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It happens. Not everyone is going to be everyone’s cup of tea.
This question is primarily aimed at ladies, but guys feel free to add your two cents too.
When a “thanks but no thanks” message is sent, is it best to reply with “Understood, no hard feelings, happy fabbing” or similar, or just leave it with no reply? |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
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"It happens. Not everyone is going to be everyone’s cup of tea.
This question is primarily aimed at ladies, but guys feel free to add your two cents too.
When a “thanks but no thanks” message is sent, is it best to reply with “Understood, no hard feelings, happy fabbing” or similar, or just leave it with no reply?"
No reply, no point in wasting everyone’s time. |
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"It happens. Not everyone is going to be everyone’s cup of tea.
This question is primarily aimed at ladies, but guys feel free to add your two cents too.
When a “thanks but no thanks” message is sent, is it best to reply with “Understood, no hard feelings, happy fabbing” or similar, or just leave it with no reply?"
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Definitely what you have said but perhaps followed by a torrent of abuse and a long list of one and two finger emojis followed by the poop and the puke ones for good measure.
The trick is to get the reply message typed and sent before they can hit you with the blocked button.
🖕✌️👎☝️🤌🤮💩🤬
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Joking of course.
Perhaps a polite "thank you for your reply and have a safe and fun Fab journey" would be a nice way to leave things.
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"Never had a message like that but conversations often fizzle out.
If someone did say that to me I probably would respond with a thanks for the chats message and leave it at that. "
I guess you ARE everyone’s cup of tea!  |
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Not speaking from experience but I would suggest leaving it with no further reply, or perhaps a "🌈" or something similar that offers a form of polite closure.
Why protract a non-existent conversation? |
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"Manners costs nothing..
A thanks but no thanks is nice and isn't going to give you thumb cramp... but then they reply again . Goes around in circle's. "
Surely that's a reason to get yourself blocked 🫣🫣
Is it not 🤔 |
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By *appyPandaMan 33 weeks ago
Kilkenny and Waterford |
Well of course it's different coming from a guy that doesn't have hordes of messages to deal with, and especially as I haven't tried to organise anything here for years and as I've been content with what I've already found, but in the past I'd often just reply with a thanks for the reply and to wish them well.
Never felt obligated to a reply knowing that I wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea as well as knowing it's ridiculous to assume people should have to reply to every message they get here, but just would want to be polite and let it be clear that there were no hard feelings.
Of course not trying to prolong the conversation in any way |
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I wouldn't reply. But I wouldn't expect, or particularly want, a reply from them either if I messaged first.
No reply is enough of a response to know you're not their cup of tea.
I'll never wrap my head around why someone would need to know why someone else on here doesn't want to chat with them. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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I find it's best to write a little note beside them , that way you dont waste your or their time messaging them again.
There's more than enough people for everyone, don't sweat the small stuff. |
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I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages? |
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"Someone taking the time to say no thank you makes it feel a bit rude and sulky not to reply with a simple acknowledgement in return … and then buggering off of course. "
That’s what I was thinking. |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
Galway |
"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages? "
Do you reply to every spam mail you get? |
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"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages? "
Its nothing to do with limited messages.
Its lack of interest/time.
Basically like how we ignore spam email |
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"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get? "
Get out of my head |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
Galway |
"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get?
Get out of my head"
But it’s so fun in there! |
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"I find it's best to write a little note beside them , that way you dont waste your or their time messaging them again.
There's more than enough people for everyone, don't sweat the small stuff. "
Yeah, I actually keep note of who’s read my messages and not replied, so I don’t torture them |
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"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get? "
No, but people who message are actual humans with feelings not some auto spammer. Maybe I'm too nice and would always reply to say no thanks. That's a me thing. |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
Galway |
"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get?
No, but people who message are actual humans with feelings not some auto spammer. Maybe I'm too nice and would always reply to say no thanks. That's a me thing. "
It’s not about being nice. It’s about receiving a lot of unsolicited messages and being expected to reply just to be “nice”.
