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I honestly don't really know where to start this..
So ill try.
When I came home from Liberia in May 2005, my mother told me, she didn't recognise me both physically and mentally. My father, an ex soldier of course revilled in the fact I had served overseas and didn't really care about the ins and outs.
But my mother knew,
Mums know.
My mother knew something was wrong. And even to this day,20 years later has always told me, youre different.
I suppose , what im trying to get across to the men here, is... listen. Listen , and talk to people. Whether it's family or friends or a professional. Because we don't do that. Because we're men and we're hard headed.
I've actually been meaning to do this thread for a while, but I didn't want to be a downer on the place. Because 99% of the time, im bubbly and messing on here.
Alas,
You may of red this and thought, who the fuck is this guy ??. Which is fine. Im not a professional. But what I want you to know is, you are not alone. There are 1000s of men like you. And if I can lower my guard, than anyone can. This is not a thread for likes or comments, but just read what I've said..and if it changes one man's view about mental health...then it was worth it.
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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Well said.
The more open you are to sharing how you feel you realise you're not alone or different.
You always feel better talking to others. It's amazing the difference it makes, trust me.
It's very lonely if you feel you can't talk but there's a lot of people who feel the same.
Lets be open honest.
I have so much respect for people like yourself who feel they can share those feelings.
It helps all of us to open up
Well done |
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By *rRiosMan 32 weeks ago
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"Well said
Thank you Sir 😊.
Did you get a 9/1 winner today the general???
You will delighted to know, i obviously had UNITED to win 🏆. Not at 9/1 do unfortunately lol. The General knows    lol. "
What odds did you get? |
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"Well said.
The more open you are to sharing how you feel you realise you're not alone or different.
You always feel better talking to others. It's amazing the difference it makes, trust me.
It's very lonely if you feel you can't talk but there's a lot of people who feel the same.
Lets be open honest.
I have so much respect for people like yourself who feel they can share those feelings.
It helps all of us to open up
Well done "
Well said Sir 👏 👌. Thank you 😊. |
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"Well said
Thank you Sir 😊.
Did you get a 9/1 winner today the general???
You will delighted to know, i obviously had UNITED to win 🏆. Not at 9/1 do unfortunately lol. The General knows lol.
What odds did you get? "
I had UNITED to win 🏆. 4/1. Buzzzzz zin. |
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"Men should open up a lot more,IMO.
Its not a weakness.
Thanks for posting OP 😘"
So Correct Maybe Lady.
I managed to do it when my mental health was in bits.Its only a first step but it saved my life in retrospect.
I'm here now because of it.
Please lads do it! |
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"Men should open up a lot more,IMO.
Its not a weakness.
Thanks for posting OP 😘
Thank you Maybe lady ☺️. "
Lariam did not help either kid blame our government for that and we'll done for putting it out there not many will talk about it |
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"Men should open up a lot more,IMO.
Its not a weakness.
Thanks for posting OP 😘
Thank you Maybe lady ☺️.
Lariam did not help either kid blame our government for that and we'll done for putting it out there not many will talk about it"
Lariam was a massive factor in it all. Massive. |
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"Men should open up a lot more,IMO.
Its not a weakness.
Thanks for posting OP 😘
So Correct Maybe Lady.
I managed to do it when my mental health was in bits.Its only a first step but it saved my life in retrospect.
I'm here now because of it.
Please lads do it!"
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This country has a lot to answer for in relation to mental health. The dept of health will put their spin on it saying funding has increased again to 1.5Bn. But it's not enough. (Sue side) rates, especially among young males is not decreasing. So whatever is being done is not enough.
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Hi, once you have been to a friend or family tragic death then you understand life a lot differently. It's impossible to know the prison that people build for themselves but its never that dark you have nothing left to live for. We both have had or seen losses. The aftermath and those left behind. |
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Good topic
Just after another suicide close to me and he left a wife and 3 daughters
Maybe if he reached out their could have been a different outcome
We have to change our ways as men and talk more I guess |
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"I honestly don't really know where to start this..
So ill try.
When I came home from Liberia in May 2005, my mother told me, she didn't recognise me both physically and mentally. My father, an ex soldier of course revilled in the fact I had served overseas and didn't really care about the ins and outs.
But my mother knew,
Mums know.
My mother knew something was wrong. And even to this day,20 years later has always told me, youre different.
I suppose , what im trying to get across to the men here, is... listen. Listen , and talk to people. Whether it's family or friends or a professional. Because we don't do that. Because we're men and we're hard headed.
I've actually been meaning to do this thread for a while, but I didn't want to be a downer on the place. Because 99% of the time, im bubbly and messing on here.
Alas,
You may of red this and thought, who the fuck is this guy ??. Which is fine. Im not a professional. But what I want you to know is, you are not alone. There are 1000s of men like you. And if I can lower my guard, than anyone can. This is not a thread for likes or comments, but just read what I've said..and if it changes one man's view about mental health...then it was worth it.
Thank you "
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"Good topic
Just after another suicide close to me and he left a wife and 3 daughters
Maybe if he reached out their could have been a different outcome
We have to change our ways as men and talk more I guess "
Omg that is devastating 😢 to hear. |
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"I honestly don't really know where to start this..
So ill try.
When I came home from Liberia in May 2005, my mother told me, she didn't recognise me both physically and mentally. My father, an ex soldier of course revilled in the fact I had served overseas and didn't really care about the ins and outs.
But my mother knew,
Mums know.
My mother knew something was wrong. And even to this day,20 years later has always told me, youre different.
