of words....
I'm interested in people who are curious about the world, as I am. They have knowledge and stories to share, and open to learning and listening to me too.
This not only makes the company and conversation flow, it can make sex really good too. 😁
And even in the first few messages that flow can start. 
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I suppose if I was to re-word my comment it would be what is it they are attracted to with regards intelligence.
Is it an attraction to people who are what we might consider smart?
Is it in the way people act or conduct themselves?
Is it an attraction to someone who is knowledgeable in certain topics?
I'm genuinely interested in what people would consider intelligent with regards to attraction. That's why I'm asking.
I'm not trying to belittle the term Sapiosexual, in case that's how it looks.
Speaking for myself my interest is piqued by articulate people. Not necessarily conventional smart/educated/specialist. My attraction can develop through witty banter, informed debate or creative use of words....
I'm interested in people who are curious about the world, as I am. They have knowledge and stories to share, and open to learning and listening to me too.
This not only makes the company and conversation flow, it can make sex really good too. 😁
And even in the first few messages that flow can start.
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I've stopped sticking my bits in electrical sockets.... so like.... intellect and shit |
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By *indenMan 1 week ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells! 
Really? Why?
He’s to sexy….
Or maybe I'm just not smart enough to get it   "
Na, that’s definitely not it, but you are perhaps too sexy for your shirt, you should remember that for your next pic….   |
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"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells!
Really? Why?
He’s to sexy….
Or maybe I'm just not smart enough to get it
Na, that’s definitely not it, but you are perhaps too sexy for your shirt, you should remember that for your next pic…. "
I'm earwormed ...
Will I do my little turn on the catwalk
Yeah, on the catwalk, on the catwalk, yeah |
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"A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
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Some people only have....intelligence.
Some Unicorns got....it all.
Some Men just prefer...........Bimbos.
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By *indenMan 1 week ago
Naas which is South West of Dublin |
"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells!
Really? Why?
He’s to sexy….
Or maybe I'm just not smart enough to get it
Na, that’s definitely not it, but you are perhaps too sexy for your shirt, you should remember that for your next pic….
I'm earwormed ...
Will I do my little turn on the catwalk
Yeah, on the catwalk, on the catwalk, yeah"
We don’t mind the location, catwalk, bed, shower, as long as you’re shirtless….. |
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By *P_80Man 7 days ago
Waterford |
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I suppose if I was to re-word my comment it would be what is it they are attracted to with regards intelligence.
Is it an attraction to people who are what we might consider smart?
Is it in the way people act or conduct themselves?
Is it an attraction to someone who is knowledgeable in certain topics?
I'm genuinely interested in what people would consider intelligent with regards to attraction. That's why I'm asking.
I'm not trying to belittle the term Sapiosexual, in case that's how it looks.
Speaking for myself my interest is piqued by articulate people. Not necessarily conventional smart/educated/specialist. My attraction can develop through witty banter, informed debate or creative use of words....
I'm interested in people who are curious about the world, as I am. They have knowledge and stories to share, and open to learning and listening to me too.
This not only makes the company and conversation flow, it can make sex really good too. 😁
And even in the first few messages that flow can start.
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That's a fantastic explanation. |
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By *rRiosMan 7 days ago
dublin |
"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells!
Really? Why?"
It just feels like a bunch of sapiosexuals trying to project their own perceived intelligence which is subjectively relative in reality |
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By *cuk4funCouple 7 days ago
city centre |
We find people who put this in their profile offputting. We're not here for a physics lesson , obviously we want to meet people who can hold a conversation and have a laugh with but it's a prelude to sexual activity not a lecture . Also people who put "professional " in bio , is another turn off |
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"What defines intelligence though?
I know a lot about topics I'm interested in that others won't know. Others will know a lot about topics they're interested in that I won't know.
An astro physicist isn't more intelligent than any of us. They just had a particular interest that they studied.
So, are sapiosexual people really just looking for someone with common interests that they can discuss, or are they looking for people who know more about particular topics so they can gather more knowledge from them?"
There's many types of different intelligence, Emotional being one......
A good conversationalist with good communication skills would be another & being able to listen & being able to interact in a good manner (imho)
Some people's brains are in their genitalia heads also 🤭(like sending a close up graphic dick pic in a 1st dm isn't very smart in my opinion) or maybe it's just plain ignorance cos they're paying zero attention to lots of people's requests here, they're head brain just can't seem to grasp what some of us say   |
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"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells!
Really? Why?
It just feels like a bunch of sapiosexuals trying to project their own perceived intelligence which is subjectively relative in reality "
Sounds like it's given you the Ick😂
I'm quite enjoying the variety of comments and teasing-out of nuance🤷🏻♀️ |
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"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells!
Really? Why?
It just feels like a bunch of sapiosexuals trying to project their own perceived intelligence which is subjectively relative in reality "
My take from this thread is that sapiosexuality is a really boring topic!
Since the level or type of intelligence cant really be defined and is an individual concept, it's just attraction...for pretentious people😂 |
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"Obviously can't speak for everyone using the term, but I personally have never met a man who calls himself sapiosexual who wasn't also a bit of a misogynist."
I can't think of a good reason why someone who finds intelligence attractive would also be misogynistic. Can you try and connect the dots for me as I'm struggling with this? |
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"This thread makes me want to kill a few brain cells!
Really? Why?