No reply is a reply 🤷🏻♀️ |
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By *iscuits8Man 33 weeks ago
Dublin / Meath / Birmingham |
"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get?
No, but people who message are actual humans with feelings not some auto spammer. Maybe I'm too nice and would always reply to say no thanks. That's a me thing. "
Yes but the average woman here gets multiple times the amount of messages you get |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"If I get a "thanks but no thanks" message, I'm usually delighted just to get a reply 
I will generally send back a "thanks for taking the time to read & reply, enjoy the site" & leave it at that.
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Yeah, same. I feel like if someone has taken the time to say no thanks, it's only polite to thank them and wish them well.
I do appreciate women get hundreds of messages a day more than likely. Lol |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
Galway |
"...Yes but the average woman here gets multiple times the amount of messages you get
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What about those women who are above average but less than mediocre? 😉"
How can you be above average but less than mediocre when mediocre means average at best  |
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I remember slow sets at discos when I was growing up, you got lots of practice dealing with rejection and you learned to empathize with others when you were refusing them ( well I heard about it from others 😄 ).
I wouldn't feel comfortable not replying to anyone who took the time to email me so long as it was polite but then thats easy to say when I'm talking about an occasional message vrs hundreds.
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"Thanks but no thanks" as a reply to a previous message, should not be confused with spam. A follow up reply thanking the person for their response and wishing them well is mearly good manners. Those that won't want your reply will most likely have you blocked already and will not get to see your message so it shouldn't bother them either way.
Politeness is priceless.... |
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My problem with the " its basic manners to reply" argument is that it feeds entitlement.
And that wont apply to everyone one here but there is so much evidence of people's sense of entitlement on here daily thatbit certainly doesn't need feeding |
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"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get?
No, but people who message are actual humans with feelings not some auto spammer. Maybe I'm too nice and would always reply to say no thanks. That's a me thing.
It’s not about being nice. It’s about receiving a lot of unsolicited messages and being expected to reply just to be “nice”.
No reply is a reply 🤷🏻♀️"
No disrespect to you, but I think you’ve misunderstood the original post. The question was, if a guy sends a message, and gets a reply “thanks but no thanks”, should he reply to say “no problem, thanks for responding”, or should he just leave it. As a woman who has told someone Thanks But No Thanks (I don’t know if you ever have, but let’s imagine), would you prefer a “Understand, best of luck” message (on the understanding that that IS the LAST message you will EVER receive from that man), or would you prefer him to say nothing? |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
Galway |
"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get?
No, but people who message are actual humans with feelings not some auto spammer. Maybe I'm too nice and would always reply to say no thanks. That's a me thing.
It’s not about being nice. It’s about receiving a lot of unsolicited messages and being expected to reply just to be “nice”.
No reply is a reply 🤷🏻♀️
No disrespect to you, but I think you’ve misunderstood the original post. The question was, if a guy sends a message, and gets a reply “thanks but no thanks”, should he reply to say “no problem, thanks for responding”, or should he just leave it. As a woman who has told someone Thanks But No Thanks (I don’t know if you ever have, but let’s imagine), would you prefer a “Understand, best of luck” message (on the understanding that that IS the LAST message you will EVER receive from that man), or would you prefer him to say nothing?"
I already answered your original question so no, I didn’t misunderstand your OP. Thanks for mansplaining though.
As per the quotes in my replies, I was replying to a man who was complaining about not getting a “no thanks” reply. |
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If I mail a lady and she replies that I’m not for her or we don’t anlign, next time I’m on, I might reply with a ‘understand and thank you for your reply’. Then maybe a few days later, I’d block them regardless if they’ve read it on not. It’s just a basic, that we don’t interact again. It’s not a biggie but if someone has taken the time to reply to me with a no, I think it’s basic courtesy of me, to acknowledge them, particularly if they get hundred of mail and have taken that time to respond to me. Up to the respondent to do with my mail as they wish. |
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"...Yes but the average woman here gets multiple times the amount of messages you get
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What about those women who are above average but less than mediocre? 😉
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How can you be above average but less than mediocre when mediocre means average at best "
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Your lådyship, you should know by now that Fåb is a paradox of whimsical idiosyncrasies and that nothing ever makes sense. 💌 |
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"It happens. Not everyone is going to be everyone’s cup of tea.