I suppose , what im trying to get across to the men here, is... listen. Listen , and talk to people. Whether it's family or friends or a professional. Because we don't do that. Because we're men and we're hard headed.
I've actually been meaning to do this thread for a while, but I didn't want to be a downer on the place. Because 99% of the time, im bubbly and messing on here.
Alas,
You may of red this and thought, who the fuck is this guy ??. Which is fine. Im not a professional. But what I want you to know is, you are not alone. There are 1000s of men like you. And if I can lower my guard, than anyone can. This is not a thread for likes or comments, but just read what I've said..and if it changes one man's view about mental health...then it was worth it.
Thank you
❤️ "
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"I honestly don't really know where to start this..
So ill try.
When I came home from Liberia in May 2005, my mother told me, she didn't recognise me both physically and mentally. My father, an ex soldier of course revilled in the fact I had served overseas and didn't really care about the ins and outs.
But my mother knew,
Mums know.
My mother knew something was wrong. And even to this day,20 years later has always told me, youre different.
I suppose , what im trying to get across to the men here, is... listen. Listen , and talk to people. Whether it's family or friends or a professional. Because we don't do that. Because we're men and we're hard headed.
I've actually been meaning to do this thread for a while, but I didn't want to be a downer on the place. Because 99% of the time, im bubbly and messing on here.
Alas,
You may of red this and thought, who the fuck is this guy ??. Which is fine. Im not a professional. But what I want you to know is, you are not alone. There are 1000s of men like you. And if I can lower my guard, than anyone can. This is not a thread for likes or comments, but just read what I've said..and if it changes one man's view about mental health...then it was worth it.
Thank you "
👏 Well done on this post. Not an easy task but a very important one. Men please open up. Don't suffer alone. Help is always available. |
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"I honestly don't really know where to start this..
So ill try.
When I came home from Liberia in May 2005, my mother told me, she didn't recognise me both physically and mentally. My father, an ex soldier of course revilled in the fact I had served overseas and didn't really care about the ins and outs.
But my mother knew,
Mums know.
My mother knew something was wrong. And even to this day,20 years later has always told me, youre different.
I suppose , what im trying to get across to the men here, is... listen. Listen , and talk to people. Whether it's family or friends or a professional. Because we don't do that. Because we're men and we're hard headed.
I've actually been meaning to do this thread for a while, but I didn't want to be a downer on the place. Because 99% of the time, im bubbly and messing on here.
Alas,
You may of red this and thought, who the fuck is this guy ??. Which is fine. Im not a professional. But what I want you to know is, you are not alone. There are 1000s of men like you. And if I can lower my guard, than anyone can. This is not a thread for likes or comments, but just read what I've said..and if it changes one man's view about mental health...then it was worth it.
Thank you
👏 Well done on this post. Not an easy task but a very important one. Men please open up. Don't suffer alone. Help is always available. "
Well said 👏 👌. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"Well said.
The more open you are to sharing how you feel you realise you're not alone or different.
You always feel better talking to others. It's amazing the difference it makes, trust me.
It's very lonely if you feel you can't talk but there's a lot of people who feel the same.
Lets be open honest.
I have so much respect for people like yourself who feel they can share those feelings.
It helps all of us to open up
Well done
Well said Sir 👏 👌. Thank you 😊. "
You're welcome
You've initiated a great discussion for us men to oprn up.
Tis not easy |
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"Well said.
The more open you are to sharing how you feel you realise you're not alone or different.
You always feel better talking to others. It's amazing the difference it makes, trust me.
It's very lonely if you feel you can't talk but there's a lot of people who feel the same.
Lets be open honest.
I have so much respect for people like yourself who feel they can share those feelings.
It helps all of us to open up
Well done
Well said Sir 👏 👌. Thank you 😊.
You're welcome
You've initiated a great discussion for us men to oprn up.
Tis not easy"
Its not easy. And there's a stigma attached too it also. Its great to see so much positive comments on the thread. |
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"So what I'm taking from this is, don't go to Liberia. Noted  "
We're you on lariam during your trip? Some people had no ill effects, but others were badly affected. My friend was badly affected by it, was repatriated for his own safety. He was never the same since.
Thanks for bringing up your own story, most men don't talk. As you probably know there are mens groups where you can chat honestly.
Sometimes the reality of what you've experienced doesn't hit you for many years, then it dawns on you that something has changed you, although it can take a bit of time to work it out.
Don't stop here. Keep talking and sharing your experiences.
DM me if you'd like to chat more. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"Given how most of us were raised to view our mental heath as a weakness. The bravest, most courageous, thing you can do is ask for help."
Absolutely. I admire anyone who puts their hand up and says they are not ok. |
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"So what I'm taking from this is, don't go to Liberia. Noted
We're you on lariam during your trip? Some people had no ill effects, but others were badly affected. My friend was badly affected by it, was repatriated for his own safety. He was never the same since.
Thanks for bringing up your own story, most men don't talk. As you probably know there are mens groups where you can chat honestly.
Sometimes the reality of what you've experienced doesn't hit you for many years, then it dawns on you that something has changed you, although it can take a bit of time to work it out.
Don't stop here. Keep talking and sharing your experiences.
DM me if you'd like to chat more. "
Yes I was on it. For 2 tours in Liberia. And 1 tour in Tchad. |
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"Given how most of us were raised to view our mental heath as a weakness. The bravest, most courageous, thing you can do is ask for help.
Absolutely. I admire anyone who puts their hand up and says they are not ok. "
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