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Is Confidence the Real Secret to Attraction?
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By *z2go OP TV/TS 31 weeks ago
dublin - london |
I’ve noticed that what draws people in isn’t always the look, the outfit, or the setting—it’s that quiet confidence that says you’re comfortable in your own skin. Whether it’s a knowing smile across the room or the way someone carries themselves, confidence seems to be the real magnet.
Do you think attraction starts in the mind before it ever becomes physical? I’d love to hear others’ thoughts—what’s the moment when you really feel that spark? |
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By *dfabMan 31 weeks ago
Dunboyne |
It's almost always visual first in real life. Can be the smallest detail but then, as you say, a swagger or confidence aura a person has about themselves will definitely increase the attraction. Happens often with late teens/early 20s folks who've never been knocked back seriously and then with 50+ who've learned that it's their genuine right to not give a flying fuck  |
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It's certainly an element of what makes a person attractive to me.
It's almost always the visual that piques my initial interest, then other qualities that determine whether that interest is sustained.
There certainly have been odd occasions though where someone has become physically attractive to me over time when they initially weren't because their overall aura has drawn me in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I do admire a confident woman, someone comfortable in their own skin but it wouldn’t be reason why I’d stick around. It may help with the initial attraction but without other traits I wouldn’t be hanging around.
There is also the case that people can be too confident and that can come across as cocky or arrogant which are traits I would not find attractive |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I dunno. Confidence is only something that articulates a personality. It doesn't define one.
A confident asshole is no more attractive for the confidence.
And the older I get the more I realise that most people's confidence is a mask.
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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It depends on the confidence levels tbh.
Being overly confident is not something I admire in a man. It actually makes me thinks he will be a serial cheater 😏
I prefer a modest confident man. |
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By *ol_ieMan 31 weeks ago
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Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as (parklife)
And morning soup can be avoided if you take a route straight through what is known as (parklife)
John's got brewers droop, he gets intimidated by the dirty pigeons
They love a bit of it (parklife)
Who's that gut lord marching? You should cut down on your porklife mate, get some exercise
I bet you can all hear it in your head now... |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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Confidence should go both ways, approaching a situation with confidence that gives another person confidence to accept the confrontation, without losing confidence in the situation.
It's a paradox I found out later in life.
Subtle confidence is way more impressive and acceptable than over confidence |
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By *og-ManMan 31 weeks ago
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"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as (parklife)
And morning soup can be avoided if you take a route straight through what is known as (parklife)
John's got brewers droop, he gets intimidated by the dirty pigeons
They love a bit of it (parklife)
Who's that gut lord marching? You should cut down on your porklife mate, get some exercise
I bet you can all hear it in your head now... "
Singing it  |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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I've had periods in my life where I lacked confidence and periods where I was confident. I found I was wallpaper when I lacked confidence and marmite when I had it and if you fed me enough alcohol I was an over confident asshole 🫣. Just be myself most of the time now and how others find me is none of my business. |
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By *appyPandaMan 31 weeks ago
Kilkenny and Waterford |
"I would say yes but my definition of Confidence is feeling sure of yourself and your abilities in a realistic and secure way."
That's what I was thinking too as with just simply using the term "confidence", it's hard to tell the line between being happy with yourself and knowing you can achieve what you set your mind to, and being a cocky prick, no offence to anyone.
Secureness in your sense of self as well as being able to accepting who you really are helps much more.
Yeah, sure I'm wearing a cock cage and possibly fishnets too in my profile picture but I've never felt better about myself.
Wouldn't wear fishnets or things in normal circumstances, but happy to and able to if someone else I care about is going to enjoy the view. |
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draws me in. A woman who makes the most of what she has and is okay with her body just oozes sex appeal too 