This question is primarily aimed at ladies, but guys feel free to add your two cents too.
When a “thanks but no thanks” message is sent, is it best to reply with “Understood, no hard feelings, happy fabbing” or similar, or just leave it with no reply?"
No reply needed at all. And this has nothing to do with good or bad manners.
Imagine a woman gets 20 new messages a day and she is not interested in 15 of them and replies with that to them and all those 15 guys reply, again, to thank her and that they understand. Another 15 messages that need some kind of reaction. No woman will consider it bad manners if you don't reply with a "thanks, understood".
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I’d usually reply with a “happy fabbing”, delete the message thread and move on with my day. And like schrödinger’s cat, I’ll never know whether she’s read the message or not |
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"I generally will reply saying thank you and happy fabbing or similar.
It's more annoying when you don't get a no thanks reply. I know no one has to reply to anyone at all. But a no thanks would be nice. I guess it's due to limited messages?
Do you reply to every spam mail you get?
No, but people who message are actual humans with feelings not some auto spammer. Maybe I'm too nice and would always reply to say no thanks. That's a me thing.
It’s not about being nice. It’s about receiving a lot of unsolicited messages and being expected to reply just to be “nice”.
No reply is a reply 🤷🏻♀️
No disrespect to you, but I think you’ve misunderstood the original post. The question was, if a guy sends a message, and gets a reply “thanks but no thanks”, should he reply to say “no problem, thanks for responding”, or should he just leave it. As a woman who has told someone Thanks But No Thanks (I don’t know if you ever have, but let’s imagine), would you prefer a “Understand, best of luck” message (on the understanding that that IS the LAST message you will EVER receive from that man), or would you prefer him to say nothing?
I already answered your original question so no, I didn’t misunderstand your OP. Thanks for mansplaining though.
As per the quotes in my replies, I was replying to a man who was complaining about not getting a “no thanks” reply. "
On reflection, you’re right. I apologise. I’m trying to improve |
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Not replying with a "thanks but no thanks" when we're not interested takes away the whole replying to a rejection dilemma. We're actually doing you a favour! 
I've never been annoyed by someone graciously acknowledging rejection but equally I'm not annoyed if they don't.
It doesn't do anything to help the recipients potential message volume though |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"...Yes but the average woman here gets multiple times the amount of messages you get
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What about those women who are above average but less than mediocre? 😉
How can you be above average but less than mediocre when mediocre means average at best "
“A things worth is not in how it ranks, but in what it truly is.”
Numbers can describe a position, but they cannot define a soul.
To say something is above average is merely to place it on a line —
a point measured against others, a statistical whisper of comparison.
It tells us where it stands, not what it is.Quality, on the other hand — the realm of mediocrity or excellence —
belongs to a different measure entirely.
Two very different things average and mediocrity.
In most dealings here I have found most ladies to be too irrational for numbers,& too beautiful for mediocrity. |
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Seriously lads, stop being so precious! Some people here get dozens of messages daily, others get hundreds.
Do you genuinely expect them to reply to every one of those?
Don't be daft!
No reply is a reply! |
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In response to the OP, yeah I'll respond to polite rejection by way of signing off, just feels polite to acknowledge their reply. Either way it makes little difference, they've checked out already.
Re the other stream of the chat, aye, no reply is a reply. People not respecting that is one of the things that makes Fab a difficult place for many. Have some self worth and respect for others, don't be a pest, suck it up and move on.
Oooh, my least favourite though is when ye've been chattin a while and someone asks for a face pic and then they don't reply. I'd much prefer a wee "fuck aff, your bugly" or "sorry, I don't like beautiful men."