It just feels like a bunch of sapiosexuals trying to project their own perceived intelligence which is subjectively relative in reality "
This topic is about a trait that some people find attractive in other people. It's not a way people describe themselves.
I don't really understand the controversy.
Why does what other people find attractive always make people so agitated! |
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It’s not that I have an issue with sapiosexual as a concept.
It’s more that, in my experience, people who describe themselves as sapiosexual on here tend to have the emotional intelligence of a sea sponge.
The vast majority aren’t actually sapiosexual, they just think that putting it on their profile makes them sound smart. |
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"Obviously can't speak for everyone using the term, but I personally have never met a man who calls himself sapiosexual who wasn't also a bit of a misogynist.
I can't think of a good reason why someone who finds intelligence attractive would also be misogynistic. Can you try and connect the dots for me as I'm struggling with this?"
I'd like to know the 'link' too between sapiosexual & misogynistic cos that just does not make sense at all 🤔🤭🤔🤭 |
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I think referencing sapiosexual is less about saying “I like smart people” which, let’s be honest, most of us do, and more about saying, “I get turned on by brainpower first. Like, someone could be physically hot, but if the conversation doesn’t spark, the attraction fizzles quickly.
There are so many levels of intelligence, I have a number of people working for me,some went to Trinity and more left education after the leaving cert, in a lot of instances, the person with less education is more intelligent or smarter than the person with the degree.
That said, I wouldn’t call someone out for not leading with intellect — we’re all wired differently. Some people are visual, some are vibe-driven, some want a deep conversation before they even consider taking clothes off. I think the key is just being clear about what we want and crave.
I didn't finish my degree and employe people with degrees. Does that make me smarter, not always.
So if brains turn you on? Say it. If you're more into energy, playfulness, or raw chemistry? Say that. It's all about owning your flavor — no shame either way.
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"Obviously can't speak for everyone using the term, but I personally have never met a man who calls himself sapiosexual who wasn't also a bit of a misogynist.
I can't think of a good reason why someone who finds intelligence attractive would also be misogynistic. Can you try and connect the dots for me as I'm struggling with this?
I'd like to know the 'link' too between sapiosexual & misogynistic cos that just does not make sense at all 🤔🤭🤔🤭"
It was just an observation based on personal experience, but since it seems to have ruffled a few feathers I guess I'll expand. The men I'm referring to tend to be very quick to dismiss women who don't share their worldview as being stupid or "vacuous," and also feel very comfortable ranking them in terms of fuckability just because they're doing it based on perceived intelligence rather than looks (even though they very often just so happen to only be attracted to conventionally attractive women). |
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"Obviously can't speak for everyone using the term, but I personally have never met a man who calls himself sapiosexual who wasn't also a bit of a misogynist.
I can't think of a good reason why someone who finds intelligence attractive would also be misogynistic. Can you try and connect the dots for me as I'm struggling with this?
I'd like to know the 'link' too between sapiosexual & misogynistic cos that just does not make sense at all 🤔🤭🤔🤭
It was just an observation based on personal experience, but since it seems to have ruffled a few feathers I guess I'll expand. The men I'm referring to tend to be very quick to dismiss women who don't share their worldview as being stupid or "vacuous," and also feel very comfortable ranking them in terms of fuckability just because they're doing it based on perceived intelligence rather than looks (even though they very often just so happen to only be attracted to conventionally attractive women)."
That wouldn't be misogyny. That's someone who hates others because of a perceived lack of intelligence. It's not hating someone because they are female.
Also in a similar vein, just because someone is attracted to something doesn't mean they hate those who do not possess that attribute. A homosexual for example doesn't automatically hate heterosexuals. It's not a reasonable suggestion to draw links link this in my opinion. |
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"It's not a reasonable suggestion to draw links link this in my opinion."
I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree that it's misogynistic to conclude that women are stupid because they don't agree with you. |
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I'm attracted to sapiosexuals. You don't have to be a pantomath or a polymath, but articulate enough to enthuse my cerebral and not have to look up pre-pubescent lazy text buzzwords.
I always avoid profiles that self-proclaim as being sapiosexual. If you're truly sapiosexual you don't need to state it in your profile. |
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There's an argument to be made for actively seeking out someone with a mind of their own who can construct something more creative and original than "Will fill out later" or "I am a woman looking for a man"
Is that finding intelligence an attractive attribute? Not really but it's a start! Me, I find brains a bonus but not a necessity
The opposite could be "Airheads and ditsy women need only apply" or "Looking for a knuckle dragging troglodyte, anything beyond a grunt will get you blocked"  "Morosexual" (from Moron and sexual) seems to be the apt term but have yet to see that on a profile |
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"A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
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"A sapiosexual is “a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing”. Does finding intelligence attractive really need to be referenced? What’s the opposite and would you call it out in your profile?
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they're people who love to use big words like marmalade, wheelbarrow and corrugated iron. |
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By *eijaWoman 3 days ago
City Centre |
"Not remotely attracted to any dick will do. So perhaps my sapiophile pretentiousness is having more between the ears than between the legs. "
As a fellow Sapiophile I totally agree..you can call me whatever you want but if you don't stimulate my mind you aren't for me. Good conversation as well as a good connection is super important. You could be as hot as hell but if the chats aren't there it is a no from me...on the other hand turn on my mind and I will be putty in your hands 🔥🔥🔥
Again each to their own...that is my perrogative...
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