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Is it rude? Or do you care?
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So if you meet someone, have a laugh, get on OK, you'd verify them? If they don't verify you back or don't display your verification is that rude?
What reasons would you hide a verification from someone?
If its badly written?
If its untrue?
If you didn't want anyone know you met the person?
If they'd upset you but you didn't want to tell them?
I get that some don't display any but if it's just yours that they chose not to show? Is that to make a point?
I know most people won't care...and to me it's a clear message. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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I feel like there's gonna be a lot of variation in answers here because people hide veri's for all sorts of reasons.
I hide most of mine for the sake of brevity. The ones I display are the most informative and least generic.
If someone leaves me a veri I don't want to display I usually leave it up for a week or so out of politeness then I tuck it away with the rest.
For the sake of pure speculation I would well imagine there are plenty of people that would hide a new verification if they thought it would hurt their chances with other people to display it. |
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I think it's not really important once you get past a certain number. Verifications aren't a badge of honour or a sex-review, they are simply to assure other people that their profile is a genuine representation of who they are. Once you have a few people vouching for you then more doesn't really achieve much.
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I don't mind if,
They don't wish to write a verification,
Don't publish it,
Or write a less than glowing verification.
I've a few published on my profile. Many I hide.
I see other people I've met in the past do the same.
It doesn't matter.
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Here it's either because it's a bit of an administrative type verification from a large social ("we met, they exist"), or because it's a slightly too personal one with a tiny detail which gives away too much identity wise. It's a pity for the latter because they tend to be lovely otherwise. |
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By *iscuits8Man 40 weeks ago
Dublin / Meath / Birmingham |
I've never had a set rule on them to be honest. In my early Fab days I didn't really leave any, I realise looking back maybe it is something people would've liked to receive after meeting.
I definitely leave one in return now if I've received one. And I'll ask if it's something they want me to do.
There's been people I've met for just a coffee once and we've shared veris. And people I've met several times over several years and we've never done so. Like I say, just haven't got a set rule... |
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"These are the questions that could send your head in a spin.
I do think it seems rude, I guess the choice is to ask them or block them 🤷🏻♀️😅"
I agree Rubs it is rude . I think I would ask them. I'd have to know why 
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By *ACOLCouple 40 weeks ago
Cork |
We only leave the verifications from the actual host, just for others to know we do attend parties and so on, and prefer to hide the others, as we believe people should make their own impression of us, without being influenced by our verifications.
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I get that some don't display any but if it's just yours that they chose not to show? Is that to make a point?
I know most people won't care...and to me it's a clear message."
How would anyone know if its just their own veri not shown?
I'm always clear with people I meet I don't do veris to avoid something like this.
But I'm definitely in the not caring camp |
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"A meet...via Fab...almost a Miracle!
Cross verifications seems the decent thing to do.
As to whether it's published, the individual's own discretion would come into play."
Not sure I know where bitchville is to meet! |
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I've hidden verifications from people who showed their true colours after we met socially.
I've hidden one from a woman I said hello to in an hotel hallway before a group social because she wrote a verification that gave the impression we had spent the night together.
I've verified people who didn't return the favour and didn't display my verification.
I've also verified people I've met at socials who displayed 2 dozen new verifications the next day but not mine and they verified them all in return except me.
It annoyed me at the time but I chalked it up to experience.
If they didn't enjoy meeting me that would be grand but when they are pushing to meet again, I had to assume they didn't want others to know we had met. |
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By *iscuits8Man 40 weeks ago
Dublin / Meath / Birmingham |
Oh and on the displaying of them... I'm not sure to be honest. I really like my veris, they're all lovely honestly... but I just kind of get easily embarrassed sometimes having these public "reviews" of me on display |
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For me, I wouldn't put up too many veris as 100 veris would suggest that I slept with most of the site, which is not the case
I tend to put veris that are short, concise and easy to read. So if anyone I was lucky enough to have met, shared a bed or at least a coffee with and I didn't post up your veri, now you know 
If I didn't get a veri off you, well you're not on my Christmas card list so Neh  learn to live with it |
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When I was here before I used to meet a guy fairly regularly and after I ended it we had words back and forth. He stopped talking to me and continually blanked me in groups etc. Yet he would display my verifications. So I think some just see it as game playing to display or in some cases not display |
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By *og-ManMan 40 weeks ago
somewhere |
This is one thing that bothers me on fab to be honest
I'm useless at fab admin ....absolutely feckin useless
We go to socials usually as a couple and I always forget to log on afterwards
Then when I do....I read the veris and dont get time to write one back
We get really great veris and 90% of the time nothing back
Then how long is too long to leave before you write a veri
How long is too rude
Is it as rude as not writing one
I actually wish there was an option to opt out of the veri system altogether |
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I will always agree after meeting someone new if veris are to be exchanged. Some may not wish to publicise the fact that we have met, for their own reasons, and I totally respect that.