Obviously they are entitled to not reply, that's valid, that's a response in itself, just sayin I'd prefer a no if we've been messaging already and got to the face pic stage.
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"Manners costs nothing..
A thanks but no thanks is nice and isn't going to give you thumb cramp..."
So I actually did a two week experiment on replying versus not replying.
No man on Fab says they abuse people who say no thank you.
During the week I replied and said no thank you, the amount of abuse I received went up exponentially, compared to my baseline or the week I specifically did not reply.
Replying breaks the filter forever, so that weirdo I was nice to in 2017 (I wasn't on Fab in 2017, hypothetical weirdo) can get in my inbox forever because I was nice once.
Fab also says that not replying, here, is not rude.
When a guy says "manners cost nothing" in this context, what I hear is "my need to be validated is more important than your desire to avoid abuse. Also, I'm entirely incapable of recognising that norms vary depending on context."
To say that that's neither desirable nor encouraging would be an understatement. |
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"Manners costs nothing..
A thanks but no thanks is nice and isn't going to give you thumb cramp...
So I actually did a two week experiment on replying versus not replying.
No man on Fab says they abuse people who say no thank you.
During the week I replied and said no thank you, the amount of abuse I received went up exponentially, compared to my baseline or the week I specifically did not reply.
Replying breaks the filter forever, so that weirdo I was nice to in 2017 (I wasn't on Fab in 2017, hypothetical weirdo) can get in my inbox forever because I was nice once.
Fab also says that not replying, here, is not rude.
When a guy says "manners cost nothing" in this context, what I hear is "my need to be validated is more important than your desire to avoid abuse. Also, I'm entirely incapable of recognising that norms vary depending on context."
To say that that's neither desirable nor encouraging would be an understatement."
Very interesting and maybe food for thought,
For us unless we know the single guy in which case we would have his telegram or WhatsApp already we just automatically delete all single male messages without opening, if he messages again its block delete. We don't owe them anything. |
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"Manners costs nothing..
A thanks but no thanks is nice and isn't going to give you thumb cramp...
So I actually did a two week experiment on replying versus not replying.
No man on Fab says they abuse people who say no thank you.
During the week I replied and said no thank you, the amount of abuse I received went up exponentially, compared to my baseline or the week I specifically did not reply.
Replying breaks the filter forever, so that weirdo I was nice to in 2017 (I wasn't on Fab in 2017, hypothetical weirdo) can get in my inbox forever because I was nice once.
Fab also says that not replying, here, is not rude.
When a guy says "manners cost nothing" in this context, what I hear is "my need to be validated is more important than your desire to avoid abuse. Also, I'm entirely incapable of recognising that norms vary depending on context."
To say that that's neither desirable nor encouraging would be an understatement.
Very interesting and maybe food for thought,
For us unless we know the single guy in which case we would have his telegram or WhatsApp already we just automatically delete all single male messages without opening, if he messages again its block delete. We don't owe them anything. "
I genuinely wanted to see if it made a difference.
It does. It's awful. -1/10 do not recommend. |
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By *affa31Woman 33 weeks ago
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"Manners costs nothing..
A thanks but no thanks is nice and isn't going to give you thumb cramp...
So I actually did a two week experiment on replying versus not replying.
No man on Fab says they abuse people who say no thank you.
During the week I replied and said no thank you, the amount of abuse I received went up exponentially, compared to my baseline or the week I specifically did not reply.
Replying breaks the filter forever, so that weirdo I was nice to in 2017 (I wasn't on Fab in 2017, hypothetical weirdo) can get in my inbox forever because I was nice once.
Fab also says that not replying, here, is not rude.
When a guy says "manners cost nothing" in this context, what I hear is "my need to be validated is more important than your desire to avoid abuse. Also, I'm entirely incapable of recognising that norms vary depending on context."
To say that that's neither desirable nor encouraging would be an understatement.
Very interesting and maybe food for thought,
For us unless we know the single guy in which case we would have his telegram or WhatsApp already we just automatically delete all single male messages without opening, if he messages again its block delete. We don't owe them anything.