But I do enjoy receiving confirmation that the other person found me to be real, reasonably sane and enjoyed being in my company.
I am quite happy to keep any intimate or personal details totally between us. |
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We like to give verifications if we have enjoyed spending time with people. If you only briefly spoke and they verify you it's probably a numbers game.
I'm happy to verify someone to say we had a brief chat if that's all it was. I try to make it an honest representation of the encounter without being too detailed.
If I verify someone and they chose not to then they have a specific reason and that's their business but I'd assume that's because they didn't feel the same about it as I did? 🤷♀️ |
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I think if I’ve went to the trouble of getting the thesaurus out and wrote some over flattering tosh about your wan transcending the spectrum of sexuality and her ethereal beauty then it’s rude not to leave a veri back
I hide all my veris as I find the whole “who knows who” game exhausting |
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"I think it's not really important once you get past a certain number. Verifications aren't a badge of honour or a sex-review, they are simply to assure other people that their profile is a genuine representation of who they are. Once you have a few people vouching for you then more doesn't really achieve much.
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Absolutely agree with this. We will only post a new veri if it's genuine and reflects us. Not the generic bs you see. And if we post a new one an old one comes down.
We won't always reciprocate especially if we get one from someone we barely spoke to or someone we didn't like. We've gotten veris from people we haven't met but say they were at the same social as us. That's weird and definitely not getting returned. |
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I don’t tend to display verifications and only return one if I am asked to do so.
My reason is because when I was here before I use to meet a guy fairly regularly, while on a break I attended a social. He went through the verifications on the social profile to find who I verified and questioned my verifications of people I spoke too. He then ghosted me and never replied to my response.
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By *ustBoWoman 40 weeks ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've had people I met even ones I met regularly who never showed my veri to them. I have had people who I was friendly with who never showed a veri I gave them . It is what it is ,it can be a bit of a mind boggler but I usually just think they don't want anyone else knowing we met or were friends etc.
I've hidden veris myself usually because I have fallen out of touch with people that may have veried me in the past. I don't remember ever hiding a veri because I was embarrassed about who I met or didn't want anyone on fab to know. Or having not shown a recent veri for the same reason.
There is nothing stranger than folk on here though and some will say what they think you want to hear and you can get on great with them in private but they still won't want the rest of fab to know they have met you in a social or more private setting. It really isn't worth letting it get to you,but should be kept in mind of they ever wanted to meet again, never let anyone make you feel crap about yourself or questioning your own worth. |
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I’ve one verification, I’ve met several females on here. Some I’ve had coffee with, some I’ve played with. I’ve verified some, and some have not left a verification back and some have told me not to verify them or they me as they were part of a couple and didn't want their partner to know we’d met. I don’t see it as rude, I actually don’t view it with much at all. It’s their choice and I don’t think about it. Verifications are to be taken with a pinch of salt in my opinion. |
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"I believe someone may be reticent to post a verification if it was too explicit or perhaps mentioned an activity that they don't regularly engage in or do not intend to engage in again."
We have verified people who we've met at socials who didn't verify us back but have displayed our verification. I can only assume that we werent theyre cup of tea and that's perfectly ok. Personally if someone goes to the bother of verifying us we will verify back and if it was the case we didn't feel we could then we wouldn't display theirs. |
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I can never understand how veris are published which include details of how wonderfully skilled the person is in any particular sexual activity or how many holes were filled or other such intimate details of what happened during a meet.
Lots of veris published by seemingly sound and genuinely gorgeous ladies are absolutely cringeworthy in the extreme. It shows a real lack of self-worth on behalf of those publishing such veris on their profile and an even greater lack of respect by those giving such veris......imho. |
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"I believe someone may be reticent to post a verification if it was too explicit or perhaps mentioned an activity that they don't regularly engage in or do not intend to engage in again.
We have verified people who we've met at socials who didn't verify us back but have displayed our verification. I can only assume that we werent theyre cup of tea and that's perfectly ok. Personally if someone goes to the bother of verifying us we will verify back and if it was the case we didn't feel we could then we wouldn't display theirs. "
Now that is a case I would consider rude. I totally agree with you it's poor form to display a verification when you haven't returned the favor |
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