I genuinely wanted to see if it made a difference.
It does. It's awful. -1/10 do not recommend."
Interestingly I did the same thing for a day last year and didn’t get any abuse which I was quite shocked about given other people’s experiences. One guy did send 14 messages before I just blocked him. This isn’t to say that others don’t get abuse, I just got lucky that there were no major dipshits that day I guess.
For me, it’s not the abuse. It’s the time it takes to reply to every message. I have better things to be wasting my time on. |
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"Manners costs nothing..
A thanks but no thanks is nice and isn't going to give you thumb cramp...
So I actually did a two week experiment on replying versus not replying.
No man on Fab says they abuse people who say no thank you.
During the week I replied and said no thank you, the amount of abuse I received went up exponentially, compared to my baseline or the week I specifically did not reply.
Replying breaks the filter forever, so that weirdo I was nice to in 2017 (I wasn't on Fab in 2017, hypothetical weirdo) can get in my inbox forever because I was nice once.
Fab also says that not replying, here, is not rude.
When a guy says "manners cost nothing" in this context, what I hear is "my need to be validated is more important than your desire to avoid abuse. Also, I'm entirely incapable of recognising that norms vary depending on context."
To say that that's neither desirable nor encouraging would be an understatement.
Very interesting and maybe food for thought,
For us unless we know the single guy in which case we would have his telegram or WhatsApp already we just automatically delete all single male messages without opening, if he messages again its block delete. We don't owe them anything.
I genuinely wanted to see if it made a difference.
It does. It's awful. -1/10 do not recommend.
Interestingly I did the same thing for a day last year and didn’t get any abuse which I was quite shocked about given other people’s experiences. One guy did send 14 messages before I just blocked him. This isn’t to say that others don’t get abuse, I just got lucky that there were no major dipshits that day I guess.
For me, it’s not the abuse. It’s the time it takes to reply to every message. I have better things to be wasting my time on. "
That's totally valid too. Even the copy paste is a bit of a pain. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"In response to the OP, yeah I'll respond to polite rejection by way of signing off, just feels polite to acknowledge their reply. Either way it makes little difference, they've checked out already.
Re the other stream of the chat, aye, no reply is a reply. People not respecting that is one of the things that makes Fab a difficult place for many. Have some self worth and respect for others, don't be a pest, suck it up and move on.
Oooh, my least favourite though is when ye've been chattin a while and someone asks for a face pic and then they don't reply. I'd much prefer a wee "fuck aff, your bugly" or "sorry, I don't like beautiful men."
Obviously they are entitled to not reply, that's valid, that's a response in itself, just sayin I'd prefer a no if we've been messaging already and got to the face pic stage.
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"She said she preferred handsome men, but for me she would make an exception" |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"It happens. Not everyone is going to be everyone’s cup of tea.
This question is primarily aimed at ladies, but guys feel free to add your two cents too.
When a “thanks but no thanks” message is sent, is it best to reply with “Understood, no hard feelings, happy fabbing” or similar, or just leave it with no reply?"
I've got replies that said " thanks but not interested " for whatever reason..I've also got no replies but my message was looked at & in both cases there wasn't another reply as their choice etc is always respected , l have it written on my profile , if it don't happen for whatever reason...let it slide . |
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"In response to the OP, yeah I'll respond to polite rejection by way of signing off, just feels polite to acknowledge their reply. Either way it makes little difference, they've checked out already.
Re the other stream of the chat, aye, no reply is a reply. People not respecting that is one of the things that makes Fab a difficult place for many. Have some self worth and respect for others, don't be a pest, suck it up and move on.
Oooh, my least favourite though is when ye've been chattin a while and someone asks for a face pic and then they don't reply. I'd much prefer a wee "fuck aff, your bugly" or "sorry, I don't like beautiful men."
Obviously they are entitled to not reply, that's valid, that's a response in itself, just sayin I'd prefer a no if we've been messaging already and got to the face pic stage.
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Yeah, I’ve had the no-reply-after-face-pic a lot. Like, A LOT! They might as well say “fuck off, you’re pug-fugly”. Not gonna lie, it hurts. |
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"Seems to be no reply is the thing here.
I think im actually done on this. Either all fake. Or i dont know what they looking for.
Lol its mad like"
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I don't see what the relationship is between not getting a reply and them (the woman?) being a fake.
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The majority of messages that I replied with a 'sorry, not interested but good luck' type message ended with them not taking my 'no' & instead was used as a gateway to beg, abuse, persuade, sell, buy me etc it's too time consuming. The minority who did reply nicely tho was appreciated. |
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"The majority of messages that I replied with a 'sorry, not interested but good luck' type message ended with them not taking my 'no' & instead was used as a gateway to beg, abuse, persuade, sell, buy me etc it's too time consuming. The minority who did reply nicely tho was appreciated. "
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Yeah, I’ve had the no-reply-after-face-pic a lot. Like, A LOT! They might as well say “fuck off, you’re pug-fugly”. Not gonna lie, it hurts. "
A thick skin is a handy thing. It's really not worth getting annoyed by strangers opinions of you. It's natural to be hurt by rejection but it's really not beneficial if you want to do this whole Fab thing.
Don't get sad, don't get angry, just find a way not to give a fuck. And never be a pest, respect their choice, move on. |
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"The majority of messages that I replied with a 'sorry, not interested but good luck' type message ended with them not taking my 'no' & instead was used as a gateway to beg, abuse, persuade, sell, buy me etc it's too time consuming. The minority who did reply nicely tho was appreciated. "
Yeah, my understanding of Fab completely changed once a female friend showed me the messages she gets,I was shocked at the abuse, the pleading and sometimes one way conversations goin on for weeks, it beggars belief. Sometimes depressing, sometimes hilarious |
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"The majority of messages that I replied with a 'sorry, not interested but good luck' type message ended with them not taking my 'no' & instead was used as a gateway to beg, abuse, persuade, sell, buy me etc it's too time consuming. The minority who did reply nicely tho was appreciated.
Yeah, my understanding of Fab completely changed once a female friend showed me the messages she gets,I was shocked at the abuse, the pleading and sometimes one way conversations goin on for weeks, it beggars belief. Sometimes depressing, sometimes hilarious "
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Yeah, I’ve had the no-reply-after-face-pic a lot. Like, A LOT! They might as well say “fuck off, you’re pug-fugly”. Not gonna lie, it hurts.
A thick skin is a handy thing. It's really not worth getting annoyed by strangers opinions of you. It's natural to be hurt by rejection but it's really not beneficial if you want to do this whole Fab thing.
Don't get sad, don't get angry, just find a way not to give a fuck. And never be a pest, respect their choice, move on. "
Good advice. Thank you |
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Well basically any reply i get seem to be fake. Like i say hi how ya doing blah bla.
They reply with hi sweetie wanna come over later.
And list the things they gonna do.
Then no reply.
Im guessing fake.
Could be wrong lol.
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"Well basically any reply i get seem to be fake. Like i say hi how ya doing blah bla.
They reply with hi sweetie wanna come over later.
And list the things they gonna do.
Then no reply.
Im guessing fake.
Could be wrong lol.
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I don’t think I’ve EVER had a reply like that. I’ve had plenty inviting me to join their Telegram, only for them to try to sell me pics and vids. Block. |
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"Well basically any reply i get seem to be fake. Like i say hi how ya doing blah bla.
They reply with hi sweetie wanna come over later...."
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As a general rule: if anyone was to call me "sweetie" they would be having their sphincter removed...
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"Manners cost nothing "
Manners costs quite a lot with our precious time. If the roles were reversed and it was a fanny fest on Fab would you take the time to reply no thanks to every single person even though you get might get abuse or take the time to have one or two people to message with with view to meeting. Thankfully my filters are tighter than a cavan man but some ladies can get hundreds of messages every day it would be a full time job saying no thanks over and over |
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